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i can't say no :/
so it just hit me that its SO hard for me to say no when it comes to making out and being fingered. i have absolutely no problem saying no to people that i've only hung out with a few times and don't really know. but looking back on my last 3 hook-ups, they were all with my really close guy friends. at first i didn't want to do anything with them but once you start making out with them it just all goes from there. i feel so bad because they all leaned into me to kiss me and they're such sweet guys so i felt too bad if i pulled away. how can i fix this problem? :/
also, these 3 guys aren't just guy friends, they're guys i've known for years and i trust. but they're so sweet to me i'd never want to hurt their feelings.
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You should be able to tell guys exactly how you feel without feeling ashamed or guilty. You can say "thanks, but no thanks" in a nice way. Tell guys you're friends with that you think they're attractive and everything (that will help make them feel better) but you've decided you just don't want to do anything sexual with them - they're too important to you as a friend to jeopardize that.
Any guy who's not a jerk will be able to accept that (or will at least act like he does). Then, things won't be so confusing anymore and you can focus on the one (or two, or however many) guy(s) you actually DO want to kiss, etc.
Good luck!
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Well I think that if you get into that situation again then just don't do it. I know, easier said than done but you don't want to make out with these guys right? So you just need to stand firm in that. First, I think is that you should try to not be in those situations where you they can kiss you. If somehow you get caught in that again you just need to show them you don't want to be like that. They're sweet guys right? I get that you don't want them to be offended or hurt if you don't kiss back but if they are guys that are sweet and nice and all that, they should at least understand that you don't want that anymore. Just stand strong and don't let them do that anymore. I don't think there is any more you can do. Good luck!
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