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Well there is this kid we met this year and we went out together at one point but then we broke up and we were still friends. But now he hates me and won't talk to me and I have no idea why. What should I do I'll rate high! I'm female/13 (link)
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You need to ask him why. He may not tell you and he may not have any real good reason. If he is around the same age as you he is probably just a little immature yet. Immature boys act a little strange sometimes. Give it a little time and whatever it is will probably get better. :)
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I'm 29 and I've been dating a 27 yo girl for about 8 months now and I thought things were going great. However, recently she planned her holiday season (thanksgiving and christmas) without even asking me what I was doing. Her rationale was that couples only plan things together when they are engaged or married. She tells me she loves me and doesn't understand why I was surprised that she made all her plans (which exclude me) without even talking to me about what she wanted to do. I have no intention of trying to change her plans. I just thought it was common courtesy to discuss it first and hopefully find a way to spend the holidays together. Your thoughts? (link)
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She may technically be right, but I think she should have let you in on what she was planning.
There is nothing wrong with sharing the holidays together at all. I would let it go for now but you might just tell her your feelings about it if you haven't already. I mean, if one of you didn't have plans it may have been a good time to meet the others family. :)
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sometimes i feel like i really annoy my boyfriend by asking so many questions at once and send him some text messages and by calling him every now and then but i have to check b/c he is always sore and stuff b/c he plays football and he be hurting but i feel like i be annoying him and when i asked him he said naw babe you good and i miss u so what should i do? (link)
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If its okay with him then text and call all you want. Tell him to let you know if your calling to much and then keep it up. :)
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I have this problem..My bestfriend was going out with this boy..Then this boy broke up with her..She was shock (i guess)..But okay, that's not the major problem..Now,I'm going out with that boy..and no one knows that except my sister..I've been going out with that boy for 2 weeks or so..now I have this illfeel..I feel that I'm so wrong by going out with my bestfriend's ex boyfriend..I don't know what to do..Should I break up with that boy and give him back to my bestfriend, or keep going??
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If he is your friends EX then you should be able to date him without feeling guilty about it. He doesn't want her for a girlfriend anymore or she wouldn't be an ex. So, stop feeling guilty about it. You are doing nothing wrong. :)
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hey umm i have really liked this boy for awhile but he has a girlfriend. so should i tell him that i like him. or should i not so i dont ruin our friendship? or what should i do? plez help. (link)
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I don't think you should say anything until he no longer has a girlfriend. If they ever break up, get in there and say something before someone else does. If you do it now and they break up you may make a few enemies. :)
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16 F sophomore. guy 17 junior.
Me and this guy have been friends for about 2 almost 3 years i guess.. if i'm couting right. Anyway i suddenly liked him after a terrible break up.. and then I just gave up on it thinking i was still in love with my ex.. moving on... So this crush has kind of been hidden for a few months and i recently told him that i liked him way back then. and he was cool about it but here recently we've been joking about being benefit buds.. and i dont know if he's serious.. and even if he was and we really did like each other and wanted to date should I: b/c a) he's dated like 2 or 3 of my friends and B) this wouldn't destroy our friendship but maybe make it awkward. i dunno just some advice please?~ unsure. (link)
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Friends with benefits is a lousy idea. Hey, if he wants the benefits make him date you. Other guys aren't going to ask you out if you have a relationship like this. You are the loser in a friends with benefits relationship in the long run. :)
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okay, so me and my ex split a couple of days ago. it was over MSN - which was a shame but there was legit reasons for it - anyway. I ended it with him, he just tried to wind me up in the process - and said he didn't give a fuck ect. I got fed up said bye and signed off. Pissed off and I wanted to try and as least be civil. I had reasons for dumping him - he was a slob didn't brush his teeth - ew. never bothered to call me all that. Anyway tonight I've got a planned party. Him, and two of his mates were invited, I never technically uninvited them but presumed they were all crossed off the list after that. I found out a few hours ago they were all still intending to come! Well - my ex hasn't even BOTHERED to contact me since we split and he acted like a jerk - apparently he intended to come sort it all out tonight - at my party!! Well I'm deff NOT getting with him again - and I'm even too mad at him for not bothering to contact me - and allt he reasons we split for bothered to even be his friend right now... well... I cancelled all their invites - but do you think I should tell them it's okay to come or did I do the right thing? They were all upset and wanted to come...
Anyway answers tonight please! Thanks so much =)
xxx (link)
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I think you did the right thing. Last thing you want is him and his friends glaring at you all night.
If they do happen to show up I guess you can either turn them around at the door or be civil. If they start trouble call the cops and have them removed. If they come in acting cocky warn them right off that you will not warn them...they start trouble and they will be escorted out by local PD.
Have a good time :)
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Hey YG, it's rainbowcherrie.
How did you get paragraphs on your column?! Mine wont work... (link)
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Mackenzie told me to use "" without quote marks where I had put lines to divide it before.
Works good! I did notice when I was on featured page it didn't work there though. :)
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Is it normal for a girl my age to like another girl? I mean, i don't think i'm a lesbian or bisexual, but i heard it could be normal for someone my age (which is 15 btw) to be... "curious"? am i just weird? (link)
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yes its quite normal especially if it is someone you look up to. seems to be a fad these days to claim to be bi...I think its natural curiosity.:)
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I'm the same person who asked how i could persuade my parents to let me keep my brother's dog while he is forced to live in hawaii(military orders). My brother and I decided to talk to our parents(for the third time) and my dad was cool with it but my mom wasn't. Everything got out of control and my mom and my grandmother got into this violent argument and my mom was close to killing my grandmother. My mom saids that my brother deserves the pain of his problems just because my brother is taking a while to pay her back cuz he doesn't have much money rite now. To her money comes before family so itz her #1 priority. So my mom threatened to pack up and leave home forever if the dog moves in. I'm so upset and stressed out. what should I do? (link)
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You just leave your mom for your dad to deal with. Think grandma would keep the dog? Hopefully your dad can talk sense into your mom. :)
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Ok, this might sound really stupid, but this bugs me so much. My mom normally lets me get my hair cut before each school year starts but this year she won't. She told me she doesn't feel like I really need one cuz she gave me a trim a couple months ago and she also said she wasn't gonna let me get it done for a whole year! I thought that was pretty harsh. My hair bugs me cuz it gets in my face when I play basketball and I told her I'm not gonna tryout unless I get it cut. How do I convinve her to let me cut it, or ways for me to like my hair. (link)
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I have been trying to decide what to do with my hair as well. I hate it in my face and on my neck for some reason! I am leaning towards leaving it as is because at least I can put it in a pony tail and get it off my neck when it is longer. Perhaps that will help you some. :)
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For a musical I am doing with a lot of dancing, I need to wear character heels. My parents are "opposed" for some reason against my character heels because they think it's a health problem for me, even though the heel is only one inch and the whole thing is built for dancing in. They want to buy me other shoes, but I need to wear my character heels! What can I do to convince them? They are CONVINCED that their way of thinking is right without listening to me, too. (link)
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I know what they are concerned about. Tell them that you will only be wearing them during the musical and that injuries/health problems occur in those who wear them all the time, and not occasional wear. :)
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Well im 13/f and i weigh 105 or 110 i was wondering if i was the right weight or not and if im not then how much should i wiegh im worried!! Help me pleaze!! Bye bye!! (link)
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You don't say how tall you are which is important. Add it for those who answer after I do.
Your weight seems quite wonderful, unless you are only 3 ft. tall, I would say you are right where you should be. :)
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okay 2 yrs ago a boy moved to cali that i really liked and hes moving back!! i get to see him on wed. but i have changed and so has everything else so what do i do?
p.s i stil like him and iwant him to like me too!
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You get to know each other all over again and go from there. While you have changed, he has too. :)
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first of all i am sorry if this is long. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and i love him with all my heart. But recently i get a call out of nowhere from this guy that i had a huge crush on when we were younger (i moved away so thats why nothing ever happened between us). So he calls and asks if i wanna hang out with him one day... so i did. Ok i havent seen this kid for about 11 years but when we spent the day together i dont know what happened but i really started to like him again (and i know he likes me he always has). Him and my boyfriend are two completely different people i find that when im with both of them i myself am two different people but i kinda like who i am better with the other guy. So i did the smart thing and the next day i told my bf about my feelings for this other guy and of course he was heartbroken and we broke up... for about an hour... then we got back together. Only the thing is the only reason i took him back was cuz i saw how hurt he was and i felt bad for him. I do really still love him but i dont know if i really wanna continue this relationship but i don't want to hurt him anymore...How do i do it? (link)
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When a break up occurs someone usually gets hurt. It is sort of unavoidable. If you truly don't want to be with him anymore you have to break up regardless of weather or not it hurts him.
You could just not go steady with either and date both until you decided which one you liked best. The current boyfriend probably won't go for that though. :)
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Alright, so I work in this fast food place, and it's pretty horrible there. It's a shady company to say the least. Anyways, I've been working there as long as the manager, and that's longer than anyone else becasue they're always hiring new people since everyone's always quitting.
Anyways, I gave my two weeks notice on Sunday, and on Sunday night the assistant manager told the manager that he had had enough because something else had happened. So I had to go in yesterday because my boss wanted to talk to me, in other words, she begged me to reconsider.
Everyone loves the assistant manager, just because he's nice and fair, so I know two guys who are going to quit because he quit. So basically, this place is screwed. Now I feel really pressured to 'reconsider' even though I really don't want to work there anymore. It's just a bad place to be, but I feel bad for my manager. What should I do? (link)
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If you truly don't like working there then don't let feeling sorry for anyone stop you.
On the other hand have you considered asking for the assistant manager job should it come open? Could be a raise in pay and would look good on a resume for future jobs. You have been there longer than the others and maybe you could help make some improvements.....Just a thought. :)
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hi there, me again, the guy i slept with, we have spoken but nothing about what had happened, this was like, last week sometime, and his sister has invited me to a party, where i know he will be ther, do i go or not? tell me as it is tonight
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If you want to go to the party don't let what happened stop you. :)
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i recently kissed one of my best mates ex boyfriends. they had only broke up about 2 weeks earlier and the reason they broke up was because he cheated on her. she was so upset when she found out he cheated, i was one of her shoulders to cry on. then a week later, whilst talking 2 her ex boy friend, he starts asking me if i would ever be with him. I must admit i did have feelings for him but i understood that i really shouldnt pursue it if i wanted 2 stay friends with my friend. he was emailing me and telling me that he thort he had feelings for me.. i wasnt really sure wat to do, i didnt want 2 lie and tell him that i had no feelings 4 him but at the same time i was constantly thinknig of my friend. then at a party that wknd i had a few drinks and me and this boy got rather close. he told me that if we hooked up we would keep it a secret and no one would ever know, at the time i thort that it would work and i wasnt thinknig clearly. i kissed him 4 about 2 minutes before realising that i would have 2 pay for my actions. we agreed 2 not tell anyone but naturally we both couldnt keep it 2 ourselves. My friend then confronted me and asked me about it, i didnt want 2 lie seeing i new taht would be worse in the long run. i told her the truth but didnt really get a chance 2 tell her all the details and appologise in fully. From that day on she has been avoiding me, we did have a brief talk about it and she said she didnt hate me she was jsut really really hurt, but deep down i no that i have ruined our friendship and taht it is my fault. i really want 2 talk it threw with her and get things back 2 normal but i understand that she needs time and may not ever want 2 forgive me. i really want 2 make up and i regret doing it so much, even tho i have very strong feelings for the boy. it was really stupid of me now thinking back, sacrificing such a good friend for a boy who cheats on his girlfriends and plays girls. i dont know how i could have been so stupid. please help me what do i do 2 not hurt her anymore and not hurt him? (link)
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I wouldn't worry about hurting him any. His type don't have many feelings. He cheated on her...he will most likely cheat on you.
All you can do is try to talk to your friend. It will take time but you will be friends again. It seems you have a good head on your shoulders...just use caution with the guy because he will break your heart, I'm afraid. :)
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I really need help!
I can't fall asleep ever, i'm getting in a really bad habbit, a REALLY bad one. School atarts in less then 3 weeks! And I start school around 6 *thats what time it's suggested that you wake up*
And I dont go to sleep un'till about 3:57 AM or atleast 6:24... Between those times. That means I'd have to stay up for almost 2 days straight!
Are sleeping pills healthy? I really have to get out of this habbit. It's going to ruin my whole school year!
And P.S: I sleep atleast untill 2 in the afternoon, Thats what time school ends. I can sleep through school!
So about the pills, what is a really good brand that really works. How long do they take to work and make you fall asleep (kick in)? I have pill-Phobia for large pills, Do they come in a big size? My parents don't want to spend over $50 for them. They want me to have a good education, do they effect your mood in anyway if you take them? How many do you take?
Sorry it was so long, but im trying to get as much information I possibally can.
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Start going to bed earlier and earlier until you get yourself back on schedule. If that fails it will only take once and you will have it fixed. Won't have much trouble going to sleep after the first day of school.
Once you start on sleeping pills you will have to take them all the time. Best to not even get started on them.When your bodies had enough it will sleep. If you have a big problem then at least see a doctor first but self discipline is the key. :)
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Ok, well i have this friend named heather. and we both like eachother as a boyfriend and a girlfriend, but we live about 30 minuets apart.. so were just friends. And i'm over weight, and im really thinking about not going to see her because of it.. She says my appearence dosen't matter but, i've just been made fun of and stuff soo much i can't believe her until i see her reaction. Someone please help me.
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Has she not seen you before? If she has then she already likes you and doesn't see you as being fat.
If shes never seen you but you have told her what you look like then she must think you will be worth having as a friend regardless. I can understand your fears but if your looks are the only thing a person likes you for then you don't need that person. :)
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