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Jealousy
I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for about 4 months now. Note: I'm also a girl. I think my parents are starting to catch on bc I've spent every single Friday at her house for the last 3 months or so, since we've been going out. I've stopped spending time with a lot of my other friends, and it seems I only have time for her. I try to tell myself that I need to start seeing my friends more, but every weekend I just can't bare not being with her. Especially because she has a rough past, and she is on house arrest and can't come up to me. She was also thrown out of my school and goes to a school far away where I cant be with her. She's a grade ahead to. Anyway, the point of this is because I don't know wether or not I should tell my parents about me and her. They've seen me come home with hickies, and almost stopped letting me see her. I think I'm falling really hard for her, and I think it could be love. Every second not spent with her I feel so lonely. I'm afraid of what the outcome will be if I tell my family about my relationship. I think they know that I'm gay, because my mom makes fun of me for it all the time. I'm not asking for anyone to solve my problem, because I know that no one can, but I'm looking for advice
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Make sure you aren't being used. Is she going to like you the same when she's no longer under house arrest? I think you'll be judged by who you hang around with and she sounds like she's had a lot of problems. Unless they are all resolved I see this being a hurtful relationship for you in the future.And not because you're gay!
You need to see your friends more. I also think maybe your mom COULD wonder if you are saying your visiting your girlfriend and actually sneaking around with some guy. I think weather you tell the parents you're gay at this point is up to you. You don't say how old you are but it is a pretty big decision to make. Good luck with your decision. :)
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I think it would be better if you tell them, and if they don't accept you, run away and live with your girlfriend. I'd love to give you more detailed advice, but I'm really tired and busy working on stuff and this is the best I have. Just know you have my support!! =D
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ok my advice is to tell them...they seem like they have caught on already..and right now they are trying to accept it. the piece to the puzzle is for you to now come foward and tell them. im not gay nor have i known someone who was gay and came out of the closet, but i know it wont be easy..things might be rough and awkward with your family for a little while, but your family loves you and will come to accept it eventually.
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Well no matter what dont be ashamed of this even if your mom does make fun of you cause its not going to change you.. your the person you are.. well i think you should tell them how you feel about this girl.. and that you cant seem to feel for guys the same way.. most girls that turn out to be a lesbian try real hard to hook up with guys and feel for them before realizing they arent going too.. so tell them you cant get the feel for guys or atleast im guessing you cant cause i dont know weather your bisexual.. but just tell them everything tell them everything on your mind.. sooner its said and done sooner it will be easier for you and then there isnt no more worries bout what if they dont except me, what if they dont like it, just get it out so there isnt no WHAT IF's period and you know how they feel about the whole thing.. ♥ Nikki
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Okay... you shouldnt have to hide the fact that your gay from your parents, if they love you they will understand in time, and it does take time. I don't really know what to say for your girlfriend other than you might want to take it slow, take your own advice and spend more time with your friends. You may miss her but let the fact that you're around your friends cheer you up. It may be love but, your still young and have time to find other loves. This girl doesnt seem like the type for commitment and she doesnt seem to know where shes going in life just give it time and tell your parents because sooner or later they will find out about you. I wish you the best of luck. And hope you find more love cause you are still young
~CrzyLatinaChc~
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Thats a tough situation to be in, and you shouldn't feel like you have to keep this a big secret. ITs gonna be hard to tell your parents, but sooner or later they are going to find out, so mabye you should write them a letter explaining how you feel about this person. Chances are that if they love you they will wupport your decisions that you have made, because it makes you happy, and as for your mom joking around with you like that, mabye the next time she does somthing, just say that you dont think thats very funny..
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-Samantha
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I don't think it matters what your sexual preferance is, as much as it matters who you are in love with. And many of us are attracted to people who are "bad guys". You know, the kind that get in trouble all the time. And this girl sound like that type. Since she is under house arrest. I wonder how much attention you would get from her if she had the freedom to come and go as she pleases. I don't think your parents ar going to like that you see this gird because she had no redeeming values. She may be using you for now because her friends don't want to be stuck in the house. You are willing because you are in love. YOu are willing to settle. Think with your brain and not your heart for a little while Ask yourself what kind of relationship this person can give you. If it going to be all one sided. Once she gets her freedom you may see the last of her. Imagine how much that will hurt you. I am not saying that you should change your sexual preferences.....you should just change who you choose to bestow you love on, and who you spend quality time with. Male or Female, it should be someone who treats you with respect and cherishes you. Find someone who has not been introuble with the law so you can have a nice life together and not have to pay for their mistakes. People like that can also bring you down with them because misery loves company. If they get you to break the law with them, it makes them feel better about themselves.
Your much to young to be so completely involved with someone like that. This is the time of your life that you should be learning about who you are and what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of person you may spend the rest of your life with. But it is too soon to know for sure WHO that person is. Because you and your friend are not going to be the same people 10 years from now. If she continues to choose a path of trouble....do you want to go down that road to? For what, for love? Love won't save you honey. Not in that way. Do you know how many people are in jail because they did something for the person they were soooo in love with? Girlfriends for "just carry these drugs for me". If you love me you'll drop this money off for me at this house. They get arrested, and the boyfriend or girlfriend gets off. Sometimes they didn't even know they were breaking the law. Now 8 to 10 years of their lives are spend behind bars. Please go back to your friends. You should be enjoying this time in your life. Out and about and doing things and enjoying your teenage years and the freedoms that come with being you and not having to have any responsibilities yet. That will come soon enough. Your friend squadered her freedom by breaking the law. She should pay, not you. I'll bet your friends miss you. Why not spend the next free day you have with them, and have some fun.
Michele
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Well. You're gay!
Is that advice?
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