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A change onf anothers heart
I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22.
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We can't force people to see things the way they should be. That old saying comes to mind "if you love someone, set them free, if they come back, they are yours" or something on the lines of that. Naturally she is nervous about school. Both of you are heading in your own direction and finding yourselves. If I were you, I'd offer her my friendship, I'd offer to write to her as friends and keep in touch with one another, but as friends, that way she doesn't feel like she's being pushed into anything. Who knows what is to happen? Reminds me of that song by Garth Brooks "unaswered prayers". Good Luck
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I know its tough and you don't want to hear it but, I think you have to take her at her word here.
Write her a letter. Tell her how you feel etc. Let her read it. If that doesn't make her see things your way then you will have to move on. I don't know what her reasons are...seems as if you have had a good relationship. Maybe she is worried about the separation when she goes to school. Encourage her to talk to you about it. If you talk and she still feels like she wants out of the relationship, then I'm sorry...there's really nothing more you can do about it. I wish you luck.
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Ok.. well I'm not exactly experienced with love or anything, but I've watched my parents fall apart then get back together and everything... so hopefully I can help you.
If she won't listen to you, the only true way to get her to understand is to show her. Don't be all stalker like, just send her a letter, or a package (or both?)... A good idea would be perhaps to send her an engagement ring, if you are that sure about how you both feel. My Dad mailed my Mom her wedding dress and a letter when she left... and she came back a couple days later, with the dress in the front seat.
Or maybe you could make a sacrafice for her? Transfer to her college. You have about 2 years of college left, I'm guessing. So maybe you guys could remain friends for those 2 years, then get back together when college is over. Also, you might want to give her time to sort out her feelings. If you two are meant to be together, then it'll work out, and she'll realize she loves you. (sorry it was so long!)
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I'm not that well experience as you are but I want to say that maybe you should prove how great your love is to her. Not only that sacrificing for her sake will maybe open her eyes to the truth that she loves you too. If there is still hope then try again to talk to her. Don't give up. Make her realize that you really love her so much not in words but also in actions.
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