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Well my exboyfriend and I decided that we wanted to go back out. But he found some one else..so he started rubbing it in my face that she is so much better than me. And it really hurts my feelings, him and I were together for over a year and im only 15. I cry every day, and everything that happens reminds me of him or a memory of us. And then last week when he was "hooked-up" with the other girl, he came over, and it was the first time that i saw him in a month. He said he wanted to make love to me, and i said if you love me then get rid of the other girl and be with me. He said i cant right now but when she calls me tonight then i promise i will tell her. So we had sex and then he said that he didnt want me right afterwards. Basically he used me. We still talk like every other day and i want to hate him so much but i cant. I am in love with him, and there is nothing i can do. Now he is going out with her, but hes always saying "I still love you" and crap like that. I just dont know what to do anymore im so confused and he is breaking me to a point where im so depressed. He was my best friend and now he wants to throw away a year for some girl. Please help me...Ill rate high
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hey listen he shyt you dont need him if he going to use you and play you like that sorry hun but thats bull it might take time getting over him but you dont deserve that you better then him there is more guys out there and i no you will find the right one he hurt you terrible and you 15 you cant love yet concantarte on your friends not exs or guys you think your love you got plenty time for that spend a night out with the girls or something i hope i helped good luck Ash
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Right now, you probably feel as if it would be easier to cut out your heart than to cut him out of your life.
But that's exactly what you have to do. Cut him out of your life. Don't talk to him AT ALL. Don't look at him, if you can possibly help it. Don't talk ABOUT him to your friends. Just leave him totally alone.
You're right. He used you. He probably hurt you more than you even KNEW you could be hurt. And you're awfully young; at 15, your body and brain are still growing and developing.
Did you ever scrape your knee badly? It's almost irresistible to pick at the scab as it's healing. But that just makes it heal more slowly. It can start bleeding all over again, and even get infected.
That's how it is with him. Keep seeing him, and it's like picking at the scab. You have to make a clean break to give yourself a chance to heal.
And you *will* heal.
I won't lie to you. It's going to hurt a LOT. For quite a while. And then, slowly, you'll start to feel better. It might take months, maybe even a year, but the time will come when you'll find yourself smiling again. You'll find a boy who loves you for YOU, not just for sex.
In the meantime, there are some things you can do.
The best thing is to GET BUSY. If you don't have anything to do, you're going to think about him and suffer - that's totally natural. So you need to fill up your days with as many activities as you can. Volunteer somewhere, at a hospital maybe. Visit family, or friends. Do something, ANYthing. You don't have to pretend that you're happy, you don't have to be the life of the party. But FORCE yourself to be active. It really will help.
Another tip: in the next few months, there's a huge danger that you'll get into a rebound relationship. Right now, you're adjusted to being in an intimate, physical relationship. It suddenly disappeared, so you're likely to try to find another one as soon as you feel able. That almost certainly won't be in the next few weeks - you're still too hurt and have too many feelings for your ex-boyfriend - but as you start to recover, the next attractive boy who's interested in you is going to practically *glow* in your eyes.
Try to hold back. I think that part of the reason that you've been so badly hurt is that you went too quickly, too soon - at 15, you're really too young to be having sex, even if most kids are doing it. Try to take it easy, and wait. Believe me, you'll be glad that you did.
But right now it probably sickens you to think of being with anybody else but him. I understand. Give it time, and things will change.
Please don't go back to him. He'll only hurt you again. And you don't deserve that.
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try to beat him up for lying to you then tell him you haate him he might fall for it if he does you will get back together my sister does it alot it works most of the time if it doesn't work he doesnt love you then hurt him as bad as you can for lying badly.
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Ok he sounds like a two-timer. He probably told you all that I love you crap to get in your pants. His girlfriend probably wouldnt do it with him, so he came to you. Dont let him use you like that! Your worth way more than just a one night stand. Just stop thinking about him and get involved with new things like sports or fun activities! Hope I Helped!!
Lots of Luv...
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Girl come on. Why did you fall for that. I mean he might love you but he is only 15/16 right. He whants to live life he wants to to out with alot of girls. He wants to have sex with as many girls as he can. I have the same problem you do. My boy friend of almost 3 years broke up about 3 months ago. I still love him but he has put me trew so much, I cant take it. To star he whent to jail for about 2 months, I was still with him then. then ones he got out he told me that about 6 months ago he had chided on me, nothing good came of that, well the girl that he chided on me with was going to have his baby. I still stayed with hime because "I loved him" Not long after the baby was born I broke up with him. But he still came to my house telling me how much he loved me but had to be with natash the babys mom.
Im just telling you this so you dont let it get this far. You need to move on, its not going to be esey but you have to do it unless you wan to live a sad life like the one im likving inside.
Hope that in some way I helped. Im sorry about what that guy is making you o trew.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~~*LoVe ChElLy~**~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~~~*~*~
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Of course he still saying he loves you. So long as he can do 2 girls hes going to. Love him or not you need to put a stop to it. He is using you big time. Hes also cheating on his girlfriend. He is a big jerk. Do not trust him or listen to a word that comes out of his lying mouth. You go find yourself a guy who is going to treat you with love and respect. Don't waste another minute on this loser. :)
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