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Okay I have a boyfriend. And we have abig past .. like me with his friends. And he doesn't trust me at all ... He's always going through my phone and arguing with me... checkin up on my myspace & my buddylist. Also he'll "play around" hitting me, but when I play around and hit him.. he always gets mad. I don't know what to do cause I love him withh my life. Whhattt do I doo?!
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I know what you mean! My boyfriend is a good 100 pounds heavier than me and plays football and wrestles and he thinks its fun to pick on me and push me around and put me in wrestling moves when really I'm just in pain. So I kick him and scratch him and then he acts like I just tried to murder him. What i do is sometimes i act like he really hurt me and then he is super sorry. Maybe try that if he is getting too aggressive. Also about the myspace you should not let him push you around and do everything he wants you too. Take a stand and set him straight, Tell him that you have a life and that he needs to respect that you can and do have other friends. Don't give up anything just for your boyfriend. Don't worry I'm sure everything will turn out okay! Just don't be afraid to tell him if anything is bothering you. Okay well I could type all day about this because it is so much like my life, but I to go so I hope this helps!!
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ok, i have someone in my life just like this.
sometimes he even tells me to delete some of the picture comments on my myspace and stuff.
talk to him about it.
and tell him that you don't think its right for him to go through your stuff.
he should understand.
if he doesn't, then hes not the one for you :[
hope i could help :]
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If he truly loves you, his actions would change. Love is built on trust and good communication and apparently your bf doesn't seem to trust you. Also him "playing around" and hitting you is not acceptable. Just the fact that he hits you--there is no excuse for hitting a girl...especailly a gf and than getting mad at you for doing the exact thing he's doing.
If he loves you, he'll understand and not get mad when you point out that you don't appriciate that he treats you like a criminal going through all parts of your daily life like your phone, myspace, and buddylist, lbah blah. Tell him that you need him to trust you in order for this relationship to go smoothly and that he needs to either stop playfully hitting you or stop getting mad at you if you playfully hit him. Otherwise, you won't know where this relationship is gonna go without the trust.
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Ok,well fist off, does he love you? If the answer is yes then you need to get him to understand that you are with him because you love HIM, not the people in your past. You should probably sit down and talk because if he cant trust you then you cant have a decent relationship. Relationships are based on trust, love and communication, if you dont ahve all three of these, then you dont really have a relationship. And secondly, NO ONE, not even your boyfriend has the right to hit you, even if he is just playing around. If you let him do that when he's just playing around, he might think you dont care and it might get worse. One day might come when he gets mad and "plays around" to hard. You need to figure out how he cares about you, because if he doesnt feel the same way towards you that you feel towrds him, then he's not worth your time!
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This sounds like a manipulating and controling guy. He is spying and thinks that it is ok to pretend to hit as long as he doesn't really hit.
Sounds pretty classic of an abusive or at least signs of abuse to come. What is it all worth to you? What are you worth to you? I suggest laying down some boundaries that will allow to take care of you and your needs. If he can't follow You remind yourself of your worth and go from there.
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