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SO very confused
17/m/lonesome
Ok there is a girl at work that i have feelings for, but I dont know if she likes me or not. I mean whenever I talk to her she alwasys gets a smile on her face, or starts to giggle. I will tell you this right now I'm not too good at reading the signs to tell you if someone likes you or not... no its more like i trip and fall into love., but I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I've alwasy treated women with the highest respect and dignity, and I think I could build a very long relationship out of this but idk, PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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well, if she always gets a smile on her face, that means you mae her happy, witch makes her want to be around you more. when ever i like a guy and he talks to me, its hard for me to stay serious, like i giggle if they say hi to me and stuf. maby you could buy her a flower and just leave it with her stuf or something. that can be pretty romantic. or comment on her eyes and see how she reacts. it also gives you an excuse to stare into them. the flower thing is a good idea to because it will give her a thrill and also let her know that someone she works with likes her. i know this stuf would work on me. hope i helped
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well i think she likes you...when i like a guy then when he says something i laugh and smile even if its the dumbest thing ever! I think that you should tell her how you feel and see what she has to say...we girls get thrilled when guys tell us how they feel about us when theyre in love with us! i think youll get a positive answer! Hope I Helped!!! =)
♥Samantha Lynn ♥
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Try to keep things going slow. You never want to rush into something or push an issue. Things will happen when they are ready. Did you ask her to go somewhere with you like to a mvie or out to eat? Just try to keep making her smile and eventually she will see what a great person you are so when your ready and confident ask her out on a date. If she for some reason would say no--say ok maybe another time.Dont let kher know it bothers you. I was always told people want something more if they cant have it. So dont throw yourself at her--take it slow. I hope this helped.
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It sounds like she likes you. If she didn't she would make a fast escape instead of smiling or giggling.
Talk to her every chance you get. Ask her out if you like. Doesn't have to be a long date the first couple of times. Maybe lunch. I think she will say yes. :)
****Best of luck! :)*******
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I feel like you might be me at 17, I also described it as tripping in love :)
I'll tell you some things what I really wish I knew back then and I hope you find it helpfull.
If you are anything like me, the treating women with the highest respect and dignity, might be a tad overdone, just treat them with the respect and dignity, BUT you must treat them this way because you treat yourself likewise!!!!
Bible says something I like "What the the heart is full off, the mouth overflows off"
What you are full off you will automatically give other people.
If she is being unreasonable towards you, treat yourself foremost with respect AND her with the same, so tell her and don't try to kiss her ass.
First off, she is smiling and laughing when talking to you, might be wrong but it's pretty safe to assume she likes you in SOME way.
Ask her out on a date (for coffee,... whatever you enjoy doing, or would enjoy doing with her), most women won't ask a man, no matter what, so assume the man role. REMEMBER to say WHEN and WHAT, YOU MUST TELL HER WHEN!!! find out what times are good for her and you decide when it will fit you best.
Now when you go on the date, be yourself, joke around with her, tease her (those 3 rules will get you far, its fun for women). Find out what she likes and enjoys. If this would happen to include strawberries or whatever and you have the opertunity to buy them then and there, don't. Buy it for her next time you go on a date, this is good advice never get women what they want imidiatly, give it a tad later, this shows that you were paying attention and that you are giving cause you want to give.
For now you MUST think of yourself as interviewing her, NOT the otherway around. Shes out with you, so now it's your turn to decide if anything going to happen from this FRIENDSHIP.
Try not to kiss her on the first date, no matter how much you want to. Go home have a cold shower and consider what you like about her, AND WHAT NOT, no matter how trivial, espesially if you have a crush on her!!!
A couple of days later 3 or 4, tell her you had fun the last time and if she wants to go out again, if she enjoyed the last time she might say yes, but then she might be busy...AGAIN you decide when and where...don't ask her.
You may later find out that she enjoys tenpin bowling, don't take her imidiatly, a tad later.
This time do the same, maybe get her the strawberries/flowers/cookies she likes...
You should start looking out for interest from her side from the 2nd to 4th date, not teribly good at reading women i'm in company with but I found the hair test to be uncanny. Sitting/lying... next to her, get her to talk, look in her eyes, reach over and play with her hair CONFIDENTLY. don't be "may i please touch..." women in general don't like weak men, touch her cause you want to.
If she don't like it she'll tell you.
If there are no objections reach over and kiss her, again CONFIDENTLY and cause YOU want to, again she will always tell you when she doesn't like anything. DONT be apologetic about kissing or whatever she don't like, respect her wishes tho and try again later :)
Then kiss her at regular intervals, when you want to. If she wants to kiss you, tell her that you will but only after a backrub or the like.
Lastly, if you were yourself things will happen because she does or doesn't like YOU, don't take it personally though.
Always stand up for her!
Always try to supprise her, very little of this includes gifts!
Be confidant in yourself and that you can make her happy!
DON'T COME OFF AS NEEDING HER, i've made the mistake plenty of times of telling women i have a crush on that i love them..., BAD MOVE. I'd say if you love her after 3-6 months (and you're still involved with her) tell her.
Take the lead in the relationship, it's like a dance anyway.
Might be a good idea for you to watch "Hitch" if you havn't yet, pretty damn good movie.
Hope you the best my good man, remember it's always a risk to try.
PS. have confidence in yourself that you CAN build a very long relationship out of any relationship you choose to, don't be a airhead about it, just love youself a litle too. :)
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I think you are maybe putting this girl, or relationships for that matter on a pedestal and its making you more nervous than you need to be. Talking about falling in love and being a hopeless romantic, is so sweet, but it may create a distance betweeen and girls you are interested in. Notice how guys who have all the confidence get all the ladies? there is a reason behind that, they don't get overwhelmed by situations or people. Just think to yourself that you want to get to know her better and enjoy flirting with her. Be yourself and have fun. It will make talking to her easier and will make the potential for a relationship easier.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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