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Relationship with family members
I am not close to my family, as I feel that they don't understand me at all. My two brothers have been bad to me since I was young when I am innocent. They thought that I was a nuisance to them. They were very selfish to me. They never thought of my feelings, probably only when i was a small little cute kid.
My father is very bias towards my brothers. He wishes us to be very punctual. Once I was late a little and I apologised, he scolded me the whole day. But when my brothers were very late, he didn't really care. He also demanded birthday presents for me. I mean, I am just a teenager who doesn't work how can I have enough money to buy him what he wants-a limousine??
My mother will always discourage me. When I have confidence in doing something well, she will tell me to stop dreaming. I usually lack of confidence, but when I have confidence, she discourages me?? She treats my friends way better than me. Her tone always changes when she is talking to my friends.
Sometimes , i think that usually mygrandparents might understand me a lot. My grandmother passed away when i was a small kid and i was very sad as she understood me a lot. All the people who understands me left me. Sometimes I really feel like commiting suicide. How am I to survive in this type of family. Speaking the truth, my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before, so I am very scared of them. How can they be like this?? Sometimes I feel as though I am an adopted child because my adopted friend was also being treated like this. Her mother beats her up for no reason. Can someone give me some advice what I should do under this kind of circumstances?
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If you feel you are being abused at home, there is such a thing as mental abuse their is something you can do. What really bothers me is your statement: "my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before." Not knowing exactly what "ALMOST" and ATTEMPTED means, has me concerned for your physical safety.
You could speak with a trusted teacher or your school principal about just what you have written to us. By law if they feel as I do that you are in danger, physical or otherwise, they have too take specific action as directed under the laws of the state you live in.
Not knowing how old you are let me say this and please read this very carefully. Once you go to a teacher or your principal. If they agree you are in danger they place in motion a series of things that have real world , serious, circumstances for you, your parents and depending on the age of your brothers for them as well. So before you talk to a teacher or principal make sure that you are not just mad at anyone. For the consequences to your family for your actions can be great.
If ever you feel your physical safety is at risk you can always pick up a phone and dial 911. If you can get away from the house or where ever you feel at risk go to the nearest police of fire station. Fire stations are safe havens for children and the fire fighters on duty will care for and protect you until the proper authorities can arrive.
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Im not sure how old you are, but my family has treated me the same way my entire life and im 23 years old. my grandma was my rock and unfortunely passed away august 21, 2010. i understand how you must feel inside. you need to tell someone(a friends parent, closely trusted teacher, outside trusted family member) about the abuse, definately from your brothers. The problems with your parents are hard to deal with. They are supposed to be the enforcers, protectors, and they should know better. your parents sound like terrible people that need to have a dose of CPS reality. You cannnot live that way. it will kill you inside and it will ruin future relationships with significant others, friends, etc. You need outside help. Im glad you took the initiative to submit your question but now its time to stand up strong and let them and the world know that your not going to be pushed around any longer. As a final thought you could report them to CPS (Child Protective Services) yourself. call them and make a report and they will come and investigate.
You have taken step one, Your question has been read, Now let your voice be heard.
if you need any further support just ask me a question p2p and i will help as i can.
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Have you ever tried to sit down with your family and have a meeting? Tell them exactly what you told us above? Your mother nor your father and brothers may realize it unless you point it out to them.
However just to point it out, From what you've written you seem like a very bright women who has a good head on their shoulders. If a meeting doesn't work then sometimes it's best to try and except things the way they are and move on from it. I myself am also not close with my family, My immediate family only. "Mother, Sister, Step dad" that's about it. My father's side of the family is almost exactly what you've describe only my father seemed to ignore the fact I was his kid. We sometimes need to realize that we can't choose our family and whether they support us or not we have to believe in ourselves. It was hard without a father figure in my life but I know that sometimes things happen for a reason to whatever they may be I know in the end I'll make it. Don't commit suicide it's not worth it trust me, Like I said above you seem very smart and bright young lady.
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