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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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Hi, Recentally me and my boyfriend had sex.. We have been together for 9 months now and hes never pressured me for sex but then we decided that we should.. Last time we had sex he asked me if i would like him to 'cum' in me..
I didn't know what to say so i pretended i didn't hear him.. Now its bothering me.. and i don't know if i should let him or not...
any advice ?... please...

This is somewhat of an awkward question to answer as there is some information missing. If I assume you are both teenagers, make that young teenagers. Then I must also assume you had unprotected sex.

If I go with my assumptions and I use your statement; "I didn't know what to say so i pretended i didn't hear him.. Now its bothering me.. and i don't know if i should let him or not...". Then my concern is that not if you should have let him "cum" in you, but are you fully aware of the consequences of unprotected sex.

Definition of unprotected sex: No condom and you're not on birth control.

If you were having unprotected sex at that point it was a mute question as to whether or not he should "cum" in you the damage was already done. His pre cum has enough sperm in it to cause a pregnancy.

So the questions I have are:

1. Are you to young to be having adult sex?

2. Are you on birth control?

3. How old are you?

4. Just how much knowledge and sexual education do you have?

I'm not trying to belittle you with my questions. Without knowing the answers to these questions I'm not even sure the question you asked is the right question. Not knowing that I can't begin to answer your question and I am hard pressed to see how any one else could give you a good intelligent answer.

k so i asked a similar question earlier but i dont think my question was understood basically im 18 and a first year college student i got a job at a fast food resturant now i live 3 hours away from my family because of school so i dont live at home i live on my own which is why i got a job to pay for things on my own now i got trained 3 days at work and then the following weekend i was suppose to go home to see my parents for the long weekend now when i got the job i told my boss immediately that i would need the long weekend off and he said it was fine and that i would do my training and then once i got back from my parents house he would call me and tell me my work schedule but that never happened ive been back for a week now and i havent gotten a call from him so am i fired or what do i call him? this is my first job and i need help.

Dangernerd is right in what he said, so is the answer I gave you the first time, which I will copy below. It is not truly the responsibility of the manager to call you and tell you to come to work. You have some responsibility here as well to check and see if you are on the schedule to work; and as I said before to advise the manager you are available.

My advice: Go to the restaurant and speak to the manager. Explain that you've been waiting for a call. If you are fired maybe the boss will see there was a miss understanding and have a change of heart. If not use this a s a learning experience.

If the manager posts a work schedule it is your responsibility to check and she what shifts(s) you are scheduled to work. If the shift schedule is not posted then it is the mangers responsibility to let you know when you are needed to work.

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If the manager posts a work schedule it is your responsibility to check and see what shifts(s) you are scheduled to work. If the shift schedule is not posted then it is the mangers responsibility to let you know when you are needed to work.

Since you are a college student and have responsibilities for your class work I would also suggest you advise the manager of your availability prior to the next schedule being posted. This will allow the manager to make a schedule that allows for you to be scheduled around your availability for that period and avoid the problems of finding a replacement for you. Should you have to take a test or need the time to finish a project. It also lets the manger know when you need time off for visits at home.

is an 8 inch erection big for a 14 year old?

According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long. The Average girth of a penis is between 3.9 to 4.9 inches in circumference.

According to the survey you are above average.

me and my best friend (girl) we kissed im single but shes not, so we asked her boy if it was okay if two girls kissed and he said it was hot, and he asked if me and her had kissed, we said no. we lied to him...and now me and her would be kissing all the times. at school, her house, at the bus, basically every time we are alone. I don't think i mind but, the thing is that before i kissed her i kinda use to like girls, and guy too..but now I'm afraid shes bi, because shes my best-friend; i told her that this could ruin our friendship, but she said it wouldn't. oh and she also told me i cant go around kissing other girls...just guys...
I'm 16 and we live in Texas... okay thanks. =)
.:. should i stop? or just keep going? thank you

If you are asking if you are a lesbian, bisexual or straight? I believe the correct answer considering your age would be you are experimental. Also considering your age there is nothing wrong with experimenting with your sexuality to find out just who you are sexually.

What is wrong is your friend telling you who you can kiss and date. By doing so she is trying to control you and this is a good and fast way to ruin a friendship.

Living in Texas puts you in the heart of the Bible Belt so my only advise to you about any of this would be not to announce this to anyone. As I said there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian or being bisexual. In some parts of this great country of ours they are less tolerant of differing sexualities than in other areas. Texas is one of those places.

So if you decide to continue to experiment with your sexuality, which as I have said, there is nothing wrong with. Just don't announce it to anyone, even your best friend. Keep it to yourself until you decide just what you are sexually speaking.

Sexually speaking you have to be just as comfortable with who you are as you are with everything else in this world. When you are sure of what that is then you can decide if it needs to be told. There is nothing wrong with being Gay or Bi. It is the other people who are being closed minded that have to be contended with.

urgent I'm a female 15 yes and this afternoon I had sex with my boyfriend. The condom was pretty tight and he was afraid that a bit of cum may have leaked out into me.But neither of us were sure and it might not have done, I daren't tell anyone I told my friend but she can't come with me I'm at work tomorrow and have no money as it's a sunday the youth clinic isn't even open and I don't know what to do should I leave it or what?! Monday and tuesday I have doctors appointments already and my mums taking me so I can't go to see the doctor then what should I do?!"

Lets take this one step at a time:

You are 15, by law, called HIPPA, which stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. You are afforded the right to see your doctor in private without you mother in attendance in the exam room. Your purpose in writing to us is just the reason Congress passed such a law.

Anything you tell the doctor, anything the doctor finds, or treats you for is confidential and cannot be told to anyone without your written permission. When you check in tell the receptionist or nurse that you want to see the doctor in private. The doctor or nurse will handle mom.

Today is Sunday, if you see the doctor on Monday you should be able to take the plan "B" pill and still have it be effective. ask the doctor. While your with the doctor you can also ask the doctor about birth control pills. One reason other than Birth Control for this medication is to regulate your period. Should mom find your pills or see the prescription that is what you tell her. You do not need mom or dads permission for this medication. Only a prescription from your doctor that he or she feel this medication is correct for you.

Condom usage: Your boyfriend needs to find the proper condoms to buy for himself so that you don't have to worry about leakage or breakage. He also needs to know how to properly wear one.

Condoms alone, even properly sized and worn correctly are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. Condoms and birth control pills have an almost 100% effect at preventing pregnancy. Something like 99.99% effective. Talk to your doctor about this as they will have all the right numbers.

As a responsible adult I would be remiss if I didn't add a short lecture about sex at your age. You are way to young to be having sex. Consider your reasons for writing us today. You have no idea what to do and you are probably scared. That in and of itself says you are not mentally, by maturity, prepared for adult sexual relationships. Your body is but by maturity standards you have some maturing left to do.

Then there is your boyfriend to consider. Having been a teenage male at some time in my life I can tell you with absolute certainty boys cannot keep from telling their friends they have had sex with someone. It is in their DNA. They will swear the other person to secrecy but before you know it your secret is out and you name is on a bathroom wall at school. You don't need that type of reputation. End of lecture.

So, see your doctor. Ask to the see the doctor in private, they have to honor your request. Tell the doctor what you have told us. You should not need a prescription for the plan "B" pill if the doctor suggests it. Get on birth control to regulate you period if fro no other reason. Consider backing off on your adult sexual activity.

Hi!I m 26 yrs old Male guy. I am facing a problem from last 8 years. I saw a 45 years old women each and every time by bad eye of faith and I trying to having sex with that women from 8 years because I like her and she is still so hot, but I failed. I want that she'll ready for dis by herself. So please tell me how can I convince her for dis. Give me the solution.

The problem is the almost 20 year difference in age between you two. Whatever interest she may have in having a sexual affair with you is over ridden by the fact that it would be like having sex with her son. Which would be incest if she were to have sex with her son.

Yes you are not her son but most likely her sons age or close to it. That fact alone is a turn off to her. Incest is probably among the biggest taboos of our culture. One you will not be able to convince her to override.

If you desire older women then seek out someone else. If you only desire this women then you are going to have to give it up before she sees you as a stalker and prefers criminal charges against you.

Can I get a bank account if I use my social security card, school Id and birth certificate? Or do I have to have a state ID?

It most likely depends on the banking laws in the state you live in. Where I live I would say you have more than enough identification to satisfy any bank as to who you are.

The best way to find out, is to go to the bank where you want to open an account and ask. Bring your Identification and initial deposit with you so you can open the account if you meet their requirements.

There is a possibility that you may not be allowed to have a checking account. I see no reason why a savings account could not be opened for you.

Boy's want my sister but not me. Don't know if it's cause of age(I'm 14 and she's 16) or what. But a lot of pepole say I look a lot like her(I can't see that)
Why can't I get a boy?

For girl's only....thanks anyway.

Why not give yourself a break here. You're only 14 and while your sister is only 16 and it may not seem like a big age difference to you. In teenage years that is a huge difference.

Your sister being 16 is more mentally mature, (even if you don't think so) possible more physically mature than you are. She is 2 to 3 grades ahead of you in school making her more socially mature as well.

When I was your sisters age we use to give siblings your age money and tell them to go to the movies and leave us alone. Many boys your age are not quite ready or are too awkward and unsure of themselves to approach girls yet. Give them a little more time to work up the courage. They're getting themselves ready.

In the mean time relax, you most likely look a lot like your sister. So watch what she does and learn form her. Let your body mature some more and when the boys are ready I'm positive that just like your sister you'll knock them dead.

at what age do they hire at kroger?

In most states you must be at least 16 years of age to work at any real paying job. It is at this age your school will issue you the working papers that are required for you to work while you are in school and during the summer.

Working papers spell out what jobs you are allowed to work and the total number of hours per week you may work. If you are not yet 16 you are left to doing the odd jobs around the neighborhood.

my mom ceps taling me to clean my room.Because my gramuy is coming to stay with us in 11 day

If you need 11 days to clean your room, you just don't need to clean; you need to call a decontamination team. lol

Not knowing what exactly your room looks like I would start by gathering everything up off the floor and putting it in a pile. Then sort through it. Don't forget to check under the bed.

Glasses and plates get returned to the kitchen; put in the dishwasher or washed and put away.

School books, reading materials and any other books get placed on you desk or work area table. This should leave only shoes and clothing.

Shoes go in your closet on the floor or shoe tree. Clothes that are dirty and machine washable are taken to the laundry area of the house and washed, dried, folded or hung on hangers and put away properly. Clothes need to be dry cleaned should be sent to the dry cleaners.

Whatever else is left of the pile of stuff you made should be looked at for relevance and either thrown away or put in its proper place.

Now make your bed, changing the sheets if needed.

Now get a dust rag and trash can. Stand in your room facing the door and work clock wise (to the right) cleaning and dusting the furniture. Throw out anything that is trash and put things in their proper place. When you get to your work area or desk arrange things neatly on top of the desk that need to be there. Put other things in the draws. Continue around the room until you are back where you started.

The last thing you do is vacuum you room. Depending how messy your room is will depend on how long it will take you to clean.

What I have tried to show you here is a systematic approach as to how to clean your room. If you follow the directions I gave you. You will clean your room to moms satisfaction and if you continue to follow this system every day and put things where they belong you can keep your room clean until you Grammy arrives.

I'm just trying to prove a point to my boyfriend, it's NOT attractive when guys fart correct?

It is an adolescent guy thing. It is rude and it is crude. Guys think it is funny and most will do it until they grow up. Some will never grow up. Just ignore them and walk away.

If its your guy tell him its a deal breaker for you and to take you home. If your sexually active with him and he doesn't get any sex for his crudeness he will learn not fart when in your company. If you are not sexually active, just don't cuddle or make out with him when he does this. Tell him being crude and rude spoils the mood. It not only rhymes but it is true.

So my boyfriend has fingered me and it feels good and i get that because i am a virgin, i will bleed. But is it normal to bleed evrytime? His fingernails are not long at all, so what could it be?

I may for sometime. He may be slowly tearing your hymen or scratching you. If it continues see a gyn

I am not close to my family, as I feel that they don't understand me at all. My two brothers have been bad to me since I was young when I am innocent. They thought that I was a nuisance to them. They were very selfish to me. They never thought of my feelings, probably only when i was a small little cute kid.

My father is very bias towards my brothers. He wishes us to be very punctual. Once I was late a little and I apologised, he scolded me the whole day. But when my brothers were very late, he didn't really care. He also demanded birthday presents for me. I mean, I am just a teenager who doesn't work how can I have enough money to buy him what he wants-a limousine??

My mother will always discourage me. When I have confidence in doing something well, she will tell me to stop dreaming. I usually lack of confidence, but when I have confidence, she discourages me?? She treats my friends way better than me. Her tone always changes when she is talking to my friends.

Sometimes , i think that usually mygrandparents might understand me a lot. My grandmother passed away when i was a small kid and i was very sad as she understood me a lot. All the people who understands me left me. Sometimes I really feel like commiting suicide. How am I to survive in this type of family. Speaking the truth, my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before, so I am very scared of them. How can they be like this?? Sometimes I feel as though I am an adopted child because my adopted friend was also being treated like this. Her mother beats her up for no reason. Can someone give me some advice what I should do under this kind of circumstances?

If you feel you are being abused at home, there is such a thing as mental abuse their is something you can do. What really bothers me is your statement: "my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before." Not knowing exactly what "ALMOST" and ATTEMPTED means, has me concerned for your physical safety.

You could speak with a trusted teacher or your school principal about just what you have written to us. By law if they feel as I do that you are in danger, physical or otherwise, they have too take specific action as directed under the laws of the state you live in.

Not knowing how old you are let me say this and please read this very carefully. Once you go to a teacher or your principal. If they agree you are in danger they place in motion a series of things that have real world , serious, circumstances for you, your parents and depending on the age of your brothers for them as well. So before you talk to a teacher or principal make sure that you are not just mad at anyone. For the consequences to your family for your actions can be great.

If ever you feel your physical safety is at risk you can always pick up a phone and dial 911. If you can get away from the house or where ever you feel at risk go to the nearest police of fire station. Fire stations are safe havens for children and the fire fighters on duty will care for and protect you until the proper authorities can arrive.

can someone please help me out with this. i would really appreciate it!

follow the principles of estimation to find the approximate value. round each number so that there is a nonzero digit. do not find the exact value. 7027 x 5032??

Use the answer I just gave you. This one is really quite simple. Read the question carefully. The answer is in the question, then use what I gave you in the information in your last question.

Send me you answer in a private question and I will let you know how you did.

Can you please help me out with this. I would really appreciate it.

Use estimation by rounding. Do not find exact value. Estimate the cost of new carpeting that costs $28.57 per square yard, if you want to carpet a room that is 14.7 square yards in size.

The idea behind estimating is to have an idea of what something is going to cost or what it is going to take to accomplish something. In your example you would or should round both numbers up or both numbers down to an even dollar figure, or one up and one down.

If I wanted to estimate the cost of this carpet for purchase for myself. I would round the dollars down to $28.00 and the yardage up to 15 as this would be the easiest way to estimate in my head and get close to the real number.

If I wanted to make sure my estimate would be over the actual cost including taxes; I would raise the cost to $30.00 and the yardage to 15 or even 16 yards.

The object of estimating is to come close or get a ball park figure for certain purposes. In your example the purpose is most likely to find out the affordability of this carpet.

$28.00 x 15 = $420.00

$30.00 x 16 = $480.00

Actual cost of the carpet

$28.57 x 14.57 = $419.98

As you can see the first example given was the closest estimate to actual cost. Where I live we have a 6% sales tax.

$419.98 x 6% = $445.18

The second example I used was much higher than the actual cost including sales tax but it did give me the ability to judge if this purchase was affordable.

This is the purpose behind an estimate to judge affordability or if in some cases as in an engineering study if something is doable.

If this was a homework assignment and you learned something from my doing it for you then that is okay. If you asked us to do this just so you could get a quick answer to something you did not understand, that is wrong.

None of us mind helping you understand anything if you learn from what we help with. Just don't use us as a fast answer to or a quick way to get through your homework. As we will learn not exactly who you are, but from your questions that you are a repeater who is using us and we may not respond in the future.

my 4 year old is for lack of a better term a terrible child. he randomly screams loudly for no reason, he tries to steal things when we go ANYWHERE, he abuses our animals, his baby (7 month old) brother and me. my husband and i argue everyday over my son and his bad behavior is getting to be a problem in our marriage. he lies for no reason about things he doesnt have to lie about. he calls me names, curses at me and hits me in the face. he refuses to listen and almost always does the opposite of what is told or asked of him. we have tried everything. he gets verbal warnings, time outs, toys or favorite things taken away, soap in his mouth, even spankings. its embarrassing to take him places and im afraid that if his terrible behavior continues in public and at school CPS will become involved and i love him despite his actions.
P.S. my husband and i dont curse at one other and there is absolutely no abuse in our home where can those things be coming from?

Response: Keep trying, your son has only you to fight for him.

Sometimes it takes time to find the right doctors. Not all doctors are willing to go looking for the pickle in the hearing barrel. Where I live it is not far from the Children's National Medical Center in Washington, DC. This is a great Hospital which specializes in pediatric medicine. There are other Children's Hospitals through out the country but this one is the top rated.

You should try giving them a call and speak with the head of the psychiatry department about your child. It maybe possible that they will agree to review his medical records and make some recommendations about treatment. They may also suggest you bring your son to them.

One of the nice things about children's is that once your child is a patient he is a patient for life. They will follow him for life. If you can't afford to pay, well they have ways of handling that so you don't have to. Just as they will find away to get you and him to DC if you can't afford it.

Give them a call and see if they can help. There is also St. Jude's another wonderful Children's Hospital. As I suspect that with your son the problem is the pickle and you need to find doctors that are most adept at looking past the norm to find the pickle.

I agree very much with the first paragraph of Zane's answer and to some extent the second paragraph. Putting soap in a child's mouth is viewed as child abuse and could cause child protective services to step in if someone was to report you.

While parenting classes are always a good thing they are not fully the answer to your problem. There is something bothering your son that he cannot verbalize to you in a form you or any of us can understand So he acts upon acts out what he is feeling.

While I am not a doctor I have seen this type of behavior before in grandchildren of friends of mine. In some children they were diagnosed with extreme AD/HD, one or two were diagnosed with a form of Autism.

If your son was my grandson I would be urging you to find a new pediatrician to take him too. One who has not seen him before who would have no preconceived notions as to what in the past he has thought and would look for what I call the pickle in the herring barrel. The pickle in the herring barrel is most likely going to be found as the problem your son cannot tell you is bothering him.

Also talk to the new pediatrician about having your son evaluated by a pediatric psychologist or psychiatrist. Your son is at the age that both AD/HD and certain forms Autism can show up. Both are treatable if properly diagnosed.

Your son is not a terrible child. He is hurting and trying to tell you something in the only manner he knows. Don't give up on him and label him. Fight for him until you get a diagnoses as to what is bothering him. There is something physically hurting him and he needs you and your husband to fight for him.

I'm a twin, I'm 15 year old and a girl. My sister and I look a lot alike and our high school is really big so a lot f people can't tell us apart which actually bothers me sometimes when I know it's not their fault. I just wish people knew about how we are different people! How should I handle this situation better??

When I was in the Air Force we had to Officers that were twins. Since on duty it was impossible to tell them apart, as we all dressed a like, had the same haircuts and they were of the same rank, there was no way to tell them apart. Yet when you got to know them off duty and talk with them they were as different as night and day. One day while working, sorry I can't say what we did, I got totally frustrated and shouted out that one of them had to grow a mustache so we could tell them apart on duty. One of them did.

You can't fault people if they cannot tell you apart, especially if like many twins you dress alike. No, one of you can't grow a mustache, as girls though you have far more choices than boy twins do. You can color and style your hair differently. You can wear different styles of clothing. Use make up differently than your one another.

As with the two officers I spoke of; once one of them grew the mustache it became easier for us to work with them and the problems and tensions for us and them were alleviated. The same will happen for you if you both chose to show your individuality through clothing, hairstyle and makeup.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now, and i seriously believe whole heartedly that we are meant to be together
we are two of a kind, and we have fallen for each other so quickly. He treats me absolutely amazingly and always puts me first.

The only thing worrying me right now, is i dont know how to deal with my feelings when he rejects my advances in bed. I lost my virginity to him, and he told me that anytime im in the mood, or i just want to explore his body i can. He told me i could touch him anywhere, anytime and that his body is mine now, as mine is his also.

but the last two times that we've woken up beside each other, and ive been in the mood, my advances got rejected...ive never been rejected sexually before so i felt a little bit upset that he didnt want to have sex with me. again, i feel bad and i would never force him to do something he doesnt feel like doing, but it just stings hearing 'stop' and 'calm yourself down' when i even kiss his neck. Its very difficult for me to turn myself off when im in the mood and i usually get in a bad mood and roll away from him, left awake thinking ive done something wrong for wanting him.

Should i just back off and not show him any affection in the mornings when we wake up?
I just find it hard to control myself with how insanely attracted to him i am, and how much i want to make him feel even half as amazing as he makes me feel.

There could be a couple of reasons for why your boy friend is this way. The most common reason is he is just not a morning person. His libido is just not up yet. As strange as it might sound some men can just do not rise to the occasion on demand at times.

To a lesser degree other problems might be body odors, yours or his; bad breath, again yours or his. The need to use the bathroom, some times referred to as morning wood. He is really not aroused but needs to empty his bladder.

There are two important things about being a couple. The most important of these things is communication. Be it sex or anything else in your relationship, especially when living together you have to be able to communicate. You have to learn about each others likes and dislike both in and out of the bedroom.

Example: When my wife and I first met it was at work. I was eating out of the vending machines. She was kind enough to bring an extra sandwich with her one day. It was Bologna with mayonnaise. I prefer mustard on this type of sandwich. Of course I was thankful for the sandwich and ate it without saying anything. Once we evolved into a couple I did tell her of my preference. How was to know if I never said anything. Forty years later I would still be eating these sandwiches with mayonnaise.

It is the same with everything you do as a couple. Sex is one of the most important things we do as a couple. You may prefer sex in the morning; Sunday morning sex is a great way to spend a morning. Your relaxed after a good nights sleep and maybe a night out before. But if one of you is not a morning person then for one of you it's an obligation and not an enjoyable something to look forward to each week.

Just about all the reasons why he would not want to have sex upon waking that I listed are fix able. But you need to know what the problem is so rather than rolling over and getting angry. You need to find out the problem and that requires communication.

The other thing we need as a couple is respect. Respect that other persons right to be wrong, right to some personal privacy and most importantly the right to have his or her own opinions.

If a couple can manage to have good communications and give each other the respect they are do; then you will succeed as a couple. I have a 40 year romance to prove what I have just written.

I am in need of real testimony of a decent bra! I am a 38-40DD, yet just about every bra I own gets ruined within a year or much less time. If you have found an amazing bra and can share your experience with me, I would greatly appreciate it. My budget is under $30. Thanks.

I'm a married man married to a woman who had a similar problem. Early in our marriage I noticed she was replacing her bras quite often. Her reason was that the just didn't last. My cousin at the time just happened to be VP of sales for Playtex and I had the opportunity to visit him in his New York office.

I asked him why my wife could not find a bra to stand up to machine washing. He asked where she was buying her bras and the brands. I told him she purchased no particular brand but most were bought at a local discount store. He then asked my wife's size and we went down to the showroom where I was asked to pick out some bras for my wife. Together we picked out everyday and special occasion bras with and without under-wire.

All were more expensive than what she was purchasing with the exception of the special occasion bras. They were all in what I, at that time, would have considered a moderate price range.

I brought them home and gave them to my wife. Surprise, surprise these bras last 3 to 5 time longer than what she was buying. They were not the least expensive bras made and they were not the most expensive bras made. What they were, were bras constructed from good materiel and sown together properly both to withstand multiple machine washing and the fullness of my wife's breast.

What he taught me is a full breasted woman needs is a bra constructed to hold the weight of her breasts properly so as not to strain the material or the stitching. The material also needs to be of better quality than a smaller breast woman and the stitching needs to be stronger to. Just as important the bra must fit properly.

My advice: Don't buy cheap, but buy good quality. Buy one at a time if need be and build your wardrobe. Check the craftsmanship of the garment and make sure it is constructed properly for your build. Most importantly make sure you are properly fitted.

Most department stores have fitters trained by the manufactures to properly fit you and show how to select a bra. If you have never been properly fitted it is worth the time and effort to get fitted. It cost you nothing and you are not obligated to make a purchase although you should just to wear a properly fitted bra to feel the difference.

Good material, proper construction will extend the life of any item or thing. That includes clothing which includes you bra.

Sorry if this ends up being long but i need help k so im 18 and i just started working at quiznos 2 weeks ago but the day i went into the interview i got the job but i told my boss that i would need some weekends off b/c i live away from home cause of school so i would want to go home every once in awhile on weekends to see my family he said that was fine and understood and told me he wanted me to start my training on thursday and i was suppose to work thursday-sunday but he ended up cancelling my sunday shift anyways i went home for the thanksgiving weekend (canadian) and came back expecting a call from my boss telling me to work this weekend but its friday night and my boss hasnt called me i dont understand should i call him or do i wait for him to call me im so confused ive never worked before and as a university student i just want a little extra money then what my parents give me so i really need this job besides i havent even gotten full training yet either what do i do!!!

If the manager posts a work schedule it is your responsibility to check and she what shifts(s) you are scheduled to work. If the shift schedule is not posted then it is the mangers responsibility to let you know when you are needed to work.

Since you are a college student and have responsibilities for your class work I would also suggest you advise the manager of your availability prior to the next schedule being posted. This will allow the manager to make a schedule that allows for you to be scheduled around your availability for that period and avoid the problems of finding a replacement for you. Should you have to take a test or need the time to finish a project. It also lets the manger know when you need time off for visits at home.

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