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Big Mistake Guy. Do I hafta listen to his side?
I dated a guy for a few months last year. Things moved way to fast and I found out that I really didn’t like who he was, he was lazy and sports obsessed and treated me like a child. The last straw was a very racist comment he made. I broke up with him almost 6 months ago.
The problem is he still calls me, sends me text messages and insists he wants to talk to me for ‘closure’ and to ‘explain himself’ or just to hear the sound of voice agian. I don’t even like the guy, he kinda creeps me out and have no desire to speak to him ever again. Do I owe him this? Or is okay to just keep saying that I don’t want to talk to him and want him to leave me alone?
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Change your phone number and shut off all contact. If it's been this long already and he's still contacting you, etc., it's the beginnings of him stalking you.
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I think that you should just tell him to leave you alone, because that it a little creepy and it seems kind of obsessive there which is kinda weird..and even if you did talk to him and start maybe hanging out with him again, he'll probably just go back to being lazy,sports obsessed,and treating you like a child, so really, there is no point to talking to him again. And also because you don't like him! And also racist comments, are very rude! And I wouldn't want to hang out with a person like that!..Hope I helped!!
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MELii
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Hi,
I actually was in the same situation as you once. I date a guy and then things turned in the wrong direction and I had the same desire as you not to ever see him or talk to him again. He kept contacting me and asking me if we could meet one more time, etc. I felt sorry for him and decided to give him a chance to "explain himself" although I had no desire to meet with him. That was a HUGE MISTAKE!!!! I met him at a cafe, I listened to what he had to say, got up and walked out. He followed me to where I lived after my pleas to leave me alone and pinned me up against the wall of my building threatening to do something to me if I didn't stay and talk to him more. My suggestion would be to not talk to the guy. If he doesn't get you now, he never will. And by seeing him and telling him in person that you don't want to be with him will anger him even more.
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I think its been long enough that you don't need to talk to him again. You don't owe anybody anything. Tell him to leave you alone or you are going to have your parents get a restraining order or something. That might throw a scare into him. If he continues to bother you...do it. :)
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if you really think that you do never wnat to talk to him tell him he really needs to leave you alone and that somethings he said to you really hurt
well hope i helped
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I suggest listening to him as a last favor, just to show him that you're the better person at least. Just make sure he understands that you want him to leave you alone though.
I had the same kind of problem. Just talk to him and eventually he'll get the idea and back off... if he doesn't and it gets serious then I suggest telling somebody else.
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stop responding to his texts... hang up if he calls, or just dont answer it. he doesnt seem like a good guy and i dont think you should have anything to do with him. eventually hes gonna leave you alone. you dont owe him anything. good luck!
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