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Family is moving. Shoul I stay in college where I am or move with them?
I am in college and I currently live about an hour away from my family. I have two younger sisters, 14 and 16, and my family is moving from Minnesota to Texas after this school year. I have really fit into my college and really like it here, I even managed to set it up where I will be able to graduate a year early. But I feel like I should be closer to my family and more importantly closer to my younger sisters to be the protective older brother. So, should I transfer schools or should I stay?
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Check if the college you would go to if you moved away is any good. If you like it, then you should consider it. Moving away isnt that bad. But if you really like where you are currently studying, then dont move. Plenty of college students live very far away from their parents. There will always be skype and phone calls.
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I cannot tell you if you should move or not move with your family. What I can do is point out something you should consider while making your decision.
First: changing schools may cause you to set your plans back more than just the year early than you presently have for graduating. Your new college may not accept all of your credits from your preset school which would force you to retake certain courses. Frankly I believe this has more to do with the school revenue source then the acceptance of what was taught as you have the option of testing out of the course, for a fee.
Next: While I think it is great of you to want to be the protective older brother; making a new life for themselves in Texas will be hard enough for your sisters. Have you asked them if they want their older brother around learning at potential boy friends? Your only as far away as your cell phone should they need brotherly advice.
Next: Are you not entitled to a life too? Have you not made a life for yourself at your present school. When you graduate where will your educational abilities take you? Will the jobs you have been educated for take you back to Minnesota or on to Texas or to other places in this country?
As I said in the beginning I would not be offering you an answer to your question, only question I feel you need to consider before making a decision. If you need to take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side label it stay on the other side label it go to Texas. The list all the reasons to stay and all the reasons to go. Follow which ever list is longer. In the end the decision has to be yours alone for you have to live with the results.
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How often do you visit your family now? If it's every weekend and it would affect you if you couldn't see them so easily, then maybe consider transfering.
If you mainly visit only on breaks then it might not be worth it to rock the boat and uproot yourself. If you love your school and already have a set plan for graduation, transfering isn't the best idea.
Consider these questions:
Are there schools near your family's new home that offer your major and your credits will transfer?
Are you good with change? Would making all new friends be hard for you?
Ultimately give this a lot of thought and go with your heart.
Good luck,
-Abby
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