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friends with beinfits?
okay i went to the movies last night with my bestfriend. my bestfriend is a guy... we kissed and such because we had gone out b4. in th emovie theater he wanted me to give him a h.j. i wasentt all that comfortable right ?! so i didnt do it.. now hes like rly upset with me and i cant stand it when hes mad at me.. he asked me out and i said yes. (( again )) last time we broke up i got hurt rly bad so i was like "okay maybe he wont be the same" cz we got that close. he said hes gunna be grounded this summer so we cant chill.. we broke up later that night and now he wont talk that much to me cz i didnt give a h.j. but i said i would at school this week (( only 3 days left of school ))
is that bad .. what should i do ?
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I think you know really. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked! You don't do it. If he can't date you and treat you like a proper girlfriend then honey show him the door. He only wants one thing...tell him he has a hand use it. Save yours for someone who really cares.
You may be friends but that is all there is to it. And there is nothing wrong with that. If he doesn't want to be friends anymore because of this...he wasn't much of one in the first place. :)
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I dated my guy bestfriend before. We were on and off for a while, then we made a pact to end it for good. We're still there for each other and all, but it's definently easier this way. And even though we still like each other sometimes, we won't go out.
First you have to decide what you really want out of this relationship with him. Just friends, fwb, or a boyfriend? Because if it's anything besides friendship, this doesn't sound like the right guy to pursue it with.
Ok,if you're not comfortable with something don't do it. Your boyfriend shouldn't be upset with you just because you weren't ready for something. He should be understanding... so really, you should be pissed off at HIM! Tell him that you won't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, and he shouldn't pressure you to... then tell him, if he wants a handjob that bad, he can give himself one. Then turn on your heel and storm out!!
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dont do somethng that your not comfortable with.. if he cant respect that then he deff isnt a good friend cause he should be like okay thats fine.. i think if you do something like that with him then you should do it privacy not somewhere where you can get caught.. much luv dez x0x0 ♥
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if you dont want to give him one dont ! why should you have to make up with him because you didnt give him a handjob !your boyfriend is being a jerk .... i say leave him alnoe ... if he's mad at you because you dint want to do something you really shouldnt be and if its against what you want to do ... just leave him !
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I've been in this situation with sex. say no. because in reality it's more important that your comfortable with it and that your incontrol because girls are often taken advantage of. so listen. tell him "as much as i like you. i'm not going to be your freiends with benifits. if you want a relationship, good. then we can have one. but i'm not a slut". and when you do.. act really strong. dont let him see you weak or cry. alright? i know from experience and it's bad.
if you want a friends with benifits, he still doesnt sound like a good person, if he wants you to do something you do'nt want. this can definetly escalate to rape. and i know thats not what you want.
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if you dont want to give him one dont ! why should you have to make up with him because you didnt give him a handjob !your boyfriend is being a jerk .... i say leave him alnoe ... if he's mad at you because you dint want to do something you really shouldnt be and if its against what you want to do ... just leave him !
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if he wanted you to do that and you werent comfortable doing it and now hes mad you should just let him go...no guy should try and make you do things you dont want to do...by the way how old are you?
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