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ok so i was really good friends with this guy...lets say his name is..."Dave" ok so me and dave were wicked close and then he asked me out and i said yes,it was ok for a while and then i didnt think it was rite so i said lets go back to being good friends. then he stopped talking to me. i keep asking him to talk to me and lets start being friends again but he says its hard and hes trying to be nice and stuff but is it him or what should i do so things can just...go back to normal? someone please help me thanks (link)
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He probably is still trying to get over you.
I think you will probably be friends again at some point, but right now just give him a little time to mourn the loss of your relationship. :)
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Thank you and it is very true. I thought of that and used the exact words you did. I even said he had no time in between to be "fee" so whn he left the first 2x i knew he had to search--butthen he came back so i thought he had it all figured it to a point where he was ready. guess he didnt. Thank you again (link)
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No problem. Maybe given some time he will get his act together. I hope so for your sake.
Keep in touch with him and all, but if things don't change and you want a peremenant relationship...put a time limit of your choosing on it. Like I said don't spend years waiting. :)
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I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs. We met on the internet and he was just getting out of a bad divorce. We were dating for almost 3 months and he left me. He said its not me its him and he had some things to clear out of his head. I was broken hearted but I understood. 2 weeks later we got back together and 2 weeks later he left-still confused-i still understood. 3 months passed and i missed him so and we started talking again-we got back together. He sold his house and moved in with me and my 2 children. He has also has a son. Things were very good and in April he asked me to marry him-of course i accepted. Ii was planning the weeding for 2007 and he moved it up to 2006. I was ecstatic so i was planning our wedding. There were times when we argued and yes i take blame for some of them. The last argument we had was b/c of the internet and things i found him going on. Well he kept saying it wasnt him and he did not look that stuff up-cookies did it--whatever. Well things escalated from there and one day he said he cant do this any more its not me its him,he doesnt want to be engaged or get married or be with anyone and he left. I was never engaged before so of course i will be all excited. He was married for 10 yrs and yes its scary for him,but why did he leave? The week he left he got distant from me and i knew something was wrong but i didnt think he was going to leave for a 3rd time. He moved up to his parents like 10 minutes from my house. I still talk to him and off and on he comes over. I miss him so much and ask him to come home--but he says its not that easy it was hard to leave he cant just come back.I understand that kind of but if he loves me why is he not coming back? what does he need to think about? I miss him so much but he wont tell me he misses me unless i ask-or he wont tell me he loves me-sometimes he does when i say it other times he says "I know". I am so confused and i know i need to let him go and let him be but it is so hard. What do I do?He knows i want him to come home,he knows i love him,he klnows we can move as slow as we need to we dont need to rush,but yet he wont come back. What can I do? Please help.
thank you
27yr old female (link)
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I guess you could be called the dreaded rebound girlfriend. Very dangerous to give your heart to one just coming out of a long term relationship.
You were his comfort right after his divorce. He went from her to you without any adventure in between.
I know you want him back, and maybe he will come back at some point. For now though I think he probably needs to find out on his own what and who he wants. He should have done that before now, but better he do it now than wait until you are married.
I am truly sorry. I hope it all works out for you in the end. I wouldn't wait around forever though...life's to short. :)
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I'm 25, male.
Theres this woman I like, Kim (20), who stays in a studenthouse, Sunday I went to visit, about to walk in the back door (frontdoors a mision) when roommate Joe openes the door and stands IN the door, telling me that they are busy studying or something, so I push past and say "then i'll just say hi and bye", two steps from Joe busy making tea stands Kim, with a pissed-off expresion on her face, I just smiled at her saying hi (thinking wtf)... after a minute she warms up to me and acts her old self.
Thought about this a while, yesterday I send her a sms saying that i thought it was pretty childish to get other people to send her troubles away.
Later we talk on the phone and she freaks, asking me how I could believe that she would ask her friend to send me away, that she NEVER told Joe to do anything of the kind and didn't know abaout it, that she doesn't need this extra shit in her life and threw a few other pots and pans my general direction and killed the conversation without listering.
I've always told her to tell me things straight, no matter if she thought it would hurt me, and that it would hurt more later on if she didn't.
If she needed some time alone she knows that I won't take it personally if she told me that herself.
One of the things I like about her is that shes not stupid, she was standing 2 steps away hearing everything, if I didn't bardge in I wouldn't have know that she was standing there, besides I not really friends with Joe.
I'm not stupid, I was honest with myself AND to her about how I feel and how I saw things.
Anybody willing to give some advice please, I could use some perspective on this, thanks in advance (link)
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Maybe she was having an argument with this Joe character before you got there.
Maybe she sees him as a friend but, maybe he likes her more than that. Which would make him jealous of you and out to cause problems.
You need to talk to her about it when she calms down. When you both have calmed down.
If you care for someone, you really do have to have some trust in what they tell you.
My granny used to say "believe nothing that you hear, and only half of what your see." I think that applies here. Talk it out and don't give up on the relationship unless you really are unable to trust her at all.
If you can't then there is no future in it. :)
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Yes i get really stressed over things like tests or frineds some big some little i was wonder if anyone knew of anyways ways for my to relieve this stress? thanks btw i'm' 14/f if that help any lol i dunno (link)
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Here is a website that has lots of info. Hope you find it helpful.
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=293&id=2210
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i have these videogame cd's that have scratches on them and they dont work. do those scratch remover kits work?
how much are they and where can i get them?
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You know what? I have tried them and they are OK.
You know what works though?
Its worked for me but if it doesn't work for you don't write back yelling or anything OK?
Turtle wax. The kind you polish the car with.
Put it on. Let it dry. Wipe it off.
Crayon has also worked in a pinch.
Can you tell I am a PlayStation nut and can't wait for the proper CD fixer uppers?
Hope it helps get you back in the action soon! :)
***edit****
It really doesn't mess it up (crayon).
You rub it on and then sort of rub it back off. Fills in the scratches. I wuold use the wax first choice though. :)
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Alright, here is the deal.
I am moving on the 26th of this month. It was a spurr of the moment thing, which I know it's the wisest thing becuase you should have time to save up and plan. But this is just how things have to be.
I have informed my current employer that I will be moving. I haven't given him a date becuase I'm not sure when exactly I want to quit. The 19th marks the end of the new pay period. I'm scheduled to work three days after that, I'm not sure if it's worth it to work and go through the hassle of trying to get my check that will only be a little over 100.00. Opinions?
I also just got a job with blockbuster too, I haven't started yet - I got the job before I knew I was even moving. I know it's only worth it to get a second job if I'm really hard up for cash, which I'm not but extra pocket money would be nice. Should I take the second job? (link)
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It depends on where you're moving to.
Are you going to be close enough to take the job?
If so why quit the first?
If you are heading out of town, then you should call Blockbuster and decline the job. Just tell them you have to move and won't be able to start work like you planned. :)
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I'm so screwed. I haven't missed my period yet, I'm due for it Friday, but my friend is bringing me a pregnancy test tomorrow. I had sex without a condom, and my boyfriend pulled out but I'm still paranoid about it, and yes I know I have a good reason to be.
Anyways...I'm going to take a pregnancy test Saturday. I think I will be with my boyfriend when I do it. What I want to know is how do I tell my parents and what should I do? I'm so scared right now I'm crying...my parents have always known me as their good little girl that never did anything wrong. I feel like dying.
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No need to mention it to the parents unless the test is positive. Until then try not to worry about that.
If you (or boyfriend)can't afford the test, go to your local health department and get it done.
While there is a chance, you haven't missed your period yet. Calm down ( easier said than done, I know). Stress can cause you to miss your period.
Good luck. :)
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hey, i was wondering if weed will show up in a blood test. I'm probably going to have one for something completely un-related to drugs. i mean like, they aren't looking for weed or anything. So, i guess i'm wondering if it will show up at all and if they have to be specifically looking for it to find it. How long does it stay in your system? I've heard 38 days, but i've only smoked twice (yesterday and three days ago) and i didn't smoke very much at all. Between both days, i probably didn't even have a bowl. Thanks (link)
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According to what I read (will give you link), blood tests are not the best way to detect use of smoking pot.
It is detectable only for a couple of hours after use in the blood.
I think they have to be testing for something specific before it would show up anyway. :)
http://www.policedrugtesting.com/testmethods.htm
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im sooo freked out. my best friend is scaring me. he is running away and not telling anyone. i just found out that he has threatened to kill himself. im scared. hes like a brother. i love him to death. if anything happened to him id go crazy. how can i approach him about it? or how can i just stop freaking out? my sister is dating him and she is scared to. pleeze help me. im very worried about him. help! (link)
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You need to let his parents know immediately. Better a mad friend then no friend at all.
Here are a couple of websites you need to read for more info on how to go about it.
My Friend is Talking About Suicide,What Should I do?
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/talking_about_suicide.html
My Friend is Talking About Running Away, What Should I Do?
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/runaway.html
*******If his mom knows and is doing nothing...thats so sad. Any other relative would do if you know of any. Or any adult. I don't know if calling the cops would help should you know when he plans on running...but I would give it a try too if you have to.*********
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Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for awhile and i think he wants to kiss me becuase he always leans in and i pull back because i really dont want to kiss yet cuz i think its to early. I already had my first kiss and it sucked becuase i didnt even know that guy. And i want this one to be special. And my boyfriend doesnt know i have kiss someone and he hasnt kissed any one so. My friend thinks he will get mad because i already kissed someone. Should i not like make a big deal about it? I mean its not that big a deal that i kiss someone and he hasnt he should get over it. Its not like the kisses that i got a big deal they didnt mean anything to me and his will because we are really close. So should i tell him that i kissed someone before but not when i was with him and that they didnt mean anything or just forget it? Well i know its going to come out that i did kiss someone because it almost did like 4 times but i stopped it.
Sorry this was long
THANKS for your help
ill rate high for good answers (link)
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He won't be able to tell you've kissed anyone before. I don't think it is anything to bother telling.
Go ahead and kiss the guy. It will be special because it is him you are kissing. Don't wait around for the perfect moment. Make one instead. :)
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We have a school dance this week and i want to sneak my boyfriend in that goes to another school. But i dont know if he wants to go or if i will get into trouble. So should i try to sneak him in and risk going home or not even try?
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When I was in school we could bring dates from other schools. We just had to sign them in ahead of time.
Ask someone in the office at school. You may be able to get him in easy enough without risking getting the boot. :)
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17/m/lonesome
Ok there is a girl at work that i have feelings for, but I dont know if she likes me or not. I mean whenever I talk to her she alwasys gets a smile on her face, or starts to giggle. I will tell you this right now I'm not too good at reading the signs to tell you if someone likes you or not... no its more like i trip and fall into love., but I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I've alwasy treated women with the highest respect and dignity, and I think I could build a very long relationship out of this but idk, PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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It sounds like she likes you. If she didn't she would make a fast escape instead of smiling or giggling.
Talk to her every chance you get. Ask her out if you like. Doesn't have to be a long date the first couple of times. Maybe lunch. I think she will say yes. :)
****Best of luck! :)*******
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ok i no my mom is not a child abuser or anything but the thing is she curses at me a lot like says for no reason sometimes when she thinks i am acting self absorbed she will say things like you f*** b*****. What should i do about it i mean sometimes once in a while she will hit me but its not serious or anything and when she does she always appoligieses. Also i love her to death and we are best friends except when she fights. What should i do and sorry this is long so i will rate for every good answer? thanks for your help (link)
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Have you told her you don't like it?
Not at the time of course but during a good moment. Talk to her and tell her how you feel about it. Tell her how it makes you feel.
She may not stop completely, a lot of times cursing is a habit, but it might make her stop and think next time. :)
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My mother just recently died from lung cancer. She was just diagnosed on Sept. 15th of this year and she passed away on October 28th, 2005.
My boyfriend of several years had already told his spoiled rotten, self-centered, selfish daughter that she could have a Halloween party before the incident with my mother came up.
Instead of being here, supporting me, helping me make the needed arrangements and just being a shoulder to lean on, he decided it was more important to help out with his daughter's Halloween party, because everybody knows "Courtney" comes first....no matter what!
I think that's about as sorry as you can get. What do you think? (link)
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I am so sorry you even have to ask this question!
I agree you can't get much sorrier than that. Its so sorry as a matter of fact I have to wonder what on earth you put up with every other day of the year.
I hope you don't live with this guy. I hope the party isn't in your home. If it is I would send this guy packing as soon as humanly possible.
A guy who has kids needs to spend time with them. That's commendable. But, in this situation, you and your feeling should have came first.
I think any parent planning on sending their child to the party would have understood its being cancelled.
Sorry to hear about your mom.
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I have a question about men. I want to have children some day but havent found the right guy yet. When I do find a guy that I like, what are some signs that could tell me whether or not he would make a good father?
Also, is it a bad sign if the man is already in his mid 40's and has never had any children? Is there still a chance he might want kids at that age? I am 26 and know a guy that is 45 and I think he likes me, but he has never had kids. (link)
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I know a lot of 40 year olds who aren't interested in a family. Of course that includes a wife. So, it probably just depends on the guy.
You can usually tell who would make a good father. Watch how they are around their nieces and nephews, or other children in their lives.
If they are tolerant of a kids goofiness. If they will play with them and all that...good dad material.
If they don't want a kid touching them with gooey hands, or want them to constantly sit still and behave...bad dad material!
Good luck in your search. :)
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What does an architect do particularily?
Gimmie some idea's (link)
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An architect is someone who makes the plans for buildings or houses.
They design houses and things like that. Decide on what rooms go where. Where to put the doors and windows.
Might be an interesting job to have! :)
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I’m 13, in the 8th grade, and have a guilty pleasure. I’ve been raised in an intellectual household, with both parents having a Ph.D. Generally, I don’t watch T.V. So I was at my friend’s sleepover birthday party with 7 other girls, and she rented the First Season of the O.C. We watched 4 episodes---and I liked it! I feel kind of guilty, because I know that technically, the show is for advertising and eye-candy with a plot. But I can’t help it. That blonde what’s-his-face that stole a car and set a house on fire is really good looking. And it keeps me at the edge of my seat. Now I’m addicted! What should I do? Am I shallow for liking this?
Thanks
Cheyenne (link)
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No you aren't. Even intellectuals need to veg out and watch something totally meaningless now and then. :)
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this may take a while but please help
when i was younger i was sexually abused by my grandad (my mums dad), the i got sexually abused by my brothers friend then i lad i used to no tryed it on with me and he frightened me and i said not but he forced me to do things with him it did not used to bother me but now i cant stop thinking about it and it up sets me and when i was about 7 my mum nearly died of cancer i lost my auntie and my grandad ( my dads dad) through cancer my mum and dad have split up and now my other grandad (mums step dad) is having strokes everyweek and i think he is going to dye i am getting my life on track just got a new job and every thing but my past is getting in my way i cant even go out and have fun any more and i think i wil lose my job if i let this stuff get in my way what can i do to try stop thinking about this please help me. (link)
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You need to seek some professional help. Find a clinic or if you have a primary care physician, go there. See if you can't find someplace that will help you.
If you are on a very limited budget, there are still places that can help. Its just a matter of finding where to go. Hopefully a clinic, health department or doctors office can help you find a place to go in your area.:)
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i am currently living with ym best freind. been that way for a month and a half. recently her fiance came back from out of the country and is living there now too. well i have been looking for a job but in my small town, jobs are hard to find. i have looked everyday and everyplace and still nothing. but the past 2 weeks she and i have been jumping down each others throats. every little thing and one of us flips out. like she flipped b/c ravioli stained aplastic bowl and i put soap and water in it so it WOULDNT stain but it still did and hse said it was my fault. so its a constant thing. and watching her and her fiance, they run around the house making out and have no respect for me at all in teh house. they run around grabbing each others "private parts" for lack of better words. and i am fed up with them having no respect for me at all. and when i confront her about what is bothering me (them making out bothers me b./c my boyfreind is currently out of state with his family.) she gest all defensive and says "its my house, i will do what i want i dont care. when your in love you wont carew what others think." so i cant get anywhere b.c she will coem back with its her house. so i dont know what to do i am backed into a corner. i mean granted my boyfreind wants me to move in with him in new york with his family...but i am not sure i want to give up my family...what should i do? (link)
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You need to live somewhere else. This current arrangement is putting to much stress on yur friendship.
Once she starts with the "Its my house" business, its time to move on. Somehow. :)
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