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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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i read an article online where a woman cut her calories.
she ate like a person of the goal weight she wanted ate (that amount of calories)
for example if she wanted to weigh 115lbs shed consume as many calories it takes for someone at 115 lbc to maintain that weight.
she lost 26lbs in 1 month doing this. with little to no exercise really.
is this truly possible? i want to loose that amount as well.
she lost 15 in 2 weeks.
how is this physicaly possible?
could i get the same results?
im 121 lbc 5'1 and i want to be 108lbs (which is my normal weight. i recently gained 12 lbc on a vacation and cannot loose it)
To be honest that sounds a little far fetched. To loose 26 pounds in a month is loosing almost a pound a day. Proper dieting targets loosing maybe 3 pounds a week. To loose twice the amount of weight then what is considered proper, sounds dangerous.
Could you get the same results. If what this article reported is true, then I would say anything is possible for you. That would be the upside. The downside is that this type of diet like most fad diets results in only temporary weight loss as once we hit are target weight we, as a general rule, go right back to our old eating habits.
While you did not ask I did look up what you proper weight range should be for someone of your height. If you are between 18 to 34, for your height your present weight falls right in the middle of the range. I would call that healthy. To loose 15 pounds puts you very close to the lower end of your weight range which I would consider close to unhealthy. If you still feel you need to loose weight, which I feel you do not, then consider a target weight of 115 pounds, which I would still consider in the healthy range.
The last paragraph is just my thoughts offered to help you make a decision. Loosing 5 or 6 ponds in month without any strange dieting programs is more possible than the program you asked about.
hi, im 18 i got into a really good college and finanical aid is paying everything besides 3500.00 for me to go. so i need a private student loan for the 3500 for a semester so 7000 a year. for the first loan i need an additional 2500 for books and a computer and i did the loan through discover and they approved it and i just need a cosigner..the only problem is everyone in my family has bad credit so it didnt go through for them..they have like no interest anyways ive done everything so far on my own. but now i dont know what to do. i need the loan for 6000.00 and its all set up to get the money besides a cosigner that i cant seem to get..what do i do? i need the money by the end of augest =[ please help.
Things may have changed some since my son went through college so bear with me a moment while I go through what I think your saying.
You said financial aid is paying for all but $3,500.00. To me this mean that they were able to find Pell grants and Scholarship funds to cover everything but the $3,500.00. These funds have to come out of your pocket or from a student loan.
If I am correct in my assumption, the financial aid center should be able to help you apply for a Federally funded student loan. These loans are low interest loans that you pay nothing on until you graduate. When my son filed for these loans I did not have to co-sign for them; the loan was guaranteed by the Federal Government and issued through a major bank. I realize that in the past years since my son applied for his loans a lot has happened in the financial world, but student loans are still available.
Go back to the financial aid center and ask them how to apply for a student loan. They should have the forms there and be able to assist you in completing them. You apply for these loans each year when you know how much you need for that years tuition and other school related items.
I hope this helps.
OK so i am 11 turning 12 and i am thinking of turning to babysitting for a little bit of side cash, i am thinking of doing it with one of my friends and we would share the money.
i am not sure how much money we should ask for an hour, we both are very mature and like kids :).
So plz help and give some ideas.
thnx.
I think that is a great idea, getting two for the price of one. One thing you need to do before you get your hopes up though is check and see if your state has a minimum age someone must be before they are old enough to baby sit. The state I live in has a minimum age of 13. This also means a parent in this state cannot leave a child under 13 home alone or home alone caring for younger siblings. Frankly most parents are not aware of this law and it only comes in to play if something unfortunate happens.
All is not lost though. If your state does have a law such as mine and you are to young to legally baby sit there is something you and your friend can do that will help you make more money next year. The American Red Cross offers a Certified Babysitting Course. If you and your friend were to take this course and become certified baby sitters you would be more valuable as babysitters then someone else your age. You therefore could charge more than other babysitters.
It has been a long time since my wife and I have required the need of a baby sitter though it is my understanding they charge upwards of $8.00 an hour. As a certified babysitter you would be well worth this fee and more.
If you can start babysitting now I would still look into the certified course. It could put more money in your pocket.
How can I feel less jealous of my husband and have more fun?
I'm 34 and love my husband. I work 7AM-4PM. My husband works as a clerk at a store from 11AM to 7PM. We have two kids, ages 3yrs and 6 months. Our kids go to a babysitter from 9AM to 4:30PM.
I am constantly jealous of my husband. He uses the 9AM-11AM period of his day to have independent fun. And he gets to socialize all day with his friends and have a pretty casual job.
I love my kids, but taking care of them by myself after work has taxed me all day is a challenge. Taking them with me to socialize or run errands is difficult.
Is it possible your husband could take the children to day care later in the morning, say as late as 10:30AM. Then if possible you could pick them up maybe as late as 6PM.
If your husband is unwilling or some how unable to run the errands you run after work. This slight change in schedule would free up some time for you to run the necessary errands without the children in tow and lower your stress rate.
Speaking as a husband who grew up with a mother who did everything and then went in to the military that provided everything. I then went from the military to a civilian life and marriage with no concept of providing for myself. I had to be taught. Sure I knew the basics but I had no concept of how marriages worked beyond the obvious. If this is the case with your husband then the change in schedule will help teach him what some of his other responsibilities are.
In a good marriage communication is also important. One person cannot do all the work while the other relaxes and enjoys themselves. You cannot bottle this up inside you or you will gain resentment for your husband. He needs to hear from you what if anything may be upsetting you. He may not like to hear it, but you need to say it. As I learned, the hard way, marriage is a 50/50 proposition. One person cannot have all the fun while the other person does all the work.
By the way my wife and I just celebrated our 40th anniversary.
okay i don't want any answers about how dangerous this or unhealthy so just dont waste your time if your going to lecture me. Anyways, I have add and I take adderall and have been for about 2 years now and originally suggested to my mom that i went on it because i heard you can loose a ton of weight on it and at first i didnt really have an appetite and when I am on it theres about a ten pound difference from when i dont take it. But Im going into my sophmore year at college and I want to loose at least 15 pounds by the end of august. I know that will probably be impossible but I want to do my best. Anyways I take 20 mg a day and i could probably go all day without eating by than by night I'm starving and crash and eat. I heard if you take 20 mg in the morning and than another halfway through the day you'll be set. Any suggestions? Thanks!
if you want to ruin you health and possibly some vital organs continue doing what your doing. If you seriously. Want to loose weight do it the right way. When you ask for advice you shouldn't expect to get what you want hear but what you need to know. Advice that will help you and not harm you.
As a general rule I do not believe in fad or quick weight loss diets. They can be harmful and for the most part result in only a temporary weight loss.
I know of only one proper weigh to loose the amount of weight you are looking to loose. That is through a supervised weight loss program supervised by your doctor. A doctors supervised weight loss program with the help of a good dietitian and proper exercise may take longer to loose weight; in the end though the weight loss tends to be more permanent as you develop proper eating and exercise habits.
Fad diets and diet pills, not prescribed by a doctor, can be harmful and cause problems that can have life long and life shortening results. My advice is to diet properly and achieve results that are better for you in the long run.
Im 13 years old and i need something to do for the summer. So i decided babysitting for money would be perfect! Buut, i need help advertising. Does anybody know where i can advertise for free?
Many supermarkets, at least those where I live, have community bulletin boards where you can post notices such as ads to baby sit. Take a sheet of paper and write your ad. at the bottom cut tear offs with your phone number on them so anyone who would like to call you can take the number with them.
I would be remiss if I did not add this. Advertising on a community bulletin board is an inexpensive way to advertise a service. Given the times we live in I would suggest you talk with your parents first before you do something like this and very more so before you go to meet or sit for someone you or they do not know.
I'm not trying to scare you or dissuade you from making money. As a parent I just want to be cautious. Chances are nothing would ever happen and that the people who call you just want your baby sitting service. As a father I would want the chance to meet these people and just satisfy myself that they are who they say they are. Especially if I do not know them.
So my advice is to discuss this with your parents, then follow their advice.
Hi I have recently stopped my ex husband having access to our son. I have never stopped it in the 6 years we have been seperated if anything I have tries my hardest to keep it going. A few months bk my son misbehaved and my ex smacked him around his face so hard he fell to the ground and had a handprint on his face! My son is 8 years old and loves his dad so I stupidly let him go with his dad again. From what my son has said this is a regular occurance if he is naughty! Last week I went to collect my child from my ex and we got into an argument, he then pushed me so I pushed him bk he then grabbed me by the throat n my 9year old daughter tried to pull him off me and he pushed her over causing her to hit her head! This was a wake up call for me and I have spoken to our son and and stopped access and my son agrees. My ex is now taking it to court what shall I do? I would hope that given all the facts the court would go in my favour but I fear for my son if it doesn't, but I also fear what my ex will do to me if it does go my way.
You are in a very tricky legal situation which requires the help of a good lawyer. If you don't have one you need to get one.
One thing you should be asking for is supervised visitation. This will keep your son safe during his visits with his dad. Of course there will not be any overnight visitation. You should also ask that your ex attend anger management and parenting classes.
For your own safety you need a protective order against your husband and you should report the assault by your husband on you and your daughter to the police. Striking or pushing your daughter to the ground hard enough to hit her head I believe qualifies as child abuse.
You should discuss all of this with your lawyer. Reporting the child abuse and the assault so far after the fact; can look or be made to look as retaliatory and work against you.
There is a fine line between discipline and child abuse. Smacking a child in the face crosses that line. Reporting this to the police or child services is what should have been done when it happened. No parent no matter how mad or upset they may be should ever get that out of control as to strike a child across their face in the first place. Secondly if they do it should never be so hard as to leave a mark that would be visible after the fact.
Follow your lawyers advice. No matter what the outcome is in court; if this ever happens again your fist move is to call the police and file charges. Have them take pictures, you take pictures. Then call your lawyer.
I have recently given my boyfriend head and hand for the first time (first time I have ever done both too). It was okay I guess (he seemed to of enjoyed it lol). But I'm not sure if I want to do it again. About 3 days after I gave head I got a few pimples around my mouth.. It can't of been herpes though because they looked like normal pimples and they went away after about 3-4 days. But is there a chance if it could be?
Also I am planning on losing my virginity when I am 18. (I am currently 15.) Does that seem a bit strange though? The reason is because I don't want to be a pregnant teenager. It scares me so much I don't want it to happen to me. But there are things that can stop pregnancy but sometimes it all doesn't work. I am really confused if I was too do it as a teenager I would wait until I am 16 (legal age). Could someone please help me?
Also it's annoying giving head and hand so... I am definitely not planning on doing it again any time soon.
Just for the record cold sores are a form of The herpes virus.
Since none of us are doctors and it is not possible to make a diagnoses over the web; I would suggest you see a doctor and get tested for STDs.
At your present age you can go to any clinic and be tested without parental consent or knowledge. Whether or not those bumps where just coincidental pimples or an STD no one can tell you without testing. You need to protect yourself and get test. Once tested you will no for sure and and while you are there you can get information on how to protect yourself in the future.
Ok,so i know asking this will probably get me nowhere as people feel too morally obliged not to answer a question of this magnitude,but i'll give it a go anyway.:the thing is,i am considering suicide very seriously and would like to know what would be the most efficient way to go about it,i'm not going to try and justify my consideration of doing this,but would really appreciate a honest answer.
The fact that your are considering means you have not come to a decision. The only help I can or would ever consider giving you is this: There is no justifiable reason to commit suicide.
Please call this hotline number: 1-800-273-TALK. This is the National Suicide Hotline. They will help you get help.
Does alcohol increase the effects of other drugs? It is dangerous to mix the two?
As a first responder I can tell you mixing alcohol and drugs of any kind is extremely dangerous. Alcohol and narcotic drugs do not mix well and if you do mix them pray a paramedic arrives fast enough to administer narcan which reverses the narcotic.
Only a paramedic can do something to help anyone who abuses a narcotic drug. Mixing a narcotic drug with alcohol, even a legally prescribed drug, is an abuse. The effects of this abuse can be extremely dangerous up to and including death. It is like playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded revolver.
Mixing street drugs with alcohol is far more dangerous as you have no idea what the drug pusher has cut his/her drugs with and how those agents will react to alcohol. You also don't know how little or how much alcohol you can drink before a reaction will happen.
My dad has been taking codeine for around 2-3 years. He first took it when he broke his collarbone and his doctor continues to prescribe it for him. I've read about people getting addicted to prescription medication and I'm just wondering if it's possible for my dad to have become addicted to the codeine?
I agree with Never2beAlone. I too blame the doctor who should be aware that he is feeding your fathers addiction and should be working to cure his addiction.
Unfortunately your father will not help himself until he is ready to ask help . Like anyone who is dependant on something that usually means they have to hit bottom and everyone's bottom is different.
There may be a light at the end of this tunnel. Many states, hopefully yours is one of them, are joining a federally funded program to monitor prescriptions for class I and Class II prescriptions. Codeine Prescriptions are a mostly class II prescription. Should your fathers prescription trip the monitoring program the program will contact his doctor as to why he is being prescribed this drug for this long a period.
I'm not sure as to where or how things proceed form there but it can end with your father being given assistance in getting off his dependence for codeine.
what if you are having second thoughts about getting married.
Pre Wedding jitters are normal Not knowing the reason for your second thoughts causes me some problems in offering advise. Also not knowing if your the bride or the groom further complicates the problem.
One common problem is the thought that maybe I will meet someone else or you have met someone else that I think I might love more or could love more. Like I said this is a very common problem as the wedding date approaches.
All I can tell you is that there is always a chance that you will meet someone that is prettier or more handsome then your intended spouse or the person you have married. But beauty is not everything. Infatuation will always be their, it is hard to avoid. At this time you have to stop and tell yourself what you have and remember that a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
If something has changed between you and your intended then that is another story. First I suggest you stop and thing about what has changed. If it is the bride you have to give some thought to rolling with the change for the wedding is a major event in her life and as the date grows closer so does her stress. If it is the groom stop and ask yourself if this is his reaction to your stress.
If it is none of the above then the two of you need to stop and communicate with each other. Communication is as a big part of married life as is a good sex life, maybe even bigger. There is nothing wrong with going to premarital counseling even if you are not having differences just to make sure you are both comfortable and to help relieve those premarital jitters.
I have a bump on my labia minora. It's on the very edge of the lip. I didn't notice the bump until I was wiping myself today after using the washroom and felt an uncomfortable tug. My razor slipped and I cut my labia minora a week or two ago while shaving and thought that perhaps that could be it. What else could cause this lonesome bump? It only hurts when I am wiping. It's as though I am wiping something that is very dry - that kind of tugging feeling. It looks like a blister or pimple of some kind when looking at it from the front, but it's flat on the sides. I don't want to prod at it. What could this be?
Also, my partner is completely faithful to me and I to him. We were both tested within the last 5 months and it came back negative for everything.
MY RESPONCE TO YOU: You added your additional information almost 2 hours after I answered your question. Had I had this additional information my answer to you would have been different or I would not have chosen to answer this question at all.
Had The additional information that you had seen the doctor been there and I chose to answer you my answer would have been something to the effect: If you are not confident in your doctors diagnoses I would suggest seeking a second opinion.
As to whether or not I would have added the information about the remote possibility of getting an STD from a TOILET SEAT. I honestly can't say. Hind sight is 20/20 therefore almost perfect. I might have, it would depend on your wording and how I interpreted you meaning. I added the information originally because of the fact you possibly had an open cut and after doing some research I felt it would be wrong of me not to include it.
You don't have to like the answer any of us give you. Understand though when we choose to answer a question it is done with hopefully the best intentions. You don't have to like the answer but neither do you have to shoot the messenger.
While it is extremely rare there are several types of STDs that a women can pick up from a toilet seat; you should be tested again.
The fact that this lump is painful to the touch tells me you should contact your gynecologist. What the problem could be is just about anything from and in grown hair, pimple or an infection from where you cut yourself.
None of us on this site are doctors. Even if we were it is impossible to diagnose something, anything over the web. See your or contact your doctor for proper advise.
Ok, so I'm 13... I weigh 125 lbs... and I'm 5'3... I think I'm overweight.... my thighs are 31 inches around at the biggest part..... I have a very low self confidence because of my weight... so, what I want to know is.. by the time I'm 16 do you think I would look skinnier because I would grow into myself?? And is it possible that if I grow into myself.. would I lose inches off of my thighs?? I have really big hips and thighs.... I hate it!!! I just dont want to look like this my whole life... also... I have hair all over my stomache!! It is the Darkest around my bellyWbutton though... I have askd my mom if I could bleAch it but she says no all the time,and tells me to just shave it... but every time I shaVe it.. there is little black dots from where I couldn't get down far enough to shave the hair that is starting to grow back in undernEath.. any ideas on tht too?? Oh, and please dont try to comfort me and say stuff like "god made you for who you Are and just accept it" thanks!!
As a parent I can tell you for certain that at this time you are a healthy teenager who is is either just starting or in the process of going through puberty. To worry about your figure is something you should not be concerned with at your age. Your figure will change over the next few years as the hormones you are now producing take their hold on you.
What you can do to effect what your body will look like when you are 17 or 18 is to eat right, limit the junk food. Exercise properly and get the proper amount of rest. See you doctor regularly and once you start your period have yearly check ups with a gynecologist.
Only your doctors can tell you what you proper weight should be. If your athletic you are going to weigh more than someone of your same height and build because muscle weighs more than fat, although you will be healthier.
As for your body hair, please do not shave it as this will only make it thicker and darker. Pluck it for now and when you get older you can get a body wax. If it is real self-esteem issue see a dermatologist for suggestions on how to deal with it.
Otherwise just enjoy being becoming a young women. This only happens once and is and should be a wonderful time in your life.
16/f
Hey guys, I've been feeling really weird lately. For the past 2 weeks ive pretty much felt nauseous. And i almost never am hungry, like i havent eaten barely anything in the past week. I mainly just drink stuff because im extremely thirstyand i know physically my body is hungry but im just really not hungry and it makes me more nauseous to even think about food. Im using nauseous loosely because i havent even been near close enough to puking. Well except twice. I find taking a deep breath every now and then relieves it for a few seconds but then its back. Im not pregnant. There isnt even the slightest chance that i am. But i had a headache yesterday and i took 6 Ibeauprofeun throught the day and they barely touched it. It was the kind of headache where even if i stood up slow my eyes would black out for a few seconds. I dont know if this could be dangerous or something and i know this wont be a legit diagnosis but i just wanted some i deas because i dont want to goto the doctor and it be no big deal or just randomly stop before i go. And i dont know if it would help but my father does have diabetes the worst kind. Ive also had hypoglycemia for a few years now. Which is the complete oposite of diabetes but also a step or two from developing into diabetes. Not that i think i have diabetes . Sorry its long and THANKS.
MY RESPONCE: Lets start with the Motrin. According to the manufacture; the maximum daily dosage is 3,200mgs. You took 4,800mgs or 1,600mgs over the recommended dosage. That is an overdose regardless of how you took them. This dosage is only recommended under a doctors supervision and only for extreme circumstances such as chronic pain. For a headache the recommended dosage is 200 to 400 mgs 4 times a day.
Your hypoglycemia: Among the treatments for this condition is to eat small, frequent meals with complex carbohydrates, fiber, and fat and to avoid simple sugars, alcohol, and fruit juice. You should also eat meals at regular intervals, and balance extra exercise with extra food. Your extremely thirsty, should this be telling you something.(Source Yahoo Health)You have said you have not been eating much for the past two weeks.
Whatever the problem is has been going on for two weeks. It is has to be effecting your hypoglycemia, you have taken an overdose of a non prescription medication which can't be good for your hypoglycemia and your response to me is to tell me how mature you are?
Get to the doctor before the ground comes up and smacks you in the face. This is what being an adult and acting like an adult is all about. Taking proper care of yourself and following your doctors instructions.
Hypoglycemia is low Blood Sugar.If your blood sugar was to get to low would you not black out? You drive a car. What would happen if you were to black out at the wheel. Would you have enough warning to stop your car or would you be the cause of an accident that hurts or possibly kills someone?
This is what I meant when I said you need to start acting like an adult. You need to start looking at the big picture not at just the part your in.
None of us are doctors and even if we were it is not possible to make a diagnoses over the web.
I'll put it to you this way: You have been suffering with something for two weeks. This is not good or normal. You need to see a doctor for whatever is bothering this will not go away on it's own. Not eating can and will cause other problems particularly to your hypoglycemia.
Depending on the strength of the Motrin you took; taking 6 tablets in a 24 hour period may be an overdose. Continued overdosing on this drug can and will cause liver problems.
Lastly; as a parent I will tell you that you should never hide an illness from us. Our primary responsibility to our children is their health, safety and welfare. When you hide something from us we cannot do what is expected of us and if something is serious enough we can be held legally responsible. The fact that we didn't know because you hid something from us is no excuse.
You are 16 years old, all most an adult. It is time you start acting like one. You say you are not pregnant so what other reason would you have to hide this illness from your parents.
You are also old enough to seek medical treatment on your own, with full medical confidentiality. Meaning that any medical exam, procedure, diagnoses or anything else sought from any medical practitioner is confidential. No doctor or medical practitioner can release your medical information to anyone, including your parents without your written permission. This is the law under an act called HIPPA. So I see no reason for you not to seek medical help.
I'm 16/f
okay so to begin with I'm NOT a virgin. I lost it to a close friend and he has nothing to say about this.
So I've Been masterbating since I was in 2-3rd grade not fingering myself but rubbing, anyway; taking a closer look u see that my labia is 'stretched out and a slightly darker color then it should be. I've noticed this before and went to a doctor for it. She said it was not harmful.
What I'm worried about is it appearence. What if a guy wants to eat me out and is digusted by it?? Quite frankly it makes me nervous. Any pointers??
Hugs&rockets --olie
How about a male perspective on your request: In all my years of chasing pussy, I am now close to retirement age and married for the past 40 years. I have never seen, or ever heard any of my friends say they, saw an ugly pussy.
On an HBO "After Dark" Special some spiritual sex enhancer taught a group of couples that there were four types of vagina's, you have one of the four; He called it the "Tulip".
As for any boy being disgusted; doubtful. Any boy worth his computer skills these days has already seen naked models, amateur models and probably more porn than I have. He has probably seen many a "Tulip" Vagina.
I married a woman with tulip vagina. Not because she has a tulip vagina, I happen to love my wife in her entirety. I'm not going to explain our sex life to you other than to say her tulip vagina adds to the experience.
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Unless your extended labia is causing you pain for any reasons, such as sitting, using tampons or during sex; relax. You have a wonderful gift. Any young man who says your vagina is ugly is truly inexperienced and does not know what he is missing.
Relax enjoy your body, enjoy being you. You are a one of kind, a unique individual.
So I was sitting down (cross legged position) for about an hour or 2.. straight. Which was pretty dumb of me because i didn't realize it was bad for you because apparently it cuts off your blood circulation. Well the next morning, I woke up and tried to walk around but my legs were KILLING me!!! It hurts so badly I can't even extend my knees straight. It hurts right behind the knee, and then a little further down by my calves.
I did a little research and maybe its varicose veins?? I can see my veins (which usually I don't) but they aren't like black or super dark. I have tried many things. I elevated my feet for about 20 minutes. I heated it up by taking a hot shower. I massaged my legs. I stretched. it just seems to be getting worse and worse. What is wrong with my legs and how do i fix it??
Going to the doctor is out of the question for me because i'm on vacation and am not familiar with the area.
I would suggest you go to a hospital emergency room and get checked out. While one can never diagnose anything over the web and I am not a doctor. The symptoms you described can be signs of something very serious.
A visit to a hospital emergency room will not only get you a proper diagnoses but put your mind at rest as well. If you have plans of flying home I definitely suggest you do this before boarding the plane.
If you are in the U.S. dial 911 if you cannot get to a hospital. If you are not in the U.S. and do not know the emergency number dial the operator and ask to be connected to the emergency service number.
19/f in uk
For the past 3 years I've had an embarrassing problem- I have uncontrollable diarrhea, abdominal pain and fatigue at random times for weeks to months at a time. My GP tested me for a few illnesses with blood tests but nothing came out positive. She then told me I have chronic fatigue, IBS and depression. (I may have depression but I really don't think I have the other two as a few Rheumatologists I saw said I definitely do not have chronic fatigue.) After that my GP treated me like I was purposely exaggerating my symptoms whenever I went to see her, so I eventually stopped seeing her.
I've ended up missing a lot of school because of feeling sick so had to redo my last A-level year. I thought I would be sitting my exams this summer but I suddenly got a 39 degree fever during my first week of exams. It lasted for 4 weeks so I ended up in A&E and they sent me to a hospital ward. There they did every possible test imaginable from MRI, CT, PET, Xray and tonnes of blood tests but never actually found out anything specifically wrong with me. A few lymph nodes and gallbladder lit up on my PET scan but they werent sure why they were and I lost 5kg of weight because of nausea and bad appetite.
After being discharged I was sent to see some gastro doctors. They did more blood tests. I also recently had a gastroscopy and colonoscopy with biopsies (which were both surprisingly horrible as the sedation didn't knock me out at all). The biopsy results haven't come back yet but my insides appeared normal through the camera probes.
I now have to apply to uni (for the third time!) and try to finally sit my A-levels in December. I'm really worried I will never find out what's wrong with me and just be told to get on with it. I feel so abnormal because no-one else I know has had this sort of problem. My normal school friend mainly drifted away and the few I still am in contact with are always at uni and traveling. And because they can't find anything the doctors say there's nothing wrong with me. When I was 16 I felt so excited about my future but but now I feel like an old woman.
Sorry for the rant but could I please have any helpful advice I could try to stay afloat both mentally and physically? thanks
I can tell from your writing that you are not from the USA but either from someplace in Europe or Australia. The only problem I have with this is I am not aware of how the medical system works in regard to specialists and how you get to see them.
As I tell others just because you may have the same symptoms as someone else does not mean you have the same disease. That being said I saw a on a program called "Mystery Diagnoses" a women with the same systems a yours. It took years before she found a doctor in Northern New Jersey who was able to diagnose her. I don't remember the name of the disease. What I do remember is she was treated with an orphan drug. The disease was rare and incurable but could be controlled.
I'm sure this is not much help to you, though with a little research you might be able to get some answers. If you are your doctors contact the Discovery Channel Television Network in Silver Springs, Maryland, they may be able to identify the program from the information I provided and send you a copy of the program. From that you can get the name of the disease the doctor tested for and all the other pertinent information.
I hope this helps.
I got accepted to Ohio University last year I did everything to atten this year, I completed my FAFSA payed my housing contract and have been staying on top of school. My school redid the busget so I just recently got my completed FAFSA results back. I have half of my school payed for but still have to find loans for 12,000. I live with my mom who doesnt make much money at all so she cant get a loan for me she doesnt have the credi for and cant afford it. Im terrified that all of my plans will soon be gone it's to late for everything. I need to know my options on how to get loans without having the money right now. Thanks in advance I am clueless about a lot of this and just need to know if there is hope for everything that I have been planning.
Visit your schools financial aid office. There are a number of grants available that you may qualify for as well as federally backed student loans. The counselors in the financial aid office can walk you through the process.
I am 13 and i am pregnant. I took a pregnancy test that I stole from a store and it was positive. I already know i am way to young for sex. But we did use a condom it just broke. I can't tell my mom because she doesn't even know that I like boys yet she still thinks that I think boys have cooties. Abortion is out of the picture 1. I can't afford it 2. I could never kill a child. But i am just so scared I didnt tell the dad yet and not my mom only my best friend. I don't know how to tell them so please just tell me what to do or give me potions or opinions but please don't lecture me on how stupid I am for having sex I will get that from my mom it has been 2 weeks. Thanks for the help
There are no two ways about it; you are going to have to tell your mom. Your only option is straight out, mom I'm pregnant. Expect mom to go totally ballistic, followed by probably crying and then hopefully giving you the mothering and advice and help you need.
Now things get a little tricky at this point. Federal law protects your medical confidentiality as a pregnant teen. Unless there has been an overriding state law your mother will not have access to your medical records and have little to no say in your medical care unless you authorize it in writing to your doctor. In other words mom cannot force you to have an abortion. I cannot think of any clinic that will provide one against your will.
That being said it is now time to think of the child and what is in the child's best interest. You are 13 and way to young to even think of raising this child. Adoption is what is in the best interest of this child and now is the time to start the process for adoption; either through a reputable private adoption service or a state agency.