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Telling parents.
I'm so screwed. I haven't missed my period yet, I'm due for it Friday, but my friend is bringing me a pregnancy test tomorrow. I had sex without a condom, and my boyfriend pulled out but I'm still paranoid about it, and yes I know I have a good reason to be.
Anyways...I'm going to take a pregnancy test Saturday. I think I will be with my boyfriend when I do it. What I want to know is how do I tell my parents and what should I do? I'm so scared right now I'm crying...my parents have always known me as their good little girl that never did anything wrong. I feel like dying.
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Aww hun, it's alright, I know exactly what you're going through, don't let the people get to you that are critisizing you for not using a condom, yeah everyone knows that the smart thing would be to use one, but hey everyone also knows that moments just come up and there isnt one on hand. anyway.. I know how worried you are, I've had this happen to me a few different times, everytiem i say i won't do it again, but i know how it just happens... but i stressed out about it alot, and stress is one of the things that puts your period off the most, and hey did you know that sex also alters your period alot? Anyways, it's probably late because of one of those things, i mean i'm not saying there isn't a chance of pregnancy, but its not really likely to happen, although pre-cum would've been present, try not to worry about it, becuase the more you worry about it the later andlater it will come.
I know exactly how you feel about telling your parents, and them thinking you are a good little girl, trust me i know.. i'm sure everything will be fine!
good luck! let me know how everything goes by leaving me a comment in my inbox or something if you get the time!
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That was very foolish of you to do. Just because he pulled it out doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. It's called pre ejaculation.
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ok well you should wait till the reasults come bak and if you are preganent it will be best to tell them cause there bound to find out. but if you aint i wouldnt cuase you wouldnt be preganent
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The first thing you need to do is realize that stress may cause your period to be late, and having anxiety about pregnancy is bound to take its toll on your body.
Next, read the fine print in the pregnancy test. They are testing for the pregnancy hormone, and some tests will not be accurate until your period is much later than only one day. Even tests that are supposed to be accurate soon after a missed period become MORE accurate the more time that passes.
If your period does not come after about two weeks, then you may need to make an appointment with your doctor. He/She will be able to do a blood test which is much more accurate.
As for how to tell your parents, why not focus on you right now? Your period might show up like clockwork, or it may be a few days late due to stress. You are not definately pregnant. Until you know you are, you're only causing yourself more anguish by thinking about it.
Best of luck.
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They may be disappointed but proud you came to them and dealt with it like a woman. To your parents they do see you as a little girl but would be upset if that little girl did not own up to what happened and face it head on. They taught you that and when parents say always come to me I will be there they mean it regardless of what happened.
You had sex and a lot of teens have sex. Sometimes things happen with condoms and lack of good birthcontrol and a girl becomes pregnant. THAT IS NOT HER FAULT. I don't give a shit what anyone tells you loads of girls unfortunately have unwanted pregnancy for a variety of reasons and it is not their fault if a pregnancy happened. It was the case with my cousin at 17--brand new mom.
I think you should stay clam as nobody knows if you are pregnant yet and buy two tests and if positive tell your mother and work through this together. You will need their help to stay healthy if pregnant. Let's hope you are not. Good wishes here either way. If you need to vent you know how to find my inbox.
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What you should do is wait a week from when you had sex if you don't get your period within that time then get a pregnancy test. It takes about a week to find out if you are pregnant. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
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First of all, you haven't missed your period yet so DON'T stress out over what MIGHT be nothing, if you're very very lucky. Secondly, don't tell your parents until the test comes back positive. There's no reason to get yourself grounded, and definitely worse consequences, if there's nothing to worry about after all.
Wait until Sunday or Monday to take the test. Your period CAN come late because of stress, and you might just freak yourself out more. And learn a lesson from this. Because if you AREN'T pregnant, you should consider yourself VERY lucky. Don't let something like this happen again.
Remember, it's not worth dying. There are things you can do to prevent this from happening, and chances are your parents will support you nomatter what because they love you and you're their child. Don't stress yourself because then your period will come later, and you'll scare yourself even more. Just relax, and wait until sometime during the week to take the test.
And you can always give the child up for adoption, or have an abortion. (I don't condone abortion, but unfortunately, it is an option.) Just consider everything that you CAN do IF you are pregnant.
Good luck. )=
♥ Melissa
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ok dieing=bad so dont get any ideas! and well if you are pregnant remember abortion is your choice but you should chose to let it live, and well your parents will always love you...just cry...get the sadness out of the way.
-alex
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WOW!! well i wouldnt tell anyonee yet until you find out what is going on.... If it is positive you need to tell your paernts stait up say 'mom dad i had unprotedcted sex and im pregnant' dont sugar coat it and say 'well i might be pregnant' when you do kno you are you need to tell your boyfriend ... I dont kno how old you are but bye this it seems pretty young.....
My screen naem is IRideshortbus180 so when you find out what is going on please im me because i have some more advice but it depends on if your pregnant or not!!
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No need to mention it to the parents unless the test is positive. Until then try not to worry about that.
If you (or boyfriend)can't afford the test, go to your local health department and get it done.
While there is a chance, you haven't missed your period yet. Calm down ( easier said than done, I know). Stress can cause you to miss your period.
Good luck. :)
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well i think the best thing to do is like go sleep at your bf's house and then in the morning tell them its an emergency and his parents and your parents get together and you have a long converation about it. Also how old are you because then i can give you some more suggestions
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Well, don't freak out just yet. Because if you start freaking out now, it will cause stress and the stress will delay your period. You don't know that you are pregnant.
Yes there is a chance that you could be, but I'm letting you know right now it isn't a very high one.
But seriously for now you REALLY need to calm down. Wait until Friday and see if you get your period. If you don't get it then, then you can take the pregnancy test.
Pregnancy tests can also be done before your missed period.
You really need to try to calm down, the more you stress, the later your period comes.
I doubt you are pregnant, so you really really really need to calm down for the sake of having your parents want to kill you themselves.
But, since I doubt you are pregnant, for future no matter how bad you want to, no matter how bad you're tempted DO NOT have sex without a condom if you know you can't handle the consequenses.
I'm not going to tell you what to tell your parents, because that's not something to worry about YET.
Have your friends buy you two tests. Take one tomorrow when she gives it to you and then take another on Saturday or Sunday. You could even wait as long as Monday.
I will tell you this over and over again until I turn blue but you NEED to calm down. Again, you do NOT know if you are pregnant or not so by freaking out and thinking you are isn't going to help you any.
I've been in this situation before so I know how you feel. And I'm telling you if you just take a hot shower and RELAX you'll feel better. I was two weeks late for my period. I was positive I was pregnant at that point. But I was so freaked out and that's why my period was so late.
For the love of GOD sweetie, CHILL THE EFF OUT! I know I sound extremely repetitive, but you SHOULD NOT be freaking out.
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Its totally understandable why you are so overwhelmed. Its going to be ok no matter what. If the test is positive, give yourself a day or so to digest it if you can. spend saturday in the morning in your room if you can and get your thoughts together, write in a journal, whatever you need to do to pull yourself together. Then go to your parents. They are probably going to see it on your face that something is wrong. Sit them down and tell them. Tell them your thoughts on what you want to do about it and ask them what they think. They may bug out. If you want to, maybe your mom is the person you should talk to first if you think she'll be more understanding.
You still are a good girl and you didn't do anything wrong. You didn't rob a bank right? You had sex and didn't use the best judgement about protection. Doesn't make you bad, at all.
The good news is that your probably aren't pregnant. Also, you may want to hold off on a test (a lot of the boxes come with two tests in it), it may not show up until a few days later until when you are truly late.
Its going to be ok, no matter what. Hopefully this will just be a scare that you need to always use condoms.
Take care and keep me posted.
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