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dont enjoy sex
im a girl and ive had sex with three different boys,
it has never ever felt good for me.
why is htis?
how coudld i change htis?!?!?
i dont understand
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Women are known to enjoy oral or any form of external stimulation more than sex. A large percentage of the female population have the inability to climax during intercourse as well. I think the first step is to relax and listen to your body. Nothing stops an orgasm more than tension. Another step to take is to do some Kegel exercises to make your PC muscles more controllable so you can flex and release according to what gives you pleasure. Check out [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) to learn more about these exercises.
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Edited Answer: First time in a long time I have guessed wrong on someones age. Most of what I said earlier still stands, especially about teaching your lover how you like to be touched and made love too. Even college boys are more lust driven that love driven. The same goes for your comfort and security. You are not going to get off if your worried about yours or his roommate walking in on you while making love.
As to the question is there something wrong with you? I really don't think there is. A lot of women are more clitoral in there stimulation . My wife is one of them. This is what I mean by teaching your lovers. You need to find positions in which you can keep your clit stimulated during sex. Missionary sex with just thrusting will not stimulate your clit, sufficiently as the penis does not maintain come in full contact with the clit. Doggy style is one position where you and your lover can enjoy intercourse and either of you can manually stimulate your clit while having intercourse.
Of course since you have concerns about whether or not everything is in order with your sex organ it is not a bad idea to get a full check up by you gynecologist. Be sure to be open with the doctor. You are not the first nor will be the last women to come to the doctor with these concerns. Unless you tell the doctor everything that concerns you the doctor cannot help you. Don't be surprise if the doctor suggest you see a sex therapist. Don't come unglued; sex therapist are not some strange person you go to too have sex with. They are psychologists trained in sex therapy, talk therapy, who can help you with how to enjoy sex more as a clitoral women. Things like different positions and how to teach your lover how to satisfy you with out destroying his manhood.
One last thing: If you are using your parent insurance to see the doctor. Your doctors visits are totally confidential; they cannot as a matter of law release any information to your parents without your written consent. The only exception is if you are unconscious and dying and next of kin consent is need to save your life.
The insurance company will and is required to send to your parents something called and Explanation of Benefits (EOB. Here again this is something that is a matter of law and cannot be stopped. By virtue of this EOB they will know that you have seen a doctor and the doctors name, but not what you where seen for. It is up to you if you wish to tell them. You have every right to say it is a private matter. There are two things you might want to consider saying to them if they ask about why you are seeing a doctor and that is; you are not pregnant and have not been raped. As a parent of a girl who is far from my protective help those are the two things I would be worried about the most.
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It would help if I knew your age. The fact that you say boys and not men leads me to believe you are most probably under 18, still living at home and still in high school. If I'm correct the following is what I believe is the problem.
First and foremost the problem is more the boys than yours. Guys if your age are only interested in one thing, ejaculation,getting off as it is called. They need to release the sexual tension built up in their bodies. Masturbation will do just fine an you guy probably did that once or twice before your date.
It is much different for a girl. Where a boy needs little or no stimulation's, a girl simply taking her panties off is enough for him. A girl needs foreplay. Different women need more or less foreplay. Women need to feel comfortable and safe when having sex. If your trying to have sex before one of your parents come home, then you can't possibly feel safe. If your having sex in the back seat of a car safe and comfortable are also out of the question.
The first thing you must so to have enjoyable sex is find someplace that is comfortable and safe. Like a motel or your bedroom when you know your parents aren't going to walk in on you. Then you need to slow your boyfriend down and teach him how to make love to you. Tell him flat out you want to be made love to not fucked. You don't enjoy being fucked and if that is all he wants hand him a piece of wood with a knot hole in it, he will get the message.
To teach him how to make love to you, you must first learn what it is you like and don't like. To do this go in your bedroom and lock the door. Get undressed in front of a mirror if you can and caress yourself as you undress. Once you are naked and have finished caressing yourself, for the moment, move to your bed and lay down. Now start to masturbate; play with your breast, pull on your nipples, tease your clit, finger yourself and if you are into it play with your butt hole.
Work yourself to an orgasm, you'll know it when it happens. Once it does you will know what it takes to get you there. Guys may be stupid, at least when it comes to sex, but they ain't dump. You need to show them the how and the what, even the way to make oral love to you as no two women like it the same way.
I would be remiss as an adult if I didn't throw in a small lecture. Her again not knowing your age hinders me some. Having full intercourse at a young age can come with serious adult consequence's. Not just the fact that you can get yourself pregnant, but STDs and AIDs. Condoms and birth control are not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy or stopping the spread of STDs or AIDs. Hand-job's, fingering and even oral sex should be more than enough to provide the sexual relief either you or your boyfriend need while still providing you the opportunity to explore your sexuality. Also there is still a double standard out there. A boy can sleep around all he wants and he is a BMC, Big Man on Campus. If a girl sleeps around, she is a slut; you don't need that tag. End of lecture
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