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i got married recently and after that i do may times sex but i could not feel that my penis is rubbing and touching any thing inside the vagina even she also did not where the penis inside the vagina.only top of the vagina ,feel that touch and rub but inside it no feeling ..wat should i do ..even length not so bad its appro 6 inch..pls help (link)
Ok first off it was hard to fully understand your question due to grammatical errors. Do you have a thin penis? Sometimes length isn't good enough. Maybe your wifes vagina isn't tight enough. Have you had sex with other women or just your wife? I'm sorry man it sounds like your sex life kinda sucks. I hope it gets better. Try introducing toys, pumps, oral. Mix it up


Just yesterday I used the bathroom, and this clearish yellow discharge came out on the tissue when I wiped. Is this bad. it has a mild odor. I am not sexually active since 2 months. (link)
Hi there!
It could be a number of things honestly:
1. it could be BV (Bacterial Vaginosis) which you have to have taken care of at the OBGYN. it can turn serious if not dealt with.
2. a yeast infection

First off I would go to the store and buy an over the counter yeast infection med. Monistat, Vagisil generic they work if used correctly if it is in fact a yeast infection. I personally CANNOT douche but i have heard that it could also help with that. Try switching to washing your vaginal area with plan baby soap (non scented) some soaps can cause infection.

If its BV you must get it taken care of at OBGYN soon. it can get bad and mess things up inside. I have had BV and it will only get worse. If it is in fact that you can get rid of it with the meds from the doc but you can get it again very easily if not careful. your doc can tell you how to avoid getting it again.

If you do have sex....Always make sure your having sex with a clean partner. if your partner has dirty "business" or a dirty mouth it can cause infection. always clean yourself after sex as well but im sure you know both of those things already.

I hope this helps alittle.

**Le'Bel**


Why can't I orgasm during sex? (link)
ok Pookyy is a bitch first off dont bother with any of her advice! Secondly..there are cases where some women (im assuming your a female) never have an orgasm. not sure of age but as embarrassing as it mayb seem you can talk to your gyno about it. As another option try K.Y. his and hers, or K.Y. Intense. its amazing, i call it my little black tube of awesome. not to sound like that Pookyy bitch but maybe that sex isnt as good as it should be maybe not as exciting. Sex should be pleasurable and thats sucky that you can have the big O. you will have one eventually and it will blow your mind... lol.
I hope everything works out!



hi my name is damien i am 201 pounds have long brown hair and i am looking for a girl friend i am looking for some one that likes me for who i am (link)
Damien if you love who you are then someone will love you for you too. Advicenators isnt a dating site babe so maybe try facebook or something. dont listen to people trying to tell you to lose weight. if your happy with you the way you are than stay that way. Be confident and carry yourself well. women like confidence.


My girlfriend talks to nortenos and I used to back up south but I don't want problems anymore and I guess they wanna jump me . What should I do? (link)
my cuz in Nortenos! If your girl knows you backed south and is still talking to them maybe you should think about leaving her. Is she possibly doing it on purpose? Im not sure how your relationship is. Talk to her about it. If it comes to the jump let them know it isnt about sides anymore that your just about your girl. you were down with south for a reason rite? You need to let them know that its not going to come down to a jump. you know what members do to narqs. dont let that happen to you. IDK how old you are but you seriously need to talk to your girl about this before things get outta control!


19 F
I really don't know how I got to this point, where I had to buy a pregnancy test. I've never really been a rebel, in fact I'm a good kid was a virgin until 2 weeks ago. I guess I got too carried away when my parents gave me liberty and let me sleep over my friends house whose brother is my boyfriend..bad idea. We ended up having sex. 2 times. Unprotected.( I know, I know that was stupid!) He said he never cummed inside of me, but precum can get you pregnant. I got my period last month sept 13. And its the 18th and it still hasn't come. I took a pregnancy test (E.P.T.) With my friend (she helped me, because I know nothing about stuff like this) and it came out negative . So I was off course thrilled. But that was 3 days go. And now its the 18th and I still haven't gotten my period. I'm extremely nervous. The way I took it was I peed on a cup, then put the EPT stick inside and waited 2 mins. It came out negative. I mean could my period just be irregular? Wat are some early pregnancy signs?
Something that scared me so much was what my mom told me this morning. She said she had a horrible dream that I had a baby. And she followed it with "I know that wouldn't happen, I have such a good daughter" go figure. I really hope that's just a coincidence. I pray that it is. Please don't say go to the doctor because my mom has my insurance and she will suspect if I just ask for it. Also, If I am pregnant (which I pray I am not) I heard there is a pill you can take if its early enough? How much is it? Ahh!! I'm so nervous and scared. Please any information would help me. Thank you. (link)
early pregnancy symptoms:
*Morning sickness (which can happen any time of the day not just mornings)
*sore breasts
*fatigue
*mood swings (mostly cranky and crying)
trust me i have been pregnant 5 times (i only have two children and none of those pregnancies ended in abortion!!!) and you would be able to tell if your pregnant. what you need to do is wait another week and take another test. Plan B is for the morning after, week after. If its been a month and your pregnant than you would be looking at an abortion which i hope you never go that route. You made the decision to have sex with this guy and no child deserves to die because of a parents bad decisions. Adoption is an option.
I think you seriously need to chill way out. Your stress may be screwing up your period. When I stress I can skip periods for months without being pregnant.


I can get a tampon in and everything, and for the first few seconds after its in everything's okay, but then it feels weird like its coming out, and I can feel it there. I asked my mumma if she could feel it and she said you should be able to forget its there. So I keep trying but I get the same result. My period has finished now so I can't try till next month.
At first I used the method of sitting on the toilet seat and putting it in. Then my mumma said I should squat and aim at the small of my back. So I tried that and got the exact same result. So then I tried using a clean finger and pushing it in, but that didn't work! :( I need help!! (link)
You might be wearing the wrong flow size. if you have a light flow you should wear lite to regulars. mine are heavy until the last two days and if i wear a super on the last day or two mine feel the same way. it can be uncomfortable for awhile. if the next couple tries turn out badly you may just have to wear pads or a flow cup. try a lite flow tampon next month. you may have to change them more often but hopefully your vagina can get used to them and you can increase to the needed size with time.
Hope all goes well


My teacher is 27 and Im 18 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing that's important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him because they think hes joking. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me a lot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something. One time he looked up my schedule and took me out of PE class because I was mad at him and someone told him that I didnt like him, he took me out of class just to ask me if I didnt like him and he looked seriously hurt.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Sometimes I just can't tell if hes joking because he knows I have a crush on him or if hes being serious. He has been doing this before I turned 18. Please answer, thanks (link)
you are right to feel uncomfortable. Report him to the school and avoid his room. if you have any classes with him dont go and explain why to your pricipal. If you dont report him he will do this to someone else when your gone. the next person may not be so headstrong and could get hurt. a crush is a crush thats it. blow him off. when he pulls you outta class tell him to leave you alone or you will report him. (do it anyway, but scaring him cold make him stop) when he stands by you for a long amount of time, touches you or hovers tell him to go away and back off. I hope you tell someone about this because its not ok whether its a joke or not. it has to stop. Too many teachers think they can do whatever they want with their students.


I have this friend and we've been friends for almost four years. I've finally buckled up enough strength to tell him that I liked him more than a friend. He said you know we've already had this conversation and if it happens,it happens. I really didn't quite understand what that meant. I don't want him to play games with me and I really hope thats not what he's doing. We talk on the phone a lot and we really just enjoy each other's company. What should I do? (link)
oh dear!!!! What i take from the comment " if it happens, it happens" he isnt into you like that. He makes you laugh and feel good because he is a great friend. I dont think he is playing games with you. there maybe someone else he is looking to be with or you just may be his best friend. Guys wont screw up a friendship if its not completely necessary for them. Honey if you guys date and things go badly you will never have the same friendship as before. which is more important to you? Sorry to bust your bubble but you get along great with him and his friends because your just one of the guys. that could be the big reason him not jumping into a relationship with you.
Get busy, have important things to do and dont talk to him for a couple days, it will drive you crazy but maybe it will make him think harder about a relationship. talk to one of your mutual friends that wont run back to him and find out if there is something you dont know. whether its another chick or if you have been mentioned in that light. that would be my last suggestion as you would be involving someone else and that could cause some tension in the group. Persue someone else and see if it makes him wiggle.


My vagina smells disgusting. I'm clean, I shower everyday but it seems like an hour after I shower the smell just comes right back and its really strong i can smell it through my pants and it leaves my pants smelling gross and I can smell it throughout the day and it makes me feel so self-conscious. I know vaginas aren't supposed to smell like roses but mine is just out of control. I know there's douching but I heard that causes infections. Is there anything I can do? (link)
I got BV after my first sexual experience and i had the same problem. once you get BV the problem will continue if not taken care of quickly and it is VERY easy to get it again. Im not sure if your having any other symptoms so i cant say its definately BV. Also douching can cause infection if you use the ones with scents. try Vinegar and water.....it works for me when im "not so fresh". If you have a bath tub, warm a hot bath and put three capfulls of white vinegar in the water and soak for ten minutes. ALWAYS SHOWER AFTER BATHS AND SEX~! if your having sex make sure your partner is clean, having sex when your dirty can cause more problems then just inbalance. use soap with very little scent, try BABY SOAP. make sure if you go swimming, hot tubbing, or just sitting in the tub relaxing ALWAYS take a shower and clean your area and not sit in your wet bottoms. Vaginas are tricky sometimes they just do whatever the hell they want.
I can give you more advice if you knew about symptoms and circumstances.
I hope some of these tips help you, they certainly work for me.


Can you get pregnant if the person cums on your bottom but the sperm down the crease by the vagina?
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its very unlikely!!! plan B would be unnecessary if your partner wore a condom! get on birth control, wear protection!


I am not close to my family, as I feel that they don't understand me at all. My two brothers have been bad to me since I was young when I am innocent. They thought that I was a nuisance to them. They were very selfish to me. They never thought of my feelings, probably only when i was a small little cute kid.

My father is very bias towards my brothers. He wishes us to be very punctual. Once I was late a little and I apologised, he scolded me the whole day. But when my brothers were very late, he didn't really care. He also demanded birthday presents for me. I mean, I am just a teenager who doesn't work how can I have enough money to buy him what he wants-a limousine??

My mother will always discourage me. When I have confidence in doing something well, she will tell me to stop dreaming. I usually lack of confidence, but when I have confidence, she discourages me?? She treats my friends way better than me. Her tone always changes when she is talking to my friends.

Sometimes , i think that usually mygrandparents might understand me a lot. My grandmother passed away when i was a small kid and i was very sad as she understood me a lot. All the people who understands me left me. Sometimes I really feel like commiting suicide. How am I to survive in this type of family. Speaking the truth, my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before, so I am very scared of them. How can they be like this?? Sometimes I feel as though I am an adopted child because my adopted friend was also being treated like this. Her mother beats her up for no reason. Can someone give me some advice what I should do under this kind of circumstances? (link)
Im not sure how old you are, but my family has treated me the same way my entire life and im 23 years old. my grandma was my rock and unfortunely passed away august 21, 2010. i understand how you must feel inside. you need to tell someone(a friends parent, closely trusted teacher, outside trusted family member) about the abuse, definately from your brothers. The problems with your parents are hard to deal with. They are supposed to be the enforcers, protectors, and they should know better. your parents sound like terrible people that need to have a dose of CPS reality. You cannnot live that way. it will kill you inside and it will ruin future relationships with significant others, friends, etc. You need outside help. Im glad you took the initiative to submit your question but now its time to stand up strong and let them and the world know that your not going to be pushed around any longer. As a final thought you could report them to CPS (Child Protective Services) yourself. call them and make a report and they will come and investigate.
You have taken step one, Your question has been read, Now let your voice be heard.

if you need any further support just ask me a question p2p and i will help as i can.




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