Okay there's this guy I like that I work with, and the fratnerization ploicy does not affect us because we work in different departments, ANYHOW, I like him alot, and my supervisor and co-workers think I should tell him but I don't know how. All of them told him that I liked him (WITHOUT MY CONSENT), and I guess he wants to hear it from me now. And I wanna tell him, I wanna get to know him more and become closer friends before I become anything else. Alot people say I can do better than him, but that's not what is important to me, I like him for who he is and he has a good heart, he knows how to make me feel good. So I wanted advice on ways to tell him I like him... thankz! (If it helps, or it's needed I'm 17 and he's 19)
karenR answered Wednesday July 27 2005, 7:27 am: Ask him out for coffee a soda or lunch. Something short at first so you can get to know each other. If all goes well maybe he will ask you out before the short date is over :) [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
Curemysadness answered Wednesday July 27 2005, 2:58 am: Okay, so you work with him so i'm sure there a lot of opportunities for this. Just ask him if he has plans for a weekend or even a day of the week where you both are not scheduled to work. Ask him if he is interested in seeing a movie, or just hanging out. Go out for dinner, or even just for ice cream. Something where you will have plenty of time to open up and talk. Hopefully the subject of "possible relationships" will come up! If you are too afraid of shy to ask him yourself in person to go out with you one night, have someone else do it for you. Or just simply ask him for his cell phone number, or email address, and ask him via internet or telephone. I'm not in college so i'm not exactly sure what "fratnerization" means. So yeah, i hope i helped anyways! Good Luck! [ Curemysadness's advice column | Ask Curemysadness A Question ]
eudaimonia answered Wednesday July 27 2005, 2:58 am: I can see why you're posting this question here. It has become an awkward situation now. Your friends have told him already, and now it's become even more difficult to confront him. What your friends did doesn't really help you, in fact it just makes the whole "like him/her" a forced task on your part. I'm not sure what's going on in that 19 year old's head, but if he knows you like him and if he feels the same way about you then maybe he should be the one taking the first step in pushing the friendship to another level. On the other hand, he might be just as shy and confused and has no idea what to say either. The good thing is you both are young and when you're young it's good to take chances. So take that chance. How? Well...if you choke up eye to eye maybe a phone call or an email will do. Or try to be subtle about it and ask him to hang out with you and some friends, see how he is around you. Usually the best way for things to work out naturally is being open about it from the very beginning instead of dragging it out until it becomes so unbearable that it turns into a chore. Sometimes if two people really like each other no words are necessary and action is what speaks louder. I don't think it's necessary anymore to say you like him, he already knows it. The magic of sponteniety has been lost. [ eudaimonia's advice column | Ask eudaimonia A Question ]
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