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We fight alot..
Im 16 and he's 17. We been together for 10months. We fight so much and im not sure how to stop it. The littlest things cause it. He's cheated on me about 4 months ago so I have a big trust concern so I wanna look at his phone and I want him to make sure every girl he talks to knows he has a gf but he doesn't like that. We fight about me going on his instagram page, asking to see his phone, mentioning if the person hes texting knows he has a gf or not, even if he hugs another girl I get so pissed. I feel like now everybody is a threat. I don't know how to get over it and stop...
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You can't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust.
It's understandable that you have these problems because of him cheating on you, but if you forgave him and took him back, then that's what you did and you can't really do anything but trust him again. If you couldn't trust him and believe him, why did you stay with him after he cheated?
If you want this relationship to work, you need to work on this with him and with yourself.
Sit him down and have a talk with him. No fighting, not arguing, no pointing fingers at each other.
I do think that girls he's talking to should know he has a girlfriend. The reason why is so that they know not to step over any boundaries and he should be ok with that. If not, then he's not proud to have you as a girlfriend and you shouldn't be with him anyways.
As for asking to see him phone, hugging other girls, this is your problem and you need to work on that yourself. If you don't, then the relationship just isn't going to work and you guys won't be happy.
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have to agree, in my experience once things get like this they only get worse. unless he has done someting significant to prove himself that your not including in the question i think he is bad for you. if he broke your trust and was truly sorry he would understsnd your concern and be okay with you chekcing his phone etc. he clearly doesnt understand the magnitude of what he did wrong.
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You don't get over it
He cheated, He broke your trust. Frankly, I don't believe in forgiving someone that has the dignity to play with someone's feelings.
Once someone cheats in a relationship, It's almost impossible to repair. You took him back, You basically told the guy it was okay when it's not. Unfortunately, You cannot change someone. We can help someone to improve themselves but whether he decides to cheat or not, It's entirely up to him.
Sometimes when someone gets a way with something and they do it again, They are more careful about their actions and getting caught. I'm not saying he is going back to his ways but because you forgave him in the first place, It isn't going to prevent him from possibly acting on it again.
From the sound of what you've written, Your relationship is pretty much at the end of it's rope. The guy doesn't like the fact that you want his friends knowing that he is in a relationship? Why? What exactly is he hiding and ashamed of? Your better off finding someone who would be proud to be in a relationship with you. Not someone who is into hiding things because they don't want others knowing his status.
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