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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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im a girl and ive had sex with three different boys,
it has never ever felt good for me.
why is htis?
how coudld i change htis?!?!?
i dont understand
Edited Answer: First time in a long time I have guessed wrong on someones age. Most of what I said earlier still stands, especially about teaching your lover how you like to be touched and made love too. Even college boys are more lust driven that love driven. The same goes for your comfort and security. You are not going to get off if your worried about yours or his roommate walking in on you while making love.
As to the question is there something wrong with you? I really don't think there is. A lot of women are more clitoral in there stimulation . My wife is one of them. This is what I mean by teaching your lovers. You need to find positions in which you can keep your clit stimulated during sex. Missionary sex with just thrusting will not stimulate your clit, sufficiently as the penis does not maintain come in full contact with the clit. Doggy style is one position where you and your lover can enjoy intercourse and either of you can manually stimulate your clit while having intercourse.
Of course since you have concerns about whether or not everything is in order with your sex organ it is not a bad idea to get a full check up by you gynecologist. Be sure to be open with the doctor. You are not the first nor will be the last women to come to the doctor with these concerns. Unless you tell the doctor everything that concerns you the doctor cannot help you. Don't be surprise if the doctor suggest you see a sex therapist. Don't come unglued; sex therapist are not some strange person you go to too have sex with. They are psychologists trained in sex therapy, talk therapy, who can help you with how to enjoy sex more as a clitoral women. Things like different positions and how to teach your lover how to satisfy you with out destroying his manhood.
One last thing: If you are using your parent insurance to see the doctor. Your doctors visits are totally confidential; they cannot as a matter of law release any information to your parents without your written consent. The only exception is if you are unconscious and dying and next of kin consent is need to save your life.
The insurance company will and is required to send to your parents something called and Explanation of Benefits (EOB. Here again this is something that is a matter of law and cannot be stopped. By virtue of this EOB they will know that you have seen a doctor and the doctors name, but not what you where seen for. It is up to you if you wish to tell them. You have every right to say it is a private matter. There are two things you might want to consider saying to them if they ask about why you are seeing a doctor and that is; you are not pregnant and have not been raped. As a parent of a girl who is far from my protective help those are the two things I would be worried about the most.
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It would help if I knew your age. The fact that you say boys and not men leads me to believe you are most probably under 18, still living at home and still in high school. If I'm correct the following is what I believe is the problem.
First and foremost the problem is more the boys than yours. Guys if your age are only interested in one thing, ejaculation,getting off as it is called. They need to release the sexual tension built up in their bodies. Masturbation will do just fine an you guy probably did that once or twice before your date.
It is much different for a girl. Where a boy needs little or no stimulation's, a girl simply taking her panties off is enough for him. A girl needs foreplay. Different women need more or less foreplay. Women need to feel comfortable and safe when having sex. If your trying to have sex before one of your parents come home, then you can't possibly feel safe. If your having sex in the back seat of a car safe and comfortable are also out of the question.
The first thing you must so to have enjoyable sex is find someplace that is comfortable and safe. Like a motel or your bedroom when you know your parents aren't going to walk in on you. Then you need to slow your boyfriend down and teach him how to make love to you. Tell him flat out you want to be made love to not fucked. You don't enjoy being fucked and if that is all he wants hand him a piece of wood with a knot hole in it, he will get the message.
To teach him how to make love to you, you must first learn what it is you like and don't like. To do this go in your bedroom and lock the door. Get undressed in front of a mirror if you can and caress yourself as you undress. Once you are naked and have finished caressing yourself, for the moment, move to your bed and lay down. Now start to masturbate; play with your breast, pull on your nipples, tease your clit, finger yourself and if you are into it play with your butt hole.
Work yourself to an orgasm, you'll know it when it happens. Once it does you will know what it takes to get you there. Guys may be stupid, at least when it comes to sex, but they ain't dump. You need to show them the how and the what, even the way to make oral love to you as no two women like it the same way.
I would be remiss as an adult if I didn't throw in a small lecture. Her again not knowing your age hinders me some. Having full intercourse at a young age can come with serious adult consequence's. Not just the fact that you can get yourself pregnant, but STDs and AIDs. Condoms and birth control are not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy or stopping the spread of STDs or AIDs. Hand-job's, fingering and even oral sex should be more than enough to provide the sexual relief either you or your boyfriend need while still providing you the opportunity to explore your sexuality. Also there is still a double standard out there. A boy can sleep around all he wants and he is a BMC, Big Man on Campus. If a girl sleeps around, she is a slut; you don't need that tag. End of lecture
Ok, so i woke up today a week before christmas and i have a really bad sinus infection!!! My family members had it last week, but i heard it can last around 2 weeks. But thats not all, I have a temperature of 102 my feet are freezing, and i have no voice, does anyone have anything to help?
If your sinuses are truly infected you need antibiotics to kill the infection. The fact that you have a fever says this is more than the sniffles. You need to check in with your doctor or seek a doctors help for a walk-in clinic or hospital emergency room. You will have a much nicer Christmas if you do this today.
my friend was afraid to say anything to her parents i would as well she told me she masterbated for along time but she started to have well problems and she didn't know what else to do and could it be possible she ended up having an std germ or something on her hands plz and thank you!! ;)
Is it possible to get an STD from Masturbation? Highly unlikely, a lot of factors would have to come together with almost perfect timing for this to happen.
The best advise I can offer your friend is if she is having a problem she need to see a doctor, preferably a Gyn. Even though it is highly unlikely she has an STD, something as common as a yeast infection can turn very serious if left untreated.
Never ever be afraid to seek a doctors help. If you are over the age of 13 everything you tell your doctor is confidential and cannot be told to anyone, even your parents, without your permission. You have the right to see your doctor alone without your mother being in the exam room with you. If you want to see your doctor in private say so and if you mother has walked in with you the doctor or nurse will ask her to leave, this is your right under HIPA
This is all part of Federal Legislation known as HIPA: Health Information Privacy Act. There are severe penalties for the release of information to anyone, including the insurance company, without your expressed written permission. This act covers anyone who provides any type of medical aid, which includes Fire Fighters and EMTs in their role as first responders.
I am in college and I currently live about an hour away from my family. I have two younger sisters, 14 and 16, and my family is moving from Minnesota to Texas after this school year. I have really fit into my college and really like it here, I even managed to set it up where I will be able to graduate a year early. But I feel like I should be closer to my family and more importantly closer to my younger sisters to be the protective older brother. So, should I transfer schools or should I stay?
I cannot tell you if you should move or not move with your family. What I can do is point out something you should consider while making your decision.
First: changing schools may cause you to set your plans back more than just the year early than you presently have for graduating. Your new college may not accept all of your credits from your preset school which would force you to retake certain courses. Frankly I believe this has more to do with the school revenue source then the acceptance of what was taught as you have the option of testing out of the course, for a fee.
Next: While I think it is great of you to want to be the protective older brother; making a new life for themselves in Texas will be hard enough for your sisters. Have you asked them if they want their older brother around learning at potential boy friends? Your only as far away as your cell phone should they need brotherly advice.
Next: Are you not entitled to a life too? Have you not made a life for yourself at your present school. When you graduate where will your educational abilities take you? Will the jobs you have been educated for take you back to Minnesota or on to Texas or to other places in this country?
As I said in the beginning I would not be offering you an answer to your question, only question I feel you need to consider before making a decision. If you need to take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side label it stay on the other side label it go to Texas. The list all the reasons to stay and all the reasons to go. Follow which ever list is longer. In the end the decision has to be yours alone for you have to live with the results.
umm about my other problem im just a teen im only 13 im not a mother still
I apologize for miss reading your original question.
Your 13 years old; Are you a good or bad daughter? I don't think that is the real issue here. Besides the fact that you are using the question sort of rules out the bad daughter question.
What is at issue is the mood swings, the screaming and some other issues you may be experiencing. At 13 years of age boys and girl go through puberty which continues in some through their early twenties. Girls, for reasons I'm not truly aware of, seem to have more problems with puberty then boys.
A girl has all the problems of her body changing, dealing with her period, the hormonal changes taking place. Then there are the external changes to her life. The social changes at school and at home. At 13 you are considered a young adult so more is expected of you. Then there are boys and learning to deal with the hormonal changes they are dealing with and how to fend them off.
This is a lot to heap on someone of any age let alone someone your age or even younger. You deal with it by being short tempered, constant mood swings, stubbornness and even being somewhat rebellious. Does any of this fit you? If you see yourself in any of what I have just written I would suggest checking in with the family doctor. Tell the doctor everything that is going on in your life, mood, sings, crying for no reason whatever has changed. There is medication that can help you while you adjust to all the changes going on in your life.
There is one thing I saw that I'm not entirely sure has to do with puberty and that has to do with the camera. To me that was selfish of you to demand that of you parents. Only you know if you were this way before puberty. If you were then this is something you have to work on.
If as I am thinking that most of what you have written is brought on by puberty, and I think I'm right as you sound a lot like one of my nieces at your age. Then I also suggest that you sit down with mom and ask if you can have a mother daughter talk. You start by apologizing for how you have been behaving lately. Then ask her for help with some of the changes your going through. Your mom went through them and she will remember how she felt, she may have just forgotten what it was like until you ask for help.
As parents there is nothing you will see or do that we haven't already seen or done. Our job is to help you through the tough times in your life and help you find a safe passage. You will do the same for your children.
As a parent I can tell you there is nothing my child can do to make me stop loving him. I may get upset or mad at him. But in the end my love will come through and I will move heaven and earth to make things right. I'm sure your parents will and eventually you will for your children. So no matter what happens now in or in the future never be fearful of going to your parents for help. They are the ones in this world who truly love you. End of lecture.
I am a senior in high school located in NY. I applied to 12 colleges, them being.
1. Agnes Scott (mistake, sorta).
2. Arizona State U
3. College of Charleston
4. Coastal Carolina
5. East Carolina
6. Fisher College
7. Greensboro College
8. Johnson & Wales - Charlotte
9. Mitchell College
10. UNC Charlotte
11. SUNY Plattsburgh
12. Washington college
So far. i've gotten denied by 5 of them.... I have a average of a 80 in my school, which isn't to great, i know.
And only accepted by 1..that being fisher with a 5k scholarship.
My ACT i scored a 14 composite.... again, i know i'm a failure.
I was wondering if anyone knew of any fairly simple colleges that could accept me, preferably along the east coast with warm weather.
any help given is greatly appreciated!
Thank you
Edited answer: In today's Washington Post, in the Metro Section, there is an article that talks directly to your question. Some people who find themselves in the same position you are have chosen to look to England for College. Not only have they saved money, as the English Schools cost less, but they have shaved a year off their education as English Colleges generally have 3 year curriculums. The money saved more than makes up for the added travel costs and you get a real life lesson in history as well as an education as best English Colleges are older than our Country is.
It may not be to late to apply. Go to www.washingtonpost.com and select metre section to read the article. Then talk to your parents and guidance councilor.
As I see it you have two choices. You stay at home and attend your local community college to improve your grades and get the prerequisite course taken care of. Option two would be to accept the Fisher College offer and the 5K scholarship, which says something about what they see in you.
If you chose to go to a community college you can then transfer into an in state school or another school to complete your degree. Transferring to an in state school is better as all of your credits will be accepted. Were as some of your credits at out of state schools may not be accepted and you will have to repeat the courses.
Fisher may be a better choice then you think.Fisher is a small school that can offer a better learning environment then some of the larger party schools
My advice is to talk with your parents. Weigh all your options. You may get one or two more offers. If not decide if Fisher is right for you or if starting in a community college is the best course to follow. Whatever you decide you are not a failure. You have choices and now you need a plan. No one that has choices and a plan to follow is a failure.
Please take this as the advice of someone old enough to be your grandparent.
Ok, so. we are not dating now because of his parents, but when he turns 17 i will turn 19 a month later, but can he legally tell his parents at 17 years old in Georiga that "he is going to date her no matter what they say" and as long as he follows the legal laws and does not have sexual contact with her, are they allowed to "date"?
I am not aware of any law that specifically says a person must be of a certain age to date. some towns and villages may have an ordinance to that effect but I don't think so.
The only law that would be applicable to your question is the Statutory Rape Statue. This law does not require sex to happen between the two people. It assumes it could have happened if the two are: more than 4 years apart in age and one of the two is over legal age. Legal is generally meant to be over 18. This statute varies from state to state and it is best to consult legal aid or a lawyer if you have a question about it.
The fact that there is only 2 year difference in age between you has me believing you won't run a foul of this law. It is always best to check.
There is a federal law titled the "Mann Act". This law basically says if you take someone across state lines for the sole purpose of having sex with them you could be in violation of this law.
For more information on both these laws you can research them on the web or as I said visit the local legal aid center.
Hello,Hope you can help ,Well im a young teen my mother i love her ive notice i talk horable to her and raise my voice .. Ignore her but i love her she forgives me she buys me every thing i ask for some times she cant a fored it and i go ahead and get fussy again i tell her im sorry ive told her i loved her ..Christmas is near i asked for a pro camara ..She said it cost a lot i got mad She told me ..She can by me a reguler one .. I refused and said then dont buy me nothing ..she got mad .. But just the other day i heard her talking to my dad saying that maybe next year i felt terrible i told her ..Mom i dont want absalutly nothing this christmas huged her and left she came toi me and asked she didnt under stand me i was crying so i had to repeat i said its because youve done so much but my sister told me she got me a camara for christmas ..Am i a bad daughter What can i do to stop being so mean so stupied ?
(I tend to do it a lot ) Thank you
Are you a bad daughter? There is not enough information here to get a really good feel of who you are to truly answer that question. The fact that you are remorseful when you act bratty when you don't get what you want; says while you may not be the best of daughters your not the worst of daughters either.
What I picked up on though was the fact that you are a "young teen mother". As a mother of any age your focus should be on you child(ren) not solely yourself. Like your mother buying the camera for you even though she really could not afford to do so, because that is what parents do.
You don't say if you asked for any thing for your child. Things like clothes, food, toys and things. I'm thinking that maybe your parents are already providing that stuff and is the reason other things are unaffordable at this time.
What you need is an attitude adjustment. You have brought a child into this world, the child did not ask to be brought into this world. Even though you may be a young teen mother your world stops and you focus on that child for at least the next 18 years. Nothing comes before the well being of that child.
Being a good daughter or a bad daughter is not the question. If I am correct in my assumption that your parents are looking out for the well being of their grandchild, what you need to do is to hug them and apologize for being so selfish. Then ask them to teach you to be a good parent while assisting you to raise their grandchild while you complete your education and can care for their grandchild on your own. If you can honestly do that you will give your parents the best Christmas present ever.
How do I know this? I'm old enough to be your grandfather, that's how.
My vagina hurts and i don't know why,it started hurting after I had sex after the second time. I don't but its like hurts when i touch it,and thats about it. I just wanna know what it could be. Cause im a little scared.
We are not able to answer or diagnose medical questions as none of us on this website are doctors. Even are best guesses can be totally wrong and cause you more harm than good.
When you are over a certain age, in most states that is 13, you can visit your family doctor in total confidence ; that being what ever you are treated for must remain between you and the doctor unless you give the doctor permission to speak with your parents. The here is called HIPA, Health Information Privacy Act. No matter how hard your parents threaten, yell or anything else the doctor cannot break your confidence or anyone in the doctors office.. The penalty for doing so is a fine up to $10,000 and up to 10 years in prison. I've worked with this law as a first responder and as much as I would want to tell someone what hospital we have taken their loved one to, I am not allowed to unless specifically told by the person we treated on scene that we can.
My advice is to make an appointment with your family doctor or a Gyn and have the problem checked out. Tell the doctor specifically that you want this visit to be kept in confidence.. As for any other medical problem you may have or get in the future always consult your doctor, not your friends or strangers on the web. We all have different physiology's which is one of the primary reasons behind us being told to never take someone else's medications. Only your doctor can make a diagnoses based on his knowledge of you and medicine.
I have lived my life to the point that I cannot take it anymore. I have dug myself into a hole I cannot get out of and the embarassment and humility of explaining it to everyone is not worth it. This is something I cannot get past. I want to know the easiest and quickest way to leave this world. I do not own a gun nor do I have access to any prescription medications. Please, please help me.
As you can see by those who have answered you, no one is going to tell you how to end your life.
There is no hole so deep that you can't dig yourself out off. Most of us at one time or another have found ourselves in a hole we have dug for ourselves and felt there was no way out and we are still here and have found away out.
The hole I dug for myself was a financial one right to the point of not being able to put food on the table. It was embarrassing and humiliating to have to accept food from friends and church groups, but we did. Why, because it bought time for me to get my head in the right place and come up with a plan. What I did to survive was not the greatest of plans; in fact most financial experts would have told me I was wrong to do what I did.
I had to turn down a lot of things I had in the past said yes to; which also meant giving reason for why I said no. Doing so was also embarrassing and humiliating. In reality though it was not as embarrassing and humiliating as it would have been for my family to explain why I took the cowards way out and ended my life leaving them to deal with the mess I made.
Yes, whatever hole you have dug for yourself will still have to be dealt with after your gone. Those holes don't just disappear because you died, your family besides having to deal with loosing you know have to deal with whatever is left behind. It can also cause them financial harm depending on what type of financial harm you may have done to yourself if this is the problem. If it is government they will go after family to get their money.
My advice; if you are feeling suicidal pick up the phone and dial 911 or go to the nearest Hospital emergency room. You can also call 1-800-273-TALK. This is the National Suicide Hotline which is open 24/7. The call takers are trained to help you find people in your town that can help you.
Im 17 and have had sex since i was 14. I have had sex many times but it just does not feel good. It doesnt hurt( although sometimes it does) but i never orgasim while having sex and i hate when my boyfriend goes in deep, thats the part that hurts. i have made myself orgaism before, but during sex its impossible. why is this?
Boys of your age are not as intent on satisfying their partner as they are in satisfying themselves. The first thing you need to do is teach your boyfriend how to make love to you so that you get enjoyment too.
Let's take one problem at a time. The average female vagina is only six inches deep. If your boyfriend's penis is over six inches in length he will constantly hit your cervix. While this is his fault he is responding to what he has learned watching porno films as no one has taught him differently. You need to slow him down; get him to shorten his stroke. You will have to trust me on this one if you both take the time to learn what is comfortable he will find he can last longer and find lovemaking more enjoyable too. What he knows right now is that love making is Ram Bam thank you mam. He has not learned that the longer you can make love together the more enjoyable it is for both partners.
The second problem is very much a part of the first problem. A guy can be ready to make love at the drop of a pair of panties. A women on the other hand needs foreplay, she needs to be stimulated. She needs to feel safe and comfortable. Remove any one of these factors and love making is not going to be what it can be for her.
Once you have found a place to make love that is safe and comfortable for you, you now have to teach your boyfriend how to please you.
NOTE: If your boyfriend takes offence at this and says he knows how to please a women and your just cold or words to that effect; pull your panties back up and dump him. He is only out for his pleasure.
To find out just what pleases you I would suggest you go in your bedroom, lock the door, take your clothes off and explore yourself while masturbating. Then you can take what you have learned about yourself and show your boyfriend.
17/f
I've always been wondering, is there any place where I can get birth control prescribed without a parent or a guardian? Can I walk into a clinic with a parent's note and get it?
As far as Birth Control is concerned: Unless you live in a state that has a law prohibiting it your family doctor can prescribe birth control for you or you can go to a free clinic. In general any medical consultation you have with your doctor must remain confidential. So asking for birth control is strictly between you and your doctor your parents cannot be told.
At your age being on birth control has more reasons than the prevention of pregnancy; birth control pills also regulates your period. If you are someone that suffers from painful periods, regulating your periods is a good idea so that you know when it will come and can plan accordingly.
As for the primary reason for birth control. You're 17; not all that young that I should tell you not to be having some type of sexual relations, maybe not sexual intercourse. There are as I'm sure you are aware other ways to calm the raging hormones without actually having intercourse. The pill is only about 99% effective. I'm sure you do not want to be in the 1% that it fails on. So practising safe sex not only means being on birth control and using a condom. It means abstaining until you are old enough to properly care for a child. End of lecture.
Obtaining birth control without your parents knowledge tells me you parents equate birth control with being sexually active. While that is partially true I have already given you one other reason for being on birth control. Even though you are almost of legal age I do not support doing something behind your parents back. As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent my advice is to have a women to women talk with your mother and explain the other reasons why you feel the need to be on birth control. This way your mother is aware and does not have to confront you when, and she will, finds your birth control pills.
Confrontation is never good. Just like hiding something from her, confrontations just give her another reason not to trust you. Should you talk with her remind, in a nice way her this is a medical option available to you for which you do not need permission. Also that you are almost of legal age and that you prefer to be up front with her rather than go behind her back. As to her question as to whether you are sexually active; how you answer that is up to you.
Okay so my boyfriend of a year is abusive. physical and verbal. But i cant get out of the relationship because last time i tried he threatened to kill me and he had a knife or he says he gonna text and tell my entire family that all my secrets. what can i do? i need out. help?
You need to get away from your boyfriend. Not knowing your living situation with him I am going to suggest two things that should help you.
If I am reading this correctly your boyfriend threatened you with a knife. That is an Assault with a Deadly Weapon (ADW) a felony charge if he was close enough to you to use it and you feared for your life. If this is correct you need to contact the police. If you can't do it by phone uses the computer you are using to contact us then delete the Email sent file.
Next go to the following website:http://www.houseofruthinc.org/ This is the Hose of Ruth. They are specifically designed to help battered women and children. If you can call their hotline. If you google House of Ruth you may even find a House of Ruth in your home town or close by. Call that House of Ruth for help.
Please do this know, before he really hurts you.
I want you to listen and I want you to read this thouroughly please.
I am 19 years old and I am in college. I have always been the good girl. Yeah I've kissed a few guys here and there maybe a makeout session or two. But I never did anything sexual. It wasn't until I got to college. I started seeing all the pretty girls get attention and not me. I consider myself to look okay. I am african american, tall and skinny. But I guess it's not enough for boys.
My freshmen year of college, I didn't do much. Around two boys gave me oral and that was it. Around the summer time before sophmore year, is when the mahem began. There was a boy I would say used me because I really liked him and he claimed he liked me. This is where my insecurity came in and basically I gave him head and he returned it. That was that. When I got to school I became a lil more sexual than my freshmen year. On a serious count since that summer I gave four boys head including that one from summer. I feel disgusting. Even though I'm a virgin, I still feel dirty. I read up online and I fit the characteristics of someone who holds onto her virginity so she thinks its okay to do other sexual things. What made it worse is I really regret one boy I gave head to. This boy was a good friend of the one in the summer. I did that when I cam back to school sophmore year.
I just need to know your opinions. I won't get offensive at all I just need some reassurance..thankyou.
Time for a little grandfatherly advice. Since I am old enough to be your grandfather I am going to offer some.
If preserving your virginity for Mr.Right is your ultimate goal you are definitely not a slut. Many girls, if not most of the girls your age lost their virginity a long time ago. You have managed to hold on to your principals and retain your virginity. That is definitely not the definition of a slut.
You are 19 and in college; you are old enough to have some form of sex life. What form of sex life to have is up to you. Like anyone else I'm sure you have pent up sexual energy. Masturbation is one way to relieve this energy. So is oral sex and mutual masturbation. If you find a young man who is satisfied with enjoying this type of sex with you, you may be well on the way to finding Mr. Right.
At your age most boys do all of their social thinking with the head in their pants and that head knows only one thing; to get in the pants of a young lady. So when you find some one your age mature enough to override what the lower head wants and respect your limitations. You just may have found the guy your looking for.
I would say a better definition for you would be a person of principal, slut does not come even close to fitting you.
Have fun being at college, enjoy learning about what is out their not only academically but socially as well. Most of all worry less about how others may see you and just enjoy being you.
Hii guys..what do you guys think of abortion? is it good or is it bad? please let me know what you guys think. thanks
Abortion is a very private matter; one I believe is left entirely up to the woman as it is her body.
I've been called may things in my life, some good and some bad. The one thing I am most proud of being called is a flag waver. I am very proud of what this country has to offer. One of the things we take great pride in is free choice. I do not think it is right for anyone to tell you what you should do when it comes to abortion. Supreme Court legalized abortion in the Roe v Wade decision. That means no one can force you not to have or to have an abortion, it has to be a woman's choice.
As a male my feeling for or against abortion are irrelevant as long as the procedure remains legal. I can if I wish demonstrate for or against as that is my right. But to bar you from entering a clinic or causing any disruption or embarrassment to those that chose to avail themselves of this right is morally and legally wrong.
My husband joined citysex.com
You have asked a good question, one that is hard to answer.
The first question that comes to mind of course is to ask why. Which is the n followed with the answer to how you found out? Where you snooping through your spouses computer history or Email? Both of which show a lack of trust on your part which is a red flag as far as your marriage is concerned.
Possible reasons as to why. Plain and simple curiosity; some of the pictures they post go quite far. Have you and your spouse ever talked about expanding your sex life. If so this could be research. Has your spouse ever said something about you having sex with another person while they watched, a common fantasy among some men.
Mostly if everything is okay in your marriage then I would think this is nothing more than curiosity and voyeurism to see if there is anyone you may know who is into swinging or group sex or even a little extra marital adventure. It does not mean your spouse is cheating, just lustful.
My advice is to talk to your spouse calmly, but be prepared to answer the question as to why you were going through your spouses computer. Once you have calmly discussed the question then you can decide the why of the matter.
Alright, where to start. First, I have a babygirl. She's 18 months. And a fiance. I don't have a job, and neither does he. I'm going through high school still, I'm 17, and I'm waiting to graduate. I was planning to move to Washington with my fiances mother, since that's where we're happy. But my parents are trying to talk me out of it. Saying I won't be able to survive if I move out. The thing is, I'm not going to be able to get a job in Washington until I do move out. So what, I'm supposed to get a job here and save up money. That makes no sense to me. And my child has some kidney problems, that she can grow out of, with medicine, which she's taking. They want me to stay until she grows out of that. Ok what happens when I have a nother baby. What then mom and dad. They put all these worries in my head so now I'm wondering if I'm EVER going to move out. I don't know....
NinJaneer has pretty much said it all. You have brought a child into this world and she must come first. Why you are even thinking about a second child at this time is totally irresponsible on your part since you don't seem to be in a position to support the child you have.
News flash: Your happiness is not at issue here at this time. It appears your parent are willing to support you and your child. Your direction should be to finish your education, both high school and college, so that you can find the type of job that will lead to your happiness as well as your daughters.
Wondering how your going to pay the rent, doctors bills, put food on the table does not make for happiness. Without a good education as a foundation the job market hold only minimum wage jobs. One use to think they could be a Police Officer or Fire Fighter with just a high school education. Sure the job ad says high school diploma required. Fire Fighters need to know Chemistry, Hydraulics, Basic Human Anatomy and Physiology, Building Construction and have advance math skills. Police Officer practically need a law degree to their job. You don't get this with just a high school diploma. You can't even drive a long haul truck without knowledge of some of the materials that you might be hauling.
As parents we shelter our children from the real world while they learn the skills needed to deal with the world. By having a child so early in life you have taken a giant leap into the real world. You are fortunate that your parents are willing to support you while you play catch up. Listen to your parents. Put your daughters well being first and get your education so you can have the type of life with her you have enjoyed.
I am with my boyfriend for very very long time, and we try to have a baby, but i do not get Pregnant, i was by the Dr, and my boyfriend too. they say everything is ok to keep trying, it would happen. 7 months we try and try and nothing happen. what can we do?
There is such a thing as trying to hard. Getting pregnant is not as easy as one would think. As I'm sure you are aware of it is a very complicated process. While some couple can conceive almost by just thinking about it other couples struggle to conceive. Seven months is not a long time to go without conceiving, especially if you were on birth control for a long time.
First: If you have not already been to a fertility specialist then make an appointment to see one. Your family doctor and OB/GYN can only do so much for you when it comes to fertility. If you are struggling to conceive then it is time to see a specialist. In this instance they are the fertility doctors.
Second: Relax don't try so hard. You know the old saying about a watched pot never boils. Making a baby can be the same way if your trying to hard. Go back to just making love when the mood hits you. Take your time. Don't worry where you are in your cycle, let mother nature take her course. If there is nothing wrong medically between the two of you then when mother nature says the time is right it will happen.
I have a friend who thought he and his wife would never conceive. They did all the doctors and the injects and nothing happened. They finally stopped, started to look into adoption and one day the stick turned blue.
How do you get rid of loose skin around your stomach after you lost a lot of weight?
Lotion is not helping.I lost 40 pounds kind of fast and now I have loose skin around my stomach, what can make it go away?
The older you get the less elasticity your skin has. It stretches but it does not shrink. One of the problems faced by the morbidly obese when they a lap band operation is they can be left with 10 pounds or more of skin left behind after they lose weight
You have not said how old you are,if you are a teenager; while you can ask your doctor I suspect you will be told to wait until you are at least 19 or twenty before seeking a surgical answer to the problem. Then just like women looking to lose the mommy pouch as I call it you can have a tummy tuck. This is an expensive and somewhat painful procedure that is not generally covered by insurance.
It is really going to depend on how much skin is hanging lose and how it effects your over all self-esteem as to how the doctors will choose to approach this. If you are a teenager I would suggest you talk with your mom or dad and make an appointment to see a good plastic surgeon.
A good plastic surgeon may refer you to another doctor who after consultation may find that surgery is in your best interest and the insurance company will pay for all or part of the procedure, or the surgeon will tell you to wait. You won't know until you talk to them. As always with this type of Surgery get two opinions.
Hi everyone, I am a college freshman and i think i see a problem starting to form in my life.
I have recently started drinking a lot while in college, often blacking out and not remembering the night i had. I sometimes drink just to feel drunk and carefree. I spend most of my money on alcohol and I usually go through about a fifth of alcohol on any givin night. My friends are starting to become concerned and they tell me that i am not the same person drunk as i am sober. They also tell me that when i start drinking i will not stop until someone physically takes the alcohol away from me. I don't know what to do and i'm afraid that I might have a problem.
How do i get help with letting anyone (including my friends and parents) know about the situation.
Thank you all.
If you need a stranger to tell you that you have a drinking problem then let it be me. YOU HAVE A DRINKING PROBLEM. That is the bad news. The good news is that you realize to a certain extent that you do have a drinking problem which is the first step to solving the problem; or if you will follow my advice, the first step to recovery.
You are a problem drinker, an Alcoholic. My brother in-law is a recovering alcoholic and has been for over 20 years. My brother in-law credits AA, Alcoholics' Anonymous, for saving him. My brother in-law tells me that the first thing they tell you at AA is that in order to to get help you must first admit you have a drinking problem. This is the only thing you have to do yourself; after the AA can help you with your recovery.
I have also been told that everyone who admits to having a drinking problem has hit bottom and that everyone's bottom is different. His was waking up in the drunk tank. The funniest think to come out of that is that the cop that put him in the drunk tank is now one of his best friends and the two of them work together at programs to stop teenage drinking and drunk driving.
The only advice and the best advice I can give you is to contact AA and find a meeting to go to. The meetings are free. Talk to them and ask for their help. Below is the AA national Web address search site. Type in your zip code to locate a group in your area. I would not be surprised if there was a meeting site right on campus.
http://www.aa.org/lang/en/meeting_finder.cfm?origpage=29
You have taken the first step, now just follow through and go to an AA meeting.