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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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what are some really awesome kinda unknown bands that are like panic at the disco, mcr, the red jumpsuits,fall out boy, stuff in that catagory. also some other unique bands like the dresdon dolls (i doubt anyone really knows them though,there from MA) or any underground band. or also some more popular bands that are like that? i really like the music,its interesting. thanks
I liked it when MCR was an underground band much better than now. I mean i'm happy for them that they're popular but...eh people's reaction to that is pretty harsh right now. And by the way, they aren't that unknown.
But anywhos, I listen to A Faith Called Chaos, The Never, Authority Zero, Deep Rising, The Fifth, Your Vegas, Theory of a Deadman, A Change of Pace and all those bands. One band out of the picture is Alice in Videoland. They're music is really addictive to me. Haha it's like techno rock? And although The Used is well known, or to me they are anyway, they're like MCR sorta and P!ATD mixed? HAha.
But anywhos. MY CHEMCIAL ROMANCE ROCKs...eh hemm
Okay, I am really nervous about getting my braces off. I mean, I am worried that those brown spots will be underneath the brackets and my teeth will look gross. I brush my teeth twice a day with whitening toothpaste for the recommended two minutes and wash my mouth out with listerine. Is that enough? It's really hard to floss!
If you took good care of your teeth, from what I read you did...then it sohuld be fine unless you indulged yourself with tons of sugar and chocolate and sodas and all that stuff.
ok, so around that time of the month, i get really REALLY moody. i feel like ripping everyone's head off, literally. to prevent that, the only way i have found is to be on midole(?) from about 3-4 days before it comes till 1-2 days after. that can't be healthy, and i have to take the maximum dosage as well. i was wondering if anyone knows any ways i could improve my mood? i seriously need help cause i almost swore at my parents today, and i have another week or so to go and i only have 2 midole left,
please help me!
p.s, i'm 15/f
HAha, Midol will soon be every femal's best friend XD Haha, okay just write down everything. It sounds trite but it works. Listen to music, beat your pillow up, just don't practice it on a human being.
my bf doesnt have a dad and so obviously, the families a little messed up. hes always fighting with his brother. hes 18 and my bf is 15. his brother thinks its funny to piss him off and my bf flips out and they get into some big fighting match, cussing and everything else. i yell at my bf since i certainly cant yell at his brother, and tell him to stop fighting with him and all that n how he's just making it worse. then he says hes just defending himself and the times im not there it gets bad and im on the phone so i cant do much. so just not his brother heated up his lighter and burned my bf on his back with it. and obviously, it started a fight. his mom and his uncle thats living there dont do much so me, a 15 year old,5'2, and 125 pounds trying to stop them isnt working. what can i doo?? and do you think it would be right if i yelled at his brother? i just dont want his mom to say she doesnt want me around anymore. please help?
Well, if she's not doing anything, you who care for your bf, should step in if it comes to his bro burning your bf's back.
Next time when the fight breaks out, jump in the middle becuase I'm sure that neither wants to beat you up. Then yell at his bro to back off right now and drag your bf off to somewhere else. Yank him if you have to.
Then tell you bf that the next time you guys get in a fight, you're going to be so pissed off and if he doesnt walk away, threaten him with a break up.
i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care?
Well, if they like you, they should like you for you and not for your breast size and appearance. So if they do care, dump them.
14/f
Around last Thursday i was acting really stupid on msn and now this guy thinks i like him, now everyone does when i dont. It's kind of like "big" and i don't know im almost depressed because i don't.
You're not depressed.
Anyways, just ignore it. Don't go around getting all excited and mad and replying with a "NO I DONT!!!"
Just ignore it. Tell them that they can hae fun with their little rumors but the end result is--they're rumors. You don't like him and if they want to ignore that fact, they can have fun with it.
is it normal and stuff nowadays for teens to drink and do drugs...
ages starting at 13-14?
Okay, I'm sXe and personally I don't think that it's normal to do drugs at ANY age.
I have 4 friends that are 14-15 that are doing drugs and drink and smoke and what not.
The drinking/smoking/doing drugs--the age goes down each year--sadly. And I'm sad to say that people around 14 and up engage in drug abuse, drinking, and smoking.
i am 5 feet exactly, and i weigh 108 lbs. I know thats not like over weight, but i just want to flatten my stomach because in like... June, we go to a water park as a school fieldtrip, and we have to wear our bathingsuits. i want to look good.
how can i lose about 10-15 lbs before June? any help is appreciated=]
also... i know this is really random, but is there anything i can do to uhm...make my breasts bigger? like any excercises or foods i can eat?
thxx.
Um, first thats a little too much weight to try and lose. You should be around 100lbs..so yeah.
Just run everyday or every other day, cut out all junk food, don't skip meals, eat well porpotioned meals three times a day, drink lost of water and reisst yourself from eating snacks at random times. Also do some toning workouts likes curl ups, push ups, and all that good stuff. Also try pilates..
hey, ive been trying to think of something to do for my 16th bday party. i was gonna do midnight bowling, but someone else did that a few weeks ago and i dont want to seem like im copying them. does anyone have a cool, original idea? thanks :)
Amusment park? Too expensive.
Okay, go ice skating..if its cold there. Go to a roller skating rink and bring them back to watch a movie at your house with unlimited popcorn. Haha
Laser tags always fun...but it makes people too sweaty and tired...so heh.
i like 3 girls but i dont no wat 1ns like me they all acted like they like me but i cant tell and im scared to tell them plz help me!!!!!!!!!
Um, just straight out ask them out. Seriously, if they don't like you, big deal. I personally don't care if a guy that I didn't like in that way asked me out because, well we all need to ask someone out someday right? So don't fret and ask one out. If you're turned down, move to the next one.
Me and my boyfriend were at my house today and hes already had sex,
well we were fooling around i guess you could say and we got naked except for our underwear and he stuck his penis in me and this only went on for like 10 minutes. is it sex? i ended up bleeding after this. But i'm confused if it was sex or not, and if you would consider me a virgin. Cause like hours after that my boyfriend was like "i want to have sex with you wicked bad" so did we or not?
Um, he wnet in you. End of story. It's not full sex i guess but your hymen probably snapped and you're virginity went bye bye.
My father has had 3 wives, and did not even tell me, I had to find out from my mom. I live with my mom also. How can I get my dad to stop being so secretive? I am his daughter and I only have a faint outline of what his life has been like so far. How can I learn more, without him feeling 'violated'?
Okay, when you meet him one day, ask him "How come you never told me about you having 3 wives?" and maybe he won't get into in, maybe he will avoid it, or maybe he will explain it. Either way tell him that you want to know about your dad because right now, you don't really know anything about him. Add a few emotional face expressions, maybe a tear here and there and you're good to go.
Okay I have a boyfriend. And we have abig past .. like me with his friends. And he doesn't trust me at all ... He's always going through my phone and arguing with me... checkin up on my myspace & my buddylist. Also he'll "play around" hitting me, but when I play around and hit him.. he always gets mad. I don't know what to do cause I love him withh my life. Whhattt do I doo?!
If he truly loves you, his actions would change. Love is built on trust and good communication and apparently your bf doesn't seem to trust you. Also him "playing around" and hitting you is not acceptable. Just the fact that he hits you--there is no excuse for hitting a girl...especailly a gf and than getting mad at you for doing the exact thing he's doing.
If he loves you, he'll understand and not get mad when you point out that you don't appriciate that he treats you like a criminal going through all parts of your daily life like your phone, myspace, and buddylist, lbah blah. Tell him that you need him to trust you in order for this relationship to go smoothly and that he needs to either stop playfully hitting you or stop getting mad at you if you playfully hit him. Otherwise, you won't know where this relationship is gonna go without the trust.
Okay so I like this guy, I've only hung out with him like once or twice. But wow.. he is like super cool. We used to talk everyday on aim. Now it's only once in a while... How can I make him notice me.. Cause we don't go to the same school.
Talk about less shallow stuff..instead of goofy around (which i'm not saying you guys are doing) or rambling about some daily stuff, try talking about what his views on different matters are.
Religion, politics, government, society, gay rights, all that stuff. I talk about those stuff with two of my guy friends and we can just go forever.
I am not a very bright person! Whenever I try to bring up a conversation, people always tell me that what I say either isn't right, or very "professional" but I try hard to make it sound that way. I am usually trying to sound that way at my job when I want to join in on a conversation my co-workers are having. And every time I do, they look at me really retarded and I am thinking to myself they must not think I am very smart. I don't think they have ever seen the "smart" side of me since I am always doing clutzy things at work, and trying to relate to what they are talking about. I hope that makes sense, so I am asking if anyone has any tips on how I can sound more professional without looking like a total idiot? Thanks.
[And if it helps] I am a very talkative person and the only way they talk to ME is if I start to mingle with them first.
Well, collect your thoughts first so they don't come out in fragments or random weird choppy words.
Pick up some words the people around you are using and use them for later but not too excessively.
Limit yourself forom going on and on about something and just take time to sit, listen and catch up on what they're saying, how you can put your comment into that--without sounding idiotic.
There's really no way to talk "smart" unless you've expanded your knowledge in like every subject. Plus, it's how you talk and if they're going to make snappy decisions with it and judges you with how you talk, they're the idiots.
I have a younger brother who is 13. Everytime I have food in my room such as a gift basket my friend made me with all kinds of sweets, he ends up taking a bunch of it. Sometimes it's just one or 2 pieces out of 100 so I don't say anything. Today I found a sucker wrapper and I told my mom about it because I was mad that he went into my room and took it...and it's the hundreth time. She didn't really do anything...just told him "sternly" that she didn't want him in my room. What can I do to keep him from taking my things??
I gave him a big bag of 3 musketeers for Christmas and I share with him sometimes. We have cheez its and wheat thins in the pantry so he's not starving.
my mom tries hiding food from him too and he always finds it.. and also, I want easy access to MY food and MY things.
Thanks for any help. - 16/female.
Keep your room locked. Haha. Ummm divide your food and hide it in random places so he won't take all at the same time.
what usually happens when they take your braces off..,
doees it hurt? some of my friends said it kinda hurt :S
It didn't hurt when they pulled mine off. BUt it feels really awkward. Haha anyways, they just pull the little metal things off one by one and it only takes less than 10min..
Just incase, bring a bottle of advils XD
okay i have two guys who are in love with me which its my boyfriend Justin and my best friend Sean, well like I've been going out with Justin for almost 10 months and I've known Sean for about 4 or 5 years. Well i know that Sean and Justin doesn't like each other because Sean doesn't like the way that Justin treats me and like Justin treats me fine, he doesn't do anything bad, but people are scared that iam going to get hurt or anything and i talked to Justin about that he said that he ever would hurt me in any way and like i don't know like my mom think that Sean is the one for me , but Justin is really i don't want to go out with my but friend you know that would be awkward you know, i don't know iam just lost, i' have two guys who are in love with me and i don't want to make a bad chocie of picking who you know because my mom doesn't like the way Justin treats me either, and i don't understand why they don't. He told me he would do anything bad to harm me... i just don't know i need your help.
thanks lauren
Okay, well stay with Justin for now and if anything --even the slightest mistreatment comes at you, break it up with him. Sean, you've known him for so long, why break such a fragile friendship?
i honestly can't concentrate, and it's starting to worry me a lot. like, i have midterms tommorrow and I'm trying to study, but it's like I try to read information and I'm not understanding it, and then why I try to understand it, it's really weird, it's like as if like my brain is telling me that it's too much work for it to make sense of what it's saying. i don't know if i'm lazy, but I don't think so, because i WANT to study. i WANT to learn this, it's not like I want to put it off. Sometimes I start daydreaming, but that doesn't seem to be my biggest issue. it's just the concentrating
any advice you can give me? please (:
When you study, cut it up into 20minute intervals. You brain can store up to 20min of what you study and then after that it'll just go in an out. So study for 20min, take a 5min break, 20min, 5 min break, etc.
Make sure you're studying it in the way that is most effective for you. Like if you're a visual learner, read. Audio--read it out loud. If you have to do something, write it out. Or all of them at once.
Also during the 5min breaks, stretch and rest your eyes or listen to one song.
how can i loose alot of weight around my hips? i want to look good in a bathing suit. thanks!
First burn off the fat by doing cardio, aerobics, etc. Run everyday or every other day. Pilates is uber sweet too. umm eat healthy food and cut off al junk food right now.
After you've lost your excess fat, tone it by doing curl ups and crunches and such workouts.