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Too clingy?
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 months. We are together almost everyday. My problem is, I hate when we aren't together. When he can't hang out, I get really upset and I like, minupulate him to come see me. I don't know what is wrong with me! I can never give him space. I feel bad and I try to change but I can't. How should I stop? Does anyone else have this problem? By the way- I would hang out with my friends but they are gone away for the summer.
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I'm going through the same thing....I never noticed it but my friends brought it up and he did too. my boyfriends been frustraited with me lately because of it, I either call him too much or I want to hang out when he isn't able to. He is in a band and really wants to focus on that.. some advice i got from my friends is to just not call him and let it blow over, he'll end up calling and I shouldnt worry. Just try to do things that are fun and you like. Its hard to do, I dont like it haha but I gotta
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This is perfectly normal, but it can break relationships up too. You need some distractions and your own hobbies to keep the ralationship healthy.
So when he goes out, distract your self with walks, especially if you have a dog to take out, movies, make cd's, make art, go out for the day, go shopping.
Just anything you can do to stop yourself calling him or trying to get him to come and see you.
see if you can get ideas of hobbies and things to do from the internet.
I've been there and believe me, its very important that you have your own hobbies to keep your relationship alive and healthy so he doesnt feel trapped. if you think you are being too clingy then chances are, he's going to feel that too at some point.
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When people get in relationships, they tend to cling up to that one person 24/7 or as much as they can and soon they'll come to realize that when they are alone, theres nothing to do and that person is their whole life.
Don't keep making this common mistake and start being with friends of your own and don't turn down any family or friend activities just because you can spend time with him. When you are without your boyfriend, you just think about how much you miss him and you start thinking that he doesn't want to spend as much time with you as you do with him and that's definetly not the case. You have to have life around this guy, don't make him your life. You have to occupy yourself with friends and family when you aren't spending time with him. Besides, there has to be at least one of your friends that are available. Think of a friend that you havn't talked to in a while.
-TheTeenGirl
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Wow, i thought i was the only person like that. I have your exact same problem, except me and my bf have been dating for almost 2 years. I would say try to make new friends. I lost a lot of my friends because of my behavior. My friends ignored me because I was always around him. Just distance yourself. Get a summer job or something so you can't see him. You should stay away from him as much as possible.. Once you find something to distance yourself from him, get used to it, or just end the relationship. I've been thinking about that lately. If you need to talk more, leave me a message in my inbox. Hope i helped.
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Hate to say it, but you'd probably have more friends to hang out with if you and your boyfriend weren't joined at the hip all the time. They probably feel left out. Clingy couples are painfully annoying!
You need to find something to do - a project maybe - and tell him to stay away for 24 hours. Trust me, for your own health and sanity, make yourself do it.
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try not to hang out with him every day.. go do stuff with like your family like your cousins.. or someone around your age.. go to parties.. just be you.. if you are a teenager dont get so attached.. and relax.. all your friends are gone? you must have some friend that is still there that you could hang out with on some days..
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Yeah, I would say you're clingy, but that doesn't necessarly mean it's bad. Usually it's a sign of a couple deeply in love. The manipulative part has got to stop though. Maybe the best thing to do is keep your mind occupied with something else, something productive, or work on something that you can share with your boyfriend the next time you guys meet. Make plans while he's out, be creative, keep busy, but do not manipulate. If you cannot stop, he might decide to break up with you. Think about that!
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I used to have that problem and my boyfriend broke up with me over that.. because he thought he was a disappointment when he couldn't see me. Don't get upset.. look forward to the day you see each other. Give him some space or if you are too clingy, he might get annoyed. So do your own thing.. like rent some movies, play a game or read. Plan a date for you and him, something special and it will be worth it. This worked for me. The longer you don't see each other.. the more he would miss you and then he would be the one trying to hang out with you.
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how to stop..hmm..my bf and i spend a lott of time together also..if we skip a day or 2 seeing each other i look foward to when i do see him and we greet each other with a biggg kiss and a tiiiight hug that makes me feel sooooo insanely good :) lol
so look foward to that..because after we are apart for longer than you are used to..we always have an awesome day when we see each other again.
also maybe getting a job..making some new friends on the job and hanging out with them..little things like that will make it ok..but everyone needs a little space, you too! so just keep that in mind :)
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