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I am friends with my immediate supervisor, who answers to our manager. She is a single mom, 40, who dresses and often acts like something the dog drug in. She typically wears wrinkled, faded and baggy clothing, rather unprofessional, and she is the spokesperson for our department. She generally arrives to work late, with wet hair and her hair is cut in a little girl style with heavy bangs and straight to the shoulders - very unflattering. She is overweight and tends to wear shoes (clogs and sandals) that resemble slippers. Moreover, her office is cluttered, dirty, she often has food sitting out, and is decorated with years' old child art, past holiday decorations, cards, photos and lots of knicknacks and old paperwork and even stuffed animals. She basically has no clean space or desktop to work on and she often stacks work on the floor. She is very social, chatting with people to the point of them backing away from her and she often traps people in their work space, cornering them to go on and on about her daughter and television shows ad nauseum. We have spoken with both our manager and directly with her, but things only change minimally and temporarily. She takes pride in not having the money or time to dress appropriately because she is a single mom -- something she mentions anytime anyone else wears something new. Sometimes she is in direct violation of the written and posted dress code, but others also violate this -- however usually with better professional taste. Besides being embarrassed of her, I am also concerned because in many ways she might be promoted to a higher level, if she looked the part and was more professional in her work relationships and environment. What do you recommend? I don't want to go to her again and seem like I am trying to criticize. (link)
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I'm gonna guess the lady has so many projects going at once that she has no time for herself.
Could be she needs a friend to help her out.
Unless you or another friend are willing to jump right in there and offer her a complete makeover I don't know how else you can let her know. Her feelings will probably be hurt. There are thrift stores and garage sales that have perfectly good cheap and nice stuff. She probably spends her money keeping her kid presentable.
She is probably tired. Doing a lot at home and then rushing the sleep and getting up and rushing in to work. She needs encouraged to let some things slide at home a little or maybe give daughter some chores to take the load off.
Her desk at work is something you could tackle if your allowed to. Maybe if it was neat she would be encouraged to keep it that way.
She needs taught to be friendly but not to the point of irritation to customers. I think you find a manager above her and have a long talk with them. Tell them you are willing to help and maybe have them be the ones to say something to her. :)
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Ok, I usually melt butter in a pan and then put the eggs (scrambled) in. Well, we have no butter. Is it safe to use margarine? I don't want to burn anything or something like that.
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Yes it is safe to use margerine. :)
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I'm always looking around the house for candy, and chips and all that unhealthy stuff...so how do i stop myself from wanting it??? (link)
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You can't really keep yourself from wanting it. Just have to resist the urge. Go take a walk or do something else to take you mind off eating the candy. :)
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This is a long story so bare with me, please! Ok... i've known this guy since i was in about 6 but we were never close until the begining of my seventh grade year when i had a crush on him randomly. Unfortunately, i had the stupid idea of telling him that at the begining of my eight grade year/ his ninth. He said we were just friend and we've continued to be that off and on, but i think i still like him. Anyway... he said he was asking a girl out when he got his permit which his 15th birthday is tomorrow. I know he probably won't ask me unless everyone else turns him down, but i don't know if I should say yes or no if he does. I don't think he likes me, but if he does then should I say yes? I've also heard from his sister that he's starting to act a little... "different" so I feel weird around him lately. What should I do? I'm really confused
Sorry It's so long
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If he asks then go if you want to. You can go out and still remain friends if it doesn't work out. So long as you talk to each other you can get out (if need to) before things get ugly. :)
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This is a long story so bare with me, please! Ok... i've known this guy since i was in about 6 but we were never close until the begining of my seventh grade year when i had a crush on him randomly. Unfortunately, i had the stupid idea of telling him that at the begining of my eight grade year/ his ninth. He said we were just friend and we've continued to be that off and on, but i think i still like him. Anyway... he said he was asking a girl out when he got his permit which his 15th birthday is tomorrow. I know he probably won't ask me unless everyone else turns him down, but i don't know if I should say yes or no if he does. I don't think he likes me, but if he does then should I say yes? I've also heard from his sister that he's starting to act a little... "different" so I feel weird around him lately. What should I do? I'm really confused
Sorry It's so long
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If he asks then go if you want to. You can go out and still remain friends if it doesn't work out. So long as you talk to each other you can get out (if need to) before things get ugly. :)
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okay. so i like this guy. he just happens to be my best friend. the other night, my friend ( ally ) got on my screen name ( i was there too ) and told him that i thought he was hott. and then she was like do you think im hott? *remember, she was pretending to be me and wouldnt let me say anything to him...* he responded by saying, i would go out with you. it was kind of a shocker. no, it was a shocker. because 01-hes my best friend. and 02-no guys ever want to go out with me. or even consider it. and so i was kind of dazed for a little while. and then, i told him that ally said all of it. but he seemed like dissapointed that it wasnt me. today i was going to tell him that i actually do like him & all, but i never got the chance. its just akward. but i dont want our friendship to be ruined by it if we date. so i just want to know other peoples points of view. please!! (link)
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I think it would be okay for you to date. You will have to talk to him face to face this time because he may just think it is your friend again if you try via the net again. Your boyfriend should be your best friend :)
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my boyfriend cheated on me with my friends so to the people who have already helped me a lil more plz he chetedon me with 2 of my friendsshjould i still be friends with them or no cause one of them is still going put with him
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That is kind of up to you but, They aren't very good friends if they go stealing your boyfriend. Sounds like you need to fire the whole bunch of them and get new friends. :)
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Okay there's this guy I like that I work with, and the fratnerization ploicy does not affect us because we work in different departments, ANYHOW, I like him alot, and my supervisor and co-workers think I should tell him but I don't know how. All of them told him that I liked him (WITHOUT MY CONSENT), and I guess he wants to hear it from me now. And I wanna tell him, I wanna get to know him more and become closer friends before I become anything else. Alot people say I can do better than him, but that's not what is important to me, I like him for who he is and he has a good heart, he knows how to make me feel good. So I wanted advice on ways to tell him I like him... thankz! (If it helps, or it's needed I'm 17 and he's 19) (link)
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Ask him out for coffee a soda or lunch. Something short at first so you can get to know each other. If all goes well maybe he will ask you out before the short date is over :)
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i'm 14 and in 2 weeks im going to be starting high school. this summer i met this really great guy..my friend introduced us. the thing is ive onlk really talked to him on the internet and the phone(hes not one of those internet weirdos cause my friend knows him). we are going to the mall just to hang out on friday and i really like him but am so self-concsious. I know im pretty. I actually think that, but sometimes i just get really nervous. ive never been on an actually date. ive been asked out alot before, i just never accepted cause ive been busy, and ive just never really like the guys that ask me out. since im starting high school i want to start dating. is there anyway to get me out of the habit of being sooo nervous? (link)
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Once you go out one time you should get over some of your nervousness. It is mostly just a fear of the unknown. If other friends are around at the mall on Friday it won't too bad. You'll do fine. :)
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i met this guy over the summer an .. we hit it off pretty well.. hes goes to my step brothers school..we dated broke up... an i found out he missed his x i mean i could understand were he was comming from it was his first love an me n im rushed into it.. i helped him try to get over her.. he came over to my house an like we cuddled kissed ..an were like the best friends with beinfits for now.. but my friend asked him do you like her more than that he goes yes but its so confusing... but i thouhght he was just using me to get sum...he told me he wasnt i belive him because for this time i know hes real but hes still a guy with a dick but hes so cool.. an i love him to death... an we talking an he goes i like you alot .. your one of the most important things in my life... i want to be with him but then again i dont know... but i want to know whats going on... is he just using me ... but i kinda no thats hes not using me like we talk an everything i know all his secerets an he knows mine ive heard him cry on the phone ive talked to his sister an dad there so sweet ... an hes like the only guy who makes me feel right to b with .. an i dont know what to do obisouley can someone please try to help... an give me good advice ... (link)
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I think he likes you but still has feeling for the ex. This has him confused. You may have to put some distance between you for awhile until he can get his head together. I know it will be hard but nothing will be resolved so long as you are doing the friends with benefits thing. :)
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hey! i didnt eat for 4 days because i was super busy and the only kind of food i could eat i didnt like! but i gained 2 pounds! how is that possible if i didnt eat?! (link)
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When you don't eat your body thinks it is starving and starts storing fat to burn. :)
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OK, im confused. yesterday, i downloaded something. (it was video) so then when u trued opening it on windows media player, a message came up saying that i had to immidiatly restart m computer if i was seeing the message for the first time. what exactly was that? like, it automatically went to a screen with blue bckgrnd and yellow text. (link)
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Sometimes when you download something new to your computer it has to restart in order for the new something to work. If you Yes or okay your computer will automatically shut itself down and restart. It is just part of the download process and nothing to worry about. If you have shut you machine off for any reason since the download (like overnight), it has already been taken care of. :)
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Hey! I just wanted to say, well first off, Im Kels, (k2204) and I wanted to say that you give excellent advice! and I have, now, but have been meaning to tell you, and also, add you as a favorite!! I have read a lot of your advice! and its good! Its not like "well go eat a tree, that wil make your zits go away" or " yah, you should get brest enhansments, then he'll like you!" your advice is good and meaning ful! and thats what I like so much! Thats what these young girls and guys need to hear! so, thanks!:) and keep up the great advice giving!
btw, i may have already said this, but I added you as a favorite! :)
-SLeK-
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Thanks for the nice words kels. Will gladly add you to my favs list too. Maybe talk to you in chat room later? If it isn't to late in your zone...I may be late getting there. YG :)
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how old are you ? (link)
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I am 47
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Well my exboyfriend and I decided that we wanted to go back out. But he found some one else..so he started rubbing it in my face that she is so much better than me. And it really hurts my feelings, him and I were together for over a year and im only 15. I cry every day, and everything that happens reminds me of him or a memory of us. And then last week when he was "hooked-up" with the other girl, he came over, and it was the first time that i saw him in a month. He said he wanted to make love to me, and i said if you love me then get rid of the other girl and be with me. He said i cant right now but when she calls me tonight then i promise i will tell her. So we had sex and then he said that he didnt want me right afterwards. Basically he used me. We still talk like every other day and i want to hate him so much but i cant. I am in love with him, and there is nothing i can do. Now he is going out with her, but hes always saying "I still love you" and crap like that. I just dont know what to do anymore im so confused and he is breaking me to a point where im so depressed. He was my best friend and now he wants to throw away a year for some girl. Please help me...Ill rate high
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Of course he still saying he loves you. So long as he can do 2 girls hes going to. Love him or not you need to put a stop to it. He is using you big time. Hes also cheating on his girlfriend. He is a big jerk. Do not trust him or listen to a word that comes out of his lying mouth. You go find yourself a guy who is going to treat you with love and respect. Don't waste another minute on this loser. :)
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okay so this guy and i have been hanging out a lot. he tells me he likes me, and says he wants to ask me out, but he still hasnt, he told me he was waiting for he right time...well i think he likes his ex gf, bc i was lookin at his phone and he had text messages for her...adn he said she just got a bf, and even tho he doesnt have feelings for her, its ripping him apart. ive already done a lot with him, which is pretty unusual for me, bc i have such a hard time trustung guys...yesterday he expected me to do tuff with him, and when i told him i didnt want to he figured something was wrong...i really like him... more then anyother guy ive ever liked... but i have no idea what to do about him... any ideas?? please help!! (link)
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If his ex dating another is ripping him apart then he still has feelings for her. He may not want to have... but he does. Don't be doing "stuff" with him until you are his girlfriend. You will be setting yourself up for heartbreak if you do.
I think you should remain friends ( no benefits), until he decides he wants to be your boyfriend. Just tell him that you like him, you would like to date him but he needs to get rid of the feelings for his ex before you'll stick your heart out there to be trampled on. :)
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ok im 14/m and i like this 15/f. We have so much incommen and i think i might actually love her. The thing is we live about an hour or a little less away from each other. I met her through baseball.(her bro was on my team) And how can i tell her? my dad talkes to hers but, i cant just call because that would be oqward. and IMing would work because i dont have her sn.. What can i do? (link)
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Are you friends with her brother? You could call him and get her Sn if that would be less awkward.
If you see her you could give her your Sn. Or give it to the brother to pass along.
If all else fails you will just have to give her a call. Tell her that you would like to be friends exchange Sn's and see what the future holds. It will only be awkward for a couple of minutes. :)
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omgsh ok this summer there have been 2 guys that i reallly like...so wenever i am like alone with them they lean in for a kiss ..and omg i want to kiss them soo bad but almost everytime i become so shy about it and ill find sum exuse to either not do it (im just not feeling well) or ill be liek "i have to go to the bathroom". but i really want to kiss them! i dont have problems like wen we play spin the bottle or truth or dare , bc wen we play i just go for it and im not shy at all. but its just like wen we r alone ..or if its with sumone i really like i just get all shy. wat is my problem?!? lol xoxo
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I don't know what the problem is but next time just close your eyes and stand still! Don't say anything and don't take off. Force you self to get a smooch! Hey, I dare you if that helps :)
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Alright i have been dating this guy since July 3rd its the 26th today. first off i havnt seen him in 2 weeks and 1 days !!well i got grounded and i wasnt able to leave the house but yet my parents agreeed to allow him to come over. and every time i invtied him over its like no i cant i gotta go home and so and so answer everything and when i got ungrounded and he got grounded his mom said he could still come over and use the phone he hasnt called me once When i call him and he promise to call me back he doesnt. i really do love him i mean when i actully do get to see him we have so much fun together he holds me in his arms if im sad comforts me if i get hurt that kinda stuff and i dont no what to I RATE HIGH (link)
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Maybe he is afraid your parents won't like him or something. You may have to reassure him about that. Ask him over again until he actually shows up. I think once he does he will get over feeling awkward about it.
As for the calling thing you need to get on him to call you. Some guys just hate using the phone and some just would rather have you call them...or they forget and just won't admit it.
All in all if he is treating you right and you like him just talk about the things you don't like and see if you can get them changed. He might get the idea that he needs to contribute a little to the relationship too. :)
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... ehhh
how do you know if you're dehydrated?
answers asap woul dbe greatly appreciated. (link)
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Some symptoms of dehydration are:
Muscle weakness after sweating, vomiting or diarrhea, and possibly muscle cramps.
Some things to do:
Drink fluids, especially sports drinks like Gatorade (replaces lost electrolytes)
If replacing fluids and you're still feeling badly see a doctor.
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