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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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recently ive had this feeling that one of my best friends doesnt seem to be my best friend anymore its like he's moved on to someone else [im a girl, hes a guy] he doesnt talk to me the way he used too. hes moved on to some other girl [he's gay]and it sucks. everything he used to tell me he tells her instead and it kills me.Ive tries to talk to him about this but he denies it and says he loves us the same and that im over eacting but i know im not ive known him for half my life and hes known her for a year, i really dont want to loose him.What do you think i should do?
Plan more times to hang out together and just talk to him a lot and keep it interesting. Why don't you try to get to know this girl too? I mean you might like her just as much as he likes her and then there could be a new friendship starting.
I dunno why, but when my friend got her first boyfriend (yesterday) i really felt just depressed....then it's just gonna be awkward at school now and i feel really stupid. I guess it's cuz a lot of the girls have boyfriends and they constantly nag me about how come i don't have one. I really don't see it as such a big deal but now that my best friend has one i feel all alone (not because she won't spend time with me or anything) it's just an empty feeling i have...i really don't know what's wrong with me and i don't think it's jealousy because i really am happy for her...so please just whatever u think about this tell me....
I think you just envy the other girls for having boyfriends while not being able to obtain one for yourself. Tell your friend that you're really happy that she has a boyfriend but you want to make sure that she won't ignore you for him too much.
Just don't try to hog her all the time. As for the boyfriend thing, don't mind about the other girls. If you don't want one right now, that's your choice
23/m
I got married young... while I was still in high school. Shannon wasn't pregnant, we just thought we were ready... probably because we both wanted to get away from our parents. We've had it good and we have a few kids now... but I'm not in love with Shannon anymore. I'm in love with one of my best friends, Tonya, who is also now married. I know things between Tonya and I won't work out, but if I'm not in love with Shan anymore, should we get a divorce? Am I just leading her on? Should we get counseling? I'm ready to let go. I'm done. But I don't want to break her heart... and what about the kids? They'll hate me. Please help me!
divorce is a harsh thing for kids to face so I suggest you stay with Shannon. Try and rekindle your marriage or love for each other and try to do something romantic. Marriage counseling might work but I don't know. Just odn't make rash decision and think things out. Maybe this is just a temporary pahse
On a scale of 1-10 what do u think each number represents? please help! thanks!!!
1-bad/no
5-ok/maybe
10-excellent/yes
My period hasnt been on for two months. I have not had sex with a boy, never. what could be my problem. Please help
Well, if your period is irregular that would be why and if you're in the beginning that would also be why. Also sports can prevent periods along with a lot of stress and lack of sleep and nutrition.
I suggest you relax and remain cool about it. Get enough rest and food. If you don't get your period in the next 2 months, go to a doctor and discuss this problem with him or her
My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year now and she is pretty upset with me for "being prude". I mean, just read some of the stuff she's said about me! "Whereas most guys would be drooling at the sight of a naked woman, Kurt would be covering his eyes in horror screaming, "It's not decent! It's not decent!" What is wrong with you, man? Loosen up and get a sense of humor." AND "I am all for taking it slow.... But like Ally said, we've been going out a long long time already. Don't you think it's a little unfair that he hasn't kissed me yet? Or even shown any sign that he wants to? It's killing me! I don't think he's into me like that. Or anyone! He's not GAY, I'd hope, but god! I don't want to talk to him about it. It would just turn into a big arguement even if it wasn't supposed to be." She said that on a forum where a bunch of our friends talk. . . Anyway, what am I supposed to do? Plus, I don't want her to think all I want is a physical relationship like most guys. She swears she will not make the moves because she says that's the guys job. Help me! I'm nervous and freaking out! All I can think of are worst scase scenerios!
Just tell her flat out that you don't know how to kiss that well and that you don't want to mess up and make a fool out of yourself. I'm sure that if she really loves you, she'll understand and help you without spreading it around...but if you don't want...
Just kiss her my dear. http://www.thekiss.com/
Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75
Honey, you are way too thin. You can see your ribs! I suggest you go on a diet to help gain wieght. gO to a doctor and ask them for a healthy diet to help you gain the amount of wieht you need.
There is this boy at school who keeps looking at me and then acts so sttrange like pushes me down or trips me but not around his peeps but he gets so annoying what should I do
Note: I don't like him like him
also I am a girl
He might like you and that's his way of flirting or he's just a rude immature guy.
Just tell him striahgt up that you don't appriciate his immaturity and that if he has a problem or has something to say, say it and not pesture you
i want to know how do i rate people. and how do i get people to answer my questions? im new at this site and if im asking dumb questions then you really don't have to answer. i'll just deal with it. thanks anyway
You can't really get people to answer your questions. It's their choice to whether or not they want to tackle your question or not. But if you really want someone to answer your question, just send a question to an individual comlumist.
Also when someone answers your question, on the very bottom of their answer, it should say "Rate this columnist? or osmething like that. 1 is bad and 5 is good. Pick your number depending on how much the answer was helpful
I was curious, do many girls sleep in tampons? If you put a new one in right before bed then a new one right when you woke up would that be safe? When I sleep I wear a pad to avoid TSS risks, but since I do not sleep standing up, my period sometimes leaks out on my pj's and sheets which is quite embarressing.
Just curious how many people do it and how safe it is.
I don't know how many people do this but it really isn't safe. Tampon itself isn't safe.
I really would discourage you to sleep with tampons because it's bad mostly because of TSS.
Do resolve the leaking problem:
Lay a dark colored towel (big thick one) on the bed (you should know where to position it) like a dark red, green, blue or black.
Use the night time big size one and a regular one. Make the regular one go all the way to the back and attach the night one to it so the pad goes all the way from the very front to the very back. This should help with that problem.
I want to loose around 15-20 pounds by February or March. Does anyone have any techniques for diet and exercise?
Going on a low carb diet always helps but I don't relaly know how. Haha. Execise and eat right. That's the key.
Exercise:
Run for at least 40min everyday. Or jog or just wlak around. Make sure you do it at a constant speed and slowly increase your speed. don't start off running then get tired and walk..because that's not very effective. Make sure you stretch, warm up, exercise, then stretch to avoid craps and sore muscles. Aerobics are always awesome and kickboxing and pilates are good too. Just make sure you fit in 40-60min of exercise every other day or even every day.
Eating:
Make sure you eat healthy. Don't say oh I ate this small amount of chocolate and the calorie is a vast amount, now I'm not gonna eat. Or something like that. Eating healthy is the key to every diet.
Foods to avoid:
Fast food like burgers, pizzas, fries/Junk food like chips, gummies, chocolate, candy, soda (even diet)/Saturated fats like butter/Mayo, peanut butter and greasy foods like bacon. Cut them all out of your diet. It will change your weight. CAnned food, prepackaged and made food, TV dinner type fo foods.
Now, eat whole grain bread when you reach for that toast. Eat healthy cereals insstead of those sugar loaded ones. Drink water instead of juice or milk and what not. Well, milk is actually good for the body. Try to avoid chugging down food too quickly and reaching for that seconds. Avoid eating in front of the TV because research shows that it causes eaters to eat more. Try to portion your meals (healthy amounts) and use a smaller plate instead of those big dinner dishes.
Breakfast you must eat because skipping breakfast will slwo down your metabolism for the day resulting in not losing weight. When you have the urge to eat something, wait 10minutes an drink water. If the temptation is still there, eat something healthy like carrots and fat free ranch or apples or whatever. Eat small healthy snacks in between meals to reduce your urge to eat more..
Good luck and have fun =]
hey im 14/m, i just like asked this girl i love out, weve been friends for a while and i think i do love her, either that or i like her beyond belief,i got the impression that she liked me to, which just built up false hope, well anyway i asked her out, and she rejected me, told me she only saw me as a friend
i was heartbroken, still am, my feelings for her havent changed, well heres my question, is there any way to make her see me as somthing else, like get her to see me in "that way"? please i love her.
From a girls point of view:
She must've felt really awkward. She thought that you were her friend and nothing more and you felt the same and then to have a good friend ask her out...hmmm. She probably felt a little bit bad after rejecting you too.
The thing is that most girls want a guy best friend and in my case, I have one...and he's gay. Haha. Anywhos, you can't change what she feels and you've got to respect that. Just be the best guy friend you can be and think of this situation in this way:
would you rahter be her life long good friend or a boyfriend of few months only to result in being her ex and probably not regaining such a good frienship?
Good luck
My school is have a dance soon and its when you have to dress up nicely in a dress and guys in nice button down shirts and stuff. What kind of dresses de-emphasize the hips and emphasize your waist area? thanks a bunch!
Empire dresses are always pretty and in style but they don't emphazise but rahter hide your waist area.
Try a halter top dress with the sides clinging to your skin and so the dress shows your curvy and thin hips.
I want to get my haircut soon but I'm really not sure what I want it to look like.
I have a square shaped face so I need a haircut that will suit me, and I'd also like it if it made my face look less square.
People say I look like Keira Knightley and I'd really like a haircut that made me look more like her. So, I have a square-shaped face, big eyes, average-sized nose and a small mouth.
So if you know a haircut that would suit me would you please describe it to me and it would be really good if you could include a link to a picture of that haircut (from google images or something).
Oh, and please don't say to get a pixie cut, I know keira knightley had one once but I really don't want one.
Thanks, xxx
A layered style will soften your jawline and a side parting will break up the symmetry of the face
So basically get a layered hair cut and ask the stylist if she can part it to one side that will work well for you. Also ask if you can get your bangs to be sweeped to the side if you know what I mean. If you're still uncertain, ask the stylist..I mean this is what they're trained for..right?
well i've been going out with this guy. but we havent really gone on a date yet just homecomming so were boy friend and girl friend he says. so i'm going x-mas shopping soon and i want to get him something. cause we've kissed once at homecomming and it was only a peck. so i dont want to give him a gift thats not good enough or well idk, what do u think a guy likes? he's in cross country. and i dont think he wheres watches. plez help. thanks a lot.
Well, going to homecoming doesn't make people a couple but whatever.
Just make or buy him delisiouc cookies or a gift card to blockbusters or a rad stuffed animal XD
For the past 3 years, ive met 3 guys.
We would get really close and they'd call me all the time, IM me all the time, and wanna hangout all the time and stuff.
They would flirt with me on the phone , like CRAZY!
So i thought they liked me so i would flirt back
[becuase i liked them]
then when people asked them if they liked me , they said no and they said that i was " too good of a friend"
I dont get it!
Whats the problem here?
Some possible things are:
They just like to flirt but nothing more serious
They are afraid to say that they do like you
They really only do think of you as a friend.
Guys are so blinde when it comes to girls flirting with them. They might just see your flirting as friendly gestures and what not. You've stepped into the FRIEND ZONE. eek. not the best zone to be stuck in with your crush.
So the next time you like a guy, play a little hard to get. Don't be their best pals. Flirt with them from the start but don't come on too strongly.
I'm 16/f Australian. Can someone please help me with ways to really make my resume/CV stand out?? What should I include in it and are there any tips you can give me? I'm applying for a casual job over the holidays at a teen girls clothing and jewellery store (like Supre but smaller). Also, should I put my interests in too? If so, should I only include things that are to do with fashion etc. or just what I like doing??
Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
You would mainly want to put things on there that would appeal to the person who reads the resumes and hires people.
Say things like you are great with people, you're neat and organized, and etc. Just write down things that will appeal to the reader and make sure that all of them are true facts.
Don't go saying I love soccer..or osmething like that or I work for a famous fashio designer or what not haha
Dear Columnist,
Here's my situation, I'm 18/f and this guy I can't seem to let go is 20/m. I have been what is the closest I have ever felt to love for someone, with him for almost 6 years now. Now, given, when I crush I crush big time and I've had crushes before and during him but never like this. With most of my crushes I feel really strongly for them but it all fades after a few months with no return on the feeling. But with him, it has been near 6 years and there hasn't even been so much as dulling of my feeling. I am oblivious when it comes to matters of the heart involving me. I really feel a connection with him and would have sworn he felt, at least something, too. But when I finally got up the nerve to tell him that I really like him, all he said was that he has a girlfriend. I know that's a given road block, and I really had accepted that there wasn't going to be anything there but when I worked with him over the next couple weeks I could still see the same way he looked at me, and the way he showed so much concern for me. I've never had anyone show so much positive emotion towards me even through his eyes. I just can't let go, I feel there's something more there he's not showing but I don't know where to go from here or what else I can do to either win him over or at least know how he feels so I can let go. Please help.
Thanks- "Lost in Love"
Well, you can't change what someone else feels towards you and you can't tell for sure if what they feel about you unless you ask them directly.
Stealing him from his girlfriend isn't a good idea at all considering the fact that he's two years older than you. The key word is that he is older than you (even by just a little) and stealing a 20yr old man isn't too nice..
Just wait it out and see what happens. Be careful not to step into the friend zone because you might just be stuck there forever. When he and his grilfriend breaks up, give him time and don't rush on him. Just stay cool, don't continuously flirt with him and blah blah.
Don't be so hung up on this guy. Go out with your friends and shop or go to the movies or parties and meet new guys and who knows, you might develope a crush that is bigger than the one you have right now. I mean what's the point of lingering on one guy when there are millions of guys out there that are available?
okay yeah well there is this guy that i pranked a couple of times...like really bad they weren't at school they just were like little inside things exept one was like really big and now the problem is i really like him...i think he knows i do but how do i find out what he thinks of me since what i did to him?
Well...hmmm this is a toughie.
Okay, well first of all stop the pranks.
Talk to him and jokingly say "You have any pranks for me?" or something like that. Gradually move onto different subjects and just be his friend. But be careful not to step into the friend zone. Then just let him get to know you and you should get to know him more.
Later either (if you're bold) ask him yourself or thourhg a friend if he likes you.
Or make a fake screen name online for a chatting thing and ask who he likes --although this method doesn't work too well.
There's really no real way to find out whether he likes you or not unless YOU ask him directly yourself. If a friend asks for you, he might be embaressed and say "no." so the only way to know is if you ask him youself.
One day just casually say "I was wondering if you like me...as more than a friend"
or something like that.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and 7 months. Recently as in 3 days ago. Even though I was the one who broke it off, I still yearn to talk to him and see him and to have the friendship we used to have. He was my first boyfriend and I've never ever been as close to someone as I was to him. We did EVERYTHING together for the past year and a half. The reason we broke up is because he was very insecure with me and never let me go out with other guys. He says he's insecure because I wasn't open with our relationship, meaning I never really openly told people that I had a boyfriend. I think I was like that because he wasn't really the ideal boyfriend that I've always wanted, so I didn't treat him as well as i should have. For the year and a half that we were dating, I considered breaking up with him almost every week, just because I knew that he was someone I wouldn't want to be with forever. When he treated me bad, I would always tell myself I would break up with him, but would never have the guts to do it. Another big reason is that my parents don't really like him because of his ethnicity and looks. He knew that we wern't going to be together forever and that my parents wern't fond of him, but we still kept up the relationship, mainly because we did not want to ruin such a good friendship. Right after we broke up, he still talked to me as if we were normal friends. I asked him why he was acting normal and he said that there's nothing he could do about it if i wanted to break up. This surprised me because I thought he would hate me after the breakup. He still asked to hang out with me, and as much as I wanted to still see him, I knew I shouldn't. I think the reason he was pretending like nothing was happening was because he thought I would eventually get back with him because situations like this have happened in the past and we always end up getting back together. Last night, I went to this party with guy friends that he doesn't like and I told him I was going to go right before, and he said he never wanted to talk to me again. Him saying that made the breakup for me even harder and it makes me want to talk to him so much more. The thing is, I DON'T want to get back with him because I know i'm going to regret it SO much later, but even though I know we can't be as close as we used to, I still want to have a friendship with him. I know this situation happens a lot, but I'm very new to relationships and I wanted your guy's advice on how I should cope with this. I don't have any REALLY close friends that can take my mind off of him so I'm stuck at home today feeling really lonely :( Which makes me want to talk to him again. So any advice you guys have would be greatly appreciated.
Go out and SHOP
haha please don't indulge yourself with Ben and Jerry. Haha.
Just go out with some friends and have fun. This guy is your friend now and if he can't accept the fact that he is and that you're able to go out to parties or whatever with your guy friends, then screw him. Just have fun. Don't think about him. Go online, go to a chat room and talk to random strangers
Haha that always works