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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I met a guy (35 years old) at a function a few nights ago...I'm 29 and female. We hit it off and talked for around two hours, and he asked for my number. The conversation went well, he seemed really interested in me, and since he just moved into the city, I said I could show him around the neighborhoods. At the end of the night, as we said bye, he said we'd hang out but he didn't seem entirely genuine--he actually seemed a little awkward. I said something like "yeah, let's hang out sometime. I'll show you around the neighborhoods." And he left at that--a little rushed because we were basically the last people there. I haven't heard from him, and I couldn't figure out why. I thought maybe I came across as eager, and should have just let him go without reminding him we should hang out? I guess what I'm meaning to ask is, did I come across as too available and eager? The whole thrill of the chase thing annoys me to no end, but with some men, it's the way things go...
You are jumping the gun too fast
You mentioned he had just moved into the city, What is the rush? Give the guy some time to settle in and get used to things. If he is interested in you then he will call you when things are calmed down. The holidays are coming up, The new years is right around the corner and it's a busy time for everyone. Being pushy would be to expect him to call a day or two after you gave him your number. Sometimes being demanding can be a bit of a scare off for some people. Just relax and see what happens after the holidays. It doesn't mean he isn't interested in you, It means that you may of caught him at a bad time. If he doesn't contact you a week or two after the new years then yes, I would assume he has lost interest.
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged,
One thing I forgot to mention before is that I noticed about her is that she was very touchy feely. , like patting me on the back or shoulder.
My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Last week I went and sat there for about half an hour (I had nothing else to do though so I wasn't skipping anything) I just get this extremely good feeling when talking to her or seeing her. Is this creepy?
someone responded this
"You better watch what you're doing or you could end up on the wrong side of her boyfriend and that could result in you with a sore face.
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But this makes no sense, if her boyfriend came after me and attacked me for no reason that would be assault and I can probably press charges
I recently ran into this girl again. She was in the math lab, I went in and started chatting to her and she seemed happy to see me and happy to chat. I get this extremely good feeling whenever I see her or talk to her. I can't explain it
why would she be touchy feely?
This is the 3rd time you have posted this question which is now leading me to think you ARE being creepy and becoming obsessive.
Patting you on the back and shoulder is not being "touchy" in an inappropriate way nor would it lead me to believe this women would be interested in me.
Fact is, You are thinking WAY to much on the situation. I am starting to believe that you are looking to interfere with her relationship between her fiance and her. This women is engaged and therefore she is set to marry, involved and is not available.
Someone can seem happy to chat, This doesn't mean she has intentions of dating you. Again, You are reading way to far into this. You are making something seem what it is not.
You are being creepy in the aspect of constantly posting the same question, You are being creepy in the aspect of NOT seeming to get the fact that this women is involved with someone. My concerns is that your obsession has now gotten out of hand to the point where it can be classified as stalking or even harassing someone on campus. Chill out and stop over thinking the situation
I have taken two pregnancy tests in the last month and they both came up negative, but I still think I'm pregnant due to missing a period and having cramps/some odd bleeding. Therefore, I have an appointment to see my doctor in the next couple days.
I am not scared of being pregnant since I am 22, live on my own, have a job and want children of my own, but I do have a few questions. I'm not in a relationship with the "father" so how do I go about telling him if I am pregnant? He works in a trucking business and is away quite a bit. I am prepared to be a single Mom if that so happens and I'm just curious about what you might have done in this situation. This will be my first child and I'm actually kind of excited to know if I am expecting. I have not told anyone at all so far; I plan to tell my Mother after I find out and I know she'll be accepting if I am. Do you have any other advice besides what I asked?
I also am not going to answer to some degree due to not having facts that you are pregnant.
Now before I ask, Are you trying to get pregnant?
Considering you have taken 2 pregnancy test, You are very likely not pregnant. A missed period can be caused by so many things such as depression, stress, PCOS, Dieting and exercise etc.
I'm just going to throw in my opinions on this one
I don't really think you have a clue what it means to raise a child. I believe it is a very selfish way to think to want to bring a child into this world knowing that the father would not be present in it's life as needed. Being a single Mom isn't something that you just do, It's a change of lifestyle. You said you work, How are you going to work and raise a child at the same time? Maybe you could have a babysitter, True. However, You need to think that you would be working about 6+ hours a day right? That's 6+ hours a day that you wouldn't be with your child and someone else would be caring for it. You live on your own, Do you have enough space to provide a healthy environment for a child? Can you afford it and if so how? Please understand I am not trying to be mean I just really think you need to think hard about things before making a choice like this. I find it really unfair that a child would only have one parent in their life. I know it happens but to do it intentionally out of the want to have a child is wrong in my opinion. A child should be when someone is ready and stable..
About 10 years ago (for a few years) my step dad used to touch me in all the wrong places and he told me to not tell my mum, so until a few months ago I was still scared to say anything but then one night I just came out with it and explained everything to my mum, she was angry but not at me but at herself for letting it happen. Since iv told her everything I was worried about happening has happened, my younger brother and sister arnt allowed to see their dad, I feel so bad about this because I wish my dad made the effort and iv taken away their father who loved them, I was worried for my little sister and didn't feel so bad after the police revealed he still had child porn on the computer.
But I didn't want to take it to the police because I knew it would turn out like this... My relationship with my mum, my brother and my sister is completely changing, mostly with my mum, we argue a lot more and I feel like he has put this divide between us, iv talked to her about it and we sort everything but after a few weeks it gets bad again.
Me and my brother had a fight a while back triggered by nothing really but it turned into a proper fight and he started becoming his dad and I went crazy and took all my anger out on him, I felt so bad, but every now and then he almost becomes his dad(my step dad) and it scares me for his future and what could happen to him.
I just feel guilty more than anything, I'd kept it to myself this whole time so why did I have to bring it to attention now? Did I do it for attention, did I ruin peoples lives just for attention? I don't know how to stop it effecting my family life? It also took a lot for my boyfriend to get through it but he has been my solid rock this whole time, I know he's had his doubts and down days about it but he's there for me whenever I get low or me and mum have another argument, could do with some advise or just someone who knows what they are talking about to help me out... what's wrong with me, iv ruined everything.
You ruined nothing, Anyone who touches someone unwillingly or inappropriately should be in jail.
What your step dad did was sexual assault, It was wrong.
You did the right thing by reporting it, You saved people the possibly of living with a lifetime of misery and a nightmare that would forever impel them in negative ways.
Sometimes when someone who is a sexual predator gets sent to jail when they have children of their own, Of course we feel guilty in some way. However in the end, You did right.
Do not blame yourself for your step dads actions, You had no control of it. This man decided to ruin his own life as nobody did it for him. You did nothing wrong, You were indeed a victim. Don't ever let someone make you feel guilty. The only one who is, Is right where he should be.
I'm 15 and there is this boy that I like at school, we're not together or anything though.
Anyway, I bought Christmas presents for a few of the boys in my english class (including him), spending just over £2 on each of them (they all got the same thing). The next day he gave me a present back (even though I'd said he didn't have to) and it was a £10 box of chocolates. I feel bad that he's spent so much more than I did and also treated me differently to other people (he didn't buy anyone else a present..).
I'm not really sure what to do now or whether I should suggest that we maybe meet up at some point in the Christmas holidays? We're both quite shy people so I don't want to make anything awkward.
Gifts and money is not what the holidays are about.
It's the thought that counts, Not competing to see who does better spending money. If the kid likes you, He likes YOU not your money and not your gifts.
You are missing the point..
If it makes you feel better then getting something small but again, It isn't about who spent more etc.
What if a boy says to a girl do you want a cookie?
The term " do you want a cookie" is generally an insult.
It's basically calling someone a child or childish
My boyfriend and I have been officially been together a year. On and off before for two years.. He ordered me a pair of Swarovski earrings I wanted and let me pick a few presents myself with his credit card.. We haven't had the best relationship a lot of fighting etc.. He told me he got me another present that I am going to shit myself when I see it those were the exact words.. And that it was small.. His mom told me she saw it and she was so surprised coming from him and it really came from the heart.... I'm so confused first thing I thought was a ring but I don't know... What else really comes from the heart and I'd shit myself when I see it??
It could be a ring, but I would also be asking myself whether it would be a good idea to accept it considering you haven't had the best relationship.
I agree with Dragon on that one sorry.
A ring is beautiful, but sometimes we should really ask ourselves whether we should accept the commitment especially if the past has been on the rocks.
I wouldn't really jump the gun here as I could be wrong, There are many small things that are nice. However, I think the whole term "You are going to shit yourself and that it was small" kind of blew it if it were a ring... Way to spoil the entire thing not?
My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, living together for 1 year. He previously was married 17 years to a woman who embezzeled money from his business and cheated on him twice.He has a daughter by this ex. Here's my point...all our friends are getting married to others with less time in their relationships. I love this man and im totally committed to this relationship. Im 7 years older than he, I have children of my own but they are grown and married. I accepted that this relationship was a pkg deal with his daughter. He says he loves me, wants to grow old with me and doesn't want another person in his life but he says he doesn't want to marry cause all marriages end in divorce and he doesn't like the idea for the state to get involved. He asked "Can we just marry before God and make our vows without getting the state involved? I'll do this for you right now!" So...we did. Is he wanting to commit without a marriage license? Im trying to understand this...help.
Some people don't want to be married but rather married in their hearts.
Basically there are two sides, All depends on how you look at it.
The man values the relationship enough to not want to take a risk of divorce, On the other hand he doesn't value it enough to make a lifetime commitment and trust it enough to marry you in the eyes of the law.
I see it this way, He is not making sense.
Either way, A relationship can be damaged. Entering a relationship is a risk, Maybe he is afraid to take the risk of possibly going through another divorce. Perhaps this makes sense considering his last circumstances but he should NOT be comparing you with his previous bad luck. Basically, He wants to be lifetime partners without a marriage license, yes.
Are you okay with being in a relationship and not being married to this man? Technically, This is what he is implying. Surprisingly, Not being legally married is not as uncommon as you may think it is. While I was investing for my sister as she cannot legally marry for personal reasons, I have found that there is a surprising number of couples who marry in there hearts and doing a ceremony rather then an actual wedding.
If you feel strongly against this, I would talk to him about considering the possibility of engagement for awhile and play things by ear, Or if you'd like maybe you could go the ceremony route and still by the wedding rings and have the whole caboodle without doing it legally in the eyes of the law. Technically, Marriage is a piece of paper so either way a ceremony or a wedding, Not much of a difference.
We have been together 3 yrs now and living together one year. He has a 10 yr old daughter. I have raised my daughters already they are grown and married. I also helped raise my grandson who is now the same age as my boyfriend's child. Here's the deal...I encourage his daughter to be more responsible such as getting her homework done...cleaning room etc. He's not very good at staying on top of her to do these things. She was pouring milk for cereal the other day and I said "be careful...don't pour too much"...and he said I was riding her too much. I feel like a third wheel. My boyfriends sister warned me that he spoils his daughter too much. Anyways...any suggestions?
You need to talk openly about this with him.
Tell him you are committed to being apart of his life as well as his daughters and you only want the best for her. Reassure him you are not trying to ride her too much but you are only trying to look out for her best interest.
Express how you feel, Tell him you feel like a third wheel. You are only trying to do what is right. If he becomes offensive then ask him what you both can do to make things better. Remember, You must work as a team in a relationship. You both are in a relationship and have been for quite sometime now and when it comes to being in a relationship with someone who has children, You indeed do some co-parenting it's just part of a package deal, A committed one anyhow.
Two of my friends who live I. The same house had dreams about me dying (at separate times). What could this mean?
The dream of death could have several different meanings, Like the user said below it doesn't necessarily mean "death" in general.
Death in a dream could represent someone's anxiety or fear of loosing a relationship.
Sometimes it could mean that a relationship is failing whether it be a relationship/marriage/friendship
Sometimes it could mean that there is a shift (Change) or maybe drifting apart.
Here is a definition of "death" from Dreammoods
http://dreammoods.com/cgibin/dreamdictionarysearch.pl?method=exact&header=dreamsymbol&search=death
im really wondering if im supposed to shave my pussy or vagina area. im really hairy and i wear a 34B and i get really irrated cause i feel like im the only one with hair their
It's a personal choice to whether someone decides to shave their vaginal area or not. Some women do and some don't.
I believe it's more of a comfort and hygienic reason for most, but it's entirely up too you.
Me and my guy friend when we was 13 would give orel sex to each other. Now we are 21 in a relationship with girls and haven't spoke about it since we was prob 14. And we and would not want anyone to find out about it. How would I go about asking him if he would ever consider me giving him a blowjob again
I also don't encourage cheating, You don't want anyone too find out because you know it would be wrong.
There is a huge maturity difference between the age of 13 and 21. There is a very high possibility that he is no longer in this stage. If the guy is in a relationship with someone then why would you even think about possibly ruining that for him? This is not only wrong on different levels but if you feel that you are bisexual and not happy in your relationship then you should be honest about it and do the right thing. I assume you aren't happy only because you are thinking about doing something like this to your girlfriend. Cheating is a cowards way out, If people found out and you lost everything then exactly who's fault would it be? Imagine if you DID loose everything, Was it worth it? Is it what you wanted? I'm not trying to put you out to be the bad guy here dude but you need think about these things. If you feel you want to be with a guy then that's fine but go about it the mature way and don't play peoples feelings.
I'm a 22 year old female and I recently developed what should be an innocent school crush. After all I have a boyfriend, and under no circumstances would I leave him for this guy. Yet it feels like I'm back in my high school days, when it seemed like every guy I liked did not like me back.
I attended a private high school in a wealthy area, and some of the girls there were drop dead gorgeous. When I first started there, I was an awkward 14 year old girl and although I tried to turn myself into another one of those girls it never worked. Most likely because they remembered the person that they started high school with, and to them that's who I still was in at least some aspect.
Since then, the braces came off and my hair looks very nice. I actually tend to get more unwanted attention from men than desired.
Every time I see this guy I get reminded of how physically attracted I am to him. This is something that I lack with my boyfriend or any other guy that I dated, since I tend to go for personality and I often find it better that way. I find me wanting him to do things for me like tutoring me in my pre-calculus class, since he got through calculus... and other things, like little fantasies.
We're both in relationships with other people, and no matter what, it doesn't matter. I really don't need to know whether or not I'm his type. I don't need to know if his girlfriend's really pretty or if she's unattractive. Whether he's sexually active, or intends to stay a virgin until he's married. I just find him physically attractive, intelligent, open-minded, funny and I enjoy his company. This does not mean that I desire to engage in sexual intercourse with him, or to kiss him... or do anything else that would mean cheating on my boyfriend.
I also find my feelings about him wearing Abercrombie & Fitch rather lame. Most of the guys that I had a crush on in high school wore that name brand, and they always turned out to be the world's biggest douches. So, somehow that makes me associate him with the losers that I used to like back in high school.
The thing is that he's someone that I've decided I would miss too much to just lose touch with. I told him that I'm going to miss him after we finish philosophy class together, and I asked him if he wanted to keep in touch. He said that I'm a good friend too, and he definitely would, but that he'd be busy because he's taking 20 credits with his girlfriend next semester (something that I don't think is a good idea but would never tell him).
Why do I have these types of feelings?
NOTHING about him is telling me that he's at all like the guys that I knew back in high school. Instead, he always says hi to me, we engage in long conversations before class and when I asked him if his little sister was his daughter (even though I knew she wasn't) he didn't get mad at me. So really there's nothing that tells me if we were both single and I started flirting with him, that he wouldn't allow me to. I sincerely doubt that he's at all like those assholes who dissed me back in high school, so all of these thoughts really make no sense.
I think this might have something to do with the fact that I'm not used to making a lot of close friends. Other than my boyfriend, my best friend is one of my ex boyfriends who I've known forever. I know a few people who I can call and who probably schedule a day to hang out with me if I asked, but I'm rather socially awkward when it comes to making friends.
I'm going to work my way down this one
1, Why where you trying to be one of these girls at the school? Why can't you just be you?
2, Are you setting yourself boundaries or are you giving him impressions that may be the wrong ones?
3, Have you made it clear to him that you are in a relationship and are very happy? Is he doing anything that may make you think he likes you more then a friend? Are you reassuring him where you two stand?
Sometimes when we start to develop feelings for someone it's best if we limit the amount of time we contact them. I am introverted and don't have many friends but I am also happily married and would make damn well that someone knows that if it were to be a male companion. Sometimes we need to reassure people in order to get the point across. He is in a relationship, You are in a relationship that is where you both stand.
Hi 13/m..
So im at an international school and there is this kid my age that really gets on my nerves..he insults me and my friends..we already told the principal he got suspended once or twice, we also insult him back this year cause we dont have anything else to do..he has no friends which is probably the cause..he insulted on of my close friends yesterday and she felt very bad..I feel like beating him up but i dont want to get expelled, suspension for me is fine but not an expulsion!
Beating someone to the pulp isn't going to solve shit.
It's a known fact that people that bully either A, Have some self esteem issues or have some troubles at home and they don't know how else to deal with these troubles. Believe it or not, Have you ever tried going up to the kid and being really nice? I know it seems like an impossible thing to do but sometimes when someone acts poorly, That's exactly what they need. The kid doesn't expect a reaction of kindness and may even catch him completely off guard. Many people even with a mean side have a guilty conscience. If the kid sees that people are actually kind to him, He may begin to realize what an ass he is acting and have a change of heart.
Not to mention it, I used to bully people around in high school.
There was this one kid who was the biggest nerd and I used to crack a whole lot of shit until one day she came up to me and asked me why I pick on her. This girl explained to me that she doesn't hate me and that she has enough problems with her family going through a divorce and how she just wants to be left alone. Well, Surprisingly it made me feel really shitty and realized that I was the one with the stick up my ass and not everyone else. From there on out, I never bullied again.
Trust me, Reverse physiology can really catch people by suprise
Okay this may sound corny... but I'm trying to get my boyfriend to quit smoking by coming up with informational and educational fact sheets about why its bad for your health. and I'm trying to figure out why it causes not only lung cancer, but other cancers as well.. can anyone help me find some sites that give the reasons for this? or does anyone know biology enough to help me out in this area? thanks!
Edit: Maybe this wasn't the answer to your question but after all this is an ADVICE site isn't it? Well, This is my ADVICE and I still stand by what I said either way. Good luck
This is thoughtful advice but I have a few concerns on it..
In order to help someone to stop smoking they need to have the want to quit or it just won't work. Throwing facts about why it's bad for your health is probably only going to really either annoy the crap out of him or piss him off. People don't always like it when they have someone throw or point out a problem about their habits. I would suggest talking to him first, Maybe find him some other sort of option but I wouldn't go this route unless he has talked about wanting to quit first...
Im 16 and he's 17. We been together for 10months. We fight so much and im not sure how to stop it. The littlest things cause it. He's cheated on me about 4 months ago so I have a big trust concern so I wanna look at his phone and I want him to make sure every girl he talks to knows he has a gf but he doesn't like that. We fight about me going on his instagram page, asking to see his phone, mentioning if the person hes texting knows he has a gf or not, even if he hugs another girl I get so pissed. I feel like now everybody is a threat. I don't know how to get over it and stop...
You don't get over it
He cheated, He broke your trust. Frankly, I don't believe in forgiving someone that has the dignity to play with someone's feelings.
Once someone cheats in a relationship, It's almost impossible to repair. You took him back, You basically told the guy it was okay when it's not. Unfortunately, You cannot change someone. We can help someone to improve themselves but whether he decides to cheat or not, It's entirely up to him.
Sometimes when someone gets a way with something and they do it again, They are more careful about their actions and getting caught. I'm not saying he is going back to his ways but because you forgave him in the first place, It isn't going to prevent him from possibly acting on it again.
From the sound of what you've written, Your relationship is pretty much at the end of it's rope. The guy doesn't like the fact that you want his friends knowing that he is in a relationship? Why? What exactly is he hiding and ashamed of? Your better off finding someone who would be proud to be in a relationship with you. Not someone who is into hiding things because they don't want others knowing his status.
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Last week I went and sat there for about half an hour (I had nothing else to do though so I wasn't skipping anything) I just get this extremely good feeling when talking to her or seeing her. Is this creepy?
someone responded this
"You better watch what you're doing or you could end up on the wrong side of her boyfriend and that could result in you with a sore face.
"
But this makes no sense, if her boyfriend came after me and attacked me for no reason that would be assault and I can probably press charges
I recently ran into this girl again. She was in the math lab, I went in and started chatting to her and she seemed happy to see me and happy to chat. I get this extremely good feeling whenever I see her or talk to her. I can't explain it
She's engaged, There is nothing between the two of you. Going out of your way to chat with her is almost interfering in her relationship. If her fiance found out and put his hands on you, Yes this is assault. However what YOU are doing is harassing this women. This women may be happy to see you but over doing it could end up in drama you don't want to get yourself into.
1, It is wrong to interfere with someone's relationship. She is engaged which means she is set on marrying someone and is already involved.
You don't dare to play with fire, This is exactly what you are doing. Yes, It's a bit creepy in an unwanted way. Your actions are out of control
18/f
So I've been with a guy for two months now in a relationship.
He's really into me, and even talks of me being 'the one' and marriage etc.
However I recently went out clubbing and remembered how good the single life is. Not in a hoe type way-but how nice it is to be free and flirty.
I do love my boyfriend, but I just don't fancy him and (this sounds so harsh) I do think I could do better.
However I'm his first girlfriend and considering he thinks we'll be life partners, I don't want to hurt his feelings. He said he thought he'd be a loner all his life until he met me.
I used to think when I came to Uni that I wanted a relationship, now I'm in one all I want is to have a bit of freedom again. I mean heavens, somethings wrong here when I find 80% of the club guys hotter than my boyfriend.
How can I get out of this mess? And sorry this is so long!
The main question to your problem is, Are you happy?
If you are not, Then you need to leave him. Unfortunately, Sounds like not only is he not the one for you but you may of been a bit scared off by his talk of marriage. I will throw down a personal opinion (2 months of dating and talk of marriage is a bit of a scare off to me anyway..)
Never feel the obligation to stay in a relationship you are not happy in. A relationship is about TWO people not one, If you don't feel that the relationship is working for you then it's better to acknowledge that now then later. It would be the right thing to do to tell him rather then lead him into thinking there is something when there is not. If you want your freedom, You are entitled too it. This relationship just isn't working out for you and that's okay, I give you props for the acknowledgment. Maybe it's time to move on until you find something more suitable for you.
Now onto something a bit different.
Considering your "boyfriend" is new into the relationship world and seems to be a bit clingy so soon it may be in your best interest if you both go your separate ways rather then remain friends. I'm not saying he will but there is a high chance he will continue to fight for the relationship etc. For his sake, It may only be fair to cut contact.
I am married for around 8 yrs, but just after my marriage my wife has started creating issue with my family. We were a joint family and just because of her high Temper, she never looks where she is standing in the house or outside, when she is angry she will just burst out with very high volume. Also i recently came to know that she has been physical with 2 to 3 guys before we got married. It came to my notice that some one msg her and I read it. She told lies that she dont kneow, but she use to get the msgs mostly daily so when I focused her she confused that she dont know who is the guy msg but yes she has been physical with some guys and that to 1 night stand. My whole life is gone for toss. I cannot tell anyone about this nor can do anything becuase she is not raedy to leave me. I know she is not telling me the whole truth. She is still hiding many things. I dont have anyone with me so that I can share my feelings. I have started drinking and even I am spending more time in office. Please advice.
You need to give her the ultimatum
1, Marriage counseling or Divorce
I agree with the user below me, She will never be ready to leave you because you are financially supporting her. The one thing you aren't doing is putting yourself first. Nobody should ever have to feel obligated to stay in a marriage for the other persons sake. You NEED to talk to someone whether that person be a therapist or a family member who can help support you.
To be truthful, This unfortunately may have been going on for a long time and it is just coming to you now. You need and should file for divorce, Next step would be to get yourself into counseling. Staying in a marriage like this will prolong your misery, You need to take the steps towards moving on.
hi,I from India.I am a college going student.I am in a relationship for three years.
I had anal sex with my girlfriend without using protection.Now she's not having her periods,it is 2days late from her normal date.So,my question is when will i know that she is actually pregnant??what are the very early symptoms?what actions will i take to stop that pregnancy without abortion?
The only way to become pregnant is if sperm actually came within contact of the vaginal area. Meaning, Anal alone cannot get someone pregnant.
There are many factors that can delay a period such as depression, stress, medications, changes in dieting and exercise or maybe it could be that she is not regular.
Anyway, To throw it in there
The early symptoms of pregnancy are generally frequent urination, sore or tender breast, nausea. You can also use Google to look up more about pregnancy symptoms. However, The best way to handle an unwanted pregnancy would be to put the baby up for an adoption.
Simple answer to your question: It is very likely she is NOT pregnant.