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I'm in a relationship right now... and we're both kind of expecting our first kiss together, and, well, I need advice! I don't know what to do or anything! and it's driving me nuts! (link)
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oh heck,You'll do okay! Trust me it will come naturally just relax and enjoy:}
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hey! okay, today i went tanning for the frist time. i went in a medium ed for 10 minutes, and used the special lotion they give you. i came home tonight, more than 6 hours later, and took a shower. just one certain spot on me is red, actually 2. it's normally where i get sunburn. could i have possibly gotten sunburn , or is it like an allergic reaction to the lotion? i don't think it's the lotion, since wouldn't i have gotten taht all over my body? just wondering if it is sunburn how can i prevent it next time and put anything on it to make it go away? thanks! (link)
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If it was an allergic reaction you would have a rash or blisters all over. You can indeed get sunburn from tanning booth even though they won't mention it to you.
Treat it as you would any sunburn. Try some aloe lotion.You might ask them how to prevent it next time you go in. Explain what happened.
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Ok. One of my guy friends has a girlfriend, but he hangs out with me and my other friend more. So now his girlfriend is mad at him and now he can't hang out with us exept at school. It's really making me sad and neither of us wants this. What should I do? (link)
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For now i'd just sit tight.I really doubt that he will put up with the controlling behavior of the girlfriend for long. It's gonna get old REAL quick. I can understand her being a little jealous, sure you can too, but, if she can't trust him enough to let him hang with his friends sometimes.....she will soon be history.
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My boyfriend, Linds, and I have been together for about a year and half. Well, I still like him and want to be with him. But, there's a problem. There's a guy in my Physics class that I tend to flirt with ALOT and he flirts back. I know that I don't like this guy; I'm just extremely attracted to his looks. He's not a bad guy or anything, he's actually pretty sweet and nice but Linds is so much more than that (hott too! :D). I always tell myself that I'm not going to flirt with him before class but of course I do.
Well, this past weekend, we were at the same party that Linds wasn't at and we almost kissed. I stopped myself and I'm glad I did. I don't know how to stop this and I don't want to ruin such a good thing with Linds. I have no idea what to do. I try to stay away from him but it never works. Any help with this situation is really appreciated, thanks.
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This one is tough.
You're attracted to this other guy or you wouldn't be flirting and coming close to kissing him!
If you don't want anything to happen that you might regret later you will have to keep your distance from him.
Maybe you should consider not being exclusive anymore.See what some other guys are like?Probably not a popular advice to give but, think about it.
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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :) (link)
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There probably isn't much you can do.
They will probably just have to learn the hard way. If you've mentioned it to them and they chose to ignore you just let it go.They have been warned.
As for her spreading rumors about you and your friends....just let people know as best you can that they aren't true. Sooner or later she will be tagged as a liar and won't anyone want anything to do with her (except maybe other roaches.
You could kick her butt.I don't wanna encourage violence being a grandma and all that(can you make a wink icon on this thing?} :}
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im not really sure what is happening.. but lately like the last 3 or 4 times my boyfriend has fingered me it has stung so bad! im not sure why it is or anything.. i mean like when he does it just hurts so bad i want him to stop.. but then like if he does it again the same night it doesnt hurt like really really bad.. i think its the way im sitting or something im not sure.. its not easy talkin to him about things like this.. bc he wouldnt know what to say i know.. i mean we have been together for a long time but it jus wouldnt be easy.. but when i come home or w.e i check and see if anything looks any different and it doesnt it jus stings and it even does like two days afterward im not sure what to do can someone quickly give me some advice! (link)
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You might have him use lotion or ky jelly.That will help. He might be rubbing to hard, don't be afraid to tell him because otherwise he won't know!
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Whenever i have like.. time to myself, i always seem sad, and sometimes even when im with friends, family, or people in groups im in.. i never talk..because.. well im just sad. sometiems there are no reasons, and i always wonder why.. but other times, its because since im adopted.. i never met my parents, and sometimes i just want to meet them so bad that i dream about who i would be if i never got adopted and stuff.. then i start crying... can you help me stop this, or find out.. why???
THANKS IF YOU ANSWER!! (link)
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You probably need to seek some professional advice if your depressed feeling very often.
If your interested in the symptoms you can check my column, I gave them to another person recently.
It's perfectly natural to be curious about your biological parents.You must remember though that they are not your parents.They probably have reasons for why they put you up for adoption but they have done no "parenting". Have you discussed your curiosity with your mom? I would.She is probably expecting you too sooner or later.She may even be able to answer some of your questions.
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do you need a pap smear if you get fingered if so how bad and if not when do you have to get one (link)
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No.
A pap smear mainly checks women for cancer cells on the cervix. It is usually done when you have a yearly gyn exam.Which you should get every year once you become sexually active.
Getting fingered is not really sexually active.
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This may sound like a stupid question but, what is the difference between a physchologist and a physchiatrist? Thanks -kait
If it helps I want to go into this field as a profession. Does anyone know any good colleges that have a good physchology program? Specifically helping Kids and teens. (link)
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The main diffrence is that a psychiatrist can write perscriptions for medications as well as provide therapy. psychologists just provide the therapy.
You might check the web for schools.
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My friend made a Flash movie and I am doing the voice acting for one of the characters. The character has one line, which has to be said very quickly, loudly and forcefully. Every time I say this line into my microphone and listen to it there is a little static "explosion" on the hard consonants. Short of getting a new microphone, what can I do to lessen this? (link)
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Does you mic have one of those foam cover things over it? That could help. I don't know what they are called.
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I need to know what to do about my husband and daughter. My 5yr old daughter dont talk and avoids my husband.. My husband tells me he loves her but thinks she is a brat. He told me i should think bout puttin her in counciling. I told him he should go with her..because the problem is both of them..My husband refuses to make the 1st move, like talking 1st or asking her to come sit with him.. He says he aint letting a 5yr old run his life.. he tells her more when she does something wrong then praise her. She has her moments of not listening..she gets punished.. he says shes too far up my butt..however i am a very affectionate mother..both of my girls are always over me..this is affecting our marriage. he says he dont know whats going to happen if she dont change.. she is my world as my other daughter is..the only difference is ..she isnt biologically his..she comes from my previous marriage..but her real father took off after she was 3. he is always holding, loving on and playing with my 1 1/2 yr old, and looks right by her.. what should i do? am i going to have to make a choice between her and my husband? how can i fix this? Please help.. (link)
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I agree with you. He needs some counciling!
Your daughter could feel that he cares more for the youngest. Kid's aren't stupid as you well know.She could be a little shy too. Has this just started since the littlest came along?
He really needs to make special time to hang out and just watch a movie or whatever with the 3 year old. Make her feel special too.
You need to make him realise that HE is an adult.The 3 year old just wants attention, I doubt that she is trying to run his life! HE needs to be the one to put forth a little more effort here.
I would hope he wouldn't be that immature as to have you choose between him and your daughter.
I wish I had better advice to give.I think that unless you can get him to help with the problem instead of making it worse it will never get better. I suppose if he's willing to pay for counciling she can go and learn to deal with a parent who doesn't accept her because she isn't his biological father.
You have some major decisions to make.Make sure that YOU at least shower the 3 yo with attention any 3 yo deserves okay?
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i am currently living in africa and i am feeling very very depressed as time goes by. i've been taken from the friends i love and i am slowly going into insainity. we moved cause my mom thought that the rest of the family hated living in texas, which wasnt true at all. i have left the girl i love behind and cant stop thinking about her, and now i am the most lonesome man on earth. i cant make friends here as they are all immature and just plain stupid. every weekend i am cooped up at home because we aren't aloud outside unless we are going to the store, anothre persons house, or skool. i'm am going insain. i need help before this is the last thing anyone hears from me! (link)
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If you don't snap yourself out of it soon, seek professional advice.
Change is always difficult no matter what it is.I know you miss all your familiar friends...you wouldn't be normal if you didn't! You can make friends though.If the kids in your class are to immature talk to and make friends with some that are older.And you can still email and write to all your old friends.Don't loose touch with them. The girlfriend will be harder but you can write and email her too.You may see other people now because of the distance between you but if it is meant to be you will get together in the future.Keep in touch with her.
Why are you not allowed outside? Maybe once your mom is more familiar with the new neighborhood she will let you venture out more.
I'm sure all your old friends will love hearing about Africa. And all the new friends you make will enjoy showing you the sites. So, don't sit around feeling sorry. You won't go insane! Go have some fun and make some friends:}
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me an this guy have been good friends since we were little.. here lately things have been gettin pretty intense.. i think hes trying to be with me and i think i wanna be with him too ..
at the same time another one of my best guy friends is telling me about how jealous he is of every other guy i get with. You can be jealous but hes like my best guy friend do you think that his jealousy means he wants to be with me.
Then theres another guy who i have been with before, he wants to be ftf but i want a relationship and i dont think that he wants that. What should i do there..
I also have another guy who i was hanging out with for a while and he and i messed with eachother one night, well ever since he has been real shady but then at times hes real sweet, i really think i like him but then again i have no idea. He doesnt want anyone to find out about us and what we did.
THen theres more.. another guy the one i lost it to is always callin me an checkin up but hes known as a player should i give him wat he wants .. and be with him or not ? I am just so lost and confused too much drama
IF YOU HELP ME* YOUR LIKE NO OTHER - GREAT RATINGS PEOPLE PLEASE HELP ME
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I won't have the most popular answer for you I can bet!
I think you can be friends with all of them. But, until one of them turns into the love of your life....don't have sex with them.A big reason for not is that you will never know if they love you or they just want sex from you.I think you may already have a couple who think along those lines. Just hold off until you find someone genuine.
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I am not sure what i have but some times when im scared, doing nothing, or exercising my heart beats fast and i can feel the pressure of it and i when that happens i look down at my shirt and you can see my chest vibrating from my heart. Im afraid that this could be serious, either if it is or not i would like to know what it could be and how i can treat it or do things to help it.
thnx to whoever responds. (link)
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I would mention it to your mom and see about getting a checkup just to be on the safe side.
That being said, It sounds like you could be having an anxiety attack. It's not a serious thing just scarey. Exercising will make your heart beat faster because that's what it's supposed to do!
Go get a checkup, be sure to tell your doctor all about it.Even though chances are it's perfectly okay, you will feel soooo much better knowing for sure.:}
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Hey guys, I've been single for a really long time now and I really want a boyfriend. I'm 14/f, and I feel like I'll never get a boyfriend again. I still feel really bad from my last relationship. I have no guys to talk to or anything. When I go places, I hate seeing people with their boyfriend or girlfriend and having a good time, or even Valentines Day and Sweetest Day. How do i meet guys? I used to always go to the mall and the movies, and I liked people there but I'm really shy. It's hard to just go up to people and say something. How can I get some guy friends atleast, so I have someone to talk to? Thank you so much to anyone who answers! I'm so sorry this was long. (link)
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Someone at school will probably be your best bet.
Easier to talk to someone about an assignment or class project!
If you're having trouble with an assignment (or even if not really), ask the cute guy in your class for help!
Talk about music, anything. I can't in good judgement recommend meeting people in the mall.There are lots of weirdos in malls.I know there are in schools too but, at least you know a little about the weirdos maybe!
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This isn't really a sexual question, but it involves my genitals, so I figured this would be the best place to ask.
My labia is very irritated, itchy, and sometimes downright painful. I know it's not an STD, because I haven't done anything that could give me an STD. It's a bit like a rash, but I wouldn't call it one, it's more like irritation. Sometimes, I'll put vaseline on it, but it doesn't help much and not for long. It's a sharp, burning pain. It especially hurts when I'm forced to touch it, like after I use the restroom, or if I have to insert a tampon. Again, it's just my labia (inner and outer, mostly inner), not anything else, really.
Anyone know what it is/how to relieve it? (link)
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Is it possible that you are using something diffrent that could be causing an allergic reaction? A new soap, anything like that? Even a new laundry soap or fabric softner. If so, stop using on underwear and see if that is causing it.
Your best bet is going to be seeing a doctor.I know it's an unpleasant thing to do but you don't want to mess with a rash there.He/she will
give you something that will work without making the problem worse, and you don't want to make it worse!
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My best friend is 16 now but she has been getting abused by her dad since she was old enough to walk. I saw him punch her in the face one time and bang her head against a wall. I am really scared for and her sister because I have seen him hit her too. She's asked me not to tell but Im scared that if I keep quiet that one day he might really hurt her. We tryed calling the police on him one time but they wanted to press charges against us and not him. I dont know what I should do and I dont know how I can help her. (link)
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You could tell a counsler at school about it and have them keep an eye on the sisters. Then, is they see anything suspicious they can talk to them. I think schools by law have to turn in cases of suspected child abuse.
Or, you can tell your parents.Have them not call the police but call the dept. of social services in your area. They will check out cases of suspected child abuse and then THEY will get the police involved. You may even be able to report it anonymously.
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Well here is my problem ..
I went out with this guy for like 2 months .. We broke up .. It was b/c of me .. :-( I got so nervous around him .. He'd try to hold my hand and i would shake .. I felt so stupid .. That was almost 7 months ago ..Well I still like him SO much .. But he doesn't know that i still like him .. I think that he has a clue but i haven't confirmed it .. Well one of his friends likes me and i kinda like him .. But i don't get nervous around him .. I want to go out with him but i don't want it to look like i am "using" him to get to the other guy that i still like ALOT .. Any advice would be good !!
Thanks so much .. (link)
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Go ahead and go out with him.
If you aren't as nervous you'll have a good time
and who knows, may even like him better.If not, no harm done.
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There's this kid, Sam* and he was dumped by my best friend, Katie* in February.. Sam is the nicest kid you will ever meet..and Katie I think is just boy crazy. Well anyway, Sam and Katie went out for over 2 years on and off. Sam lives about 2 hours away though. Well this real jerk starting going out with Katie and she doesnt like him and is actually kind of attached to Sam still..but Katie wants him to dump her, because she doesnt have the heart to dump him..so my job is to try to make him break up with her..and its all confusing..but any suggestions?
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Honestly, you need to tell Katie to do her own dirty work. It's not your business to get into.
She needs to tell Sam that because he lives so far away they need to be free to date other people. You just give her that advice and stay out of it.
Keep in mind that if you say something that makes him dump her and she later changes her mind...you are who she'll blame.
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I have this friend,(E) and every time I turn around, I hear that she was trash talking me!! Well me and my two other friends, (L) and (H), and they keep telling me she was talking trash about me! I have known (E) since 4th grade, and she is my friend so why does everyone tell me she trash talks me?? Who should I believe? I rate high!!!!! (link)
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you definatley need to get her story. Tell her you've been hearing that she is bad mouthing you behind your back and you'd really like to know why. She may deny it but maybe she will stop.
Just let her know that you know whats going on and your willing to forget it this time but that you don't want it happening again.
Do it in private, not in front of other friends.
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