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Abuse
My best friend is 16 now but she has been getting abused by her dad since she was old enough to walk. I saw him punch her in the face one time and bang her head against a wall. I am really scared for and her sister because I have seen him hit her too. She's asked me not to tell but Im scared that if I keep quiet that one day he might really hurt her. We tryed calling the police on him one time but they wanted to press charges against us and not him. I dont know what I should do and I dont know how I can help her.
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go to a guidance counseler at school and bring a picture of a bruise youre friend has ..
or even if you dont have a picture go anyways and tell her .. i guarentee the guidance counseler will help
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You really should tell. He may danger her life. here is a poem about child abuse but it is about a three year old not a 16 year old:
My name is Sarah
. I am but three,
. My eyes are swollen
. I cannot see,
. I must be stupid
. I must be bad,
. What else could have made
. My daddy so mad?
. I wish I were better
. I wish I weren't ugly,
. Then maybe my mommy
. Would still want to hug me.
. I can't speak at all
. I can't do a wrong
. Or else I'm locked up
. All the day long.
. When I awake I'm all alone
. The house is dark
. My folks aren't home.
. When my mommy does come
. I'll try and be nice,
. So maybe I'll get just
. One whipping tonight
. Don't make a sound!
. I just heard a car
. My daddy is back
. From Charlie's Bar.
. I hear him curse
. My name he calls
. I press myself
. Against the wall.
. I try and hide
. From his evil eyes
. I'm so afraid now
. I'm starting to cry.
. He finds me weeping
. He shouts ugly words,
. He says its my fault
. That he suffers at work.
. He slaps me and hits me
. And yells at me more,
. I finally get free
. And I run for the door.
. He's already locked it
. And I start to bawl,
. He takes me and throws me
. Against the hard wall.
. I fall to the floor
. With my bones nearly broken,
. And my daddy continues
. With more bad words spoken.
. "I'm sorry!", I scream
. But its now much too late
. His face has been twisted
. Into unimaginable hate.
. The hurt and the pain
. Again and again
. Oh please God, have mercy!
. Oh please let it end!
. And he finally stops
. And heads for the door,
. While I lay there motionless
. Sprawled on the floor.
. My name is Sarah
. And I am but three,
. Tonight my daddy
. Murdered me.
Now that you have read that poem think: Do you really want your best friend to be Sarah? I hope you don't. Call the police. If you explain this they won't press charges on you they will press charges on him. By getting her help you may be saving her life. Remember that. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Ask your mother if she can take you directly to the police. Try to get a picture of your friend when she has a bad bruise and show it to the cops. Explain to the police what you have seen.
Good luck
*sarah
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You need to call the police again, why would they press charges on you, if hes doing the abuse? Listen, you need to talk to your friend, tell her to go to the police with you, tell her that she will be safe, and you need to take pictures of her to have as proof so it will end fast, you have to get her to do it, or go by yourself and make her tell the truth, don't let her deny it. I will help you through this if you tell me what happens in my inbox. I want to help you, abusive causes serious damages in your life and can make you seriously depressed. But please please please tell the police, your friend will most likey refuse to go with you on this, but you have to do it.
-TheTeenGirl
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You should tell a parent other than hers. Maybe try telling your mom or dad and if they dont do anything then try talking to a guidance counselor before things get even worse. Most likely your friend will say not to but if you are really her friend then you will get her help because that would be the best thing to do. hope i helped and you can IM me or let me know how things are or went at XxPatsGirl1992xX or XxParsGirls1992xX@netscape.net
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try looking up shelters for abused teens in your city and your local family services-or child welfare in your area I believe that they will step in and find her a place to stay out of this abusive inviorment
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I would talk to a teacher you feel close to, maybe your parents, a guidance counselor in school, anybody! But you cant do nothing about this..things will only get worse. Tell somebody so your friend can be in a safe environment! No child should have to be in an environment like that. It might be hard now, but later you will be so happy that you told someone. Your friend and her sister will be in a place where they are safe!
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that is terrible! i no a few people that were abused by their fathers and i have helped them for a while now. you reely need to call the police or some kind of help that will arrest him. i no your friend told you not to tell anyone, but what is worse? you losing your friend or your friend being physically hurt? i would rather tell the cops because you might lose your friend for a little while but she will thank you in the future! i hope i helped! xoxo *rache
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Dear Good Friend:
I will tell you what I have told others. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. No parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, the wounds of abuse do not heal easy especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know.
Your friend is a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing your friend will must likely be beaten by her father. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. try going to an adult you both [your friend and yourself] trust. (a teacher, a parent, or who ever else) and also no one can't press charges on you for reporting abuse.
Please let me know how it works out.
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You NEED to help your friend.
You should definatly report this guy if you are a real friend you will do this for her even though she doesn't want you too.
If she lives alone with her dad and her sister and no other parent or adult you should tell a family member of hers because if you don't theres a chance she can go to a childrens home if no one else takes her and her sister in. That's only if her dad gets taken to jail and only if you actually report it.
Good luck, hun
♥Em
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You could tell a counsler at school about it and have them keep an eye on the sisters. Then, is they see anything suspicious they can talk to them. I think schools by law have to turn in cases of suspected child abuse.
Or, you can tell your parents.Have them not call the police but call the dept. of social services in your area. They will check out cases of suspected child abuse and then THEY will get the police involved. You may even be able to report it anonymously.
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do tell because if you dont, it can get worse. i had some frineds that went through this, and they didnt say anything, so it went from bad to worse. and they were slightly injured. it will be better for you and your sister. this is a serious problem because its against the law and everything. hope i helped!
~*ana*~
P.S. im really sorry this is happening to you...
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The police are dumb shits to want to press charges against them. The dad should be shot. Tell your friend to pack a knife. Next time the dad lashes out and tries to kick her ass hes gunna get a knife to the throat. Its called survival of the fittest. That person is not her dad. Hes a beast. He deserves to be killed. And a knife is the perfect way to have a very painful and sad death.
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School guidance counselor..bring your friend and some proof..such as your sister and the bruises/marks..if you dont have enough time to go to a guidance cousnelor then go to the principal or a teacher..they are by law required to help and go to the police.. I dont see how its fair that a child should get abused more or less for walking and breathing.. listen..i know its betraying your best friend..but it can be serious..you HAVE to go to a counselor..and someday, your friend will thank you..
-Christine
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All you need to do is remind her you are always there for her and you will listen to her and you are not afraid to take action for her!!
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