|
worried
Im 16 and never really have had a bf. I act really self concious but all i really want is a boyfriend. Yah know someone who will like me for me and care about me. I know i have family and friends but it's not the same. Iv gotten to the point where i think im so ugly that i dont even have crushes anymore i just think some guys are hott. Maybe another reason is because most of my school probably thinks im bi or a lesbian b/c im friends w/ people who are bi lesbian and gay. But im straight. It seems wrong to want a bf more then anything but all i want is someone to show effection towards. How come everyone esle gets one but i dont. Alotta the time i just think god put me on earth just to piss me off. I dont wish i was dead and im not really suicidal or anything. Im just tired of waiting everyday for something i dont think is ever gunna happen. What can i do to maybe put myself out there or b happier. Im not into being a girly girl so making myself over isnt my first choice.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
Honey,
you're 16. You have plenty of time. Someone is out there looking for you. They're saying they want a girl just like you. Somewhere at your school, a hot guy likes you for you and doesn't want you to know. Human beings are never ugly. Godm made us to all look alike one the inside. The point is I like you for you and someone else ( a guy) does too. There's nothing wrong with you. You don't have to change to get a boyfriend. The more forward you are, the better the results.
BEST OF LUCK!!!*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
~~~Kayla~~~
]
Just try to be yourself and have fun with it.
Dont worry about what people say about you or what you think about yourself just live your life to its fullest. be happy for who u r and remember that there are people out there that love you just the way you are and those are the people you shoould care about the most
-Sam-
]
Ok sweetie, Dont worry, its perfectly natural to want a boyfriend, especially when you are a teenager growning up and everyone seems to have someone but you.
i asked some of my guy friends what they find attractive about girls. The main things they said was that someone who makes them laugh is important, genuine, honest, who they can chat with for hours about everything and anything.
Here are some tips for you;
Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.
Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.
Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.
Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.
Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.
When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.
]
Don't change yourself. If you want guys to notice you then you need to be where they are. Talk to them about whatever, smile at them,let them know you just might be interested.
Don't be so down on yourself. That makes you all depressed and when your all depressed those around you can pick up on that. Just know that you are going to meet that special guy soon and then start acting like your waiting for him. He will show up. My god that sounds like Field of Dreams. Think of them and they will come...that doesn't sound right either. Smiling yet? :)
]
You don't have to worry about being lonely for the rest of your life! You are only sixteen. You have plenty of time to find your soul mate. But the first step you need to take is to love yourself and not worry about what people think about you.
My brother is twenty three and he still hasn't found love. I'm not sure if he ever will because he pushes away everything and thinks marriage is stupid. That doesn't mean his life is worthless. You don't have to get married just to be happy. There are many people out there that are not married. Your life doesn't have to revolve around a man. And if you have excellent friends you can live life happily without being tied down to a guy.
So whether you find someone or not, you will be happy, as long as you try to be and work for it.
My point is, everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend at different times. Even though it may feel like you're the only person "lonely and single", believe me, lots of other people are too.
So the solution is to stop wanting a boyfriend. We make ourselves suffer only because we want things and because we are selfish. If we put those selfish wants aside, they will come to us when they come and you don't need to mope around all day waiting for it.
Nobody "needs" a boyfriend. Heck, we could go through life without one. Don't be a dependant person. Enjoy life single while you can. A girl doesn't need a man just to be happy. If you kept yourself happy and surrounded yourself with awesome friends, you wouldn't worry about getting a man all day long. There are many things in life we can achieve and they don't require having a man by your side.
Being desperate for a boyfriend is not a good thing. You know why? Because it makes your judgement cloudy. You'll probably say yes to any old guy that asks you out. That's bad because you want someone special. Which is exactly why you should just let life take its course and wait for the perfect guy to roll along.
And if he never comes, so what? The truth is, not everyone finds love. But that doesn't mean your life is worthless. Your life is what you make it. So make life great.
]
More Questions: |