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Coping with a breakup
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and 7 months. Recently as in 3 days ago. Even though I was the one who broke it off, I still yearn to talk to him and see him and to have the friendship we used to have. He was my first boyfriend and I've never ever been as close to someone as I was to him. We did EVERYTHING together for the past year and a half. The reason we broke up is because he was very insecure with me and never let me go out with other guys. He says he's insecure because I wasn't open with our relationship, meaning I never really openly told people that I had a boyfriend. I think I was like that because he wasn't really the ideal boyfriend that I've always wanted, so I didn't treat him as well as i should have. For the year and a half that we were dating, I considered breaking up with him almost every week, just because I knew that he was someone I wouldn't want to be with forever. When he treated me bad, I would always tell myself I would break up with him, but would never have the guts to do it. Another big reason is that my parents don't really like him because of his ethnicity and looks. He knew that we wern't going to be together forever and that my parents wern't fond of him, but we still kept up the relationship, mainly because we did not want to ruin such a good friendship. Right after we broke up, he still talked to me as if we were normal friends. I asked him why he was acting normal and he said that there's nothing he could do about it if i wanted to break up. This surprised me because I thought he would hate me after the breakup. He still asked to hang out with me, and as much as I wanted to still see him, I knew I shouldn't. I think the reason he was pretending like nothing was happening was because he thought I would eventually get back with him because situations like this have happened in the past and we always end up getting back together. Last night, I went to this party with guy friends that he doesn't like and I told him I was going to go right before, and he said he never wanted to talk to me again. Him saying that made the breakup for me even harder and it makes me want to talk to him so much more. The thing is, I DON'T want to get back with him because I know i'm going to regret it SO much later, but even though I know we can't be as close as we used to, I still want to have a friendship with him. I know this situation happens a lot, but I'm very new to relationships and I wanted your guy's advice on how I should cope with this. I don't have any REALLY close friends that can take my mind off of him so I'm stuck at home today feeling really lonely :( Which makes me want to talk to him again. So any advice you guys have would be greatly appreciated.
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Go out and SHOP
haha please don't indulge yourself with Ben and Jerry. Haha.
Just go out with some friends and have fun. This guy is your friend now and if he can't accept the fact that he is and that you're able to go out to parties or whatever with your guy friends, then screw him. Just have fun. Don't think about him. Go online, go to a chat room and talk to random strangers
Haha that always works
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