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Im 16 and never really have had a bf. I act really self concious but all i really want is a boyfriend. Yah know someone who will like me for me and care about me. I know i have family and friends but it's not the same. Iv gotten to the point where i think im so ugly that i dont even have crushes anymore i just think some guys are hott. Maybe another reason is because most of my school probably thinks im bi or a lesbian b/c im friends w/ people who are bi lesbian and gay. But im straight. It seems wrong to want a bf more then anything but all i want is someone to show effection towards. How come everyone esle gets one but i dont. Alotta the time i just think god put me on earth just to piss me off. I dont wish i was dead and im not really suicidal or anything. Im just tired of waiting everyday for something i dont think is ever gunna happen. What can i do to maybe put myself out there or b happier. Im not into being a girly girl so making myself over isnt my first choice. (link)
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Don't change yourself. If you want guys to notice you then you need to be where they are. Talk to them about whatever, smile at them,let them know you just might be interested.
Don't be so down on yourself. That makes you all depressed and when your all depressed those around you can pick up on that. Just know that you are going to meet that special guy soon and then start acting like your waiting for him. He will show up. My god that sounds like Field of Dreams. Think of them and they will come...that doesn't sound right either. Smiling yet? :)
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hey i am really stuck on this essay topic-we have to come up with our own thesis(own supporting ideas) and we have to somehow compare the novels..To Kill a Mockingbird and The House on Mango Street..if you have any ideas I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks sooo much! (link)
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All I know is that To Kill A Mockingbird is about judging people. One man because he is black
and then Boo Radley because he is different. I have never read House on Mango Street. I read everything I can get my hands on though. Who wrote it and is it any good? Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Good luck with your essay.
You might try looking up both on the internet...or the authors and see if they have anything that would be of help to you. :)
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I've liked this guy for a long time now, and he doesn't know it. For a while, our relationship was kind of acquaintanced .. sometimes we would greet each other in the hall or we'd talk a lot on the bus or something, but recently this past Tuesday I went to his house and I feel we've gotten closer. My friend even told me (because I brought her with me) that we seemed like really close friends that day. Well, I think these last 2 days I've been bugging him and annoying him lately. When I talk to him he just mumbles an answer and when I try to talk to him online, the answer is that he simply does not answer. I know I've felt a little closer to him and maybe have been talking to him a little more, but I don't know what I did wrong. I mean, I don't act much different than what I acted like before I went to his house. He's gotten a little weird and has this major attitude and it makes me think i did something wrong. Tomorrow and the next week I've decided try to just ignore him--unless he talks to me first--and see what he does. The end of school is coming up in 2 weeks and I don't wanna lose him as a friend. I think I've been annoying him a little bit but I just don't know what I did .. help? (link)
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Just ask him what you did. If you think you are annoying him then you probably are. How though I can't tell you. He can...ask. :)
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okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do? (link)
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Smart idea is to get the hell away from this guy. Only takes one time to kill you my dear. Most abusers have days when they are sweet as candy. Doesn't make up for the other times. Get away before you get hurt...or worse.
What can you do if you don't want to break up? Walk on egg shells all the time and wonder if today is your last everyday. Sorry but that is the way it will be. Good luck.
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Well I met this guy. He is a year younger than me but he really likes me. He is my cousins best friend. I like him just not a whole lot I hate it when he calls me b/c he gets on my nerves alot. He only gets on my nerves because he acts shy around me and he doesn't what to talk about. Do you think that I should give him a chance or what? (link)
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That is a tough one. I want to say if he gets on your nerves forget it. You should really like the guy if you go out with him.
On the other hand, if you give him a chance it might just boost his self confidence enough that he will open up. You could always get him talking. Once you find a subject he enjoys then maybe he will talk more.
Whichever you choose it will be the right answer for you. :)
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hi, i'm chloe
This boy asked me to go out with him as in be in a girlfriend, boyfriend thing. I wanted to say yes but said no instead because, I wasn't sure I knew how to be someones girlfriend and would like more to go out on a couple of dates with him than start a relationship. But my friend had set the whole "asking me out thing" up, so I'd have a boyfriend and is now saying "he's probably the only boy who'll ever like you" which is making me regret doing it.But I'll look stupid if I ask him out now plus he's being a bit out of order to me at the moment. What should I do? (link)
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If he was a bit out of order you probably did the right thing. In the future if you change your mind you will have to tell him, because chances are he won't ask for fear of getting rejected.
As far as him being the only one to ever ask you out... that's just laughable. Of course someone else will ask you out. That is just silly! :)
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ok so im in 10 grade and this guy is in 12th.
He has a myspace and so i.
On my space he like always talks to me and like flirts with me. But during Classes he acts like im not there and ignores me. Our school i VERY small so we like see each other like more then 6 times a day. And like i think he likes me but im not sure cause he ignores me and doesnt talk to me at all unless we are on hte internet. so do you think he likes me ? i hope he does cause he is hella fine...
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I think he might be shy. He probably finds it easier to talk from the comfort of his home. Maybe has a little more time to think out what he's going to say beforehand. He probably does like you. :)
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i'm with this guy that i really care about and well, i've never had a serious boyfriend before and well, i'm not exactly sure what to do about people spreading rumours and stuff. i haven't been telling alot of people but alot of people know i'm going out with somebody they just don't know who, and i'm not sure if i should just let everybody know so they'd all shut up and stop bugging me to tell them or not tell them and let them find out for themselves. thanks (link)
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Tell the next person who asks. Tell them to pass it on. Save yourself the constant questions.
People like to talk and gossip. As soon as they find out...they are going to talk anyway. It will die out soon. :)
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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do (link)
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If you said no and he did it anyway then yes you were raped.
First of all you need to find someplace else to live. You can threaten him with the cops if he does it again. You can also report this past event. I don't know how it would go though... sorta depends on how long ago it happened. A report on record is a good thing though even if you don't choose to follow through with the charges at this time.
You are not being a baby. MOVE OUT NOW!!! :)
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I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22. (link)
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I know its tough and you don't want to hear it but, I think you have to take her at her word here.
Write her a letter. Tell her how you feel etc. Let her read it. If that doesn't make her see things your way then you will have to move on. I don't know what her reasons are...seems as if you have had a good relationship. Maybe she is worried about the separation when she goes to school. Encourage her to talk to you about it. If you talk and she still feels like she wants out of the relationship, then I'm sorry...there's really nothing more you can do about it. I wish you luck.
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okay i went to the movies last night with my bestfriend. my bestfriend is a guy... we kissed and such because we had gone out b4. in th emovie theater he wanted me to give him a h.j. i wasentt all that comfortable right ?! so i didnt do it.. now hes like rly upset with me and i cant stand it when hes mad at me.. he asked me out and i said yes. (( again )) last time we broke up i got hurt rly bad so i was like "okay maybe he wont be the same" cz we got that close. he said hes gunna be grounded this summer so we cant chill.. we broke up later that night and now he wont talk that much to me cz i didnt give a h.j. but i said i would at school this week (( only 3 days left of school ))
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I think you know really. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked! You don't do it. If he can't date you and treat you like a proper girlfriend then honey show him the door. He only wants one thing...tell him he has a hand use it. Save yours for someone who really cares.
You may be friends but that is all there is to it. And there is nothing wrong with that. If he doesn't want to be friends anymore because of this...he wasn't much of one in the first place. :)
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my boyfriend and i broke up on monday. and i knew it was gonna hppen since a week and a half ago. but. i still like him. and i need to get overhim, hes a very bad person. i need to stop thinking about all the good feelings and times we had together. because i start crying again. i want to be over him. i wake up every morning with a heavy heart and i dont think he even cares. thats what gets me too. any advice on how to forget? (link)
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First of all it's going to take a while to get over him. You probably won't be over him for good until you find a suitable replacement.
You need to start thinking about why he's a bad person instead of what was good about him. You need to get past worrying about weather or not he cares how you're feeling. Tell yourself you are better off because...Then get back in the ballgame and find a new guy to like. :)
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So me and one of my best guy friends have kind of been a little more then friends latly. Like last night we were watching this movie and he told me to sit with him and we started cuddling but not like friendly..more like intimate and I liked it. His best friend told me that hes going to ask me out but I dont know if I should say yes or no...see there are positives and negitives:
Positives-
I wouldnt be single
I could french someone
hes perfect(except hes a perv)
Negitives-
Im going to camp and so is he in like 4-6 weeks and wont be able to see tim all summer
are friendship will die
Plzz help im 14/f and rate ^ lyl mwaaaa
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If you are best friends already then it won't die when you go to camp. Friendships don't just keel over for no reason. Negative reason gone already.
I think you could probably think of some better positives than what you have here! How about he a good friend. Makes you happy. Makes you feel special. I think you could have a couple of those too! I think you should give it a try. You won't be at camp forever. Write letters to each other while at camp. Good luck :)
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I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader in my Strings class that has like an aide and he is soo annoying and weird. When we went to Busch Gardens for a competition he would only be in my group and he stared at me CONSTANTLY. He wouldn't leave me alone either. He would only go on rides i went on. The other day my friend asked him without consulting me if he liked me and he said yes. My other friend wants to ask him if he'd ever ask me out but i don't want to have to break his heart. Everyone i know wants to ask him for laughs but i don't know what i would say if he did, not that think he would. What should i do? (link)
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What do you want to do? If you really don't like him then tell your friends to butt out. It isn't real nice for them to tease the poor guy. If he asks you out then politely tell him no.
If you want to get to know him better then say yes you will go out with him and have a good time. :)
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Hi Karen!
Hope you're well! Well , last night was Will's leaving party. So, I got a tan and bought a new top adn went to the bar with my flatmate and another friend. He was there and we said hi and then went to go and sit down. We went to the club about 45 minutes later. During the night I saw him a bit but we were with diferent groups of friends so didn't talk until I decided to go to the bar.I went to buy a few shots and decided to get him one. I took it over to him and he said he couldn't drink it cos he was so drunk and his friends kept on buying them for him too. I said he had to drink it so he did but then he just walked off. No thank you or anything. I went back to the bar with two friends and was talking to this other guy. My friend said he couldn't stop staring at me. But whenever I looked at him he looked away. This is so confusing Karen!
Later on we were all on the dance floor and he was there - we danced together for a bit and then I walked off because I needed to put my bag down. When I got back he had gone. My friend said that if a guy tries to kiss you and you turn him down he won't try again as he's got too much male pride to do....
I went to Magic Roll and my friend came up to me and said I owed himone. He told Will that I fancied him and that he should come and see me in Magic Roll which he did. BUT. He said to my friend that he liked me and I was a great girl but he didn't want to hurt me because he was leaving. WHAT??!!! So after trying to kiss me, sending all those texts, the body language and the free texts he goes and says this? Why! Is it because he was really drunk? Is it because he liked me and didn't want to do anything because he might start to get feelings? Did he think that I wanted more than just a kiss? I walked out and said goodbye to him. He asked me if I was going back to his flat with all of his friends and I said no. Why say that after telling my friend he didn't want anything to happen? He then asked if I was going out the following night (tonight) and I said I wasn't sure but told him to text me. How confusing. What is going on Karen? One minute he is being really forward, staring at me etc and the next throwing it all back in my face! Why! Because he was soo drunk or because he doesn't actually fancy me even though there have been so many hints that he does over the last few weeks? Sorry it's a bit garbled. thanks Karen (link)
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Why do guys have to be so freakin' complicated? I think you should call him as soon as you get this. Tell him time is running out and you want to know what the heck he's thinking. Men are weird. I get this from my husband all the time. You think they are thinking one thing when it is something else entirely. They don't seem to pick up on hints very easily either.
What your friend said is true. Most guys are like that. Your mission Daisy should you decide to pursue it is...I think you need to tell him that you are now free to be kissed and would like at least one before he goes. See if that gets him talking! It could very well be that he thinks you would turn him down again. I mean think about it, we would feel that way right? I'd maybe tell him...hard as it will be for you to do. He will be leaving soon so embarrassment be damned!
It could also be true that he's afraid of a long distance relationship. I think you might tell him about having an uncle you could visit and see him after he goes home. That could make a big difference.
I think you need to peel him away from his friends for a moment and talk to him BEFORE he gets to drunk. See what you can get out of him.
Before he leaves if things are okay between you, make sure he has your number and all that.
Talk to him over the phone if it's easier or text him. Really let him know what you are thinking. Let him know you have a means of seeing him after he goes home. Let him know a kiss wouldn't be turned down. Tell him you think you could be interested...then you meet him tonight.
I think you guys are sending each other mixed signals right now. The only way to get past it is going to be saying something to him about your true feelings. And finding out what his are.
It will be hard but I know you can do it. Toss back a little drink and call him right now. Let me know what happens. *fingers crossed * Good luck! :)
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My BF and I have been going out for a month. And we kiss and W/E outside of school, but past couple of days we have been doing little kisses after 4th. we both feel kinda uncomfortable cause all my friends go AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW really loudly n obviously when we do and its really annoying! i've told them to stop but they dont! have can i make them?! i rate ^^ (link)
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I think when people smooch and stuff in public it kind of makes others uncomfortable sometimes. They don't know what to say so they tease you. Better to find a less public place. :)
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So me and this other guy whos in two of my classes exchanged yearbooks to sign... I dont really know him that well so i was just like have a good summer!
but when i got mine back- he was like you are so awesome we should totally hang out sometime and he gave me his email, sn, home and cell phone #s!
i was like..um ok..i dont want to be mean to him but i want to show him that im really NOT interested...
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I think if you just don't contact him he will get the message.
If you think he would make a good friend, but want no romance just let him know that right up front. :)
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Well there is a girl in my class that i like. I think she likes me back but im not sure. Should i aske her out? (link)
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I think you should. If she isn't mean and nasty to you...she probably likes you. I think you should ask her out. Good luck! :)
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There is this girl named Megan in my school.We've been friends 4 a while now. but, every once in a while, we start fighting. This is the second BIG fight we had this year! She says im annoyig and i follow her around! She tells me off and writes me mean notes, but if i say ANYTHING mean, seh'll show it 2 her friend Kaitln and they'll both be up in my face. Last night i wrote her an im and i started yelling @ her to leave me alone. She printed out the part where i yelled @ her, but left out all the swears and mean things she said about me. I'm only in the 7th grade, and i dnt want thins going on 4 the rest of my life! i have tons of friends, but they dnt want to get involved in these fights. What should i do? Should I tell her off, or jsut ignore her? BTW, she thinks she is so cool and popular adn she says she has really expensive clothes, but the'r really from old navy and khols. She lies A LOT, so i'll ahev to have proof of what she says. Thanx, i really need some help!
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I think you ignore her. You don't hang out with her anymore. You just have absolutely nothing more to do with her at all. Tell her you want no contact from her, take her off your IM list. She lies and she makes you look bad. Put a permenant stop to it all. :)
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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?
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I think you need to explain (probably again) to your friend that you and the guy are just friends. :)
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