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having second thoughts about getting married
what if you are having second thoughts about getting married.
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Get divorced. Life is too short to allow yourself to stay in a bad relationship. So call it a day before kids come into the equation and then you would be REALLY screwed.
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Pre Wedding jitters are normal Not knowing the reason for your second thoughts causes me some problems in offering advise. Also not knowing if your the bride or the groom further complicates the problem.
One common problem is the thought that maybe I will meet someone else or you have met someone else that I think I might love more or could love more. Like I said this is a very common problem as the wedding date approaches.
All I can tell you is that there is always a chance that you will meet someone that is prettier or more handsome then your intended spouse or the person you have married. But beauty is not everything. Infatuation will always be their, it is hard to avoid. At this time you have to stop and tell yourself what you have and remember that a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
If something has changed between you and your intended then that is another story. First I suggest you stop and thing about what has changed. If it is the bride you have to give some thought to rolling with the change for the wedding is a major event in her life and as the date grows closer so does her stress. If it is the groom stop and ask yourself if this is his reaction to your stress.
If it is none of the above then the two of you need to stop and communicate with each other. Communication is as a big part of married life as is a good sex life, maybe even bigger. There is nothing wrong with going to premarital counseling even if you are not having differences just to make sure you are both comfortable and to help relieve those premarital jitters.
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I think it all depends on what sort of second thoughts you're having.
Getting married is a scary thing. I should know: I'm taking the leap in just under 2 months, and I've had my fair share of pre-wedding panic.
If you're not sure about the person you're marrying, then you should think about pushing back the date. You want to make sure you know them completely and love them for who they are, and to know that they will treat you well forever and stick by you through thick and thin.
If you're not sure about being married, that's absolutely normal. I've been coached through a fair number of freak-outs. My name changing. Brushing my teeth next to the same guy for the next 60 years. Being a wife. Knowing that once you're married, you can't go back to how you were before. It's a big, permanent, terrifying thing, but if you know the person is the right one it's not a problem. It's like any big change: going away to university, moving across the country, having a child. Incredibly stressful but incredibly rewarding.
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Definatley talk to your partner about it and sit down alone and really think and reflect on what you actually want.. you better make your mind up soon like the others said its better now then walking down an ile and hurting someone... and be embarassed and of course divorce cost a lot of money and marriages aren't made for divorces..marriage is the bond between TWO people ONLY. Please rethink it and post it on hold like the others said.
Good luck
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Put the wedding on hold until you know for sure, It's better to know before hand then to walk down that isle and be sorry you did it.
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Then postpone the wedding until you are sure. Its easier to cancel a wedding than get a divorce.
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