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my head is so messed up
this may take a while but please help
when i was younger i was sexually abused by my grandad (my mums dad), the i got sexually abused by my brothers friend then i lad i used to no tryed it on with me and he frightened me and i said not but he forced me to do things with him it did not used to bother me but now i cant stop thinking about it and it up sets me and when i was about 7 my mum nearly died of cancer i lost my auntie and my grandad ( my dads dad) through cancer my mum and dad have split up and now my other grandad (mums step dad) is having strokes everyweek and i think he is going to dye i am getting my life on track just got a new job and every thing but my past is getting in my way i cant even go out and have fun any more and i think i wil lose my job if i let this stuff get in my way what can i do to try stop thinking about this please help me.
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Get therapy. Go to councilling. Being abused like that, especially that often, is really traumatic, and though it may not haunt you immediately, it will (like now?) everything'll be ok. Take up a hobby too, it relieves stress n stuff.
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You need to seek some professional help. Find a clinic or if you have a primary care physician, go there. See if you can't find someplace that will help you.
If you are on a very limited budget, there are still places that can help. Its just a matter of finding where to go. Hopefully a clinic, health department or doctors office can help you find a place to go in your area.:)
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I highly doubt that you will be able to just let everything go and move on with your life. You've had a lot happen, and whether it upset you at the time or not, it's just hitting you now, and thats going to require professional help to fix this I think. It's withdrawing you from your social life, it's on your mind and disturbing you, I think you need to go see a counselor or seek help for this. If you need support with this, I'm here to help, I will do anything it takes to help you with keeping your life on track and keeping you happy.
-TheTeenGirl
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The reason all of this is coming up for you right now is because you are undergoing a lot of stress right due to people dieing and having strokes, etc. This emotional stress is reminding you of how you felt under other stressful times in your life. You really need to surround yourself with people you can talk these things through with right now. Alanon is a great place to start. They will direct you to the best group for you. They are free as well. Another method to finding something is put in the words “sexually abused” and your “home town” in the Google search engine. There should be some local organizations that will be able to help you. You have been through the ringer. I wish these things had not happened to you. I have no words to describe adequately how I feel about someone who takes advantage of their position to torment a child. I wish you the best of luck.
LULABELLE
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omg , i am so sorry, i know you probly told you parents and they didn belive you well , iv been there. you need to never be alone always stick with trustworthy friends. friends are what help you through times like this as for you geting back on track with your life . thats wonderful.if you beleive in god you should realy go to people at church they can help . you sound like a person that has been through alot. but god and friends is what can help you the most.
God bless. alexis
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hey just try to go to therapy. Your probably scared because of what happened so just talk to smebody about it or go to therapy.
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Well to be honest your never going to forget about the past and you couldnt have changed what happend to you, But what you do from here on out i with your life is up too you! If you havent been in Counsling i consider that, it might help you understand a little more.. Getting a Job is a good start getting out the house and doing new things is going to Bring your life back togther in no time...While at work just put all your time and mind ON WORK, i know its hard but Try to find something you like doing.. Like reading Drawing, Dancing, Singing and when you start thinking about it, Do one of those things no matter where you are, ... This is will also help ease the pain.. And out of work, Try new things with Friends .. GO to movies write a book paint your nails or do your hair.. Treat yourself!!!!.. ANd a plus is your getting older now so you control your life and NOW you have a Voice alwayts remember that...... you can E-mail me at Sophia_Sorgente@hotmail.com if you have anymore questions.....GOOD LUCk
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