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What do I do?
My father has had 3 wives, and did not even tell me, I had to find out from my mom. I live with my mom also. How can I get my dad to stop being so secretive? I am his daughter and I only have a faint outline of what his life has been like so far. How can I learn more, without him feeling 'violated'?
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I know this a short and common answer, but communication. I think if you have more of that with him, and you open up a little bit more with him, he'll do the same. Now, hey, if he just wants to be secretive, you can't change him. But usually when teenagers open to their parents, the parents will see that you want to talk and such and do the same for you.
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Okay, when you meet him one day, ask him "How come you never told me about you having 3 wives?" and maybe he won't get into in, maybe he will avoid it, or maybe he will explain it. Either way tell him that you want to know about your dad because right now, you don't really know anything about him. Add a few emotional face expressions, maybe a tear here and there and you're good to go.
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inorder for him to be honest is if yu be honest with him too
tell him how you feel about the situation
and if thats uncomfortable for you
always be honest with him so he can gain a strong trust with you
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