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Love and Frienship
I have this friend and we've been friends for almost four years. I've finally buckled up enough strength to tell him that I liked him more than a friend. He said you know we've already had this conversation and if it happens,it happens. I really didn't quite understand what that meant. I don't want him to play games with me and I really hope thats not what he's doing. We talk on the phone a lot and we really just enjoy each other's company. What should I do?
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oh dear!!!! What i take from the comment " if it happens, it happens" he isnt into you like that. He makes you laugh and feel good because he is a great friend. I dont think he is playing games with you. there maybe someone else he is looking to be with or you just may be his best friend. Guys wont screw up a friendship if its not completely necessary for them. Honey if you guys date and things go badly you will never have the same friendship as before. which is more important to you? Sorry to bust your bubble but you get along great with him and his friends because your just one of the guys. that could be the big reason him not jumping into a relationship with you.
Get busy, have important things to do and dont talk to him for a couple days, it will drive you crazy but maybe it will make him think harder about a relationship. talk to one of your mutual friends that wont run back to him and find out if there is something you dont know. whether its another chick or if you have been mentioned in that light. that would be my last suggestion as you would be involving someone else and that could cause some tension in the group. Persue someone else and see if it makes him wiggle.
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*sigh...Honestly, you should go for a guy who is more INTO YOU. This does not sound like he is into you, he may end up dating you because he cares about you, and he knows you want it, and he is your friend and loves you, and wants you to be happy, but it will probably not work out. If he was into you, this would not be his response. That's not even clear. If it happens it happens? How's it supposed to happen if both people aren't going for it? Basically what it seems to me that he is saying is "IF I start to catch feelings like you, and we both have feelings at the same time then ok...but as of now, I don't feel the same way you do". So don't force it. He doesn't want you but he doesn't want to say no cause he cares about you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings, that's what it sounds like to me...I don't know. See what everyone else has to say and then go from there. Peace.
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