I am 13 and i am pregnant. I took a pregnancy test that I stole from a store and it was positive. I already know i am way to young for sex. But we did use a condom it just broke. I can't tell my mom because she doesn't even know that I like boys yet she still thinks that I think boys have cooties. Abortion is out of the picture 1. I can't afford it 2. I could never kill a child. But i am just so scared I didnt tell the dad yet and not my mom only my best friend. I don't know how to tell them so please just tell me what to do or give me potions or opinions but please don't lecture me on how stupid I am for having sex I will get that from my mom it has been 2 weeks. Thanks for the help
Never2bAlone answered Saturday July 30 2011, 6:34 pm: I am helping another girl in a similar situation and I would be very hapy to help you as well. I will give you all the information you need to get the best start possible. If you would like my number or want to just remain communicating over the internet I would be happy to share all the steps you should take. You are not alone and I will help you every step of the way. [ Never2bAlone's advice column | Ask Never2bAlone A Question ]
Diary answered Friday July 29 2011, 4:10 pm: Okay, sweetheart,
this is a bad situation but there's things you can do to make it better. Check out Planned Parenthood and see if there are any offices in your area. They're the best authority on teen pregnancy.
Secondly, as hard as it may seem, you need to tell the father and your mother. Take your best friend with you for support if you need to. I know it seems really difficult now, but it's nothing compared to trying to handle this on your own. If your mother knows, then she'll be able to help you, but if you don't tell her, you'll be making it way harder for no reason and she'll find out anyway. Might as well tell her now and get her help.
You have options other than abortion. If you don't want to raise the baby yourself, then you can always give it up for adoption. Some adoptive parents will even help to cover medical bills and escort you to doctor's appointments.
I wish you the best of luck and hope things get better for you. I know you must be terrified. You, of all people, don't need to be told about the severity of the situation but people will tell you (over and over again). Just remember that, for the most part, it's because they care.
Shan245 answered Thursday July 28 2011, 3:15 pm: I know how you feel. I've been in the position. But it's important you tell your parents. Just sit them down and say it or write it. But you need to tell them soon. You have other option besides abortion. There is adoption if you feel like you can't raise a baby. If you ever wanna talk, feel free to contact me. I also have a website for pregnant teens with tons of information on your option. So check it out, it could help. Its teenmotherstogether.weebly.com [ Shan245's advice column | Ask Shan245 A Question ]
Sweet_LiL_Angel answered Thursday July 28 2011, 12:48 am: You need to tell your parents because ecspecially if you are keeping this baby that baby needs viatmins and check ups with your doctor to make sure he or she is healthy. There is always adoption and there are different tyoes of adoptions where the parents can send you photos every month or so. I had a baby at 15. First off you need to talk to your parents make an appointment with your family doctor to take another pregnancy test just to confirm your positive test. I would just say mom. I made a mistake and I got pregnant so dont say anything just hear me out there is plenty of time for you to be upset and mad at me but im scared and im not sure what to do. Will you take me to the doctor. please. good luck. [ Sweet_LiL_Angel's advice column | Ask Sweet_LiL_Angel A Question ]
Faith42 answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 5:55 pm: This is such a difficult situation. ;/ I strongly advise you to tell at least one of your parents..your mother would be the best choice. Even though you feel like you can't tell her, you have to..because eventually she will find out. With the morning sickness, you not wanting to eat certain things etc.
I've never been in this situation, so I don't know what your going threw, but things will work out..it will be very difficult, but your family loves you..no matter what. They WILL help you.
Make sure you take care of yourself..if you plan to go on with this pregnancy which I think you will ^...which is great..because I don't believe in abortion.
Take the vitamins for the baby, eat well and exercise..
Please tell someone in your family, they need to know.
karenR answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 4:36 pm: I was older than you are when I had to tell my mom the same thing. She took it much better than expected. I hope your experience is the same.
You need to tell her. Just do it. There is no good way to do it at all. Please do not wait because you
need to be under the care of a doctor. Pregnancy
at 13 is a high risk pregnancy. [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 1:50 pm: There are no two ways about it; you are going to have to tell your mom. Your only option is straight out, mom I'm pregnant. Expect mom to go totally ballistic, followed by probably crying and then hopefully giving you the mothering and advice and help you need.
Now things get a little tricky at this point. Federal law protects your medical confidentiality as a pregnant teen. Unless there has been an overriding state law your mother will not have access to your medical records and have little to no say in your medical care unless you authorize it in writing to your doctor. In other words mom cannot force you to have an abortion. I cannot think of any clinic that will provide one against your will.
That being said it is now time to think of the child and what is in the child's best interest. You are 13 and way to young to even think of raising this child. Adoption is what is in the best interest of this child and now is the time to start the process for adoption; either through a reputable private adoption service or a state agency. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
Tammi2011 answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 9:37 am: ok you need to tell your mum as your going to need all the help you can i was a yuong mum its hard but
you will get threw it. You need to sit down with your mum and tell her everything she will be mad at first but will support you you also need to get your boyfriend to tell his parents as the more support ya got the better. The sooner you tell them the better as you will start showing and will need to get an appointment with your doctor to see how far gone ya are [ Tammi2011's advice column | Ask Tammi2011 A Question ]
Bellagirl answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 3:44 am: Ok I feel for you girl, a friend of mine was in the same position. I know this is going to be hard on you but its going to make you grow as a person. Telling your mom is going to have to happen, theres no way to hide this. Mabye you should tell the boyfriend first because you guys are comfortable, and mabye suggest to him that you two together tell your mother. Tell her that you are going to take full responsablilty and you know that you made a misstake, but theres nothing you can do now, but excepting whats going to happen. once your mother knows, she will be able to help you with everything,after all she did have you as a child. I hope the best to you, your in my prayers, good luck <3 [ Bellagirl's advice column | Ask Bellagirl A Question ]
YoungMommy answered Wednesday July 27 2011, 3:33 am: You are going to have to tell your your mom there is no way around that. Its not going to be easy, but it has to be done. You are right on not killing your baby, but you are way too young to be a mom. You are only thirteen. I know how hard it is to raise a child when you are still a child yourself. Its hard and at your age I think its impossible especially since I still strugge at 20 with my two children. Adoption is the best option I can think of for you. First know that it is most likly going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but you are so young and it would be best for not only your baby but also for you. You are going to find a wonderful family who want a baby and will love your child so much. Dont be selfish, give this baby a chance at life. And give it a good home and parents that are old enough and ready to take on this responsibility.
Now talking to your mom as I said will be hard but you have to do it. So just go up to her take a deep breath and just let it out. Tell her you are pregnant and your plans for the baby. She is going to be upset, but just think how you would feel in her shoes and try to understand it.
It is going to be ok, hard, but ok.. good luck and best wishes to you, your family, and your unborn baby... [ YoungMommy's advice column | Ask YoungMommy A Question ]
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