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family hates me!
this summer my parent told me that we weren't going anywhere for summer because they didn't want to then they told me that just my mom and dad were going to chicago for a week and i have to babysit my brothers grandparents and my dog! and now i cant even hang out with my frinds because they have to work and i wasnt even allowed to go see a concert of my favorite band because they didn't want to now i got upset after hiding all this in me and and my dad has the nerve to say "becca its not all about you" i was soooooo pissed.
any advice???
and please dont tell me to just talk to him because i dont know what else i could say that i havnt already!
i would appericate it so much!
x3 becca
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Maybe your mom and dad need time alone for some reason. Since you don't know what is going on you'll have to assume they are doing this for a good reason. They will only be gone for a week...not the entire summer. I think you should be able to handle things for that long. Look at it like this...they think enough of you to believe you can handle helping take care of things while they are gone. Time to behave as mature as they believe you to be. Could open new doors when they return. :)
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Hello Becca,
Is it possible that your parents need some time to themselves? Just wondering when the last time they got to be "just them" for awhile was?
You know, people sometimes need things for themselves. You sound like you would like some things for yourself... So why not let them have this ONCE to themselves if they need it in order to stay married and happy?
Think about it... If they came back happy, it will only make your life better, no?
How did I get this idea? Well two things:
Generally in my experience, when someone says "it's not all about you..." what they are really saying is: "It is about us. We need this." Rather than feeling like you are being slighted somehow, try to see it from their point of view. If you make an issue of this and they don't get the alone time they need, you could be choosing which parent to live with if you get my drift.
I always felt like my parents were in my business all the time... Then lately I realized that my parents didn't even get to have any business after I came along. I was their life.
Reason two:
My parents never left me behind, and it was very rough on them. I always wished they had taken some time for themselves but they never did. It was very sad. Now that I think back, it just seems like I was being selfish even though I didn't know it at the time. Wish I could go back in time... :-( I would buy them the tickets to Chicago myself if I could.
I hope you make the right call on this one, I wish I had.
DangerNerd.
P.S. My parents are still married, but it might be better if they weren't. They aren't very happy.
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