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Am I stalking this girl? Is this wrong or creepy?
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged,
One thing I forgot to mention before is that I noticed about her is that she was very touchy feely. , like patting me on the back or shoulder.
My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Last week I went and sat there for about half an hour (I had nothing else to do though so I wasn't skipping anything) I just get this extremely good feeling when talking to her or seeing her. Is this creepy?
someone responded this
"You better watch what you're doing or you could end up on the wrong side of her boyfriend and that could result in you with a sore face.
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But this makes no sense, if her boyfriend came after me and attacked me for no reason that would be assault and I can probably press charges
I recently ran into this girl again. She was in the math lab, I went in and started chatting to her and she seemed happy to see me and happy to chat. I get this extremely good feeling whenever I see her or talk to her. I can't explain it
why would she be touchy feely?
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You've asked this question a few times before. The answers aren't going to change.
Yes, it is wrong. Since you aren't hoping to run into her just because you see her as a friend, it's disrespectful. You're interested in her but she's engaged so that's why it's wrong. You may not be doing anything physically wrong by waiting around hoping to talk to her, but it still is morally wrong and disrespectful.
You're pretty much setting yourself up for heartbreak and I really don't see a point for hoping to run into her when you know absolutely nothing will happen between you two.
It's fine that she is happy to see you. She only sees you as a friend. It doesn't matter why she is touchy feely, it might just be her personality and it's something that you shouldn't read into.
Just stop trying to see her, stop stalking her, and stop reading into this.
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You have asked this question far, far too many times for any reasonable observer to think that what you are doing is normal or healthy.
Zane is absolutely right. You've been given an abudance of advice telling you this is not okay.
Has it crossed the line to stalking or harassment - perhaps not yet - but you are clearly, and obviously, headed in that direction.
Stop looking for excuses to make this okay. It doesn't matter why she is 'touchy feely'. It could just be the way she is. It could be that that is how she is handling the anxiety of an uncomfortable encounter with you. It could also be you are just imagining it as you desperately try to make up reasons why what you are doing is okay (it's not).
You are clearly not trying to be her friend in any healthy or respectful way - you are following her because you are romantically obsessed with her.
She's engaged. Your reasons for behaving the way you are are deeply disrespectful. Stop fixating on labels like 'creepy' and 'stalking'. What you are doing is disrespectful and wrong. Put a stop to it now.
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This is the 3rd time you have posted this question which is now leading me to think you ARE being creepy and becoming obsessive.
Patting you on the back and shoulder is not being "touchy" in an inappropriate way nor would it lead me to believe this women would be interested in me.
Fact is, You are thinking WAY to much on the situation. I am starting to believe that you are looking to interfere with her relationship between her fiance and her. This women is engaged and therefore she is set to marry, involved and is not available.
Someone can seem happy to chat, This doesn't mean she has intentions of dating you. Again, You are reading way to far into this. You are making something seem what it is not.
You are being creepy in the aspect of constantly posting the same question, You are being creepy in the aspect of NOT seeming to get the fact that this women is involved with someone. My concerns is that your obsession has now gotten out of hand to the point where it can be classified as stalking or even harassing someone on campus. Chill out and stop over thinking the situation
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