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I've been on Advicenators for 10(!!!) years which I think makes me some kind of Advice-giving veteran. I'm currently 22 and and I have a Politics degree which makes me sound much more intelligent than I am. I have less time on my hands than I did 10 years ago but I'm going to try and be around more, if only to continue imparting my infinite wisdom unto the world.

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Do you guys have any advice for a newcomer on the site? Like how to rate, how to give good advice. I've already answered a few on here but I'm worried that my advice might be bad.


(PS. I added my username for a reason so that you guys can give me a nice feedback and fully informed advice)

You can find everything you need to know about the site (including the ratings system) at the following link:

As for how to give good advice, I'm not sure that's something that can be taught. What I will say is to always make sure you have read and understood the question fully, and be honest but polite. You will soon start to see how well your advice is going down by the ratings you receive.


how old should you be to be spooning with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

That depends on what level of intimacy you feel comfortable with.

Really, spooning is just an intimate cuddle. The participants lie next each other, on their sides, facing the same way and adopt a foetal-like position. It's called 'spooning' because it resembles two spoons. If you don't feel comfortable doing it, then don't. There isn't a legal age or anything like that.

Just to make sure there is absolutely no confusion here - there IS a sex position called 'spoons' or 'spooning', which is exactly the same...except the male inserts his penis into the vagina.


i am a 13 year old girl and i masterbate. daily! and i dont finger myself i do something werid. i rub the leg of my bunny stuffed animals leg(it is shaped like a penis kinda) on my vagina through my panties. is this a normal way to masterbate or not?help!

Yep, you're normal.

As long as you aren't hurting anyone, doing it in a public place, or doing it so much it is interfering with your life, you can do it however and whenever you want.


What is a nickname for my boyfriend ?

I don't know.

And neither will anyone else on this website.

You know why? Because none of us know your boyfriend.

You can't just invent a nickname, what would be the point? Nicknames are spontaneous, personal things, not something you can find on an advice website.


I need your opinion guys!!!It's very important for me,which one do you think is better?American English or British English?

Well, they do say the original is always the best!

EDIT: Which one is the original? Is that a serious question?

Obviously British English is the original. I would have thought the clue would be in the name.

On a more serious note, as a Brit, I do prefer British English, and find that American spellings of things annoy me. But I'm sure if I was American I'd prefer that. Modern British English is derived from Old English anyway, so nothing is truly 'original'.


Is there any way you can get pregnet if he cums in your ass

The ONLY way you can get pregNANT is if sperm enters your vagina.


So, logicically, there is a small possibility that semen could run down into your vagina which could result in pregnancy.

Otherwise, you cannot get pregnant via your anus.

You can get STIs though, so unless you've seen his test results, use a condom.


Hy, am priscal nd am 13 yrs old ten guys in my school are asking me out wat shld i do?

I don't think 10 guys have asked me out in my whole life, you're a lucky gal.

Seriously though, say no and focus on your school work. Especially your spelling.


Is it ok to hide things in vagina? I feel stupid asking this but I have something I want to put up there but i am afraid it will go up into my body where i can't reach it anymore so is it possible to hide things in (up) your vagina or not? No it is not drugs!


It's possible but it's definitely not advisable.

Putting a foreign object into your vagina is pretty much an invitation to infection. You're also likely to experience discomfort and irritation.

Not a good idea.


I am a 13 year old girl and my freind is 11 all of the
sudden she likes a 16 year old is that right is she to younge
another thing our moms say we are to younge to date is that true??

At 11, your friend is still a child. She is unlikely to have the emotional and physical capacity to have a relationship with anyone, especially not someone who is effectively a young adult. It is normal and okay to have crushes on older people, but at 11 it should remain just that: a crush.

As for dating, 13 is probably a good age to start dating in groups and spending time with both guys and girls, but again, I'd say you were still too young for a real relationship.


If your penis is to big for your gf, but u still want to have sex how can u make it so it won't be so painful for her?

Except for rare cases where the vaginal opening is abnormally small, it is designed to fit a baby through it, so it will stretch to accommodate your penis.

If your girlfriend is a virgin, hasn't had sex in a while, or has never had sex with someone as well endowed as you before, then it probably will hurt for at least the first couple of times. Eventually it should become less painful.

There are a few measures you can take to make it as comfortable for her as possible. The first and most important is that she is very relaxed and ready. If she is at all nervous, the muscles around her vagina will tense up and make things more difficult. You also need to make sure that she is aroused. When a female is aroused her vagina produces natural lubrication, which makes it easier for the penis to enter. So you need to make sure there's plenty of foreplay, don't just go in there all guns blazing. You might also want to consider using a lube, such as KY Jelly, which will make things much easier and less uncomfortable for her. Start off slowly and make sure she is comfortable before you up the anti.


Girl get pragnent after getting sperm in her asshole


The only way a girl can get pregnant is if sperm enters her vagina.

There is however a possibility of sperm running down from the anus into the vagina and you can also get STIs through anal sex, so you need to be using a condom regardless.


I'm 13 years old and I wear g-strings. Is that to young?

I think it depends on why you're wearing them.

If you wear them for practical reasons (i.e. you don't want a VPL) then I don't see an issue, although there are more hygienic and comfortable options available.

If you wear them because you think it's 'sexy', then yes, I'd say you were too young. I say that because if I had a 13-year-old daughter then I wouldn't be happy if she felt the need to wear g-strings.


hi im planning on creating a blog cause ill be in france for exchange next year so i wanna keep my family updated, i'm mexican and i need suggestions on how to name my blog! a few of the words that i can think of is something like mexican going to europe, a french phrase, my name and something else, or any catchy phrase, some of the information that might be helpful..:
1-i'm mexican
2-my name: ale
3- i'm going to Nice
4-i'll be in france
5- i'm going to the french riviera
6- it'll be my firt time in europe
7- i don't speak much french

hope someone can help me with some ideas!! thank you! :D

You sound just like me a few months ago!

I went to Italy to live and work for three months and I decided to write a blog. Mine was more to show off my writing and to make my friends laugh than to actually keep them up to date with what I was doing but I'm sure I can offer you some pearls of wisdom.

I called mine 'Too Pale for Italia'. The blog was about how stressful and annoying things I would find easy at home were in Italy, so it was kind of a play on the fact that I have really, really pale skin (especially in comparison to the dark tans over there) as well as poking fun at myself for not being able to cope with Italy. Try and pick something lighthearted and catchy. I like the ideas you put out there, something like 'Mexican in Europe' or 'Ale's Travels in France'would be fine. You don't need to pick something overly complicated or long. If you wanted a less personal name then perhaps something along the lines of 'Learning French' or 'Je ne parle pas fran├žais!' ('I don't speak French')?

If you want any more advice on writing your blog then feel free to inbox me. I won't put the link to mine on here because it'd be shameless self-promotion but if you'd like to check it out to get some ideas or whatever then I can show you it.

Also, you're going to a gorgeous part of the world! I was actually staying just across the border from Nice in Italy and I went there a few times, it's absolutely beautiful. If you get a chance, there's a town right on the border (around half an hour or so from Nice) called Menton, it's well worth a visit.


I been with my boyfriend 4 months but before him I dated girls only I feel very confuse because I still like girls and i miss my gay life I love him but I'm not in love with him.

Sexuality is unimportant. It's stupid that there is so much pressure to put yourself in a certain category. You could be gay, straight, bi, with a girl, with a guy, the issue is that you are in a relationship you aren't happy with. Break up with him but don't beat yourself up about it and don't feel like you have to stick to only dating girls or only dating guys. Sometimes, as nice as a person may be, there just isn't the right chemistry. And that's okay.



So, I just started college and there are a ton of cute guys that I want to talk to, my only problem is that I am too freaked out! There are two or three guys that I would like to try talking to, but I am too afraid to approach them. How do I just walk up to a guy and start talking to him? What should I say? I know for sure that one of them is guy, the others I am almost certain that they are gay. I just don't know how to walk up to them and talk to them. I am not a shy person, I just don't know how to meet people or intrdouce myself. I am so afraid that I will come across as immature or stupid. Any advice?

Find out if your college has a LGBT society/group. Most colleges/universities have them and it's a great way to meet other gay people and socialise. Talking to people in this kind of environment should make things easier because it takes away the worry about whether or not they're gay.


Hi !I'm a 14 year old girl, dating a 16 year old boy. We've been dating him for almost 3 months & I love him a lot. We have a lot in common, were bestfriends, we rarely fight, talk / texting 24/7. Everyone says were perfect are we ?

No relationship is 100% perfect.

Sure, it sounds like you're getting on really great, good for you. But remember that if you've only been together for 3 months then it's likely you're still in the 'honeymoon' phase of the relationship, and there may be problems which haven't surfaced yet.

Also remember that some arguing is healthy and it's important to discuss any issues you have with each other. It's also important to have some time apart. Yes, texting/talking 24/7 feels good now, but eventually one or both of you will probably want some space.

I don't mean to put a downer on things. I'm just saying there's no such thing as a perfect relationship and it doesn't really matter either way. The most important thing is that you're both happy together.


Sometimes iz it good to fake an orgasm

Not really.

Sure, it might make the other person feel good, but they'll never know you're not fully enjoying whatever they're doing if you don't tell them.


i used to poke my hand inside the vagina to clean it, is this right? A friend told me I'm not suppose to coz my vagina needs those discharge bacterias! Can u please advise

Your vagina is a clever piece of kit and contrary to popular belief it requires very little maintenance.

Your friend is right, discharge is the vagina's natural way of cleaning itself and shouldn't be messed with. It's a myth that you need to constantly and thoroughly clean your vagina for it to be clean.

You should only ever clean the outside of your vagina once or twice a day with a gentle soap and water, or a wash such as Vagisil which is specially formulated for use in that area.

Over washing or using harsh products on your vagina will strip it of its natural bacteria and cause problems such as Thrush and Bacterial Vaginosis. You definitely don't want to be poking anything about up there trying to 'clean' it, you'll almost certainly cause more harm than good.


Hi... rainbowcherrie. i'm 19 and studying in university. I thought that now i'm in uni, finding friends would be much easier than ever. Yet, i'm in my second semester and have no close friends. I pretty much only know 15 people in the whole uni and all of them are only acquaintances.

I'm not afraid to initiate a conversation with new people, however i find it hard to maintain an interesting conversation. I have no close friends throughout my school years and i don't know why. In class, i seem to know quite a lot of people, but i find myself alone on weekends and breaks.They never invited me to parties or outings. I never hesitate if they ask me to do something. What should i do?



Seriously, you're not alone on this one.

If you're anything like me then you started university full of expectations of how great it was going to be. I thought I was going to get there, make a million friends in the first five minutes and ride off into the sunset with them happily ever after. There is a lot of pressure because we're constantly told by our parents, friends and other students that it's going to be the best experience of our lives and when it isn't, we feel like we're doing something wrong and that everyone else is having more fun than us.

I'm just about to start my second year and I don't have loads of friends there. Sure, I have a couple of close ones but when they were busy, I spent a lot of my first year sitting alone in my room. Towards the end of the year I was very miserable and depressed and seriously considered dropping out. Ultimately, I realised that the experience was what I made it and that it was up to me to make the effort.

Try meeting people who have common interests. Join a university society, club or team. You'll find it easier to maintain conversations about things you're interested in and you'll meet like minded people. A lot of clubs like this will organise regular socials and nights out, which will give you an opportunity to bond with people and won't leave you by yourself every weekend. Or you could try volunteering. Most universities have a lot of volunteering opportunities and these are a great way to meet people.

If you find yourself in a class with someone you know, suggest going for a coffee afterwards, or ask them if they want to do something at the weekend. If you find yourself with nothing to do one evening, why not call someone you know up and ask them if they want to hang out? Instead of sitting around waiting for invitations, make your own plans with people. The more you do this, the more you will bond and create friendships. I know it's scary to put yourself out there but it will pay off.

I know it seems like everyone else in the whole world is having fun but they're really not. I know plenty of people who struggled during their first year at university and who found it didn't live up to their expectations.


Soo how long should I wait until taking a test to be accurate. I've never had any of these symptoms before so therefore I've been asking and alot of the people I know keep telling me I can still be pregnant.

Most tests give a more accurate result if taken two weeks after the missed period. Seeing as you haven't actually missed a period I'm not entirely sure what the time scale on that would be like. There are tests which claim to produce a result much earlier but these are more expensive.


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