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My guy friend is mad at me. I called him a couple days ago to apologize and he didn't listen to me...I didn't even do anything!! I just said something after he pissed me off! But I've known him sooo long and I don't wanna ruin our friendship over something as stupid as this! Should I apologize again??? Help! (link)
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I don't know that I would "apologize" again, but, maybe you need to talk to him and explain some things. Go talk to him and see if you can get him to listen to you. Guys can be so stubborn sometimes you'd just like to kick 'em. :)
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i had this best friend named ryley when i was about 5 years old years old!! we lived next door to me and we did EVERYTHING together!but then when i was 8 he moved and i never saw him again and now i am really starting to miss him. My boyfriend goes to his church and a few weeks ago he said his best friend ryley from church asked if he knew me!he said yes and ryley told him we used to be best friends!now i really want to call him since i know now that he remembers me! but i dont know what i would say!i sure did change alot from when i was 8 til now im 14.i dont even know if he cares or wants to talk to me..what should i do? (link)
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I think he must remember having fun with you or he wouldn't have mentioned it! By all means get in touch with him and let him know what has happened with you. Have your boyfriend see if he has an email address and write a long letter for starters to break the ice. Then just call or talk to him somehow. How great it is that you found an old friend again. That just doesn't happen everyday! :)
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Hey my friend and I have been friends for a long time. We promised to be best friends forever. Lately though, I feel as if we've grown apart. Just recently we have been going to different middle schools and we won't be meeting up until high school. We haven't been talking to each other much lately, even though we're out for summer break. How can I help improve our relationship? (link)
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Sounds like you need to get in touch and then stay in touch. You don't have to see each other every day to stay friends. Use email and all that to talk. It is easy to get sidetracked when you aren't in the same school and time passes by so quickly! But, with a little effort it can be done. Why don't you make the first move and give your best friend a call. :)
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ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away? (link)
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Being friends will work no matter where he goes. You can write letters and email, you can IM each other etc. Dating is much to hard to do long distance at your age, but friendship can be had from any distance. :)
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ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!
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Yes I think you could tell your mom. Let her help you decide where to go from here. Some secrets are better not kept to yourself and this is one of them. Your friend needs help. It should never happen...not even only once. She doesn't have to put up with that kind of treatment and shouldn't put up with it just to keep changes from happening. :)
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Ok i have this friend...Kerry. We were unseprable in the beginging of the year,always got each others back. But now...we tottaallyy split apart. She got mean to me..so i went into another group..and told them my experience with her. I hate her..and i never want kerry to be friends with my other friends..because i dont want her in my life and i dont want them to get hurt like me. I like my other group..they really do got my back there nice and i think i'll stay with them forever. I like kerry..kinda..but not when shes around them. and i hate her for what she dose to me and she is a poser. She poses my friends and copys them all the time. I hate her for this..but i feel bad for her i dont no why.
I feel sad around her to...and i bdo not no why.
Should i let her go? Im just so mixed up and i do not no what to do
sorry this is long i will rate to 5's (link)
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People usually copy others when they really look up to them...or have no imagination of their own. That doesn't make them bad just annoying. I think you are feeling bad because deep down you probably really like Kerry. It saddens you that you are no longer friends. Why don't you try being friends again and maybe help her develop her own style? But, if you don't want to then that's okay too. Feeling the way you do is normal though. :)
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hi..okay well one of my bestfriends (mary) is saying that i am replacing her and that i dont hangout with her anymore wich isnt true becuz i do..and like i became really good friends with this other girl (beth) and mary is like saying that i replaced her with beth and that i hangout with her all the time and stuff and i dont like hangout with her and i mean i hangout with beth alot but its becuz she always asks me to hangout and mar never does...and shes saying that every1 is saying that and like wat should i do?
thanks,
julie (link)
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Mary is jealous that you aren't spending all your time with only her. You need to explain that just because you hang out with Beth sometimes you don't like her any less. Is there a reason you can't all be friends? Mary will just have to get over it. :)
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ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?! (link)
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Tell all your friends "no more secrets!". Just tell them you can't promise to keep them any more because you're about ready to explode. :)
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theres this guy im tryin to block outta my life (my x boy friend)
but i jus cant each time i talk to him my heart sinks cuz i think im still in love but i dont wanna admit it cuz i wanna keep thinkin im a strong person. how can i find away 2 get over this. i dont know what to do......when we broke up it was mutual we both wanted it but now hes sayin he broke up with me. after we broke up he i asked him if we could be together again an he said no. ive been heart broken for a while but i wanna get over it (it happened in march/april)
look how far ago that was. i want to be his friend but he keeps sayin i need to change ans that pisses me off. when we were dating he like other grls. an that also pissed me off so when we broke up he didnt even coupe er nothin he already was all over someone else. i dont know what to do how do i make this pain stop how can i aviod him. he lives down the block, sure i havent seen him in 3 weeks but sumtimes he aims me an i wanna block it but i jus dont have the heart to because we r still "friends"
but you think you can help me? (link)
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Getting over someone is always really hard. The best way to get over someone is to find someone (or something) to take their place. I know that seems almost impossible to think about but its the only thing that will get your mind off him.
It could be that your can be friends someday. I think some time is going to have to pass first though. Its all to fresh right now and you aren't getting over him to fast. I think the fact that he has moved on so quickly should tell you that your feelings were much deeper than his.
I really wish I knew how guys do that because it always seems to be so easy for them to move on. I think girls have take everything more to heart than they do.
Maybe next time he aims you, you could tell him that you really want to be friends but you are still trying to deal with it all. Maybe he needs to give you another couple of months before he tries to talk to you again. I know it is hard and I wish I had some better wisdom to give you on this. It just takes time but you will get over it. Go find yourself the best looking hunk around and go after him. You will feel better soon. I am half kidding but you really should. :)
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Recently I went to a dinner with my mom and sister that had a whole bunch of my relatives. My cousin Emily is 16, but she looks way older. Anyways, since she looks older, the waiter automatically served her wine. She had a lot of it. Turns out she drinks a lot. What should I do? She lives with her dad and I don't know where. That could have been the last time I've seen her (link)
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16 year olds and sometimes even younger people can indeed be alcoholics. I think you should mention it to your mom (if you haven't already) and let her deal with it. She will know who to contact in the family to get her help. :)
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14/f....Ok people this is like serious so dont be like rude about this...
Well my dad is very sick with an illness and like today is fathers day and everything and he was talking to me and was like "you know my medicine isnt working anymore...and like this is the last fathers day that i will be with yall and he was telling me how he wont be able to see us graduate or see his grandkids.and like i looove my dad so freakin much and like when me and my siblings were younger he wasnt really in our lives and then he came into our lives again about 2 years ago and liek when he wasnt in our lives i hated it i hated myself.....and i could never imagine being w/out him again..i dont know what to do i meen i cant talk to my family or anyone about it becasue im just not that kind of person it feels waaaaay to wierd to me...like he always tell me stuff liek "when he dies he wants ...blah blah blah" and like i cant freakin take it this is soo muc pressure of me and i think about it every single day and like earlier today i was balling my eyes out thinking that this was the last fathers day wioht him...i wish that this big nightmare would just go the freak away! i really dont know how to deal with this guys and i have no one to talk to it about..i love my daddy so much and i dont ever want him to leave.and liek i know its kinda stubborn but im like always kinda rude to him..you know how every teenager is..but like he is always liek do you hate me and i just wat to say "HATE YOU OF COURSE NOT DAD I LOOOVE YOU SOO EFFIN MUCH" but i cant.and like does anyone know sumthing special i can do for him like not today cause its already late but like another day..for fathers day..and also can you help me with the whole not being able to see him again...
Thanks soo much guys ! (link)
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You really do need to talk about it with your family. You need to pull together and make dads time the best it can be. You honestly won't get another shot at it later. He is being so honest with you and you need to spend as much time with him as you can. I think just being there for him and letting him talk to you about things he may want for you in the future is the best gift you can give him.
Ask him things you think you might want to know later. It will make him feel good. Ask what should you look for in a husband someday. Ask him who he thinks should walk you down the aisle when you get married (in his place). Ask him things you might need to know in the FUTURE. If you get my meaning. Things he won't be there to tell you later. Maybe he can make you a video tape of all these things for future reference. Sounds morbid but maybe that's what hes trying to do now. Sorry that he is sick. That's rough and will only get rougher. Just let him help prepare you for it. Don't turn away when he wants to talk about it, okay? I know it is so much pressure and so much to deal with, but its something he has to do for his peace of mind.
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my grandmother is making me go to therapy again. i don't wanna go, and i don't see the point of wasting the money for me to talk to someone just so they can't say anything about it to her. my grandmothers reasoning is that she feels that my friends may talk to their parents about what i say and she wants me to be able to talk to someone that won't be able to say anything about it to her. now im not normally rebelious and something that i just got back is at stake if i tick her off, so should i just go though it to please her or say something??? ill rate high for good advice!! (link)
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I think its good that you can have someone to talk to about things. Why is it grandma doesnt want to know what is going on with you herself? A little strange. But, since you have things at stake I'd go along with the therapy. Therapists can be good for you. Just tell them everything and anything that's bothering you. Even this. :)
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I'm a 14 yr. old girl. My Mom is going to college for a 2nd time. She's just had her heart broken. She's drawing from her life savings, so this is her last chance for school. The problem is, she is so hurt, she can't sleep or study. She drinks more than she used to. She won't talk to me about it much (I thinks she thinks I won't understand). (link)
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If she won't talk to you then maybe you could have a grandparent or aunt talk to her. Someone like that. Or maybe she has a best girlfriend she can talk to? Hope so. :)
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Alright I have these cousins who are like my best friends and they have money...they arnt rich rich but they have good money. Well they get to go to California and Las Vegas and my family can't go anywhere...I think I'm jelous! is that bad? (link)
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Naw, its not bad. Its only natural to want things someone more fortunate has. It is kind of a waste of energy though. Give you some incentive to work hard so you might someday have those same things. :)
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I am 13 and female. My crush is 13 and male. I have been having a crush on the same guy since 5th grade. I made it clear that i liked him in 5th and 6th grade, but he clearly told me he liked me as a friend. This year I am going into 8th grade and i still have a crush on him. The only problem is is that he is going out with my best friend, Sarah, and i am going out with another guy, so i could try and stop thinking about him. By the way it did not work at all. Now the guy i like is thinking about breaking up with Sarah, and talks to me everyday. He is my best friend and i am his. We have some of the same problems and have similar interests. Does he like me? What should I do?? (link)
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If he clearly told you he liked you as a friend then you need to believe him until he tells you otherwise. I suppose you can ask him if his feelings for you have changed any. Its the only way you will truly know for sure. :)
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ok so theres this guy named kevin who i've liked since 2 years ago. We dated for like 6 months and i honestly have to say i loved him. I miss him alot, its so hard to realize were actually over. He says he misses me too, and talks about driving down to see me. but it never happens. My birthday i didnt even have a party because he was suposed to come and take me out. And he didnt even show up. He called the next day and told me he couldnt that he forgot. It was really upseting. He does live like 2 hours away or so, and i know it really shouldnt be worth it, but for you girls who know what love is actually like , its hard to try n "forget about him". I used to have so many problems at home and he was the one i could talk to. At one point he was the only person i trusted with anything. He knew it all. and now its diffrent, but i havent told him yet how much i still love him and care about him. I just need some help on how to tell him. I wanna do it while i have the chance, so if someone could just give me an idea on how to tell him, if i even should tell him or what they think.
i rate good for good advice.
thanks,
-me. (link)
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You know, he must not feel the same if he could make plans with you and then just "forget". I don't know. I suppose you can tell him how you feel and see if it changes anything. I just think you should be prepared. One thing is sure...you'd know how he feels once and for all. :)
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OK so there is this guy I really like and I told him that I had some feelings for him well a few nights after that he starts to flirt with me and stuff and saying he wouldn't mind if I held his hand or kissed him than the next day I get an email saying "I have you blocked, sorry, I don't really want to talk or meet with
you.. it will jsut cause too many problems for me, it's not you. I
just don't go with al the stress, find someone else to love, I am not
the one for you.. sorry about all this, but this is how I want it.
Maybe in a while we can be just friends.. we shall see." and i emaild him back saying that its ok and i dont mind but when i check to see who all deleted me off msn messenger he was one of them on the list. and i really do like him i just dont know what to do I mean i dont even care if he likes me or not just being friends is enough for me. How do I get him to re add me and talk to me again like we used to?????? (link)
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Hmm, well he doesn't want any contact right now. I think I'd leave him alone for now. Like he said maybe you can be friends later. He must have some stuff going on (maybe a girlfriend already). So, let it go for now. :)
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Please don't skip this cause it's long. It's good and here I go okay I have this boyfriend that left for the summer well technically were not really going out but we didn't break up we just decided it wouldn't work out long distance. We were just going to get back together once he came back well the thing is since he left we've been going through some rough times I really do love him and were crazy about eachother we've been going out for eight months. So here's the problem this other guy came into play which happens to be a really good friend of mine and we were talking and he wants to go out again. And please don't be like then you really don't love the other guy if your even thinking about dating another guy cause c'mon girls we all do it. But see I really wanna be with the guy that I've been with for eight months but see I don't know if there is ever gonna be anything between us because of all the fighting we've been doing. So I'm thinking getting with the second guy might not be such a bad idea. So please help me which one should I pick? I'm so damn confussed. here's some background info. The guy I've been with I cheated on with the second guy.I've dated both guys. Plus the first guy has cheated on me too. Im 14 the first guy is 15 and the second guy is 16. The two guys know about eachother and hate eachother. (link)
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Since you are technically not dating the guy who's out of town, I see no problem with dating they other guy. If it doesnt work out then get back with Mr long distance when he gets back. :)
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I've always used a note to break up with someone because I'm shy and when I break up with my boyfriends, I wouldn't be able to look them in their face or be able to talk because I'd be so nervous. So my question is: What's the best way to break up with a guy? You know, like note, phone, in person, online? (link)
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I think its only fair to do it in person. They will have whys, and they deserve an answer. :)
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Okay..im a redhead..and alot of times wen i go out and meet guys n stuff theyre interested in me..but theyre more interested in the blondes or brunettes. Im not your usual redhead..i have tan skin and my hair isnt as frizzy and i dont have that many freckles. Do guys not like redheads? (link)
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Not according to my husband. He likes redheads. He doesn't have one...he has a brunette, but he'd like a redhead. So, hang in there I think they like redheads just fine! :)
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