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I'm the same person who asked how i could persuade my parents to let me keep my brother's dog while he is forced to live in hawaii(military orders). My brother and I decided to talk to our parents(for the third time) and my dad was cool with it but my mom wasn't. Everything got out of control and my mom and my grandmother got into this violent argument and my mom was close to killing my grandmother. My mom saids that my brother deserves the pain of his problems just because my brother is taking a while to pay her back cuz he doesn't have much money rite now. To her money comes before family so itz her #1 priority. So my mom threatened to pack up and leave home forever if the dog moves in. I'm so upset and stressed out. what should I do?
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Talk to her some more. If she doesn't love you enough to keep your dog for you, then ask one of your relatives if you can stay with them. When she cools down, consider moving home. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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You just leave your mom for your dad to deal with. Think grandma would keep the dog? Hopefully your dad can talk sense into your mom. :)
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Yes, I remember you! I was the second one to answer your other question :)
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I'm very glad your father is fine with keeping the dog!
As for your mother...hmm. Of course I suggest you try and talk to her again. Talk to her about every little thing buzzing in your head right now. And teach her that money is not everything! Now could be a good time to teach her what's wrong and how to make it right. Sometimes adults have an opinion and it's hard for them to realize it's not moral unless someone else helps them.
If your mother refuses to listen and insists on having no dog or she'll move out, let me ask you one thing. Do you love this woman? Because as much as you might love her, you might want to rethink about how much SHE loves YOU. I'm sure almost killing your grandmother was an exaggeration, but even if it was, that's HORRIBLE! That's quite selfish that she has a grudge over your brother just because of money! I mean, come on! Your brother's going away for the military! It's not like he's going off to have a vacation in paris.
So she THREATENED to leave FOREVER if a cute doggy came into your home? You know what I think? I think she's bluffing. Trying to make sure the dog won't ever take a step in the house. I say go for it and keep the dog. She's either just bluffing or if she really is willing to leave forever just because of this, it's best to let her go.
Don't stress out and don't get upset. I know, sounds impossible, but keep your cool. I promise you, you are doing nothing wrong so don't feel bad. Please tell me what happens and feel free to ask again if you ever need more advice. Good luck!
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All of this over a dog? To me that is just sad. It is also sad that your mother is putting more value on money than on the emotions of another human being and threatening to leave over a DOG moving in for only a while. You need to sit her down and tell her what she is doing to everyone, how she is hurting everyone over the stupidest of things and her own selfishness. If she isn't going to listen to you, then let her leave because she isn't going to help you anymore and I wouldn't trust her with the way you said she is acting up. And her almost killing your grandmother? That just proves she has anger issues and needs to get them solved, maybe if she solves the anger problem then she can work on everything else on a more clear headed level. If you want to try and help her, solve her anger first, because anger is the root of alot of other problems.
Hope everything goes ok for you and this advice I gave helped you. Also good luck to your brother.
-Ryan
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Well hunny try telling your mom that you really like the dog and you will be fully responsible for the actions aswell. Try co-operating with your mom and working things out that you both agree on hopefully she'll know where your coming from and let you keep the dog.
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I think your family needs to sit down with your mom and let her know the toll her emotional blackmail and violence is having. She needs to realize since your brother is leaving on military orders that there's a chance that something might happen to him. Now is not the time to hold a petty grudge over money.
I think that your entire family would benefit from counseling. If your mom won't go, go without her. Talk to your dad about it. What your mom is doing can leave long-lasting emotional scars if left untreated.
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Let her leave. Honestly, if thats the way she feels, she should go live on her own and deal with herself. It's not your fault she's that way. I highly doubt she'd do it anyway. She sounds like she just wants to get her own way. Honestly, no offense, but she sounds like a total bitch. Just tell her, she doesn't have to care for the dog, you will, and if she has that much of a problem with it, then too bad. Move out. Good Luck. <3 Lana
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