My boyfriend and I get invited to the same parties, and he tells me that he doesn't want me there, so I don't go (even though i really want to), and he does go. When i say that i am going to a party he is also invited to, he will say he doesn't want to go. Should i take a hint from this or not? It just makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me. Also, we have gone to parties together and it was fine, so?
Judging by the fact that you have rated everyone who told you that YES, this is something to be concerned about a 1, I'm guessing you won't take too kindly to what I'm about to say.
Your boyfriend is a jerk.
I can understand a couple spending time apart and socialising separately. It would be unhealthy to expect to spend all your time together and attend all the same social events.
But to me this situation sounds more than a bit fishy. How dare your boyfriend tell you he 'doesn't want you there'? You have been invited, you have the same right to go as he does.
The fact that your boyfriend prefers to go to parties without you is a pretty good sign that he doesn't want you to find out what he's doing there or stop him from doing it.
Even if he isn't cheating on you, he's still being a jerk.
I suggest you confront him about it and get to the bottom of things pretty damn fast. If he makes excuses, continues what he's doing or admits to cheating then get out of this relationship and be grateful you don't have to date an idiot anymore.
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What do you do if you think you have appendicitis?
I think I have appendicitis. I always feel sharp pains in my stomach and shoulder. It hurts really bad. I went to the doctor and she said it might be appendicitis. They gave me some nexium pills but sometimes they don't work. I feel sharp pains in my stomach side and my shoulder. It hurts really bad.What do I do?
I'm no doctor but I highly doubt you've got appendicitis.
If the pain is as bad as you say it is then go to A&E.
If not, go back to your doctor and demand further examination or a referral to a specialist. If you can, it may be best to see a different doctor this time.
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I'm a 13 yearold girl and I hear about people just a year older than me sucking guys dicks and having sex and stuff but I think that oral sex is disgusting. is that normal? I'm not a lesbian I just think that's gross. and should girls shave there down there hair? you all probably think "what is she talking about, she's 13?" but I want to no if I should. It would help if I got advice from girls and guys. and how old were you guys when you lost your virginity? any advice helps. Thanks (:
Yes, that's normal. You may change your mind when you're older, you may not. Plenty of people are still repulsed by the idea once they've lost their virginity. At 13 I don't think you should be 'sucking guys dicks' (as you so eloquently put it) anyway so it's not something you need to be worrying about right now.
What you do with your pubic hair is your personal choice and depends on what you feel comfortable with. Some women remove all their pubic hair by shaving, waxing or with a hair removal cream, some just trim, shave or wax certain areas to keep things neat and some just leave the whole thing au naturale. It's very much your decision. Don't do it because you think you should or because you think that's what a guy will want, do it because it's what YOU feel most comfortable with.
I was 16 when I lost my virginity and in hindsight I wish I'd waited a while longer. I did it because I just wanted to get it out of the way, which is is not a good enough reason. When other people lost it has absolutely nothing to do with when is right for you and you shouldn't feel pressured because 'everyone else is doing it' - they aren't. Do it when you feel 100% ready, both emotionally and practically (that means getting your contraception sorted BEFORE it happens) and preferably with someone you trust.
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A friend of mine has asked to meet a cousin of his GF, shes 17 and im 29... We both are ohio residents.
Im afraid to even meet her for something that might not be legal.
Please advice if i should say yes or no, with legal considerations about age of consent in OHIO...
No, it's not legal.
On top of that, do you not think it's a little predatory and creepy to be planning to have sex with a 17-year-old girl you've never met?
Do you really think that just because you're older then she'll automatically have sex with you? It makes me very angry when guys like you assume girls will fall at their feet and immediately want to sleep with them.
If you'd said 'I've met a 17-year-old girl and I really like her, is it okay to have a relationship with her?' then perhaps I wouldn't be so judgmental but to me, you sound like the kind of weird older guy my friends and I were creeped out by when we were 17.
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20/f
If a birth control pill makes you gain weight (10-15 pounds), when you stop taking it will you automatically lose all that weight? Or is it like if you normally gained weight, where you have to work hard to get rid of it?
When I stopped taking the Pill I did lose a little bit of a weight but not everything I had put on. Once you stop taking it, you will find that losing weight is alot easier but you will still have to do some work.
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i like this guy we flirted then kiss then when go to the sex part it was weird,after that day onward he didn't even try to touch me even if we spend so many days in bed,he always call me,chat with me introduce me to kiss friends but no more romantic moves,when i make moves he just give me reasons not to do them, i like him what should i do,but 1 thing he is white and i am black.
Why is the race difference relevant? The fact that he has stopped making moves is nothing to do with the fact that you are white and he is black.
Sounds to me like he got what he wanted and he's lost interest, something which guys of all races do.
Ask him what's up and where you stand. If he doesn't give you a clear answer or continues to act like this then forget about it and move on.
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Love is relationship or sex?
Love does not always equate to relationships and sex, just like relationships and sex don't always equate to love.
But relationships and sex are infinitely better when you love the other person.
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how to know if a boy is vergin or not..............?
You ask him.
Yes, apparent inexperience isn't a reliable indicator. Some guys seem to know exactly what they're doing on their first time and some haven't got a clue on their hundredth.
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I've been talking to this guy.. We hang out a lot.. we like eachother.. we have sex... were getting to know eachother before make a jump into a relationship. Anyway he's in a hip hop group and they travel everywhere and do shows. The other day ago they had a local show and I asked if I could go and he told me it wasn't a good idea. He likes to keep his personal life and music separate. What do you think of that?
So basically, you're giving him all the perks of being in a relationship without him actually being committed to you?
I agree with Matt, it sounds to me like he's leading you on. I can't speak for them all but I'm pretty sure most musicians like having their family and friends at their shows for support. But hey, maybe he is one of those people who really does prefer to keep things separate.
It sounds to me like you need to have a conversation with him. There is absolutely no point continuing with this 'getting to know you' thing if it's going nowhere.
In future, if you're still 'getting to know someone' before you 'jump into a relationship', DON'T HAVE SEX WITH THEM! You have sex with them, you lay all your cards on the table and you've given everything away. There are few guys who will respect a girl who is willing to sleep with them straight away. One of my friends has been with her boyfriend for two years and she wanted to sleep with him straight away. He's admitted that if she had, he would have lost respect for her and not got into a relationship.
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Hi, i'm 13 years old and have wanted a piercing for about 2 years now.My guardians have said i have to wait until i'm 13.And i was wondering if anyone knew of any places near Muskegon MI that will do a tongue piercing?
Most piercing/tattoo studios won't pierce you under the age of 16 and to be honest, the ones that are willing to probably aren't the kind of places you want to have a needle shoved through your tongue in.
My sister got her tongue pierced when she was 14 at a dodgy backstreet piercing studio in some random guy's house. A few weeks later a story appeared in the local paper about another underage girl who had also got her tongue pierced at this place. Turned out it had got horribly infected because the equipment wasn't sterilized and the wrong jewellery was used. She ended up in A&E.
Trust me, body piercing is not something you want to take risks with. It's best to wait until you are of an age where a reputable studio will pierce you.
If you insist on going ahead with it, do your research. Websites like BMEzine (http://www.bme.com/) have stories and pictures for piercings and you may be able to find a good studio in your local area which other people have had good experiences at. Try and go somewhere which has been recommended to you and appears clean and sterile.
You can find out more about choosing a good studio here: http://blog.piercingmart.com/main/how-to-choose-a-tattoo-or-body-piercing-studio-9/
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The guy I asked out says he liked me too but he just broke up with his girlfriend. I just find this as an excuse because I've seen it all before where I was interested in a guy and they make excuses saying they've got a girlfriend when clearly they haven't or they just broke up with their girlfriend so I could forget about him. I asked out my ex boyfriend and he was with someone then and broke up with her so he could be with me straight away. And no, my ex didn't break up with me because he wanted a rebound, he broke up with me because we didn't see each other anymore.
Well, this guy I'm talking about hasn't shown any interest in me, if he's not interested in me, why can't he just be honest and say "I'm not interested" instead of making up lies and excuses.
Let's look at this another way. Say a guy really likes you and asks you out but you don't feel the same. Are you really just going to say 'No, I don't like you' or are you going to say something like 'I'm sorry but I don't have time for a boyfriend right now/I'm not ready for a relationship/I'm seeing someone else'? It's not just guys who use 'excuses'. I know I've told a white lie when turning people down to save their feelings. Who cares if it isn't the whole truth? Isn't it better to turn them down in a way that doesn't make them feel terrible?
The fact is, if he really liked you he would have shown more interest. Maybe this guy genuinely doesn't want a relationship so soon after breaking up with his girlfriend. Or maybe he just isn't interested. Regardless, he turned you down. What more do you want? Is forcing him to say 'Okay, I lied, I just don't like you' really going to make you feel any better?
I highly doubt that he used an excuse because he wanted to upset you. The likelihood is that he is a decent enough person to try and save your feelings, which isn't really a fair reason to be pissed off.
Get over it, move on and wait until you meet a guy who returns your feelings.
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I am 18 years old and my guy really wants me to give him a hickey. His friend says its to show others he's mine and concidering he has already cheated on me once, I really want to do it, but I am incapable of giving a hickey. I have tried over and over on my arm but I cant do it. It only apprears as a small red mark that goes away in a matter of seconds. What can I do to give him a hickey?
If your boyfriend needs you to suck his neck to show people he's 'yours' then I think you probably need to re-evaluate the relationship. On top of that, hickeys look sleazy and immature. But that's just my opinion.
If you're really that keen on the idea, take a look here for tips:
http://www.wikihow.com/Give-Someone-a-Hickey
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Hello this is a question for The Buried Life fans
i was watching an episode (the one where they crash a parade) and they mentioned that they wrote on their facebook wall and asked for fans to meet them so they could get a crowd for the parade. (They did the same thing when Duncan asked out Taylor Swift at the CMT's). Well I was wondering... where is this facebook page?? I searched The Buried Life on facebook and came up with lots of pages and groups, but they just seem to be fan clubs and it doesn't seem like its the real guys who are updating the status'. Does anyone know the REAL facebook page/group where the actual guys are posting stuff and updating their status?
They also mention in their shows that people will write to them on their wall and they will chose a person and do that favor for them, well I have no idea which group is the right one. I really want to get in contact with them through facebook but its so hard since a lot of the groups are just fan pages and aren't the real guys. Can anybody help me? At least copy/paste the actual group link on here for me. Thank you!!!
http://www.facebook.com/tbl
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Hi.
Sorry if it's kind of long but PLEASE bear with me!:(
My name's Kitty, I'm 17 and I'll be turning 18 in more or less six/seven months (so that's January) and I really really need your help coming up with ideas on how to celebrate it.
I thought about having a party but then my mom started talking about all the disadvantages (i.e. what if some of my friends don't show up, etc.). That kind of discouraged me, but then I thought about it. I already had a sweet 16, so probably the only difference my 18th birthday party will have is that it'll be bigger and my college friends will be invited.
But I don't like the people in college that much. I feel like only my high school friends are worth throwing a party for (if ever).
So, I considered traveling abroad for my birthday but school already starts on January 4 and my birthday's on the ninth. I wanted to go someplace really far but it'd be a hassle because of the jetlag and missing school.
So basically, I'm considering other options! Going out with my family is nice but I really wanna do something cool (maybe with friends) for my birthday.
Any ideas? Your replies will be really appreciated. Tell me about what you guys did for your 18th! It doesn't have to be your ideas, you can talk about a cool 18th birthday celebration you went to and share about it or something. Haha.
Please help! Thanks in advance!
I don't know where you are but in the UK turning 18 is a really big deal, much more so than 16 or 21 so I've been to my fair share of 18th birthday parties.
On my actual 18th birthday I had swine flu so the plans I had made to go to a bar with my friends (you can drink at 18 in the UK) went awry.
My 'official' celebration was a big party at my house. I have a really big kitchen with doors that open into the garden so we hired scaffolding and set up a big canopy over the patio with lots of fairy lights. We also hired a huge barbecue and an outdoor heater. It was October but the heater kept things really warm and people spent alot of time outside under the canopy.
In the kitchen, we had more fairy lights and we hired a big drinks fridge and stocked it with beer, spirits and soft drinks. A few of my friends are in a band so we set up amps, speakers etc at one end of the kitchen and they played a 45-minute set and everyone came in to watch. At the end of their set they played a song they had written for me and my best friend and her cousin joined them on their violins. The rest of the time we just had iPod speakers. We ordered a big cake from a patisserie and after the band played it was 'presented' to me by my parents and everyone sang happy birthday to me. I made a quick speech and thanked everyone and my best friend also made a speech.
For food, we cooked loads of sausages and burgers outside on the barbecue and people ate them in buns with salad. We set up a table next to the barbecue with bowls of salad, paper plates, condiments etc so people could help themselves. People could sit/stand talking outside or in part of the kitchen or dance. There was a mix of my friends and family so it was all very civilised and not at all like a rowdy teenage party. It was a very special night.
My best friend also had a big 18th birthday celebration. She hired out a church hall and had a curry night. It was formal dress and there was a champagne reception. When it was time to eat, we all moved into the next room where there were lots of tables set up. There was a proper seating plan and place names and there were about 3 bottles of wine per table. Her parents had done all the cooking themelves and we went up table by table to get served our food. There were several dishes to choose from so we picked up our bowls and chose what we wanted. After the main course there was also a choice of desserts. There was a big cake which was surrounded by lots of red velvet cupcakes, it was really cool.
After the food there were a few different performances and speeches. Several of our friends sang or played an instrument and I made a speech, along with my best friend and her dad.
Most of my friends had much smaller 18th birthday celebrations. Alot of them just went out for a meal or drinks, or had a small gathering at their house before we went out clubbing or something.
It doesn't matter what you do or how big it is or whatever, the main thing is that you celebrate with people you care about. My best friend and I both had big parties but they would still have been awful if all our friends hadn't been there.
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Like can other people see All the questions you've asked by clicking on your name and looking at your advice column or someting? If I ask a question can people see who asked it?
Only L2+ moderators can click to see your username and the questions you've asked. We only use this if we need to ban you, investigate something or some other site-related reason. According to the moderator list, currently there are only 7 moderators who are able to do this and some aren't even active. So out of the thousands of users, only around 4-5 people can see everything.
Users who have a paid account can click to see other questions you've asked but they can't see who has asked them.
No one else can see anything other than the question unless you include your username, which we discourage.
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i know this might be a broad question, but for anyone who lives in Australia, what is the weather like? I specifically wanna know in Sydney, NSW. Rain? Humidity? Air? Wind? I wanna know everything. Thanks!
It depends what time of the year you're going in. Generally, NSW experiences really hot Summers, mild winters and moderate rainful.
I went to Sydney during September/October, which is Spring over there and it was around 25°C/77°F most of the time and pretty humid. A few days we were there the temperature did go as high as 30°C/86°F.
In the Summer months (November-February) it is generally incredibly hot, temperatures usually stay around the 30°C/86°F and it is very, very humid. In the coldest months (April-July), temperatures are around 8-16°C/46-61°F.
Sydney occasionally experiences dust storms and flash flooding but these are relatively uncommon. To the warm climate it is also prone to drought.
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I'm getting this tattoo -
http://i56.tinypic.com/30nca2s.jpg
hopefully on my left wrist. It could be a small tattoo, like the size in the picture, or a bit bigger. Do you think it would look best if it fit my whole wrist or just on the left side, by my vein, kind of like the placing of this tattoo:
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_StOtcgWBCp8/TU7sJnkAmmI/AAAAAAAAQbM/_fvCgGQL-h4/s640/Anchor+tattoo+wrist.jpg
Thank you!
I think it'd look best fitting your whole wrist.
Parts of the design are quite detailed so you'd need to get it slightly on the bigger side or it will be a blurry mess in a few years time.
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I just finished my freshman year of college and I have literally made zero friends. In some classes, I met people that I can chat with, but nobody that I'm friendly enough with to hang out with or that will ask me to hang out.
In junior high and high school, I had plenty of friends. I've always been an awkward kid, but sitting next to the same person in a class for a year eventually led to talking and perhaps even making friends. In college, however, classes are huge; every day I sit next to someone new and have NO IDEA how to strike up a conversation. Or how to continue a conversation, for that matter. I don't know what the hell's wrong with me; I've tried striking up conversation before (about the teacher or homework or test in a class), but once they answer my question or ask another, I don't know how to continue the conversation. My brain shuts down and I end up giving a one-word answer and killing the discussion. And it sucks; I know I'm a shy person, but I'm so wild an insane (and even funny) once I'm comfortable with another person - I just don't know how to get to that point.
How do I make friends in college? How can I make friends in a big lecture class? I've tried joining clubs, but surprise surprise, the ones I joined never even met. :\
I've also just finished my first year of university and have been in a very similar situation to you. The trouble with starting university is that you have to start from scratch and build up completely new friendships. Your friends at school were people that you spent years getting to know and developing a friendship with whereas the people you meet at university are brand new. It's unrealistic to expect to jump right into a fully formed friendship circle as it takes time to create a bond with someone.
I spent much of my first year feeling really lonely and depressed, I even considered quitting because I had so few friends at university. It's very hard when it seems like everyone else has a million friends and have formed groups already. As soon as I decided I would stay, I knew I had to make a BIG effort if I was going to be happy. I immediately signed up as a 'welcome week' volunteer and actually got a position as a team leader, so in September I'll be leading a team of around 15 volunteers in helping new students move in and get settled. It's a perfect opportunity to make friends as it forces me to talk to new people and if I'm going to be a team leader, I can't afford to be shy.
Activities like this are a brilliant way of meeting people and socialising. More than anything, they give you something to do so you don't feel like you're sitting in your room by yourself all the time. Find out if your college has a volunteering program or if there's one in the local area, the chances are that there will be something available. Force yourself to get involved and be proactive. Even if doing some voluntary work only serves to boost your confidence and improve your communication then it's a good idea. You could also try and get involved with any charity events in and around the college. Here in the UK, most universities hold an annual RAG (raise and give) week, where volunteers raise huge amounts of money for charity. I didn't do it this year but the people I spoke to about it had an amazing time and made loads of friends. If there is anything similar where you are, definitely try and get involved with that.
You mentioned that you've tried joining clubs. Try again! Find out which are the most active and social clubs and keep an eye out for any flyers or posters around campus. At my university alot of the clubs hold regular socials and events, which are perfect opportunities to meet people. If nothing sparks your interest, then why not start your own? This is another thing I'm doing next year. It's scary but it will give you a massive confidence boost and you're bound to meet people.
I know that trying to make friends in classes is hard. I've found that sometimes, you just have to take a deep breath and force yourself to talk. As a shy person myself, I know it's alot easier said than done but you CAN do it. Try and sit with someone that looks like you might have something in common with them (clothing, make up, piercings/tattoos, band t-shirt, book/magazine etc) and comment on something about them - 'Are you enjoying that book? I loved it..' 'I like your shirt, where did you get it?' 'I love that band! Have you heard their last album?' It makes it easier if you can strike up a conversation about a mutual interest. If the person is friendly and you're getting on well, why not suggest you go for coffee after class? A casual 'hey, what are you doing after this? Do you wanna grab a coffee?' will do. If they decline your offer, don't take it personally and don't let it knock your confidence. The more people you speak to, the more people you will know and the easier it will be. Another good idea is to suggest you study together: 'Do you want to meet up and work on this assignment sometime?'
It's scary and you will find it hard at first but it WILL get easier and you WILL start to make friends. You aren't going to meet people if you sit back and don't talk to anyone. You need to be proactive and do a little work. Go back to university next year with a positive attitude and give yourself as many opportunities as possible to talk to new people.
If you'd like to talk about this further with someone who understands how difficult this situation can be then I'd be happy to help. I'd also love to hear how you get on!
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Heeey!
I'm 11 yrs old and I am quite small and petite. I seriously wanna start my first period. Any tips on how to make it come?
Now, I don't want any crap about 'it'll come when its ready' 'trust me you don't want it, it hurts' blah blah blah. I just want some help. I'll do almost anything. Just please help.
Thank you =)
Ignoring the fact that you are under the age of 13 and therefore should not be using this website (which is why I have just banned you), you cannot make your period come. It WILL come when it's ready and when it does, you'll think it's a pain in the ass. You are not going to get the answer you are looking for because it simply doesn't exist.
The only way you can make some sort of prediction on when it will come is to find out when your mum, sisters, aunts etc started theirs. You should also remember that the period is the last stage of puberty. You will start developing breasts, pubic hair etc first. If you haven't got that far then it's unlikely you will be starting your period anytime soon. Starting to produce vaginal discharge is also an indicator. You will probably start your period within 1-2 years of beginning to get discharge.
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Two nights ago, on May 11, my boyfriend and I had sex. We started off for a few minutes not using a condom because it feels better for him. I know it's not a good idea, but that's why I made him put on the condom after a few minutes. I figured as long as he wasn't close to cumming inside me, I would be fine. So then we followed our normal routine of him wearing the condom but pulling out anyways when he came. After we finished, we both to the bathroom to pee. Then about 30 minutes later, we spontaneously went at it again and didn't use a condom, but it was only for a few minutes and then we stopped and he didn't cum.
Yesterday morning, I was telling my friend about it and she got all upset saying that I could get pregnant because there is live sperm leftover in his urethra up to 72 hours after ejaculation and it could've gotten inside me when he had sex the second time without a condom. Is this true? She also said that because he peed after the first time, it probably cleaned out most of what could have been left over.
But should I get the Plan B pill to be safe? I know it works up to 3 days after an accident. I had to take it twice last year when our condoms failed, that's why we started pulling out even when he did wear a condom.
Your friend is correct, precum does contain sperm and it can hang around for a while. Your chances of pregnancy are reduced as your boyfriend urinated but it's still a risk, especially as you didn't use a condom straight away the first time.
The morning after pill is only effective for 72 hours after sex and that effectiveness is dramatically reduced after 24 hours. There probably isn't much point taking it now.
It's unlikely that you are pregnant but in future you must be more careful. If you are having regular sex then consider using an alternative method of contraception such as the Pill. You can find out about the various methods available here:
http://www.nhs.uk/livewell/contraception/Pages/Contraception-hub.aspx
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/contraception_which.htm
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