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Single and Pregnant
I have taken two pregnancy tests in the last month and they both came up negative, but I still think I'm pregnant due to missing a period and having cramps/some odd bleeding. Therefore, I have an appointment to see my doctor in the next couple days.
I am not scared of being pregnant since I am 22, live on my own, have a job and want children of my own, but I do have a few questions. I'm not in a relationship with the "father" so how do I go about telling him if I am pregnant? He works in a trucking business and is away quite a bit. I am prepared to be a single Mom if that so happens and I'm just curious about what you might have done in this situation. This will be my first child and I'm actually kind of excited to know if I am expecting. I have not told anyone at all so far; I plan to tell my Mother after I find out and I know she'll be accepting if I am. Do you have any other advice besides what I asked?
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I don't think your pregnant either. These home pregnancy test are more prone to giving false positives then false negative results. If you followed the directions on when to test, how long after unprotected intercourse, and when to test at home, a negative test is most likely correct.
You are doing the right thing by seeing your GYN for a follow up test and letting the doctor examine you. Missing a period happens more often for reasons not related to pregnancy than for being pregnant. Stress is the number one period killer with worry over pregnancy being the number one reason. This is followed by work related stress.
Then there are other reasons, diet, exercise, change in sleeping habits, and medications. Taking antibiotics have and can cause you to miss a period. Your menstrual cycle is a very delicate thing. It does not take much to throw it off.
Missing a period, having cramps and odd bleeding is reason enough to see your GYN. It may just be your body preparing for your next period or it could be something more serious.
If and this is a big if, you are pregnant. Write back in a private message and I will respond with all the things you need to do to protect you and the baby from a legal standpoint. As well as what the fathers rights are if he cares to request them.. Whether the father wants to or not he is legally responsible for the well being of a child until the child reaches 18 years old. With in seeing to ensuring he is held to doing what is legally his right is a way of informing him he is going to be a father.
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I also am not going to answer to some degree due to not having facts that you are pregnant.
Now before I ask, Are you trying to get pregnant?
Considering you have taken 2 pregnancy test, You are very likely not pregnant. A missed period can be caused by so many things such as depression, stress, PCOS, Dieting and exercise etc.
I'm just going to throw in my opinions on this one
I don't really think you have a clue what it means to raise a child. I believe it is a very selfish way to think to want to bring a child into this world knowing that the father would not be present in it's life as needed. Being a single Mom isn't something that you just do, It's a change of lifestyle. You said you work, How are you going to work and raise a child at the same time? Maybe you could have a babysitter, True. However, You need to think that you would be working about 6+ hours a day right? That's 6+ hours a day that you wouldn't be with your child and someone else would be caring for it. You live on your own, Do you have enough space to provide a healthy environment for a child? Can you afford it and if so how? Please understand I am not trying to be mean I just really think you need to think hard about things before making a choice like this. I find it really unfair that a child would only have one parent in their life. I know it happens but to do it intentionally out of the want to have a child is wrong in my opinion. A child should be when someone is ready and stable..
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I am not going to answer those questions because that is 'jumping to conclusions'. If the doctor discovers you are pregnant, then come back and ask.
Right now, you need to realize that if 2 tests are negative, you're probably not pregnant.
Missing a period can be due to illness, stress, and other changes in life. One could be a medication you just starting using, or if you are on birth control, there can be all sorts of side effects from it. Or lastly, there could be something wrong medically that requires doctor intervention.
It is good that you are going for an appt.
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