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friends far apart
My friend Jennifer and I have been good friends since 7th grade but our freshmen year we became really far apart. I got a boyfriend and she felt rejected. Well I tried to reconnect with her hear the last few months and now she has a boyfriend. I invite her places with me and she always comes up with rediculious excuses to not go. I invited her to a concert with me and she didn't go because her boyfriend came to her house. I never blew her off like this. We have our old conservations on the phone and talk at lest 2 hours every other day. I just dont know what to say or do. I want to go to the old ways.
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♥ You did all that you could do. Its mainly her problem now. You didn't do anything wrong. Just live your life & get new friends. & Im sure she'll come along & c0me back & appologize. Thats happened to me many times. She's probobly still a little mad at you & shes wanting you to feel bad for having a boyfriend & she felt a little jeLous. Your actually a really good friend & you dont deserve her blowing you off! Hope i helped. Good luck hun! <3 LAUREN
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She really isn't worth your time if she's going to keep blowing you off for her boyfriend!! There's no reason for her to treat you that way, expecially if you guys used to be best friends. Just try to talk to her and see what she says. Maybe there's something else going on that you don't know about; just talk to her, and then go from there. If things don't get better, don't waste your time!
♥ Melissa
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this question sounds just lik my sister and my sisters friend, i think you shiul talk to her and tell her how you feel. some friends forget to put your friends before your boyfriends. if you and your friends are truely friends then you guys can work this out.
hope i helped!!!
britt!!!
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What i would do is sit her down and tell her how you feel! And if that doesn't change anything, then forget her!
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if i were you i wouldnt even bother with her but if you want to go your old ways then have a talk with her saying that when you got a boyfriend you didnt mean to make her feel rejected and take it from there....
good luck!!*
-kara
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People grow up and people start to find other friends and more people to hang out with. If you really want to hang out with her more maybe you should talk to her about what she is doing. Maybe tell her that a true friend wouldn't blow you off for a boyfriend. Tell her boyfriends don't last forever but true friendships last forever. Just remember you don't always have to talk to her to be her friend.
If she keeps blowing you off I really do think she doesn't want to be your friend anymore and instead of wasting your time inviting her everywhere, ask other friends if they want to go and soon she will find that she is missing out and want to go more places with you.
I hope this works out for the best!!
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try and talk to her by herself maybe on one of your phone calls. ask her if you have upset her or someting and is that why she never wants to go out with you. If she still cares about your friendship she will make time for you. friends should come before boyfriends.
best of luck xxx
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Unfortunately life changes after you start dating. It changes more after you get married, and that's NOTHING compared to the changes after you have children. But I hope you don't have to worry about *that* for quite a while. :D
If you're still having two-hour conversations with her on the phone, it sounds like she misses you, too. Maybe you could arrange a double date for you two and your boyfriends. Something where you won't have to spend a lot of time making conversation; a movie, maybe. But if she keeps coming up with ridiculous reasons not to go, you have two options:
1. You could just flat-out ask her why she doesn't want to hang out with you (but try really hard to ask NICELY). She might get upset and feel that you're confronting her, though, which could jeopardize what's left of your friendship. So think carefully, and decide if risking what you have now is worth it.
2. You could also just give it time. She went through a bad time, I'm guessing, when you had a boyfriend and she didn't; that was probably pretty painful. You might want to give her a few months, or even longer. Keep talking on the phone with her, if you both still want to, and eventually you'll probably start hanging out again.
Good luck!
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