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well me and my boyfriend just brokee up, well i broke up with him...and we broke up and he couild care a donkeys ass about it..and it got me really depressed in side..and my mom was always saying how mean he was to me and i just broke up with him just to do it..and i mis him sososososososo much and i want to call him but imm like no i cant it wil make me look like im running back to him..well i broke up with another boy b-4 i went with the boy i just broke up with.well me and that boy went out for awhile and he was so freakin imature..and i just got tired of him..and my mom loves him..so she always talks..and shes always going over her cell phone minutes to just talk to him...and it gets me mad..only because my mom will always say you cant find another boy like him and she wants me to marry him..and if i have a new boyfriend my mom never wants to meet them because she thinks they wont be as good or as cute as my x..so what do i do..its hard to tell her i like somebody or i go out with some body..but i dont no what to do... (link)
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You definitely need to pick your own boyfriends. If the last one was mean to you though I believe you did right by sending him down the road.
You need to talk with your mom and tell her that you will marry someone of your own choosing and not hers. Explain to her why you find it difficult to talk to her about boys. Maybe she doesn't realize she's being pushy. :)
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Do you think oral sex (giving head, eating out) considered sex in a way or not? Give reasons please!
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I think its sex. Reasons: Not gonna do it with just anyone. It is intimate contact between two people. Regardless of what that moron Clinton thinks. :)
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Ok so my boy friend and I were making out one day when he suggested sex, I said i didnt think I wasnt ready! and he got really pissed off and his face turned red and his head was shaking you could see his veins! He started cursing at me and called me the c word! I started crying and begged him to stop because he was scaring me! He slapped me and forced my shirt and bra off, i was pushing him away and then he took off my pants and underwear he started licking me evry where, I tryed to get him off but he wouldnt stop. The next day he left 26 messages on my cell phone saying that he was drunk and he was sorry! I love him half to death but I dont know what I should think of him! Please please Help! (link)
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You should think he's a criminal. If it happened once it will happen again. Send him packing and next time call the law. :)
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I'm scared, i dont know what to do. Should i involve myself into sexual intercourse? Theres this boy, and i've known him for four years.. He has been t here for me through everything. I recently dropped the highschool scene and went for cyberschool.. It was all because of some friends that wern'et being so friendly... And out of all people he dumped his girlfriend because of me and took my side on it. My bestfriend was his girlfriend. I sorta felt bad about it... But then he told me all the stuff she did to him and how she hurt him. She had cheated on him... and she admitted it to us. He has been there through everyhting... We talk all the time and we are each others best friend. We want to take that further but not sex... When it does come up though... Whhich could be at any given time... How should i react? Should i just give it up? I'm scared because i wouldn't know how to telll my mom... Me and her are sooo open with eachother and i tell her EVERYTHING. but what happens when i lose my virginity and need to go to the gyno? We're gonna hangout at his place this Thursday and i get to meet his family... They are soo nice to me on the phone... hope they are in person to... wish me luck...
Please help.
[«3] Just Me (link)
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The time to go to the gyno is before and not after sex. If you feel your relationship will go that far then you need to get on birth control.
Maybe you should be talking to mom about all this now. Before you have sex. If you have a good relationship I'm sure she will talk it out with you.
If you are scared...you may not be ready for sex anyway. Don't rush into it because he was there for you and you feel you have to. If he is the one for you he'll wait until you're ready for it. :)
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My husband is a thin man. Last night he told me to come look at his stomach. He had a gut! He then admitted to me that over the weekend he probably had 30-40 pieces of gum, and swallowed all of it. I know swallowing gum is really not that terrible and it's an urban myth that it stays in your stomach for years. But in that amount I am worried that it is a problem. Could this cause a blockage in his system? Should I be worried? He is currently a student and does not have insurance, so he won't go to a doctor unless needed. Any ideas of what could happen, or what to do? (link)
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ya I think a blockage is a possibility. He may need to see a doctor and get it manually removed if it doesn't come out. I think I would try calling ask a nurse if you have that available in your area. Or call and talk to an ER doc or nurse. I would suggest a laxative but if it doesn't work then he has excruciating gas pains on top of the wad of gum. Call and check it out.
oh, and no more gum for him! :)
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Ok so one of my friends went tanning.. and she had gone before.. more than 1nce. But it was her first time going topless. so.. i know this might sound wierd.. but her nipples turned green!... y did this happen? shes really concerned but to embarrased to call a doctor or something. so.. if u can explain this shed be happy! (link)
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I can't explain it...sounds strange. I'd be calling me one tanning booth place and seeing what they had to say about it. :)
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Ok, my girlfriend is pregnant and she's really worried about it. We're both 19 and this wasn't planned or anything. We talked about it for a long time and we both agreed that we want to keep it. Her parents disowned her when she was 18 becasue she started to see me, because she was raised catholic and I'm not catholic. I felt that was rediculous because I have nothing against catholics and I was willing to join the church if it meant I could be with her but she decided that she didn't want that...anyway her parents won't be helping us with her pregnancy and with the baby so we're on our own. (my mother is dead and I've never met my father) I know that she's going to be going through a lot with her pregnancy and I was wondering if anyone knew how I could help her get through with a little more ease. I'm working two jobs one full time and the other part time so I'm not around that much. But is there anything that I can do to be of any help to her or is there anything that I should look out for? I was also wondering about taking care of baby. If anyone has any tips about taking care of baby that would be a big help as well. Thank you for the advice and I will rate a five for any help.
Tim (link)
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You may be working hard but at least you are taking responsibility. I applaud you. Since you don't have family to say it I will Say I am proud of you both.:)
You being there has got to be a big help. Even though your work hours may make it difficult at times. It won't be easy but it is possible if you love each other. Most of the baby's care will come naturally. Some is common sense. So long as you love it...and it's mama, feed it and change its diapers all will go well. I had mine at 17. My husband and I will have been married 30 years next Week! So I have been where you guys are. Feel free to drop me a question anytime as things move along. I am on often and should get back to you quickly. Good luck :)
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Does your child have to be a certain age to let them stay home alone for about 2-3 days? Just wondering because me and my husband's 25th year anniversary is comming up and I want to get out of town for a few days just the two of us. I was wondering if it is legal for me to allow my 14 year old to stay home alone for a few nights. (link)
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I don't know how legal it is. It may depend on the child maturity. I wouldn't personally allow it because kids can get in just to much trouble these days. Why tempt it you know? :)
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what web site can i go to to find out how i can turn some one in to chid welfare (link)
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You could just call them and ask questions. They will be listed as social services, or something like that under government/ state listings. :)
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I know my mother wil die in the future but I don't know if I can handle it? I might need more help in the future? (link)
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People go to the hospital for many reasons. Doesn't mean they are going to die. You didn't give many details so I don't know if she is dying or if you are just afraid she might. If you do need help in the future don't be afraid to ask. :)
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i was gonna visit my dad whos in jail but he cancelled my visit i dont know why. any way he rang me after and i asked him he didnt tell me but his coming out in a few months and asked me and my little sister if we wanted to live with him. i wanna but my foster family am telling me he ay changed so i dont know what to do? anyone help. plus i do love my foster family but i wanna live with my dad (link)
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It could be he had other things to do at that time. Especially if cancelling isn't something he does often.
I think You should give him time to adjust to being out of jail before you rush into living with him. Wait until he has a job and a place to live.
You also want to be sure that you will be safe living with him...you don't say why he is in jail. I believe some people can change, but you need to be sure before putting yourself back in the situation. :)
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I'm trying to do a report on the foster care system. I've heard some aweful things about it and I've heard some wonderful things about it. I've already got the researched facts on the system and what the states have to say about but I'm looking for people's opinions on it. If anyone has any stories or opinions on the foster care system that would be a lot of help. Please share your thoughts. As I said I've heard some horrible things about the system and I'm hoping that my report will bring about some changes. So does anyone have any thoughts, opinions, ideas, stories, etc. about the foster care system in your state or any state or just in general? Thank you so much for your help. I will rate 5's.
Mike (link)
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Since Dangernerd answered a foster care question a bit ago I was going to suggest to drop a note in his inbox. Looks like he answered for you though. Sounds like he could have more to say on the subject though...Check out his column if you have any other unanswered questions. Bet he will tell you more if you need it. :)
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this summer my parent told me that we weren't going anywhere for summer because they didn't want to then they told me that just my mom and dad were going to chicago for a week and i have to babysit my brothers grandparents and my dog! and now i cant even hang out with my frinds because they have to work and i wasnt even allowed to go see a concert of my favorite band because they didn't want to now i got upset after hiding all this in me and and my dad has the nerve to say "becca its not all about you" i was soooooo pissed.
any advice???
and please dont tell me to just talk to him because i dont know what else i could say that i havnt already!
i would appericate it so much!
x3 becca (link)
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Maybe your mom and dad need time alone for some reason. Since you don't know what is going on you'll have to assume they are doing this for a good reason. They will only be gone for a week...not the entire summer. I think you should be able to handle things for that long. Look at it like this...they think enough of you to believe you can handle helping take care of things while they are gone. Time to behave as mature as they believe you to be. Could open new doors when they return. :)
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well, my mom and dad are getting divorest and i have hear from a lot of people that it is not that bad. But for some reason i have been like really spazing out about this. Like some of my friends are getting really mad at me because they are saing i have changed and get mad at every little thing. I am afreed after a while they wont wont to be my friends any more, one of my friends is not my friend because of that so what should i do? (link)
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She wasn't a real friend then. Friends stick by you no matter what happens. Good or bad.
You probably will go through changes. Parents getting a divorce is hardest on the kids. There isn't anything you can do to change that. You will get used to it after awhile...doesn't make it any easier though. :)
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in a month i have to live with my sister because i have no dad and my mom has 1 month left ...im only 14 and i just found out my sis smokes weed and shit wit her ex(father of her kids)....i found that out say last week...now today her kids (1+3) were in the car and she ran in the house because she stopped by for a lil quick visit and out my window i heard my nephew cryin so i ran out there and her car smelled of weed and i know her ex was in the car previously because ..well thats not important but it was horrible and i kno her ex is gettin her into all this shit bc she neva used to be like this til she met him i just wanna figure out a way to like get him away from her like have some of my friends as old as him to kick his ass or sumthin..........plz help me figure out a way to get him out of the picture i cant have my neice and nephew go through this... (link)
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You could turn them in to social services. You sister could loose her children though. I'm with dangernerd...turn him in every chance you get.
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i like this one girl, and she's really sweet. we've made out a couple of times, but we don't have a serious relationship. my mom is threatening to disown me because of our relationship. not because we're both girls, but because she's also my sister's daughter. but i think that my mom is completely over-reacting, because i really like this girl. should i continue to see this girl and strengthen our relationship, or should i break it off so my mom loves me again? (link)
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You should break it off because it isn't right. She is your niece for cripes sake. Your mother isn't overreacting...YOU are committing a crime.
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do foster homes keep brothers and sisters together (link)
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I think (around here anyway) that they try to. If someone had 8 siblings it might be hard to place them together, but I do believe they try to. :)
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I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for about 4 months now. Note: I'm also a girl. I think my parents are starting to catch on bc I've spent every single Friday at her house for the last 3 months or so, since we've been going out. I've stopped spending time with a lot of my other friends, and it seems I only have time for her. I try to tell myself that I need to start seeing my friends more, but every weekend I just can't bare not being with her. Especially because she has a rough past, and she is on house arrest and can't come up to me. She was also thrown out of my school and goes to a school far away where I cant be with her. She's a grade ahead to. Anyway, the point of this is because I don't know wether or not I should tell my parents about me and her. They've seen me come home with hickies, and almost stopped letting me see her. I think I'm falling really hard for her, and I think it could be love. Every second not spent with her I feel so lonely. I'm afraid of what the outcome will be if I tell my family about my relationship. I think they know that I'm gay, because my mom makes fun of me for it all the time. I'm not asking for anyone to solve my problem, because I know that no one can, but I'm looking for advice (link)
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Make sure you aren't being used. Is she going to like you the same when she's no longer under house arrest? I think you'll be judged by who you hang around with and she sounds like she's had a lot of problems. Unless they are all resolved I see this being a hurtful relationship for you in the future.And not because you're gay!
You need to see your friends more. I also think maybe your mom COULD wonder if you are saying your visiting your girlfriend and actually sneaking around with some guy. I think weather you tell the parents you're gay at this point is up to you. You don't say how old you are but it is a pretty big decision to make. Good luck with your decision. :)
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Okay...i went out with this guy (lets call him fred)we went out for about 3 months.. he broke up with me with the excuse "i deont want a girlfriend" but i kept in touch with him i called him every night. he ended up dating one of my best friends and he told me he was still interested in me but he dont want a girlfriend we still go on "dates" but im not interested in just being friends. im in love head over heels with this guy. hes all i ever talk about and hes the only guy im interested in i still cry over him about every night and i have dreams about him ALL the time! I wanna be dating people but when i try to it makes him sooo mad so i stop but it seems that im only there for him to fall back on like he uses me..what should i do i dont wanna keep waiting on him and i dont wanna b used but im sooo in love with him and ive tried letting go of him but i cant help myself hes just so amazing. should i keep waiting untill he wants a g/f or should i move on? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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You don't continue to wait while hes allowed to do as he pleases. He is using you and must be getting a perverted pleasure out of making you do what he wants. I think you need to get him out of your life and keep him out. :)
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There is a guy that I like and I’ve never kissed before and I was thinking of going for a French kiss if I get to kiss him, but then I though about it and I started wondering if it’s a turn off for guys if you French kiss them on the first kiss. Can you, please, give me your opinion? And my second question is, do guys judge you on the way you kiss, is it very important to them if you are a good kisser or not? (link)
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I think you should just kiss normally and see where it leads. I don't think a guy expects you to be a great kisser. I really don't believe there are good and bad kissers....unless someone is just plain slobbering or something. :)
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