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so lonely..boyfriend? so sick of this..
Allright well im 16/f!
and i just wanna say im like really gettin upset and down on not having a boyfriend. i just want to feel needed by someone and know that someone is always there to cuddle with me,hug me, kiss me. ive NEVER had a boyfriend before but now..i just really want one. i know you cant just say you want one and have one because someone just has to come to you..has to be at the right time. but you see im a shy girl around 120 pounds 5'6 brown hair and eyes..tanner..and i just dont know whats wrong with me?? no guy has ever liked me how sad is that. i just want a guy that i can be with and know that they like me back. im just so sick of trying to look and WAITING ... im scared one will never come i feel like such a loser. but i am so shy as i said before so what can i do to help this? there is this kid that my cuzin likes and his name is bobby and well ive always thought he was hot!! but ive never got to meet him before and she wants me to hangout with him and her sometime soon! i want to get his attention but i feel bad cuz my cousin likes him =p i love her so much that i wouldnt wanna do that to her but it would be such a perfect opportunity and she knows that i think he is hot! well thats not the problem really..the whole problem is the boyfriend thing! lately ive been feeling so down and ugly..and alone.
what should i do?
i'll rate 5 for anyone who helps me
<3 thanks so much
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i USED TO NOT HAVE BF'S AND BE REALLY SHY TOO...
WHAT i FOUND WORKED THE BEST WAS BEiNG MORE OUTGOiNG...i MEAN WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THiNK. BEiNG BOLD iS BETTER THAN BEiNG OVERLOOKED. SO NEXT TiME YOUR AROUND A GUY THAT YOU LiKE BE OPiNiONATED, COMPLiMENT HiM, OR LOOK CONFiDENT AND ACT FRIENDLY. i KNOW THiS MAY SOUND DUMB, BUT iT REALLY HELPED ME MAKE A 180 WiTH GUYS. iTS ALSO MADE ME MAKE ALOT MORE FRiENDS. iT MAY TAKE SOME TiME THOUGH. DONT GO THE EXTRA MiLE TO GET YOUR CUZiNS GUY BE YOURSELF JUST BE A LiTTLE MORE OPiNiONATED AND CONFiDENT. SOMEONES GOT TO BELiEVE iN YOU, WHY NOT START WiTH YOURSELF?
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ok, well I know what you're going through. Although I have had a couple boyfriends, it was about a year in between them. So for that year I was feeling ugly and lonely. If you want a boyfriend, all you have to do is do massive flirting! Just hug them and make eye contact and flirt with them. I'd also flirt with other guys around them. Trust me, they'll like you in no time. As for you thinking you're ugly, every girl thinks that! Think of the one quality you like about yourself and focus on that. And for the cousin thing, DO NOT FLIRT WITH HIM! She saw him first and she liked him first. Let her have them. Hope this helps!
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Okay, well if you want someone, the morey ou look for someone, the harder it is to find.
You have to not be so consumed on finding a boyfriend, and its not healthy that you want to feel "needed" by somebody. You need to be able to be happy in life first, and be confident and comfortable with yourself before you are in a relationship. Otherwise its not healthy at all. Theres nothing wrong with you, but if you keep acting desperate, then boys arent going to like that. The only think you really can do, is get yourself out there, ask some guys out! The worst that could happen is they could turn you down. But thats not the end of the world.
And jsut because you think a guy is hot, thats shallow, would you like a guy only liking you becuase your hot? You know, you are going to have a lot of oppertunitys in your life to find a boyfriend, but the moreyou want one, the more unstable you will be, and the harder it will be to find one. And dont go for your couisns crush, thats not cool.
hope i helped hun.
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The first thing you need to realize is that you're definitely not alone on this. Boys your age are dealing with the same situation. Doesn't matter what age you are there's always a need to be loved and cuddled and to be given attention. That's human nature for ya. The second thing you have to realize is no matter what age you are that it isn't necessary to pressure yourself in finding anyone. The time will come, the right time, when the person you're looking for will come along and make you happy. Most of the time unexpectedly. Patience pays off because if you do the hunting just because you have needs, and end up with a guy who you THINK is the one, most likely he won't be because it everything didn't run it's natural course. The third thing you have to realize is there's nothing wrong with being shy, but not all the time. Sometimes it takes a little a self-kick to spark the magic...that is, if you truly feel it's needed! Shy can be attractive actually, so don't change. And another thing, don't ever think you're ugly. It will just make things worse. This is kinda corny but attitude and positive outlook on everything will attract the forces around you. Life is about what you attract and if you're down and feeling ugly all the time, you won't get anywhere, or anyone. Good luck and take care. Talk to to me anytime.
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i completely know what you mean! i hate seeing my friends going around being like yeah me and my boyfriend this me and my boyfriend that. i mean dont get me wrong i love seeing my friends happy but when all of your friends have boyfriends except you it gets depressing. i used to be the one who always had the boyfriends and now im the one with out one! i always looked at boys and was like hmm should he be by next boyfriend! i just went out lookin for cute guys that i thought would make good boyfriends. i was wrong. it make take a while but you will find someone you acutally like. its summer, a chance for you to meet new people and if that doesnt work out, school is around the corner soo there could be new boys =] summer is a time for having fun and its the time you wanna be single soo you can see whats out there!! i hope i helped !
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