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Why he isn't calling...
I met a guy (35 years old) at a function a few nights ago...I'm 29 and female. We hit it off and talked for around two hours, and he asked for my number. The conversation went well, he seemed really interested in me, and since he just moved into the city, I said I could show him around the neighborhoods. At the end of the night, as we said bye, he said we'd hang out but he didn't seem entirely genuine--he actually seemed a little awkward. I said something like "yeah, let's hang out sometime. I'll show you around the neighborhoods." And he left at that--a little rushed because we were basically the last people there. I haven't heard from him, and I couldn't figure out why. I thought maybe I came across as eager, and should have just let him go without reminding him we should hang out? I guess what I'm meaning to ask is, did I come across as too available and eager? The whole thrill of the chase thing annoys me to no end, but with some men, it's the way things go...
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He started the conversation about hanging out. All you did was agree it was a good idea and you could show him around. If a guy was not interested in a female after talking with her, he would not ask for your number to hang out again. Guys minds dont work that way. If he wasnt interested, he would have said something, like, well it was nice talking to you, have a great night and then leave.
So you will just have to wait for him to call. If he never does, then just write it off as a fun 2 hours spent and let it go cus if he were interested, believe me, a guy will call at some point.
Since you don't know him much more than a stranger on the street, its possible that everything or most of it was made up if he is a player, trying to date several gals at a time and already has a girlfriend in this city. But rather than focus on the negative, just keep it in the back of your mind but treat him as totally innocent...remember innocent until proven guilty. Your subconscious picked up on something that didn't feel right to you, maybe his body language and tone of voice changed somehow. Its no crime to talk to someone of the opposite sex even if you're already involved with someone, but to ask for phone number and then suggest hanging out is the point at which a guy knows he is being false and that could account for the things you sensed.
Then again, You could be totally off, maybe he was tired or had a headache and just wasn't feeling as he did earlier.
If you liked him enough to want to date someone like him assuming he is really available, then accept his offer to hang out.
If you do get a chance to talk with him again, ask if he knows any people in the city. He only said he just moved here, not that he didnt know anyone here or have friends or family here, right? Then ask to meet those friends or family once you've dated a while, if he is not willing to do so, he's hiding something.
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You are way over analyzing this.
He just moved to a new place, and it's the holidays. He's likely quite busy, maybe even out of town, and may fairly assume you are too.
I doubt you came across as too available or eager, but you do need to relax a bit. If you have his number, you might try inviting him along to your New Years plans to meet more local people. Other than that tho, I'd simply relax until the new year. Late December is hardly the time of year to expect someone to be free for a first date.
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You are jumping the gun too fast
You mentioned he had just moved into the city, What is the rush? Give the guy some time to settle in and get used to things. If he is interested in you then he will call you when things are calmed down. The holidays are coming up, The new years is right around the corner and it's a busy time for everyone. Being pushy would be to expect him to call a day or two after you gave him your number. Sometimes being demanding can be a bit of a scare off for some people. Just relax and see what happens after the holidays. It doesn't mean he isn't interested in you, It means that you may of caught him at a bad time. If he doesn't contact you a week or two after the new years then yes, I would assume he has lost interest.
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