I am 19 years old and female. I decided, I don't want to have sex with just anybody but I'm talking to a guy and it always sparks the question in my head.
Well done for being so sensible and thinking about contraception in advance.
I want to be prepared of course but my main problem is, I have health problems. I get bacterial infections on a monthly basis and the doctors have no idea what the cause is yet. With this issue, I'm on antibiotics a lot. So much that I may become immune to them soon(thats another problem in itself) and I heard they interfere with the Pill.
I've never seen my "girl" doctor yet but I want to be prepared. Do you think she might just say, lay off Sex until i'm officially off the antibiotics? Or is there another form that the antibiotics won't interfere with?
I just want to note, I'm really not planning on having sex anytime soon but I still want to know. Just in case, situation.
Fortunately, there are several types of contraceptive methods which won't be affected by your antibiotics.
Here are your options :-
The mini-Pill (progestogen-only Pill, or POP):
Unlike the 'normal' Pill, which contains two hormones - progestogen and oestrogen - the mini-Pill only contains progestogen. If taken correctly it's 98-99% effective, making it slightly less effective than the Pill. The mini-Pill must be taken at exactly the same time every day in order for it to be effective and unlike the combined Pill, there are no breaks. The mini-Pill works by thickening the mucus of your cervix and the lining of the womb, making it difficult for sperm to reach the egg in the first place and for the egg to implant there if it does. In some women it may also stop ovulation (the release of eggs) altogether. You can find out more information about it here:
IUD (the 'coil'):
'IUD' stands for 'intrauterine device'. The word 'intrauterine' means 'inside the womb'. The IUD is a small, t-shaped plastic device which is inserted into the womb via the vagina. IUDs are around 98% effective. You will have to get the IUD inserted by a trained professional and it is likely to be uncomfortable and painful. However, once it's in, it will last for 5-10 years and you will only need yearly check ups. The IUD prevents pregnancy in 3 ways - first it stops your partner's sperm from getting through your womb and into your tubes in the first place. It also alters the lining of your cervix, making it even tougher for the sperm. Finally, it thickens the lining of your womb, making it less likely to 'accept' an egg. The IUD can cause heavy, painful periods. You can read more about it here:
IUS stands for 'intrauterine system'. It is similar to the IUD in that it is inserted into the womb but unlike the IUD, the IUS also contains a hormone which can make periods lighter, shorter and less painful. For that reason it is often used to treat menopausal women and women with period problems. It's more effective than the IUD at over 99% and it will start working immediately. You can read more about it here:
The contraceptive implant is a small, plastic rod containing the hormone progestogen which is inserted under the skin on your upper arm. It is more than 99% effective and lasts up to 3 years. With the implant, you may find that your periods are heavy and painful or they may stop altogether. It's very difficult to predict in advance how it will react with your body but it can be removed at any time. Like other methods containing progestogen, it works by thickening the lining of the mucus of the cervix and the lining of the womb. You can read more about it here:
The injection (Depo-provera):
The contraceptive injection is an injection containing progestogen. It works in much the same way as the implant, except instead of having a rod inserted under your skin, you have an injection in a muscle in your bottom. It is more than 99% effective and lasts up to 12 weeks. Similarly to the implant, the injection can affect your periods in different ways. It is also not to be used for longer than a couple of years as it can cause thinning of the bones and osteoporosis. You can read more about it here:
This page here also contains lots of information about choosing a contraceptive method and the factors to consider when doing so: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Contraception/Pages/Whichmethodsuitsme.aspx
Your doctor will be able to go through your options with you and give you further information but it's good to be prepared. Have a look through the information and see what you think looks best to you. Everyone is different and prefer different things from contraception. For example, do you want something you don't have to worry about on a daily basis? If so then the mini-Pill probably isn't for you. Do you want something which will stop your periods altogether? If so, you probably won't be considering the IUD.
hi, my boyfriend is leaving in 8 days and he will be leaving forever ,hes moving back to his country , i finished my birth control pills (21 pills ) yesterday, can i get a new pack and keep taking it so i won't get my period until my boyfriend leaves ? (in about 8 days?)
Yes, you can.
please its urgen since if i can do it then id have to get the new pack today.
after he leaves im stopping taking birth control for a long time so i wanna know if i can just extend the pills and take more than 21 pills ?
While it's not sensible to do it frequently, it's perfectly safe to run two packs back to back occasionally.
A word of warning: when you do have your period, it is likely to be slightly heavier and more painful than usual. It should return to normal the following month.
Well, I should start by saying I'm an 18 white British girl who grew up in a very middle class background.
As someone who is also middle class white British and has been in a relationship with someone of Caribbean descent, I can totally relate to your question.
Anyway, I have never had a boyfriend before and have been seeing this guy for about 5 months, I only see him on weekends because he lives in the rougher city area and I am in the country side (I should also point out in England countryside is 95% white while inner cities are more 40-50%). He's from the Caribbean originally and came to England a few years ago, so obviously, he is black. He loves me and his family love me too but my family is against whites and blacks being together, my Nana said people see a slut when they see me now.
Is it honestly so bad to see white and black people together?
I live in a big, multicultural city and I was really shocked at some of the judgments and criticisms my ex boyfriend and I would get when we were in public together. Up until that point I was completely naive to modern day racism. I assumed that, especially in a city like mine, people were accepting and tolerant of different races and colours.
I'm sure you will be very aware of the recent surge in popularity of far-right movements such as the BNP (British National Party) and EDL (English Defense League). The EDL in particular have been in the news very recently with a series of marches (which are often countered with demonstrations and protests from opposing groups such as Unite Against Facism). While these movements tend to focus on ignorant views of Islam, they are undeniable examples of modern day racism.
However, as far as I'm concerned, regardless of what racist groups like the EDL and BNP say, there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating or marrying outside of your race. It is disgusting that a society which has come so far since the days of bus boycotts and sit-ins still accepts racist attitudes. Believing that it is wrong for white and black people to be together is pure ignorance. Scrape away the skin and everyone is exactly the same underneath. As for being a 'slut' just for being with a black guy? I'd certainly question the logic on that judgement. Being in a loving monogamous relationship doesn't sound at all slutty to me.
Have you asked your family why they have this attitude to interracial relationships? Although you may not be able to change their minds, it might be good to sit down with them and have a proper conversation about why they are so against the idea. Ask them if they will allow you to bring your boyfriend home for them to meet. Many people do hold stereotypical beliefs about black men (I'm sure you know the kind I mean - they father children to multiple women, they're all drug dealers, they're all involved in crime etc). If your family were able to get to know your boyfriend and realise that he is not like this then they may be able to put their prejudices aside.
However, I'm not so naive as to think that they will meet him, love him and completely change their views. Some people's personal beliefs and prejudices are far too set in stone to be changed. You may well have to accept that your family are never going to be supportive or your relationship and the consequences which may arise from that. In this case, things may be very difficult and you may have to decide whether your relationship is worth the difficulties with your family. I would never suggest ending a relationship on racial grounds but if it comes to choosing between your family and your boyfriend, you are going to have to seriously consider your options.
You may find these webpages interesting. The first is an article about why interracial couples often face difficulties within their relationships and the second is a forum thread about people's views on them:
Summer is coming up. I love warm weather, and where I live.. well lets just say its rarely above 60 F in the Spring or Fall haha. But the summer's its really nice :) The only bad thing is that there are bees, wasps, and hornets.. I'm so scared of them :( I literally run around waving my arms trying to get them away. I've never been stung by a bee before, and I heard it hurts and stings really badly.. Even if I just hear them buzzing, I will freak out. I've tried to calm down and not get as scared but it doesn't work :(
This is a pretty common phobia that many people have. Most people get freaked out when they see a bee, wasp or hornet and it's easy to see why. Getting stung does hurt and some people react especially badly. However, if you actually look at the facts, the chances of getting stung are relatively low.
Can someone help me with my bee-phobia?
Let's start with bees. You may be interested to know that only female bees can sting and that they are generally non-aggressive. It's highly unusual for a bee to sting unless it feels threatened. If you leave it alone and ignore it, it will leave you alone. So all that running around and arm waving you do to try and get rid of them? Probably only provoking the situation. In the year 2000 out of a population of 281 million people in the USA only 54 people died from bee stings. Going on that statistic, you are more likely to be murdered, struck by lightning or die from flu then you are from being stung. Unless you are one of the rare few that has an allergy to bee stings, you will be able to tolerate around 1000 stings at one time, which is probably never going to happen.
Wasps are more aggressive and you are probably more likely to get stung by one but again, the chances are still low as long as you leave them alone and don't provoke them.
Here are some tips on how to avoid bee and wasp stings, taken from the following website: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/waspstings.htm
- If surrounded by a swarm of bees or wasps, move out of the way slowly. Do not try to wave the insects away. Violent movements will only excite them and make them more aggressive and likely to attack.
- Insect repellents are effective.
- Never aim a blow at a wasps' or bees' nest or attempt to throw them because the insects will immediately attack.
- Stay away from things that attract insects, such as flowers, trees, bushes and piles of wood.
- Be extra careful if you are eating or drinking (especially sweet things) outside.
- Smells and bright colours attract insects. Avoid scented creams and strong perfumes if you are going to spend time outside.
If you DO get stung then unless you are allergic, you are likely to only suffer a small local reaction. It will probably be sore, red and itchy around the area where you got stung. You may also notice some slight swelling. But that's it. Tattoos, piercings and waxes are all equally, if not more painful than a sting.
Here are some links to websites about the treatment of bee and wasp stings. They also contain additional information which may put your mind at rest:
So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now. (I'm a girl by the way.) I want a promise ring and he wants to get me one. but, is it to soon to commit? We've known each other for about 2 years now and he knows more about me than I do. Is it too soon?
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to relationships. If it feels right for you and it feels right for him then go for it. Hell, my parents were married after 5 months.
is it good for a thirteen year old to have a job?
It depends on your definition of 'good'.
Personally, I think it's great to have a job throughout your teenage years. It will teach you the value of earning your own money and about the realities of work but it will also look good to future employers and demonstrate that you have a strong work ethic. When you finish school or college, you will be able to say to potential employers "look, I've been working since I was 13" and have references to back it up. This could put you at an advantage if the other candidate has never had a job before.
I got my first part time job in retail at 16 and I think it really helped me mature and take on new responsibilities. Many big companies prefer to only take on people with experience in their field. I'm at university now and competition for decent part-time jobs is big. I'm at an advantage because I have demonstrated that I am responsible and have been working for a few years already.
However, there are downsides. I did find it difficult balancing my schoolwork, job and social life, especially when it came to exam time. As most part-time jobs for teens require you to work at the weekends, it can be annoying not being able to go out and do what you want all the time.
At 13 there aren't a whole lot of jobs you can do. Family or small local businesses may be able to help you but bigger companies don't usually hire people under the age of 16. Your best bet is probably a paper round, babysitting or doing odd jobs (lawn mowing, car washing, even dog walking etc) for family friends and neighbours. Remember that any job is good experience and will be something you can put on your CV. When you reach an age where you can work for a bigger company, it will look good if you've done at least some work in the past.
Hi,Im a 5th grader going on 6th and I think I heard this girl in my grade level is likley pregnant (i think 2 months already) so is it true average 5th grader girls get pregnant?? :0
I wouldn't say 'average' girls of that age get pregnant but yes, it does happen. In fact, various sources state that the world's youngest mother was aged just 5. You can read about the story here: http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/medina.asp
You can also see Wikipedia's list of youngest birth mothers here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
While it's very unlikely for a girl to get pregnant before her first period, it is possible. Ovulation (the release of an egg from your ovary) occurs approximately two weeks before the period. So it is possible for the egg to leave the ovary and be fertilized by sperm before a girl has ever had a period. For this reason, if a girl DOES decide to have sex at such a young age (something which I don't condone or advise at all) she should always use contraception, regardless of whether or not she has started her period.
The fact that it is possible to get pregnant so young doesn't mean it's okay. Not only are their bodies not physically ready for such trauma, they are highly unlikely to be emotionally mature enough, even if they think they are.
i am easily agitated, have very strong overwhelming emotons that cause physical pain pretty much everywhere in my body and occasionally nausea. i have had thoughts about suicide as much as it pains me to admit it. i dont seem to have prolonged days or weeks of sadness or joy but almost everyday i am either overly happy and hyper or so sad and upset that i cant seem to stop crying and my body wont seem to stop convulsing because i cry so hard. some days i will be in a great mood and then the next i just want to disappear forever. i constantly find myself saying things to myself about how unpretty i am and how i dont deserve to be in this earth and then some days i look in the mirror and think i look kinda pretty. please tell me if i sound bipolar and provide additional info if you can. thanks.
I recently answered a similar question on Bipolar Disorder here:
'Bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression) is characterised by mood swings that can last days, weeks or months. During a manic episode a sufferer may make impulsive decisions such as quitting their job or making large purchases, sleep very little, talk faster than usual and seem generally hyperactive. They also may engage in reckless behaviour, such as inappropriate sexual activity or gambling. During a depressive episode, the sufferer will feel hopeless, so exhausted they may not be able to get out of bed and will often suffer from sleep and weight problems. Suicidal thoughts or actions are also common.
In extreme cases, someone with bipolar may also suffer from mixed episodes, where symptoms of depression are combined with racing thoughts and hyperactivity.
My Mum was diagnosed with bipolar around three years ago and we had absolutely no suspicions at all before that, we just thought she was depressed. Many people assume that bipolar is just constant mood swings but this isn't necessarily the case. My Mum will go through long periods of being very, very depressed followed by short bursts of intense happiness. During those times she will spend alot of money and come up with unrealistic and sometimes crazy ideas.'
The only person who you will be able to diagnose you is an appropriately medically trained professional. Although you may well be displaying symptoms of a certain illness, you will still need a proper diagnosis. I suggest you make an appointment with your doctor, who will probably refer you to a specialist doctor/psychiatrist.
If you are having suicidal thoughts now then you should either call the emergency services number for your country or a crisis hotline in order to get immediate assistance. In the USA you can call a suicide & crisis hotline (http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html) on 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or 1-800-TALK (1-800-273-8255). In the UK you can call the Samaritans (http://www.samaritans.org/) on 08457 90 90 90. You can find international hotline numbers here: http://suicidehotlines.com/international.html
My boyfriend experienced one day where he felt as if he needed to urinate but he didnt. He felt slight burning. The next day it was gone. I have performed oral sex with him and one other person (a year ago) who TOLD me he was tested. A test for uti was negative and ive never experienced any symptoms of stds. Do you think he has an std? Im the only person who he has been sexually active with whatsoever. Maybe it was just a bad day? Please respond, thank you
STIs don't always display symptoms. I would suggest that both you and your boyfriend get tested, just to be on the safe side.
Never accept someone's word for it when they say they are infection free. Even if they are trustworthy people, it's possible that they don't realise they have anything. Always use a condom unless you are 100% sure that they haven't got anything. And 100% means you've seen their test results.
My girlfriend is addicted to vicaden and three weeks ago, I found out from my bank statement that she stole almost $900 dollars from my ATM card. I confronted her and she told me she wasn't going to tell me if i never found out. She is feeling guilty and very sorry. She has secret texts, phone calls and acts strange when I ask her what she did for the day. She is always yelling at me and picking fights, when she is wrong and I bring it up. I have always felt that she is hiding somthing but I could never figure it out. I try to meet her needs as much as I can, but I am a graduate student and I do the best I can but she is unsastified. I found out this week that she stole 65 dollars from me and told me she forget to bring it up and when I asked about it on Friday, she wanted to break up, the second time she wanted to break up over me giving her money or she taking it without my permission. I feel like I am her golden ticket and she is just hanging on for herself. She has kids and I get along with them. Our sex life is unsatisfactory and she always complain when she intiates it and i go for it. I feel that she loves me and I love her too, but I am confused on what to do. I tried working things out but its like she is always picking fights and acting like a "clutz", her way of calling the stolen money, the lies and disrespect. She says her mom put gas in the car when she used my car to do so. The trust is not there and everytime I am at work, I wonder what she be doing. Any help or advice would be helpful. I am 24 male and my girl is 30 female.
You haven't mentioned one good thing about the relationship other than that you love each other and you have a good rapport with her kids.
You need to work out whether those things alone are worth the lying, stealing and craziness from your girlfriend.
As far as I'm concerned, this woman needs help to deal with her demons, something she may not be able to do while she is in a relationship. Consider a trial separation, where you both agree to start dealing with your problems separately before deciding whether or not you want to continue with the relationship. Unless your girlfriend gets help, I highly doubt this relationship will last.
Additionally, consider this: if a stranger stole $965 dollars from you then you would call the police. Are you really willing to accept that from someone you are in a relationship with?
how much sperm can it take to get pregnant.....and how far does it have to get for a female to become pregnant.? help.!
It only takes one teeny tiny little sperm to get pregnant.
It doesn't matter how far inside you THINK it went because sperm can swim.
The bottom line is this: if you don't want to get pregnant, never have sex without contraception.
Here are some more links to websites providing information about the various methods of contraception available. You should probably look at them before you have sex again:
Can u get pregant by a 14 years old boy?
If a penis enters your vagina, there is a chance you could get pregnant.
You should use contraception when you have sex with ANYONE.
Here are some more links to websites providing information about the various methods of contraception available. You should probably look at them before you have sex again:
I got my perido april.1/2011/ and it ended april.7/2011 its now april.30/2011..should i have got my perido by now?..
The average menstrual cycle lasts 28 days. However, many women find that their cycles are shorter or longer than this. Anything from 24-35 days is normal.
You should start counting from the first day of your last period. So if you had a perfect 28 day cycle, you would have expected your period to arrive on 28th April but unless you have reason to believe you could be pregnant, the fact that it hasn't isn't anything to worry about.
If you've just started your periods then you can accept them to be irregular. Many teens find that their periods come at different times each month and it's not uncommon to skip one altogether. Most people find that their periods regulate as they develop and finish puberty but some women are always irregular. You might find it useful to start counting the days of your periods, to see if you can work out a pattern of what is normal for you and when to expect your periods.
If you don't think you could be pregnant and your period is usually regular then it's unlikely that you have anything to worry about. Periods are funny things, they can be affected by all sorts of factors. Hormones, stress, routine changes and illness can all change your usual cycle.
If your period doesn't make an appearance in a week and there is a chance you could be pregnant then it's time to take a test. If you're really concerned then there are 'first response' tests which detect the pregnancy hormone one day after a missed period which you could take now. Standard tests usually require you to wait a week after you have missed a period in order to work correctly.
You can find out more information about periods and your menstrual cycle here:
All of a sudden my friends are like desperate for guys and hanging out with these gross guys. Were all 18, and they're like 20-25. They aren't in college. Their like drug dealers and just basically ghetto losers. I'm repulsed by them and I can't stand when they want to go to one of their parties. The whole time I'm worried im going to get shot, they all think I'm the hottest and constantly want to hook up with me, but I refuse too and they don't really like me because I won't drink or smoke. But obviously I'm not going to put anything in my body that they have possession of. My friends are acting like whores and they'll probably end up with stds and it's ruining our friendship because I never want to hang out with them anymore because of this.
Unfortunately it's not your place to tell your friends who they can and can't hang out with or date. They're adults and it is up to them who they spend time with.
What do I do?
But it IS your place to not do something you don't want to do. You don't have to drink, smoke or go to their parties if you don't want to.
You can let them know that you don't like their new friends and don't want to spend time with them but you run the risk of offending them and spoiling your friendship.
Alternatively, why not try and arrange things with your friends that don't involve these guys? A girly night in, a meal out, a bowling night, road trip, beach day etc are all good ideas. You could say something like "Hey, we haven't spent much time just us girls recently, why don't we go to/do [insert activity]?"
If it's a lost cause and you really don't want to spend time with them or these guys anymore then it's time to make some new friends. Make an effort to spend more time with other friends you have, join school/college clubs/societies etc and try and meet some new people. I know it's easier said than done but there's no point hanging out with people when you're not having fun and you don't approve of or like what they're doing.
I've done a lot of things sexual, but I've never really had real intercourse. When I was young, I had a quick fix with an ex, but I'm not even sure if he went that deep. I'm a little scared if I have sex I will bleed or something if the guy goes deep.
I disagree with Zane. Being a little scared is normal. I'm always nervous when I have sex with a new partner for the first time. If anything, being as cautious as you are demonstrates that you ARE ready, as you are making sure you are safe and protected.
But one of my other fears is prevention. I've never had sex with a condom, and I am a very worrisome person. I've been reading tips online, but my nerves won't calm. I'm scared that even if I used a condom, something bad will happen. I cannot afford birth control and my parents would surely go ballistic. I know how to be responsible, and I feel ready now.
First up: it's common for a woman to bleed the first time, or even couple of times, she has sex.
Inside the vaginal opening is a thin piece of tissue called a hymen. When something is inserted into the vagina, the hymen can break and cause a small amount of bleeding. This is where we get expressions like 'popping the cherry' from. These days, many women will have already broken their hymen before they have sex through tampon use, masturbation or other early sexual experimentation or even exercise. If this is the case, then you may not even bleed at all. If you do, then it's nothing to worry about and it shouldn't alarm you or your partner. You may want to put a towel down before you have sex, just in case.
Next, it's important you get your contraception sorted.
Condoms aren't just to prevent pregnancy. Unless you are 100% sure that you and your partner are STI free then you should always use a condom. It'd be sensible for both of you to go and get tested because not all STIs display symptoms and you don't have to have sexual intercourse to catch one.
Contrary to popular belief that condoms are ineffective in preventing pregnancy, they are still a reliable method of contraception and many couples use them regularly. When used correctly condoms are 98% effective. This means that only 2 in 100 women using condoms will get pregnant in the period of a year.
What does correct use mean?
In order to be effective, a condom needs to be within its use-by date. You need to make sure the condom is put on before intercourse starts. You also need to be extremely careful not to snag or tear it on sharp fingernails or jewellery. You should also avoid using an oil-based lubricant such as Vaseline or body-oils with a condom as these can react with the latex and cause holes.
You can find out some more information about condom effectiveness and use here:
I find it ridiculous that free birth control isn't widely available in America like it is in the UK and other countries. However, I believe you can get hold of free birth control at Planned Parenthood clinics. You will be able to find your nearest clinic here: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/.
Here are some more links to websites providing information about the various methods of contraception available:
As for your nerves, it's important that you try and relax. If you are too nervous, your muscles will tense up and make sex much more difficult and uncomfortable for you. If you aren't enjoying yourself then your vagina is also unlikely to produce enough natural lubricant, which will also hinder your experience. Relax, take things slowly and make sure your partner knows you are a little scared. You may want to use a lubricant such as KY jelly to make things easier and less uncomfortable. Here are some links to pages which may help put your mind at ease:
my boyfriend asked me "babe , can i have some porn pics of you? :\ "
There are several reasons why this is nothing but a terrible idea.
do you think i should do it? and what exactly do i take a photo of?
im 13 by the way
He's a teenage boy. The chances of him keeping the picture to himself are slim. The chances of that 'private' picture being circulated or shown to at the very least his friends are high. Do you really want to have to come into school knowing that everyone has seen you naked? You might find this article interesting:
But that could well be the least of your worries.
At 13, you are a minor. If you take a naked picture of yourself and send it to your boyfriend, you could be charged with making and distributing a pornographic image of a minor. If your boyfriend keeps that image, he could be charged with possessing one.
That's child porn.
Don't believe me? Here are some links to pages and news stories about teens who have actually been prosecuted for doing exactly what you're considering:
So heres the deal im 15 and i really wanna get a bikini wax cause shaving is a pain in the *** and i can never really get the difficult areas with a razor and i just liek it to be nice and clean down there ya kno.. so i have a giftcard to this spa and they offer bikini or french bikin dont know which one too choose? i really want to do it but im nervous its kinda weird to just spread your legs for some stranger.. so can they do it with underwear on just manaveur around the underwear and how far do they go? do i really need to leave it unshaved for 3 weeks thats nastyy. any other things would help! Please and thankkk youu!
First let me just clarify for you what the types of wax mean:-
Bikini: Literally just the hair from the bikini line is removed. This means any hair that would show if you were wearing a high cut bikini.
French Bikini: Slightly more hair is removed than with a standard bikini wax. Hair further down will also be removed, the beautician won't go all the way back to the buttocks and hair will be left on the labia.
Brazilian: All hair is removed except for a thin strip at the front, above your labia. There will be no hair left on your labia, underneath or buttocks.
Hollywood: All off. Literally everything.
Personally, I would recommend waxing. It saves the annoyance of having to shave and it leaves you smoother for longer. The good thing about waxing is that the more you do it, the longer regrowth takes and the finer the hair will be when it does come back.
Bikini and French bikini are good places to start as not alot of hair is removed and you can keep your knickers on. The downside is that you will still be left with most of your hair. If you prefer your pubic hair to be at a minimum then you'd probably be more pleased with the results of a Brazilian or Hollywood wax.
With a Brazilian or Hollywood, you will need to strip and spread your legs. Most salons offer paper knickers which the beautician will move around to get to the areas they need to but to be honest, they don't make alot of difference. It is embarrassing at first but you have to remember that the person waxing you is an experienced professional. They do this all day every day and won't bat an eyelid. It always reassures me to know that I won't be the worst they've seen by far.
It DOES hurt. I'd be lying if I said it didn't. Bikini and French bikini waxes are less painful than Brazilians and Hollywoods because the hair is removed from less delicate areas. Taking two Ibuprofen and two Paracetemol (they're safe to take together) 30-45 minutes before your wax will help a little.
A word on regrowth - ideally hair needs to be around 1cm long before a wax. Any shorter and it will be much more painful and the hair will be really difficult to remove.
Here are some links on bikini waxing, what happens and how to find a good salon:
well me and my boyfriend love each other! and we slep together alot of times. but whenever we have sex i always get worried and afraid that im pregnant! but it always turns out to be false. well last time we slept together was in beginning of april. i took a plan B pill right after and got my period a week later when my regular period is supposed to be like... today? i took a pregnancy test 17 days after having sex and it came out to be negative. but i didnt get my period yet. i got a huge fever yesterday and so im really dizzy and headaches and cramps... i dont know im really worried. cause im really young and my parents would kill me! please help :/
Why the hell aren't you using any contraception?
Plan B is NOT to be used as a regular form of contraception. It is for use in emergencies only, when your other method(s) have failed (e.g. the condom breaks or you forgot to take your Pill). As you have discovered first hand, the morning after pill messes with your hormones, which is why your periods have changed. If you took Plan B within 24 hours of having sex, had a period and have produced a negative pregnancy test result then it's pretty safe to say you're not pregnant and your period should return to normal soon.
In future, don't be so stupid. If you're going to be having regular sex and don't want to get pregnant then you need to be using contraception. There are various methods available, including the Pill, patch, injection, coil and implant. Condoms are also an option but as they are less reliable than other methods, I wouldn't advise you use them as your only form of protection. It would be wise to use them in conjunction with another method to be extra safe. Of course, condoms are essential if you are not 100% sure that neither of you have any STI's (and 100% means you've both been tested since your last sexual partners, not "well neither of us have slept with anyone else...").
Here are some websites which contain information on the various contraceptives available, including side effects, how they work and their effectiveness:
i have braces and i was wondering if the dermal monroe witch is the one that doesnt go all the wasy threw your lip affect braces ?
I have had many piercings, including a microdermal and some other unusual and complex ones so hopefully you'll find my advice on this topic useful.
You are correct in thinking that a microdermal anchor piercing doesn't go all the way through. Instead it is literally 'anchored' into the skin. However, it isn't a good idea to get a microdermal as an alternative to a standard monroe piercing. The area moves too much which means the piercing probably won't heal properly and will be much more likely to migrate or reject altogether. Microdermals are better suited to low-movement areas which allow the piercing to sit straight.
The good news is that a standard monroe piercing shouldn't affect your braces. The bar will be held in place by a flat disk which should sit flush against your lip and not interfere with your gums. An experienced piercer will be able to position the monroe so that it doesn't go anywhere near your braces.
As with all piercings there are risks to consider and I strongly recommend you do your research before deciding whether or not to do it. This page gives a basic overview of the procedure and healing of a monroe piercing as well as a guide to prices:
You can also read about the risks involved when getting any piercing here:
And here is some more specific information about the risks associated with lip piercings:
It is also important that you find an experienced body piercer at a good studio to perform the piercing. This page will give you some tips on how to find a good piercer:
So about two weeks (sat. apr2) ago me and this guy went to my school together where we really hit it off. He kissed me a couple times and it was just amazing.
As someone who's going through this exact situation right now, I feel your pain. Like you, there were two dates, both of which went great and ended with him expressing interest in seeing me again.
During the next week he said how he could really see us together sometime soon, so I was pretty happy. (:
So then the next weekend (sat. apr 9) we went out on a date again. We both had a really great time and he said how we should definitely go out again. So I took that as a good sign. Then I didnt hear from at all until thursday, the 14. And even then our convo. didn't last long! I haven't heard from him since and I'm just really confused about what's going on. It is spring break, so I'm pretty sure he's on vacation so that would make sense, but still!
He acted extremely interested in me, we both had a great time together at both dates, and now what! I'm so confused. What do you think?
The trouble with men is that they don't always realise they've done anything wrong. If he is on vacation then it's unlikely he's even considered the fact that he's confusing you.
If you can, drop him a casual text asking how he is or mentioning that you haven't heard from him a while. Something along those lines. Just keep it lighthearted and don't give him any hint of the fact that his attitude is bothering you because another trouble with men is that they freak out over really little things (like a girl they were seeing expressing a desire to have contact with them). If he doesn't reply then leave it be. He obviously isn't the amazing guy you thought he was if he can't even be bothered to text you back.
Alternatively, wait until you're sure he's back from vacation and see if he gets in touch. Again, if he doesn't then just forget about it.
I know it's upsetting when someone stops showing an interest in you for no apparent reason but remember that you were fine before you started thinking of him romantically and you'll be fine after too.