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Question Posted Monday March 21 2005, 6:08 pm

My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)

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vballchic89 answered Tuesday March 22 2005, 2:51 pm:
Just ignore her. Tell the other friends that she will do this if you are certain she will.
I know how you feel!
Just remember that if you ruin her life she will just get you back if that is the true person she is. Good luck! -RiLeY

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_eMiLy answered Tuesday March 22 2005, 12:52 pm:
Okay first you need to stay away from this girl. She sounds like a right bitch and you definatly don't need her around you.
Next you could tell the other people that are starting to hang around with her that she'll start screwing them over anytime soon and that she'll start bullshitting about them. If they refuse to belive you just let them get on with it and tell them not to say you didnt warn them when it all starts going wrong.
Good luck

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mrs_radcliffe answered Tuesday March 22 2005, 7:59 am:
Leave her dont talk to her its her life shes messing up, tell them other people to just walk away and leave her to it shes not worth anything.

luv roxie

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JadedinNowhere answered Monday March 21 2005, 9:39 pm:
Why do you care so much about the other people? I say it's their funeral.. teh

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ballerina04 answered Monday March 21 2005, 8:34 pm:
She's not a friend at all. There's not much to do but completely ignore her. She wants the attention, and you're giving it to by responding. Talk to your principal, a teacher, a parent, or your guidance counselor. You deserve better than what's happening now. Good luck, and if you need to talk, just drop one in my inbox. ♥ Kristen

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Teza answered Monday March 21 2005, 8:30 pm:
Haha what a loster! Tell her new friends before she does it. Make sure they know how she really is. If she wont stop doing it to you tell the school counslor to swich her to different classes or whatever. But the counslor will do something about it. Sorry if not much help! x0

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hitler_the_goat answered Monday March 21 2005, 8:07 pm:
cut the bitch up.

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mylinhthan answered Monday March 21 2005, 7:50 pm:
anonymous -

Hey, I went through the same thing that you did, so I hope I can be of some assistance.

To put it simply, just drop her. She isn't worth your time, your friendship, nada. Escpecally if she's going to use you and screw you over, she's not worth it.

Although it will bug the crap out of you that she's so PROUD of her conceited self, just leave her be. I know it's hard, but that's the best thing to do. I'm sure if you, her former friend I guess you could say, if you can see this in her, I'm sure others see it too, even if they don't know her. She doesn't realize that she's giving off the wrong impression, and really, she's making an ass of herself without realizing it. Just sit back and laugh at the embarrassment she bestows on herself!

...but if you must, at last resort, if she bugs you that much, make her look stupid. I'm not suggesting using insults, or harmful words, but if she continues to make fun of you and your friend, defend yourselves! Tell her she doesn't know what the fuck she is talking about and to get on with her life cuz you DROPPED HER and have moved on already. Tell her she's too much of a self-centered person to think that you actually care about her anymore. Keep in mind this is a last resort thing...and also tell her this (if you decide to) AFTER you dropped her as a friend. :) Also, don't point fingers or get anyone else involved. Keep it between you two.

As for the other friends that hang around her, or as I'd like to call them, groupies, just let them continue to be friends with her. Although you may have warned them about her, they will have to learn the hard way of "I told you so." They are just too naive to do anything about her behavior, so they continue blindly pursuing a false friendship that really is non-existent.

To conclude, just find new friends. You don't want a stuck up bitch as a friend nor do you want her "yes-men" groupies as friends either. Either way you won't be having true friends.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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karenR answered Monday March 21 2005, 7:21 pm:
There probably isn't much you can do.
They will probably just have to learn the hard way. If you've mentioned it to them and they chose to ignore you just let it go.They have been warned.

As for her spreading rumors about you and your friends....just let people know as best you can that they aren't true. Sooner or later she will be tagged as a liar and won't anyone want anything to do with her (except maybe other roaches.

You could kick her butt.I don't wanna encourage violence being a grandma and all that(can you make a wink icon on this thing?} :}

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toastnbutter answered Monday March 21 2005, 7:08 pm:
sounds 2 me that she isn't your friend. it sounds like she's using. maybe you can get ALL her friends to stop talking 2 her 4 like a weeek. then the next week get all her friends together and let them tell her why they aren't talking to her. or make her feel the way she made you feel. i hope i helped!

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angelinluv6767 answered Monday March 21 2005, 7:08 pm:
i think you should tell your 'friend' that she is ruining your life nad you want her to stop. Talk to her new friends and tell them everything she did to you and maybe tehy wont hang out wtih her no more either. If she keeps on goin after you talk to her, i would do the same thing to her! i mean spread rumors and all. You might think its wrong, but it will help. lemme know how it goes.

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