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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 months. We are together almost everyday. My problem is, I hate when we aren't together. When he can't hang out, I get really upset and I like, minupulate him to come see me. I don't know what is wrong with me! I can never give him space. I feel bad and I try to change but I can't. How should I stop? Does anyone else have this problem? By the way- I would hang out with my friends but they are gone away for the summer. (link)
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Yeah, I would say you're clingy, but that doesn't necessarly mean it's bad. Usually it's a sign of a couple deeply in love. The manipulative part has got to stop though. Maybe the best thing to do is keep your mind occupied with something else, something productive, or work on something that you can share with your boyfriend the next time you guys meet. Make plans while he's out, be creative, keep busy, but do not manipulate. If you cannot stop, he might decide to break up with you. Think about that!
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Allright well im 16/f!
and i just wanna say im like really gettin upset and down on not having a boyfriend. i just want to feel needed by someone and know that someone is always there to cuddle with me,hug me, kiss me. ive NEVER had a boyfriend before but now..i just really want one. i know you cant just say you want one and have one because someone just has to come to you..has to be at the right time. but you see im a shy girl around 120 pounds 5'6 brown hair and eyes..tanner..and i just dont know whats wrong with me?? no guy has ever liked me how sad is that. i just want a guy that i can be with and know that they like me back. im just so sick of trying to look and WAITING ... im scared one will never come i feel like such a loser. but i am so shy as i said before so what can i do to help this? there is this kid that my cuzin likes and his name is bobby and well ive always thought he was hot!! but ive never got to meet him before and she wants me to hangout with him and her sometime soon! i want to get his attention but i feel bad cuz my cousin likes him =p i love her so much that i wouldnt wanna do that to her but it would be such a perfect opportunity and she knows that i think he is hot! well thats not the problem really..the whole problem is the boyfriend thing! lately ive been feeling so down and ugly..and alone.
what should i do?
i'll rate 5 for anyone who helps me
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The first thing you need to realize is that you're definitely not alone on this. Boys your age are dealing with the same situation. Doesn't matter what age you are there's always a need to be loved and cuddled and to be given attention. That's human nature for ya. The second thing you have to realize is no matter what age you are that it isn't necessary to pressure yourself in finding anyone. The time will come, the right time, when the person you're looking for will come along and make you happy. Most of the time unexpectedly. Patience pays off because if you do the hunting just because you have needs, and end up with a guy who you THINK is the one, most likely he won't be because it everything didn't run it's natural course. The third thing you have to realize is there's nothing wrong with being shy, but not all the time. Sometimes it takes a little a self-kick to spark the magic...that is, if you truly feel it's needed! Shy can be attractive actually, so don't change. And another thing, don't ever think you're ugly. It will just make things worse. This is kinda corny but attitude and positive outlook on everything will attract the forces around you. Life is about what you attract and if you're down and feeling ugly all the time, you won't get anywhere, or anyone. Good luck and take care. Talk to to me anytime.
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Okay you answered my question earlier about the situation with my co-worker. The thing is, yeah he knows I like him or whatever, and I guess now he wants to hear me say it to him now, and you are very right, it's awkard cause when we are around eachother, we touch more than we speak, and then again, we can't really talk that much cause we've got areas that we need to work in. We are both very shy and he's like one of those guys that's never really had a girlfriend, and I've never really had a boyfriend either, so it's alot harder for me to tell him I like him. I want to but I don't know how, and I wanna also break the silence between us as well. So what would be a good way to do that as well? (link)
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This is a tough one because you both work together and you're both shy and inexperienced. Not to mention the constant awkwardness on a daily basis. So let's see, how to break that silence. Hmm, well this would be a whole lot easier if the guy would just say something to light that "spark" to get things rolling but that's not happening. Do you know if he's actually talking about you when you're not around? You know, to his friends? Saying how great you are and how he would like to ask you out or something? If he isn't, maybe he isn't totally into you, like you are to him. Anyway, putting that aside, I think the best way to break this silence is to push the line of communication to another level not just inside work but outside, maybe go out with some friends, talk to him online, or talk about some of his interests at work and show him you care about what he cares about. The bottomline is be creative with your conversations, don't be afraid to bring up risky subjects, and if you really like him try to be flirty. ;)
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Hi, I'm trying to get rid of my my unsociable, indifferent, freshman reputation, and hopefully make some close friends this upcoming year. I would like to know some ways I might be able to change people's perception of me. I guess I come off as withdrawn and slightly angry, so this may come off as a difficult question for those of you "popular people", who are able to make friends easily. My main purpose is to make friends in order actually look forward to going to school in the morning... For your information, I am 15 and male. (link)
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I have the feeling you're more of an introvert than extrovert. I'm the same way, except that I don't go out of my way to figure out how I can change other people's perception about me. Unless everyone is being hostile or cold to you, then maybe it's something serious you should look into. Being the popular one isn't the way to go nor should you change just because popularity gets more friends. Most guys and girls are superficial nowadays, it's all about what the new look is or how much attention can I get for doing something stupid. The thing that you must change is how you perceive yourself. If you look in the mirror and are unhappy with what you see, or if you walk around day after day with feelings of sadness and insecurities, figure out why that is. Sometimes change is good, whether it's getting new clothes or cool hairstyle, but in the end that doesn't matter because what needs to change is the inside. People will take notice even if you are withdrawn yet still maintain a level of confidence. If you notice someone with the same interests, take advantage of that opportunity. Also, whenever you have a chance, spend some time alone and take a step back from reality. Look inward, look what's around you, and think positive. Changing how you think is probably the best way to change your behavior.
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Okay there's this guy I like that I work with, and the fratnerization ploicy does not affect us because we work in different departments, ANYHOW, I like him alot, and my supervisor and co-workers think I should tell him but I don't know how. All of them told him that I liked him (WITHOUT MY CONSENT), and I guess he wants to hear it from me now. And I wanna tell him, I wanna get to know him more and become closer friends before I become anything else. Alot people say I can do better than him, but that's not what is important to me, I like him for who he is and he has a good heart, he knows how to make me feel good. So I wanted advice on ways to tell him I like him... thankz! (If it helps, or it's needed I'm 17 and he's 19) (link)
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I can see why you're posting this question here. It has become an awkward situation now. Your friends have told him already, and now it's become even more difficult to confront him. What your friends did doesn't really help you, in fact it just makes the whole "like him/her" a forced task on your part. I'm not sure what's going on in that 19 year old's head, but if he knows you like him and if he feels the same way about you then maybe he should be the one taking the first step in pushing the friendship to another level. On the other hand, he might be just as shy and confused and has no idea what to say either. The good thing is you both are young and when you're young it's good to take chances. So take that chance. How? Well...if you choke up eye to eye maybe a phone call or an email will do. Or try to be subtle about it and ask him to hang out with you and some friends, see how he is around you. Usually the best way for things to work out naturally is being open about it from the very beginning instead of dragging it out until it becomes so unbearable that it turns into a chore. Sometimes if two people really like each other no words are necessary and action is what speaks louder. I don't think it's necessary anymore to say you like him, he already knows it. The magic of sponteniety has been lost.
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Ok..Im 13 ((almost 14))..and Im 5 foot 10 inches and like REALLY skinny..Is being tall like a turn off to guy..
High Rates for good advice (link)
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There's someone for everyone. And everyone has different tastes. Being self-conscious is okay and healthy, but don't take it to the extreme. Be yourself, know you've got the goods, and men will take notice. Sometimes it will take some time but don't let that bring you down, evetually you will get the attention you deserve. Personally, I perfer girls around my own height, I'm 5'11''. Since you're tall, you have to ask yourself the question, "Do I want a guy who's really short/tall?". If the answer is no, then understand the same mentality is being played out in the minds of men. It's not a personal attack, just a matter of personal taste, what feels more comfortable. But then again, height or weight has nothing to do with friendships or love, if you really like a particular person, it doesn't matter how they appear. Same advice goes to guys with girls.
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In a week will be my first day of a new school, so i want my skin to look good. I have a severe acne problem, its all over my face. the dermatoogist gave me retin-a micro and benzaclin and a sulfur wash but its just not working. i rele want clear skin or atleast clear enough toput make up over it by when school starts. any tips or natural remedes? (link)
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Sure. I had a severe acne problem too when I was in my teens. I was on accutane for about 3 months, but discontinued because I experienced pain, weakness, and I was very close on having suicidal thoughts. Anyway, the point is stay away from accutane. It will do you harm in the longrun, it damages the liver and the glands that produce the body's natural oils. I say stay with the natural stuff. My advice is to try taking a tablespoon of Flaxseed Oil every 12 hours. It is an excellent skin healer and for many it has been know to reduce the production of oil. Try also taking twice a day Acidophilus 1 Billion organisms non-dairy type. It keeps the digestive system balanced with good bacteria. Vitamin C 1000mg a day helps. Zinc 30-50mg daily is another skin healer. Chromium Picolinate 200-400mcg daily reduces skin infections. Tea Tree Oil is known to be just as good as benzoyl peroxide but is less irritable and shows faster results (take a q-tip and dab a little on a large pus filled pimple and watch it disappear!). Drink lots of water. Stay away from soda, greasy foods, and especially dairy products. Get lots of rest and hope for the best! :)
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** I forgot to mention a very important herb called Milk Thistle that will definitely give you obvious results in a matter of weeks. It basically is a powerful blood & liver cleanser. From a site: "The liver is the body’s second largest organ, which is responsible for detoxifying pollutants and processing nutrients and fats. Another noted benefit is the herb’s ability to reduce inflammation, and may retard skin cell proliferation, a mechanism that can lead to such conditions as psoriasis." Take one capsule twice a day for about a week and see if you notice any results. Make sure you drink lots of water with it. You can buy all this at Target or any large chain like Walmart. I bought my stuff at Target, good prices. **
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