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I'm 16, and I don't want a relationship right now because I just got out of a really long one and I'm enjoying being single. But now that I am single it seems that every guy is wanting to date me and I just want to be friends. I'm usually the type of person that takes things fast with guys, but I'm trying to change my priorities and try and become friends before the whole dating thing. But every guy that wants to get with me takes it the wrong way when I say, "I just want to stay single right now because I've gotten out of a long relationship and I'd rather be friends right now." After that they act really cool with the idea but after a couple weeks they stop talking to me, and then the next time I see them they get shitty with me because they feel insulted that I don't want to date them. I want to keep my guy friends and stop worrying about losing them just because I don't feel like dating at this point in time. And I have no clue how to say this with out hurting anyone's feelings or making them think that I'm not interested. They all take it that I a m shooting them down, which I am not at all trying to do. Many of the guys I do kind of like, but I want to stay single until I truly feel ready to date someone and I will know when that is, because I don't want to jump into the next available relationship and have it end quickly. I want to take my time and find a guy that will treat me right. I'm only 16 so I have plenty of time to stay single and find the right guy. So please help me! Is there anyway I can explain to these guys how I am feeling without them getting pissed off and thinking I'm shooting them down with the whole "just friends" line? (link)
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I think any true friends guys or not should be understanding. Tell them you just aren't ready to get back into the whole dating ritual right now, but you would like to get to know them better. Maybe you just go have a soda with them or something but not a real "Date" kind of thing.
You get what I mean? Don't turn them down cold, just don't commit to being their girlfriend either. Let each have a mini date...well, the ones you like. When you get to know one of them well enough and think you'd like to date him, then go for it. By the way, if you want to get to know someone more, just ask to meet for a soda (or whatever you want to do on your get together) On another day. Make sure they understand though that it isn't a real date..just a get to know you better thing. Hope it helps! :)
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ok my bf (lets call him ed) was talking about running away. then i was talking about running away. we both have some family problems that we want to get away from. and his friend(lets call him bob)is just a huge risk taker. and one night i was talking to ed and he said that me and him should run away together:-\ and then he said bob would go with us. well, its been about a month now and we sarted talking about how ed didnt want to do it anymore because he is even more sad. and now i dont know if were going or not. i dont know what he means by he is too sad...do you think that means he wants to kill himself or something?
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I think you both need to stay put and deal with your family problems. If you run away you are only avoiding them, they will not go away unless you talk about them with someone and get them taken care of. Running away will only make them worse.
Sounds like you both are depressed and upset. The thing is if you only talk to each other you aren't getting anything done. You are just keeping each other depressed and down in the dumps. I don't know what ed has in mind, but if he is sad enough that you think he may do himself harm then you need to tell someone who cares enough to help him.
I want you to find an adult that you trust and tell them what is going on with you. Maybe they can help you fix some of your problems so that your home life is better. Ed needs to do the same. You take care of your problems and let him take care of his. I hope you get everything back to normal soon. By the way, kids often feel like things can't get worse and get all depressed about it. Most things can be fixed though so work on it instead of running from it. :)
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ok well i know its summer but my friend was making fun of this girl and she told on me but it wasant me so i got in trouble but my punishment was that that girl who my friend made fun of got to make me look stupid. so she made me look fat like wear one of those fat suits and stuff and like she put brown paint on the seat, and i sat in it and it looked like i pooped my pants.then in art she spilled red paint on me and it looked like i had my period. the worst part i had to wear it for a week. everyone made fun of me. then she told the princpal that i made fun of her again but i didnt so she got to add something so she made me wear a diper without the fat suit and she said i pooped my pants and i got my period and that was why i had to wear a dyper. and everyone believed her because no one knew that she was doing it to me it was between me her and the princpal. and now im scared to leave my house because of what people will say. what shoudl i do. ill rate 5's to anyone who gives advice (link)
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What Kind of school do you go to for crying out loud!? Since when is it okay for one person to humiliate another in school? Why are your parents not suing somebody? I think one principle would be answering some questions if you were my kid. I think I'd be contacting the state school board or the local news or something. I think you need to have your parents do something about this. That is just ridiculous.
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okay theres this guy who asked me out about 8 mnths ago and i said no ever since den ive been avin mixed feelings about him.i jus liked him as a freind and did till like 3 mnths ago and i jus realized how much i rely like him i rely need help because i dont know what to do HELP i rely rely rely like himand am afraid that if i dont say something about it he may not like know how i feel and ask someone else out plssss help i rate high (link)
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You probably had just never thought of him in that way until after he asked you out. I think you should go to him and tell him that. Tell him you'd like to try it and see if it will work. :)
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13f. tommorrow is 4th of july. YEAH! i'm going to watch fireworks somewhere pretty far away from my house. (like an hour drive) so i invited a friend to go with me. she and all of my other friends cant because they're going to a party i wasn't invited to. so i'm bummed... right? I have a friend Tom who lives in that town. he's had crushes on me on and off and has told lots of my friends that he thinks i'm hot. he has a huge reputation as a player. but i dont want to be his girlfriend and/or do anything sexual with him. but he wants to hang out that night, and take me wakeboarding that same morning. if i go with him is he gonna make a move? will he think i like him if i agree to go? and if you think i can go and just have a good time with him as friends ... how do i convince my parents to let me spend all day with him (they do not like him at all)?
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Maybe you weren't invited to the party because the party giver knew you would be out of town. Still kinda rude...
You can like a guy and go out with him and still not have sex with him. If he expects you to then he is a horses hiney. He should think you like him though if you go out with him. Just doesn't give him a license to have his way with ya. If he makes a move just tell him you aren't ready for all that and want to stick to just being friends until you are older.
I don't know how you can get your parents to agree to let you go out with him if they don't like him. Maybe if you go out with a group of people they won't be so apt to say no. :)
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ALRIGHT PEOPLE! I need your help! Alright well there is this guy and I think I have a crush on him! butt.. he is like a really horny person.. and like if i ever did go out with him (which I doubt) im afraid hed use me! But i think itd be fun to go out with him! and I have a crush on him.. and hes funny and everything! but I dont want him just to use me for stuff.. and I already told him if I do anything sexual with anyone they are gona be my boyfriend.. what if some how we do end up goin out.. how do I know he isnt using me? But also how do I make him like me for me and not just for sexual stuff!! (link)
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The easiest way is just not to have sex until you have been dating him for awhile. If he sticks around he likes you for something other than for sex. If he takes off...his loss, you don't need him anyway! By the way...they're all horn dogs. :)
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There is this guy I have had a crush on for about 3 years and I dont know what to do. I'm not into the idea of being 13 and having a boyfriend so I dont really want to date him. I'm not sure what to do. I freeze up whenever I pass him in the hallways and stuff, and I just don't know what to do. Please help me! I dont want it to be obvious that I liked him. It took me 2 years to actually get up the courage to tell my friends that I liked him even though I think they had a hunch. One of my friends thinks that he likes me. Oh, please help me. (link)
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Since you aren't into dating at 13 (good for you, by the way), concentrate on making friends with him. I think you will outgrow the freezing up thing as you get older. Lets hope so anyway!
You need to try your best to talk to him. Start out with a hello for a couple of days and add to it until you can hold a conversation. Compliment a haircut or something he's wearing. Once you are friends then one of these days maybe he'll ask you out. If it takes a couple of years to get to that stage so be it. Good luck & start talking! :)
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i love this boy at my school and we are the same age but i dont no if he loves me, i dont no what to do. (link)
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hmm, are you dating him now? If not, get to know him and become friends. Once you get to talking to him it should be pretty easy to figure out if he likes you or not.
If he talks to you all the time. Smiles a lot...just generally seems to like being around you. If he is nice to you and polite. All those things are a pretty good indication that he likes you.
Once you get to be friends and all that (if you aren't already!) then just simply ask him if you aren't sure. :)
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I dated a guy for a few months last year. Things moved way to fast and I found out that I really didn’t like who he was, he was lazy and sports obsessed and treated me like a child. The last straw was a very racist comment he made. I broke up with him almost 6 months ago.
The problem is he still calls me, sends me text messages and insists he wants to talk to me for ‘closure’ and to ‘explain himself’ or just to hear the sound of voice agian. I don’t even like the guy, he kinda creeps me out and have no desire to speak to him ever again. Do I owe him this? Or is okay to just keep saying that I don’t want to talk to him and want him to leave me alone?
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I think its been long enough that you don't need to talk to him again. You don't owe anybody anything. Tell him to leave you alone or you are going to have your parents get a restraining order or something. That might throw a scare into him. If he continues to bother you...do it. :)
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Well let's see....There's this boy that I really like....And a couple weeks ago it seemed like he liked me 2 ...well even then he had a girlfriend but everyone knew that relationship wouldn't work out.....Now he goes out with this other girl that goes to his church during the summer and some during the school year....What really got to me was that I thought he liked me and might would ask me out after him and the first girl broke up but apparently he didn't and it kinda makes me mad cause the girl he dates now is a total slut.... What do I do I mean he is just bound to get hurt by her and I mean I really like him? (link)
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There isn't much you can do. Everyone has to learn from their own mistakes. If you try to tell him she's a slut...well, its you that he will think badly about. He will only feel sorry for her because he'll think you're picking on her. He may just like you as a friend right now since he didn't ask you out when he could have. That's okay. Keep being friends because sooner or later he will realize that you already have a good relationship and may ask you out.
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ok i've never had a bf ever in my life. im kind of over weight and i dont think im very ugly but im prolly not really pretty eaither. i do have some guy friends but not real boy friends. i really want a bf cuz i always see my friends with there bfs kissing and holding hands and hugging etc. i've never been kissed either so i feel so left out cuz all my friends have please give me some good advice and please help me!! (link)
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You could look at it like this. They no longer have anything to look forward to and you do! 13 is still pretty young. The boys are immature and most probably don't take the girls on dates anywhere. They are just at school type boyfriends. I know you want one really bad, but just hang in there. They will be asking you out soon. Keep making friends with them because the ones that are really good friends will make the best boyfriends :)
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Thers a kid named Cam, and he spends every summer at his cousins house, kyle, who happens to be my neighbor. So last summer he liked me alot and I didnt know it because I liked someone else. Then when summer ended I found out and started being OBSESSED with him. But he didnt like me anymore! Then in February he went over kyle's and I had two friends over, so Cam, kyle, my two friends, and I hung out. And at the end of the night kyle told me that Cam didnt really wanna go out with me because he didnt think I would do stuff with him. And I got pissed, so I confronted Cam and told him how shallow that was, then he got mad and blocked me and we didnt talk for about 4 months. Last Sunday he went over kyle's and we hung out and kyle told me he liked me again! But I dont know if I shoul;d like him back cuz I dont wanna get hurt. what do I do? (link)
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Don't rush into "doing stuff" with someone who is only going to be around for the summer. I don't know that I would take Kyles word for weather or not Cam liked you. I think You need to hear it from him before you make to many plans. If he is only here for the summer then yes, you will probably get hurt. He hardly knows you but wants you to do stuff. He will want to do it with other girls when he gets back home again. I think a friendship is okay...don't think I would get real seriously involved. :)
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I recently broke up with my bf of 2 months because we hadn't been seeing each other as much and I felt a distance grow between us... and started to dislike things about him! At the time when we finished it it seemed right to go back to friendship because we get on well in that way, but now I'm really feeling like I shouldn't have split with him and I regret it! What should I do, will this pass or should I tell him how I feel? Even though I broke up with him? Would it be considered messing with his head? :( im not physically attracted to him either this is purely emotional relation...
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I think you should just wait and see if the feeling passes. You say you aren't physically attracted to him so, I doubt it will be anything lasting...if that's what you're looking for. Stay friends for awhile and see if all that changes after some time. :)
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i tried looking up Encare on the internet but i couldn't find any information on it.. =/
if you could, could you send me a site on it. I'd really like to look into it some more.
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Sorry, took me a minute to find something.
try this site
http://www.bigeye.com/sexeducation/spermicides.html
Check out all about vaginal contraceptive suppositories
I used it for years without getting pregnant. Using a condom with it is probably not a bad idea, but if for some reason you don't it shouldn't be a big deal if used properly. They are kind of messy at times but hey, so are diapers (hehe). Let me know if I can help further. YG :)
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Normally I'm the to give advice to girls on this site who think they are pregnant and tell them ways to calm themselves so that the stress doesn't affect them any more. Well, one of my BEST friends told me that she thinks she's pregnant. She is on the pill and uses condoms all the time when she has sex. She finished her pill on Saturday (the 26th) and was supposed to get her period on Monday (the 28th) it is now Thursday, and she still has not gotten it and that it has NEVER been any later than Wednesday. Like I said, I'm normally giving other girls advice on how to stay calm, but I can't keep myself calm! I mean, this is my BEST FRIEND we're talking about. I told her to try to stay calm and take a nice hot bath and think POSITIVE but now it's alittle hard on me. I'm really nervous for her right now. What should I do? To help both me AND her?
I'm going to be there for her no matter what, if she really is pregnant I'm going to be there for her through the whole thing. (link)
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If shes on the pill and uses condoms its not real likely that shes pregnant. She is either stressing, exercising to much, not eating right or some other thing that is causing her to be late. She COULD be, but not likely. Both of you need to go out have a movie and a dinner. Don't discuss it at all for an evening. If it doesn't show up in another week or two then check it out at a clinic. :)
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lately ive been getting horny more often than i used to. what does this mean? am i just going through a weird hormone stage or am i like addicted? (link)
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I think we can blame the poor 'ol hormones. :)
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Ok i am the same one who said she was raped and didnt know how to tell her parents because I was to scared...well see the thing is i am to scared to do that because the guy who raped me was my 18 year old cuzin and he said he would kill me if he found out I told anyone and well since hes my cuzin he will find out that people know very quickly even if he just finds out i told someone i was raped he will find a way to kill me...i really have no clue what to do and I am so freaked out...plz help
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You tell your parents you were raped. You tell them who did it. You let them deal with what to do with him. The cousin took advantage of your friendship and should be in jail.
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Hey Ok well I had sex like a few weeks ago for the first time..and my cherry popped..but then I had sex again and there was blood again! is that normal..or what? is this gonna happen everytime i have sex?
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Probably won't happen again. Could be not all was broken the first time around. You're okay. :)
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i am 14 years old and i have masterbated quiet a few times. I was wondering......i have not had my period for 6 monthes now and wanted to know if my masterbating could have effected that? also i wanted to know if a gynocologist can tell if you have masterbated? because i do not want my mother to now! please help me! (link)
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A simple no to both questions. :)
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well after my gf dumped me, we became "friends with benifits." we still make out and ive touched her boobs and she's given me a hj. is this a bad thing? she's the one who dumped me for another guy (whose ass i kicked). does this mean that she still likes me??? (link)
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She does but evidently not enough to be your girlfriend. I think friends with benefits is not a good thing. For one it keeps one or the other person thinking that there is more to the relationship than there is. It also keeps a person from moving on. I think you should find someone new and put distance between you and the ex for awhile. :)
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